Graveside service
Friday, Dec. 7, 2018
10:00 AM
Eternal Home Cemetery
1051 El Camino Real
Colma, CA
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Memorial service
Friday, Dec. 7, 2018
11:30 AM
Peninsula Temple Sholom
1655 Sebastian Dr
Burlingame, CA
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Rhoda Kaplan

Oct. 5, 1929 – Dec. 4, 2018

Rhoda Kaplan, wife of the late Zane Kaplan, longtime owner of Kaplan's Surplus & Sporting Goods, died of a stroke on December 4. She was 89 and had been living for the past year and a half at the Magnolia of Millbrae. Only days ago she was up and about and enjoying a Hanukkah get-together with family. It's a mark of the love in which she was held that her apartment was a regular gathering point for family get-togethers all through the year. She never tired of pointing out to visitors a certain photograph of her husband in his young ball-playing days, and remarking with awe, "Can you imagine someone who never told a lie in his life? That was Zane."

Rhoda was born in Newark, New Jersey, in 1929, and at age 13 — along with her mother, Paula, and older sister, Janice — left the East Coast to join her father, Ben Chrisman, in San Francisco, where he'd established himself in a clothing concern. She didn't have to look far for the Man Who Never Lied. The two teens lived across the street from each other in the Richmond district, and they married young, in the fashion of the day — Rhoda was 20; Zane, 23. Most unfashionably, until death parted them, the two stayed married for 67 years.

Though Rhoda could never hope to emulate her husband's exacting moral standards, it would be hard to find a more devoted wife, mother, daughter, friend. This was someone who called her mother-in-law, Mollie, seven days a week; who did the food shopping for her non-driving mother; who nightly heated her husband's dinner plate, and in later years his utensils too; who put her time in at the family surplus store on Market Street ("What do you want them for?" she once asked a young leather-clad man who wished to see a pair of handcuffs); who stuck with taking taekwondo lessons out of pity for the instructor after her youngest, Lance, bailed; who never forgot a grandchild's birthday; who never failed to return a friend's call. And she did all this without complaint, even happily. As her beloved Zane one said, "I never heard anyone say an unkind word about Mother."

Rhoda is survived by her daughter, Cathy Abrams; sons Howard (Karen) and Lance (Jessica van Campen); five grandchildren — Lonny, Paige, Mickey, Maddie, and Will; a niece, Sharon Munowitch, and a nephew, Steve Berman; and a former son-in-law, Ira Abrams.

Burial will be at 10 a.m. on Friday, December 7, at Eternal Home, 1051 El Camino Real, Colma. A memorial service will follow at 11:30 a.m. at Peninsula Temple Sholom, 1655 Sebastian Dr., Burlingame.

Donations in Rhoda's memory may be made to Mission Hospice, 1670 S Amphlett Blvd., Suite 300, San Mateo, CA 94402.
Published in San Francisco Chronicle on Dec. 6, 2018
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