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Malby, Nathan R. Age 44, of Edina, died August 7, 2011. Survived by his parents, Robert and Helen; sisters, Leah (Pat) Worley and Sarah (Phil) O'Konski; nephew and niece, Benjamin and Ainsley O'Konski; aunts and uncles, Dorothy (Charley) Fritze and Charles (Nellie) Malby; other relatives and friends. Visitation 5-7 PM Wednesday, Aug. 10, at Washburn-McReavy Edina Chapel, West 50th Street & Vernon Ave @ Hwy 100. Mass of Christian Burial 12:00 Noon Thursday, Aug. 11, with visitation beginning at 11:00 at the Basilica of St. Mary,Hennepin Avenue @ 17th Street, Minneapolis. Private interment. Memorials are preferred to the Minnesota Cystic Fibrosis Center at the University of Minnesota. Washburn-McReavy Edina Chapel 952-920-3996

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Published in Star Tribune from Aug. 8 to Aug. 9, 2011.
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August 2, 2020
I was thinking about Nathan this morning and then received this in my email. Maybe he tapped my shoulder. Hugs to all of you.
Mary Yuhas
February 13, 2012
Just read of Nathan's loss in the St. Thomas magazine. We were college classmates and Lisa Olchefske (Gilbert) and I always enjoyed hanging out with Nathan. Leah was the roommate of our good friend Ann Biales at St. Kate's. We teasingly called her Princess Leah and told Nathan that meant he was Luke Skywalker. He was a great guy. Much sympathy.
Gael Fashingbauer Cooper
August 31, 2011
I just learned of Nathan's passing. I am sorry for your loss. I have fond memories of hanging out at your house and going sailing at Lake Harriet. You will be in my thoughts and prayers.
Teresa (Hill) Mattson
August 22, 2011
It is amazing how many people Nathan touched and how deeply considering the fact that he had to spend almost full time for many of his years struggling to stay alive. He, of course, was supported by a loving and devoted family. All in all each and everyone of them is deserving of the highest of human credit. Nathan by example has taught those of all ages who knew him that life and its ups and downs is a precious thing to be forever cherished. Nathan was the bravest and most courageous person I have been privileged to know in my long life.
Dean Newman
August 21, 2011
I talked with Nathan alot while I worked at the YMCA in Edina. He talked alot about the Tour de France, about what a great race it was. I have been hooked ever since. I think of you during the time of the tour and will always remeber and continue to think of you during the race. Thanks.
Dan Gormley
August 17, 2011
As the days and weeks pass, and as you return to life's routine, may you continue to feel comforted by the love and support of family and friends.
Elsa Rasmussen
August 15, 2011
Mrs. Malby and family-I was out of town and just heard about Nathan's passing. I wanted you to know how sorry I am for your loss. He was a great guy. We just recently connected on facebook and it was great! He always protected me in high school and was a great friend to me. You are in my thoughts and prayers. Laura Hinton Lancrete
August 12, 2011
I was sorry to hear of your son's death. Having also experienced the death of my son, I know how much you will miss his presence. My condolence to you and your family.
Judith Bortscheller
August 12, 2011
Leah, Pat and family,
I am so sorry for the loss of this important person in your life. I hope happy memories of your time spent together will give you comfort during this difficult time.
Bob Simenson
August 11, 2011
I'm sorry--just a clarification about my entry. I was so upset by the news of Nathan's death I forgot to add my maiden name to my message. I'll correct that now.
Barbara (Resch) Marincel
August 11, 2011
My thoughts and prayers are with your family at this difficult time.
Michelle (St. Aubin) Knoll
August 11, 2011
Nate was a truly wonderful man. His ability to connect with people on a personal level was a real gift.

I initially met him as one of my brother's close friends in high school. I was a grade below them. I had immediate respect for him for his intelligence, his kindness and his wit. I got to know him better in the following years as he also became friends of my group of friends in my class. He made friends easily. I came to admire him more and more since then.

There are two personal moments I particularly remember. One is a conversation, philosphical, about life, engineering, and other topics at my brother's wedding. The conversation was interrupted as I was wisked away, as Best Man, when the bride was being kidnapped. We meant to continue it later. We never did.

The other moment was at the visitation for my dad. Nate came in spite of clearly not being well. He was pulling his oxygen tank with him and wheezing as he breathed. He made a point of telling me something very kind and complimentary. While his words meant a lot, what stands out is that he came to provide condolence and comfort at a time when we were hurting in spite of his own suffering.

His words were profound and wise and spoke volumes. His actions were even louder. I'll never forget him.
Gary Warmka
August 11, 2011
Words cannot express my deepest sympathy for the Malby family. May God bless you all during this difficult time. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Theresa Valento
August 11, 2011
I wish I could be there today. Am thinking of you guys during this painful time. Much love, Darbi
Darbi Worley
August 10, 2011
My prayers go out to the Malby family for the loss of Nate. One of my fondest memories of Nate was our trip to Europe and the good times shared with him and the group that all went. I have not seen him in awhile but I will always remember him! God Bless
David Samuels
August 10, 2011
While I haven't seen Nate in a few years, I think of him when I think of Holy Angels.My prayers our with the family, Nate is a light that will shine thru you.
Susan Kenney-Johnson
August 10, 2011
Please accept my condolences on the passing of Nate. Thinking of so many memories of him. What a great zest for life and fun. Truly a wonderful example of someone who succeeded despite his challenges. ?Thanks, Nate. Rest in Peace.
Sharon (Hall) Warmka
August 10, 2011
To all of the Malbys,
I am so terribly sorry for your loss! From the time I transferred to Holy Angels (the same year as you, Leah) I could see what an amazing, inspirational guy Nathan was. He was fun. He was kind, empathetic, and lived life to the fullest. In fact, I think he affected more people, loved life more fully, and made more of an impact on the world around him in his 44 short years than most of us do in much longer lifetimes. May you find comfort in the love of family and friends, and in your memories of a wonderful son and brother. God bless.
Barbara Marincel
August 10, 2011
My thoughts and prayers to the Malby family for your loss. I was priveledged getting to know Nate better post AHA days through his good friends Paul Pope, Jeff Olson and Dean Bjorkstrand. Usually, our get togethers involved playing a little poker...and play he did. I will always remember Nate's wit, sense of humor and friendly jabs (especially when losing!) He was a great man and even greater inspiration.
Mark Erazmus
August 10, 2011
Bob and Helen,

We think of you often and are saddened to hear of your loss. We remember Nathan for his courage and humor and will never forget his artistry at the piano. Forty-four years is amazing, and yet not nearly long enough. You have our deepest sympathies.
Herb and Polly Melcher
August 10, 2011
My prayers to the Malby family on the loss of your son and brother, Nathan. As a former teacher at Holy Angels, it was my privilege to have taught all the Malby children in my French classes. Nathan stands out as smart, funny, and genuine. One memory stands out: Leah and Nathan participated in one of the trips to Europe that I organized. Brother and sister were very close. A loss for all of us.
Paul Bruemmer
August 10, 2011
Many fond memories of Nate and his Holy Angels buddies. I was blessed to be included in the group many times, and Nate always made me feel welcome. I will miss his wit and insight.
Bill Strot
August 10, 2011
Dear Malby Family,
My deepest sympathies to you. Nate was a wonderful person and will be missed by many.
Sara (Hammer) Warner
August 10, 2011
I am very sorry to hear this news. God's blessings to your family.
Dan Simms
August 10, 2011
to the Malby family Nathan to me was a very good freind and always there when i needed to talk to someone i remember some of the talks we had on the school bus they sure do bring back fond memories and in my later years when i was married he always asked me about my brothers and my hubby and son he was truly a very caring person and will be missed..
Elizabeth Maletta-Stoeckel
August 10, 2011
Dear Malby Family,
I'm very sorry to hear of your loss.
My thoughts & prayers are with you.
Dan Dondelinger
August 10, 2011
It is hard to argue against the idea that ones worth can be gauged on the impact we have on those around us. In Nathan's case, his worth is tremendous and his loss significant. I don't claim to have known him personally besides passing him in the halls and sharing a few words and a couple laughs. He was a bit of a celebrity at AHA and his legacy is strong. Peace to all those who feel his loss and thanks for the time he was given to create such a legacy.
Michael Burns
August 9, 2011
Nate and Me
It has taken me a few days to remember almost 30 years of memories that dart
through my head. Many of which I wouldn't remember without Nathan's help.

Nathan to me was a grounding rod, a mirror, a memory data base, my budda on
the hill, Socratic philosopher, die hard party animal and bachelor on elimi-date.

I always respected Nate in high school and he helped me with advice. Post
high school I lived out of state for 15 years. While I resided out of state
- I kept in touch with Nathan every once in a while. But when I returned
to the Midwest in 2000, our relationship blossomed into a threesome. I
rarely saw Nate without Sara Callahan Larsen. Sometimes other people would
join our threesome. So yes, I start out with the elimi-date I am sure that
is what you wanted to know most about.

We often went out for a dinner and a play with several girls and Nathan as he liked to call it... "elimi-date". Sometimes there would be another guy thrown in but it definitely was not as fun as with just the girls.

Often our discussions would be about relationships. He would provide very
sound advice. Mostly by asking questions and making us think hard about the situation. He remembered every boyfriend, every conflict and he would bring these up years later. With his intensity and ability to be 110% present -
He became a mirror back into my life. He remembered things I said thereby
keeping me honest and not hypocritical.

Okay when I say he remembered everything - I do not exaggerate. Once he
recalled that after I got a poor grade on Sr. Diane's calculus test that I
was crying so hard that I blew snot bubbles through my nose with my head
sideways on my desk while I was looking at him. AND he was right - some
things are better left unremembered.

He often reflected on the world and would have many deep thoughts about
them. He would sometimes bring up conflicts or issues in his own life - but
more as a platform for discussion. What is the philosophy behind the
conflict? Not that he didn't have an opinion; he did like to play devils
advocate on many topics. What should he do? How should he handle it? He
liked to play out each scenario before he took action.

Now to the die-hard party animal. When there was a social gathering,
reunion, oscar party he was there with bells on. He was a constant, a rock,
never afraid, never sad, never too happy but always glad to see me.

So what made Nathan as great as he was to me? Was it his disease? Would he
have been the same with it? Or would he have been just another
non-rememberer living in the moment. It is hard to know.

I read many of the posts that other people have written and I see that

Nathan was a rock, mirror, philosopher and budda to many people not just me.
We were very blessed to have Nathan in our lives.
Becky Jasper
August 9, 2011
I did not know Nate well, but I do have fond memories of him. He took a freshman (me) under his wing and spent a lot of time mentoring me during our time together on the AHA Chess Team. Prayers for Nate and his family.

David Melin - class of '87
David Melin
August 9, 2011
Leah and Family,
I am so sorry for your loss! I especially remember how much fun we all had in Europe in high school and how much laughter was a part of that trip. His journey now is different but hopefully just as joyful.
Diana Soller
August 9, 2011
To the Malby Family, My thoughts and prayers are with you at this time. I was a teacher Holy Angels Academy when Nate was a student but did have him in my class. However, I remember him very well. His courage and determination and positive outlook on life showed in so many ways everyday. May the memories and stories sustain your family in the days ahead. Blessings to all of you.
Kathleen Kennedy
August 9, 2011
Dear Malby Family,
I am so sorry for your loss of Nathan. I always looked forward to our dinners together and just catching up. He was a very special person and will be missed.
Sara (Callahan) Larsen
August 9, 2011
Dear Malby Family,
I'm so deeply sorry for your loss. Nathan was one of the best. He taught all of us so much, and not one of us will ever forget him. He fought long and hard and now he may finally rest easily. You all will be in my thoughts and prayers.
Julie (Cline) Miller
August 9, 2011
Malby Family,

The loss of Nate will be a difficult journey for you to face. The strong love you all had for each other will carry you through your grief. Nate was and will always be a wonderful person. We are all saddened by his passing and will pray for healing for each of you
Megan McErlane Gaupp
August 9, 2011
Dear Malby Family - I learned so much from Nathan - most importantly to cherish life. My sympathies to your family, Shannon (Griffiths) Bogan
August 9, 2011
Bob, Helen, Leah, Sarah,
Nate was a great human being and friend. He had a sense of humor, told it like it is, and enjoyed his life. When I think of Nate I cant help but laugh, especially when playing cards or when we used to golf. His time was golden. He is missed. God bless you all. Dean Bjorkstrand
August 9, 2011
Our sincere thoughts and prayers are with the entire family.
Ken and Jenny Hacker
August 9, 2011
Malby Family -
I was saddened to read of Nathan's passing in todays paper. He was such a great guy. I have many memories of him from the neighborhood and grade school and beyond. I had the good fortune of re-connecting with him just a bit in the last 2 years via Facebook and am so glad for that. Prayers for your family during this time.
Carol (Kasbohm) Schmid
August 9, 2011
Nathan was a fighter and he showed us all the importance of living life to the fullest. I have learned many things from Nathan over the last 6 years, but the importance of LIVING life the best you can in whatever situation you are in is something I will always take with me. Please know that all of you are in my thoughts and prayers, and that Nathan will be remembered and his life celebrated. We are better for having known him. Emily
Emily Miller
August 9, 2011
Dear Malby Family,

I am so sorry about the loss of Nathan. I remember playing kick the can and other games with all the neighborhood kids and Nathan never cheated, unlike the rest of us! He was a really nice person and will be greatly missed.
Debbie (Yuhas) Drexler
August 9, 2011
Dear Bob, Helen, Leah and Sarah,
I join with so many others in extending my prayerful sympathy to all of of you. I remember Nate well from Holy Angels days. His courage, optimism, friendliness, wisdom and humor always brightened our days. I am sure God has already welcomed him into eternal life where there are no more health challenges - only eternal bliss. May all the wonderful memories, loving family and friends be a source of strength and comfort. Go gently. God bless, S. Katherine DuVal, SSND, Rome, Italy (formerly S. Mary Walter)
S. Katherine DuVal SSND
August 9, 2011
When someone we love very much dies, the memories we made together stay with us forever. May those joyful memories you made with Nathan bring you long lasting peace. Pauline Laybourn Edina,MN
August 9, 2011
When someone we love very much dies, the memories we made together stay with us forever. May those joyful memories you made with Nathan bring you long lasting peace. Pauline Laybourn Edina,MN
August 9, 2011
Leah, Pat & The Malvy family:
I am very sorry for your loss of Nathan. I know your Friday nights with him were very special. Our thoughts and prayers are with you all. Though you all are suffering, he is not. Take comfort that his new life has begun free of suffering and limitations.
Kerry & Jennifer Kruckow
August 8, 2011
Dear Malby Family, Nate was a wonderful person who never complained. We would talk about our health issues a lot in the recent years and he always made me feel so much better. He always asked about my daughter - we are both better for having Nate in our lives. I will always remember how warm and welcoming Nate was when I started at Holy Angels in the 10th grade. We truly have an angel watching over us. Nate will be totally missed.
Ann & Sammi Fischer
August 8, 2011
The Malby Family,
I am sorry for your loss.
Prayers for Nathan.
H Austin Hummel
H Austin Hummel
August 8, 2011
I am so sorry for your loss, and the loss to all of us. Nathan was a true friend, funny, smart, honest, kind. I will miss him very much. My heart goes out to his wonderfully caring family. You and he are in my heart and thoughts.
Mary McLaughlin Sta. Maria
August 8, 2011
You lived the hours of your days with a sense of life that was affirming and spirited and always kind. As the years passed, your energy inspired those around you. Your smile was a warm light that greeted everyone and those you touched became better people. You lived your life deliberately, always moving with an upbeat purpose. Maybe long ago you had sensed something ephemeral in yourself, something abbreviated about your destiny. If that ever made you sad, you concealed it from everyone with a smile. You held your head high. You lived each day well and honorably and without regret. You were a role-model for how a person should live.

My thoughts and prayers are with the Malby family during this very difficult time.
Gina Carraher
August 8, 2011
Rest in Peace, Nathan. My deepest condolences to the Maltby family.
Bill DeLong
August 8, 2011
I am so sorry for your loss! May you find comfort in family and memories of happier times together!
Linnea Fonnest
August 8, 2011
So sorry to hear Nate passed on. I remember him from Holy Angels. One of the nicest guys I knew. My prayers are with all his family.
Diane (Roling) Themmes
August 8, 2011
May God bless the Malby family who had an incredible son in Nathan!! He will be fondly remembered for his charisma and his fight for life. XXOO
Lee Munro
August 8, 2011
My heart is filled with sadness to hear of Nathans passing. I remember him fondly from our days at Holy Angels. May our Lord bless you at this difficult time.
Teresa (Mamer) Boucha
August 8, 2011
May God bless you and your family in this time of sorrow.
Amy Bussen
August 8, 2011
I remember Nathan with great fondness from when we both worked at the Oxboro library. He was a "good kid" and it is hard to believe he was 44 when he left this world. My love to you Helen, and your family, as you grieve this great loss.
Laurie Larsen
August 8, 2011
Dear Malby Family,
We are deeply sad to hear that Nate has died. He, and all of you, tried so hard. So sorry you must bear this heartache.
Bob and Chris Lewis
Bob and Chris Lewis
August 8, 2011
Dear Helen and Bob and girls, I was so very sorry to hear about Nathan. Please know our love and prayers are with you.
Mary Yuhas
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