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Kevin John Maguire

Nine years old, passed peacefully at home with his family by his side in San Francisco, California on August 4, 2013.


Kevin entered this world appropriately on Valentine's Day, February 14, 2004. First born son to Buffy and Patrick Maguire, Kevin filled the world with limitless amounts of love and joy, and he paved the way of love for his younger brothers, Conor and Dylan Maguire. He was constantly surrounded by his family, with whom he shared deep love and comfort. His Grandparents: Kevin and Martine O'Boyle, Cecile Marie and Nick Kuzma, and the late John and Christy Ann Maguire; aunts and uncles: Deirdre (Michael) Nagayama, Patrick (Sonja) O'Boyle, Stephanie O'Boyle, John Joe (Kathleen) Maguire, Mary (Liam Frost) Maguire, Daniel (Tina) Maguire, Christianne (Michael) Crotty, Thomas (Maureen) Maguire, Stephen (Julie) Maguire and Finbar McPolin; and cousins. Kevin is one of 32 cousins, all in San Francisco, all of whom he celebrated life with and loved deeply. In addition to his family, Kevin created an extended family of many, many close friends.


Kevin's formal education was at French American International School in San Francisco (FAIS), where he enjoyed learning French and where he delighted in playing endless games of schoolyard soccer. During his very first teacher conference at FAIS, his teacher described Kevin very accurately: "Kevin is king of the playground."


Kevin loved playing, and playing was a perfect way to showcase his unique and beautiful spirit. Many know Kevin's prowess on the soccer field, where you could witness his strength, determination and tenacity. Number 7 was always quickly identified as a force to reckon with. Despite Kevin's ferocity on the field, Kevin had a gentle, kind spirit that shined through his sparkling eyes. His smile was contagious. All those who spent time with Kevin will remember laughing with him. He was generous and humble on the sidelines.


These strengths served Kevin well as he faced the end of his life with bravery and grace. Kevin proved himself over and over as an example to us all.


Although Kevin's time here was far too short, his impact was immense, and will be felt by the FAIS, St. Gabriel's and soccer communities across the City. In his short life, Kevin made enduring bonds with family and friends with whom his memory lives on.


Visitation for family and friends will begin at 6 p.m. on Thursday, August 8th at St. Gabriel Church, 2559 40th Ave., San Francisco, CA. with the Rosary to begin at 7:30 p.m. The Funeral Mass will be celebrated at 11 a.m. on Friday, August 9th also at St. Gabriel Church, followed by the Committal at Holy Cross Catholic Cemetery, 1500 Old Mission Road, Colma.


We would love to create a new San Francisco soccer field in Kevin's name. In lieu of flowers, contributions to the Kevin Maguire Field fund can be made out to Evolution FC, Tax ID 32-0295019 and mailed to Kevin Maguire Field, 3620 Wawona Street, San Francisco, CA 94116.




Published in San Francisco Chronicle from Aug. 5 to Aug. 9, 2013.
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July 30, 2020
Rest In Pease, Kevin. Blessings to your family and friends, always Diane Rivera
Diane Rivera
Friend
August 30, 2013
As sept 4th approaches, and this heartful guest book comes to an end, does not mean that everyone's love support memories will end that day. Apparently seems we all could have learned something from that special guy. I hope donations continue too for your requested dreams of the soccer field in his name. Every little bit helps, and that is what this close family of dear friends is for. Still thinking of your family, lots of us are, now, and even past sept 4th, Cheryl Kramer.
Cheryl Kramer
August 28, 2013
Kevin was a very sweet and kind boy. Julien admired him and loved seeing him in the hallway or on the playground. It literally brighten his day, and he'd tell us about it at dinner time. That's the impact Kevin had on people around him. A very special soul. We are deeply sorry for your loss. May he forever rest in peace. - The Fisher Family
Dorothee Fisher
August 28, 2013
I'm just one of those people who come to the cafe every day, not the most talkative or friendly I have to say, who found out late about your son's illness. I wanted to convey my condolences and let you know your serenity and faith in this time is something I greatly admire.
Jay
August 23, 2013
The Kerr Family and the whole circle of friends were deeply saddened to hear of young Kevin's death. We know he had been so brave throughout his illness and his courage gave us high hopes that he would recover. It has been a cruel blow to you Pat and Buffy and the entire extended Maguire family. We will keep you all in our thoughts and prayers. Love from Richard in Ballycastle and all the Kerr family. Brendan, Richard, Mary Jo, Iuilin, Michael, John and Peter and families.
August 20, 2013
We are so saddened to hear about Kevin. Our thoughts and prayers are with your family.
Ramirez/Bitterman Family
August 20, 2013
Our heartfelt condolences to your entire family. Such a beautiful boy, a gift from God to all of you. May God hold you close in the days and years ahead. Know that you will all continue to be in our thoughts and prayers. Barbara Habelt Swann and Family
Barbara Habelt Swann
August 17, 2013
My heart breaks for you all. God will keep you strong and able to walk through one day at a time. Just know that I read this beautiful story about your son and that I pray that all of you continue to let him live in your hearts and memories.
Wendy Mitchell
August 17, 2013
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Since Kevin Kramer and I Cheryl heard of little Kevin Maguire's situation and status over past few years to months, I kept saying 'we need to send Pat and Buffy a card,letting them and the family know we are thinking of them and Little Kevin.' We both know how a simple card of thoughts can mean so much. I kept saying our intentions, Kevin K agreeing, but we never sent that 'thinking of you card.' It never happened. Then we get the sad news one recent morning. A 'thinking of you card' changed like that to a ' deepest sympathy card.' It shows and reminds us how time is so precious, every moment counts, as I wish we could have acted on our warm thoughts sooner. With Happy Kramer as a 'one of a kind' mother-in-law, she helps one believe and try to understand God and or a higher power is involved, and watching over Little Kevin and his Family. I, and I know Kevin Kramer, hope this only brings you as a family closer, and I hope to see that Soccer Field one day!!! So much love, tears, warmth, and sympathy...Cheryl and Kevin Kramer. Thank you Happy Kramer for sharing your thoughts and take on this situation with me, helping to understand this. God Bless the entire Maguire Family....( this is good bc we are the only ones without facebook!!)
cheyl and kevin kramer
August 17, 2013
Buffy, I don't know if you remember me. You and I went to high school together. I was one of the nurses that took care of Kevin at Cpmc when he was in the NICU. I am so sorry to hear about your son's passing. You and your family are in my thoughts. {{{HUGS}}}
adabelle lazo quintos
August 16, 2013
What an absolutely beautiful little boy. I'm so sorry for your loss.
Eileen B
August 16, 2013
Dear Buffy and Pat,
I am so sorry to hear the news of Kevin's passing. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your extended family.
Deborah Kwan
August 16, 2013
I am so sorry to hear this news. I send my condolences to the whole extended family.
alice rigdon
August 15, 2013
Heartbroken to hear about Kevin's passing. You remain in our thoughts and prayers during this difficult time. God bless Heaven's newest angel, Kevin Maguire.
Pudlow Family
August 15, 2013
this touched my heart so deeply :( my prayers go out to Kevin's family.
Kristine C
August 14, 2013
I am very sorry for your loss. may young kevin rest in peace
kenneth woo
August 12, 2013
Pat and Buffy,
I am so sorry for the loss of your Beautiful Boy. I met him once, after one of his soccer games, at Java Beach on Sloat. The smile on that boy's face while he was playing with his soccer buddies was priceless - as was the smile on Pat's face as he introduced him to me. As John Joe said, Kevin was your miracle. When my sister died, the priest said the same thing. We prayed and prayed for a miracle while she was sick, but what we need to realize is that she, as well as Kevin, were our own personal miracles. I take comfort in those words every day. I know it is hard now, but I hope you, too, will some day find comfort in these words. The services were beautiful. John Joe, Forest, and Steven really touched my heart. I loved that you had the family lead the rosary. My thoughts and prayers are with you all.
Cathy McEntee Massimi
Cathy McEntee Massimi
August 12, 2013
Our thoughts and prayers to you all on the passing of young Kevin. May he rest in peace.
John & Clodagh Cahalane & family
john cahalane
August 11, 2013
Pat and family, all of our thoughts and prayers are with you right now.
Ryan and Laura McCarthy
August 10, 2013
Dear Buffy, Pat and Maguire Family,
I don't know any words that would express the sorrow I feel at your loss of Kevin. I do know that heaven is a little brighter now.
Larry (and my Maria) Virzi
August 10, 2013
Dear Pat,Buffy & All The Family,
I am very saddened to hear of the loss of your son Kevin.I know he left in your comforting arms and in peace.
My thoughts and prayers are with you always.May God comfort you All.
Sincerely,
Rudy Ragan Jr.
August 10, 2013
Dear Pat and Buffy,
We are so sad to hear about your loss. May God bless you and your family in this time of sorrow.
Jarvie and Celia Olmos
August 10, 2013
Pat and Buffy,
I feel so blessed to have had Kevin as a student and even more blessed that he was a part of my life. His smile was something I could always count on when I walked into the classroom. His charm and compassion were infectious and soon he was leading by his examples. Thank you for bringing him into my life and sharing him.
All my love and prayers to you and his brothers
Lisette Garcia-Kohler
August 10, 2013
To Pat, Buffy, Conor and Dylan

On behalf of those who knew Kevin, we love you.
David Margulies
August 9, 2013
There are no words at a time like this. Thoughts and prayers are with you, Pat, and your family.
All my life, The Maguire Family has almost been an amazing example of what family should be. May you find comfort in each other, and in God, at this tremendously difficult time.
You now have another angel looking over you. Maybe he will get a wee game of soccer in heaven with my dad.
Colleen Hagan
August 9, 2013
Dear Maguire Family, I don't believe we've met but I was touched when I saw young Kevin's obituary and wanted to let you know that I am praying for him and for all of you. Reading some of the comments here, it's easy to imagine what a special boy Kevin is and what a remarkable family you all are.

Paul Mohun
San Francisco, CA
August 9, 2013
Dear Pat and Buffy,
So saddened to hear of your irreplaceable loss. You and your family are in our prayers.
Rest in Peace, sweet Kevin.
Karen McDonald
August 9, 2013
Patrick, I knew your family long ago when you were just a baby. I knew your Mom & Dad and your Grandmother as well. I know the importance of family your family has always held close, as well as their belief in God. I know your son was loved and will be kept in Heaven by those that waited to meet him. God Bless you and know you and your family are in my Prayers.
Mary Travis-Allen
August 9, 2013
How I loved to see Kevin in "the hood" with his poise and strength. He was The man". I am so sorry. Unforgettable boy. Never to be forgotten even by near strangers like me. Prayers continue for all of you.
Olive Shaughnessy
August 9, 2013
Pat and family,
We are all so saddened by this loss. May God Bless Kevin and your family.
Diana and Tom Orgain
August 9, 2013
No words can express the sorrow we are all feeling. May God keep Kevin close to him and give you the strength in the days ahead. I coached basketball a few years ago at the Presidio Y for my son Lorenzo's team - we had the pleasure of knowing the Maguire's. RIP, Kevin.
Lorenzo, Natalia, Rachel and Juan Garcia
Juan Garcia
August 9, 2013
Buffy and family, i'm so sad to hear about your loss. I will keep you all in my thoughts and prayers. It's hard to find words that make sense right now, but I know God is looking down on you and that Kevin is with him now.
Gisele Camozzi
August 9, 2013
Prayers & healing light from Nancy & Brian Hinze,48th Avenue.
Nancy Hinze
August 9, 2013
So sorry to hear about the lost of your son. His love will never leave your hearts.
Clayton White
August 9, 2013
My heart has been heavy upon hearing the tragic news about your adorable Kevin. No words can truly express this magnitude of sadness and loss. My sincerest and most heartfelt condolences to you, Pat and Buffy, your children Conor and Dylan, and all those who knew and loved Kevin. I pray that God gives you infinite strength and tranquility during this extremely difficult time in your lives. May Kevin rest peacefully and may his memory be eternal. God bless you…
Elise McGuire
August 9, 2013
I am so sorry for your loss. I cannot find words to express the depth of my condolence. My thoughts are with you and your family. Barbara Bualat
August 9, 2013
To Pat and Buffy,

cant imagine the sadness you and your family are dealing with right now. so sorry i never got to meet little kevin. looks like fine young man in his photo and was one by all accounts. deepest condolences from simon redmond and all the boxers at polk st gym
August 9, 2013
To Pat, Buffy and family,

We are so sorry for your loss. Although there are no adequate words to comfort you at this time, know that your love made Kevin the special person he was. You are in our thoughts and prayers.

K.C. and Christina Dominice
August 9, 2013
dennis lawlor
August 9, 2013
Our prayers, love and support go out to the entire Maguire family.
-- The Prete Family
Andrea Prete
August 9, 2013
To the Maguire Family,
My thoughts and prayers go out to you, words can not express my deepest sympathy. I may not have gotten the chance to get to know your family all that well, but I have heard endless loving stories of Kevin and your family.

Sincerly,
Carrie (Donovan) Leark
August 9, 2013
To Pat and family, I am praying for you and thinking about you in this difficult time.
Richie Stephens
August 9, 2013
My heart goes out to Buffy, Pat, Conor, Dylan and all the family for the loss of a beautiful child. The sadness is too great. I will always remember Kevin's bright spirit. I'm sorry I cannot be there for the memorial but I am thinking of you.
Nancy Colombeau
August 9, 2013
Privileged to have followed Kevy's journey through his Grandmother Cecile's e-mails, which were kindly forwarded to us. What a delightful, brave boy with such an infectious smile! Our hearts and prayers go out to his valiant family! God's comfort and peace upon you all!
Roland & Joy Carrier
August 9, 2013
Saddened to hear of your family's tremendous loss. Wishing the entire Maguire family peace and love during this difficult time. You will be in our thoughts and prayers.
Katie & Johnny Moylan
August 9, 2013
Goodbye Kevin.
August 8, 2013
My thoughts and prayers are with you now and always during this difficult time.
Diane Rivera
August 8, 2013
Our thoughts and prayers are with you

John, Ann, Tara, Mark and Grace McAteer
August 8, 2013
There are no words. Our deepest Sympathies to you at this very sad time.
Orla and Patrick O'Malley Daly
August 8, 2013
Our deepest sympathy for the catastrophic loss of your child, our hearts are shaken imagining your sorrow, we pray, that the Lord shield you and console you and your families in his arms. The Lord has chosen your little one because he is the best and he was needed in paradise .
Nora Hanson
August 8, 2013
Dear Pat and Buffy,
I am humbled by the FAITH that your family has demonstrated during this difficult journey. Kevin is truly a symbol of the love and courage he has been raised with! His smile speaks a thousand words.... I truly believe that there is a purpose for all of us who enter this life, and once our job is done, God calls upon his angels. Although Kevin's time here was cut far too short, his everlasting footprint will remain as an inspiration to us all. May he rest in peace in the Lord's arms, and may his memory be eternal!
My thoughts and prayers are with you today and always! God Bless you all!!
Love, Mina Tsatsaronis & Gavin Smith
August 8, 2013
Now he's dancing with the angels . . .
Trudy
August 8, 2013
To the entire Maguire Family,

May God Bless young Kevin and all of you that so love him.

Respectfully,

The Aguerre Family-
Tony, Gina, and Tyler
August 8, 2013
Prayers, love, and light to Kevin and the Maguire and O'Boyle families.
~ Stephanie & Herbert
August 8, 2013
Dear Patrick and Buffy,

I am so very sorry for your loss. May Mother Mary Comfort you in your time of sorrow. You are in our prayers. --Virzi Palarea Family
Nicholas Virzi
August 8, 2013
May the emptiness you feel now, last a long time...., then, after a while.... Kevin will peek around the corner and remind you guys to live like he lived. Memory will ebb and flow, now with pain; then with joy.
Wirt Lewis
August 8, 2013
Pat, Buffy, Conor, & Dylan,
We are so sad to hear about Kevin's passing. We hope the memories of this wonderful child provide you with some comfort as you grieve this tremendous loss. Your family will be in our thoughts and prayers.
With love, the Schmitt Family (Vicki, Greg, Kevin and Jenna)
August 8, 2013
Dear Pat, Buffy, Connor and Dylan,

We will always remember Kevin from our days together at Sunset. He was such a bright and shining light. Our hearts break for you and we send our deepest sympathies to you and your entire family.

John, Christina and Ivy
John Musgrove
August 8, 2013
Our hearts and prayers go to you and your family. We send you strength through this very difficult time. May he rest in peace. Love, Anne, Sean, and Annikka Scallan
August 8, 2013
Our deepest, heartfelt condolences to the Maguire family. Cooper had many fun memories with Kevin on the soccer field. May God bless you with the same strength and courage that Kevin showed to us all.

Our love,
The Nelson's
Eric, Jennifer, Cooper, & Lola
Jennifer Nelson
August 8, 2013
Dear Pat, Buffy, Conor & Dylan,
We are heartbroken to hear about Kevin's passing.
Our thoughts and prayers are with you & the entire Maguire Family. Kevin's obituary was beautifully written. We pray God Blesses you all during this deeply sad time. And may Kevin's wonderful strengths & kind,brave spirit forever live on in your hearts, especially Conor, Dylan & his many cousins.
Jenny, Kevin, Tommy & Seamus Breslin
August 8, 2013
We cannot conceive the depth of your loss, but your courage and faith have been an inspiration to us all. With love and prayers from the Shouldice Family.
August 8, 2013
Sorry to hear this devastating news
With our family's sympathy - The O'Connor's
Frank O'Connor
August 8, 2013
Pat, Buffy, and all the Maguire family, JJ, Dan, Tom, Steve, Mary and Chris your family has always been part of my families life, I will always have each and everyone of you in my heart, I have been Blessed to have The Maguires in my life, and I am sure Kev is now in Heaven, with granma and granpa, The Lord must have a very big job to do, for He has chosen from The Strongest !!
John Quirke
August 7, 2013
Dear Buffy, Pat, and Maguire family,
We are devastated to learn about Kevin. Our prayers are with you all for peace, strength, and courage in the days ahead. We hope Kevin's spirit will fill your hearts with delight, warm memories, and laughter. His courage is a great example to us all.

With love and God's peace, Chuck, Katie, Helena & Violet Maddox
Maddox Family
August 7, 2013
I will always remember that smile - so infectious and so full of hope! Kevin was such a joy to teach and I will always remember him fondly. My heart goes out to you all.
Hayley Davis, FAIS teacher
August 7, 2013
Pat, Buffy, Conor & Dylan,

Please accept our deepest sympathies. You, Kevin and your family have been and will continue to be in our thoughts and prayers.

Mia & Brian Stableford
August 7, 2013
A sad day for the world to lose someone so sweet and special. We know he loved soccer and we will be helping to make his soccer field a reality.
Ed Keith
August 7, 2013
Our deepest sympathy to the entire Maguire Family and especially to Pat and Buffy. May God's Love surround all of you through these difficult days and may His Perpetual Light shine upon Kevin.
Hermosura Family
August 7, 2013
Maguire and O'Boyle Families, We cannot express how sorry we are for your loss. Our prayers are with you. Sincerely, Jessica, Chelsea and Johnny Lemon
August 7, 2013
Dear Buffy and Pat and family,
We are deeply saddened by the news of Kevin's passing. He has and always will have a special place in our hearts as Duncan's 'best buddy'.
Our sympathies - The Fujikawa family
Mary White
August 7, 2013
Beautiful lad
Ms Cynthia Tecco
August 7, 2013
I am very sorry about the loss of your beautiful son, Kevin. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
Nancy Blum
August 7, 2013
Our hearts are with you. I remember how sweet Kevin was when Ivy and Kevin went to Sunset. He was a special boy.
The Murphy-Musgrove Family
Christina Murphy
August 7, 2013
Buffy, Pat & Family,

We are so terribly sorry for your unfortunate loss. Kevin, will be missed by all.

You are in our prayers and thoughts always.

God Bless you,
Renee Lazear & William Rasmussen
August 7, 2013
so sorry to hear of Kevin's passing, you all are in my thoughts and prayers X
Lisa Shaw
August 7, 2013
Dear pat and buffy and family sending all our love from ireland we are heartbroken! God bless you we love you !! xx
The lowes
August 7, 2013
Dear Buffy and Family
Our thoughts and prayers are with you and with Kevin's sweet spirit, which will guide us all.
Judith & Cy Berlowitz, Oakland, CA
August 7, 2013
So sorry to hear of the passing of little Kevin
Heartfelt condolences
From The Mc Polin Family, Ireland
Peter Mc Polin
August 7, 2013
My prayers goes out to the Maguire Family. I also have a 9 yo son and am heart broken over this loss.
August 7, 2013
what a wonderful lad , our world was a wonderful one with kevin here , and he will be working in heaven for all of us
cynthia thompson
August 7, 2013
Hello, I did not have the privledge of knowing Kevin, but knew of him through my friend and co-worker Sharon Bottome. My husband was ill at the same time, and has since passed as well. My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family as you grieve the loss of your precious child

Kevin will always live in your heart,
Anna Santucci
Anna Santucci
August 7, 2013
I am deeply saddened to hear of the loss of Kevin. My thoughts are with you at this difficult time.

Karine Luguet, FAIS Librarian
Karine Luguet
August 7, 2013
Dear Pat and Buffy, our prayers are with you and your family. We are so sorry for your loss.
Amanda Janes Gormley
August 7, 2013
Dear Pat and Buffy,

My husband and I wanted to express our deepest sympathy to you and your family. We will keep you and your family in our prayers.

Sincerely,

Ayn McGee & Chris Rillo
August 7, 2013
Dear Pat, Buffy and family,
I am humbled by the faith that has been demonstrated during these difficult and emotional months. My God bless all of you and may your sweet son Kevin know peace in the arms of his angels.
Tina Hughes
August 7, 2013
So very very sorry for your lose. I cannot imagine anything worse in this world to happen to such a wonderful family
Peter Batanides
August 7, 2013
Mattias Family
August 7, 2013
Dearest Pat, Buffy, Conor & Dylan,

Words cannot express how our heart aches for you and your family.

Kevin is truly a symbol of wonderful parents. Kevin will remain an inspiration to everyone lucky enough to have been blessed with his beauty, his great smile, his big heart and his courageous and inviting personality. His spirit will live on in all the wonderful memories carried in the hearts of all those lucky enough to have been blessed by his beauty.

All Our Love,
Kevin, Patricia, Brendan & Dylan Mattias
August 7, 2013
My thoughts and prayers from the east coast. I am thinking about all of you during this very difficult time.
James Kerrigan
August 7, 2013
Dear Pat, Buffy, Conor and Dylan,
May God's Grace blanket you with his love and comfort at this very sad time.
Love, Joann Kelleher Zelinsky and Michael Zelinsky
August 7, 2013
Sorry about the loss of your beautiful son. He is now resting in peace. He will be your guardian angel. My sincere condolences. We didn't know him personally but heard about this sad event through the EFC. May God give you the strength to get through this difficult time.

Sincerely,
Cynthia, Emilio, Edward Molina with Bay City Soccer
August 7, 2013
My Prayers are with the Maguire and O`Boyle families.
Bill Feeney
August 7, 2013
Dear Buffy and Pat, Conor and Dylan, our hearts go out to you, overwhelmed with sadness and love. Kevin will always be in our hearts. May you find strength to live through this difficult time and be connected with Kevin always, through memories, through the limitless energy of love that he brought to your lives.

Oksana, Yuriy Gologorskiy and family
August 7, 2013
We are so very sorry to hear of your sweet boy Kevin. Our thoughts and prayers to the entire Maguire family during this difficult time.
Love to you all, the John Murphy Family
August 7, 2013
Our heartfelt sympathy to the Maguire and O'Boyle familys in the loss of Kevin. You are in our thoughts and prayers.
- Neal and Kelly O'Boyle
August 7, 2013
Our deepest condolences go to the Maguire family. You are in our thoughts and prayers. God Bless.
Jim Kehoe & Mary Petrin
August 7, 2013
Dear Pat, Buffy, Conor & Dylan,
Our sincere condolences to you and the entire Maguire family during this difficult time. May God Bless you all.
Brian & Ann Kyne & Family
August 7, 2013
Dear Kathleen, John and Children, My heart and prayers are with you. I pray your fond memories of Kevin will bring you much joy.
Karen McHugh
August 7, 2013
Dear Buffy and Pat, Sending lots of prayers, love and strength to you from Boston. Love, Heidi, Patrick and Jack
Heidi Oliveira Barry
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