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Lundquist, Rhonda Falcon Heights, age 54, died at home on Oct. 23 from ovarian cancer. Rhonda and her partner of 16 years, Ann DeGroot, were the first same-sex couple to apply for a Ramsey County marriage license. On Aug. 1, the day hundreds of MN gay couples celebrated their legal marriages, they received news that Rhonda's cancer had spread to her brain. On Aug. 4, Rhonda and Ann were married in a private ceremony surrounded by family and friends. Originally from St. Cloud, Rhonda took action to address social needs, from affordable housing to domestic violence. She worked at TASKS Unlimited, the MN Housing Finance Agency, the MN AIDS Project and as an independent grant writer. She graduated from Hamline University, received an MA in Public Policy from the U of MN Humphrey Institute and an MFA in Poetry from Antioch University. Rhonda loved poetry, politics and good conversation. Her life was full of people and good humor. She knew the value of a good story and indeed, she really was the funniest. Rhonda showed us how to live a full life with cancer, living for 8 years with a disease that was expected to end her life after 18 months. Rhonda is survived by her spouse, Ann; son, Andy; and many close friends and family. She was preceded in death by her mother, Mabel Foss, who died Oct. 11; father, Raymond Foss; and brother, Roger. A celebration of Rhonda's life will be held on Sun., Nov. 3 at 1:30 P.M. at Prospect Park United Methodist Church, 22 Malcolm Ave. SE, Mpls. A reception in the church will follow. Memorials preferred to Prospect Park United Methodist Church or the MN Ovarian Cancer Alliance.
This obituary was originally published in the Star Tribune.

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Published in Star Tribune on Oct. 31, 2013.
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November 13, 2013
to my sister rhonda rest in peace ilove you miss you
joyce(foss) deppa
November 13, 2013
Ann and Andy,
Rhonda added so much to our writing cohort at Antioch University: delight, skill, humor.
I'm thinking of you at this time, and sending caring and consolation.
Best,
Skye Blaine
Skye Blaine
November 6, 2013
I meet Rhonda at MAP some 25 years ago. She gave me some of the best advice of my life. She lived her life with amazing fullness. All the best to Ann and Andy. Transitions are not easy.
Gayle Dixon
November 5, 2013
Rhonda and I were high school class mates. We had many classes together, and even back then she was so intelligent, so witty, so kind. She wrote beautiful poetry, that I still have somewhere, and now must find it. I will remember her for her beautiful smile, and her sensitivity.
Robyn Paul
November 3, 2013
Dear Ann and Andy,

I met Rhonda when we were in our 20's. I loved her then and after reconnecting though facebook I have seen how brave she has been and how much she loved the two of you. She will be missed by many people. My heart goes out to you.
Anita Braunstein
November 3, 2013
Ann and Andy,

A lovely celebration today in honor of Rhonda's life. The stories, music and poetry were beautiful along with the funny and touching tributes. When I reflect on the recent losses in my own life, moments like today bring me comfort. I hope they do for you as well. Like everyone said today in their own way, Rhonda lives on in each of you!
Karen Kelley-Ariwoola
November 3, 2013
I knew Rhonda for about the last three years. During that time we had many long conversations and shared support about living with chronic health conditions. She was always so helpful and encouraging to me. I will miss her, but think about her frequently and what she would say to keep me moving forward.
Lola Fredrickson
November 3, 2013
I'm at a loss for words to express what I wish to share, how Rhonda would laugh at that statement.
Andy, and Ann sending you love and support.
Eileen Ulrich
November 2, 2013
I met Rhonda at Hamline University. Through her, I met my husband Gary of 29 years (and counting). Rhonda and I shared a lot together many years ago. Most hilariously, we took on the job of delivering papers, acting as a substitute for Gary, and though we both held college degrees, we got confused and had to redo several blocks.

My deepest sympathy to Ann and Andy. You will be in my prayers. Though I hadn't seen Rhonda in many years, her presence will be missed. She lives in my memories, and will be there forever.
Janet Christianson Johnson
November 2, 2013
To my sister Rhonda, we had some good times and some rough times but I will miss you always. To Ann & Andy may od Bless both of you during this time. love Bob
Bob Foss
November 2, 2013
I am a friend of the family and know how important Rhonda was. She will be greatly missed. Hugs to you Ann and Andy.
Deb Guy
November 1, 2013
I first met Rhonda in graduate school at HHH, another mid-career student. She was smart and funny and compassionate. Over the years I was always so happy when our paths would cross at Wesley UMC and at PP UMC. Ann and Andy, I'm so sorry for your loss and our community's loss.
Clare Gravon
November 1, 2013
Our thoughts are with you, Ann and Andy. Rhonda will be missed by the world where she did her great work but she leaves her incomparable legacy in the family she made with you both. Donn and Eric
Donn Poll
November 1, 2013
Rhonda was one of the best conversationalists ever born. She was interesting, funny, kind, and wise. I'm grateful to have known her and send my deepest sympathy to Ann and Andy.
Anne Horn
November 1, 2013
I met Rhonda at Hamline. She was always funny, smart, and had interesting observations about the world and life in general. And she played somewhat of a matchmaker for my wife and me. So I will always have great memories of Rhonda. My condolences to family and friends.
David Christianson
October 31, 2013
So sorry to hear about Rhonda what an amazing life and legacy. I was Rhonda's nurse many years ago at the U and loved taking care of her. Her memory will live on.....
Kristie Heinen
October 31, 2013
Dear Ann,
Rhonda was a lovely soul. I am sorry for your loss.
Stephen Schaefer
Stephen Schaefer
October 31, 2013
I remember Rhonda from all the great conversations we had years ago, back in more carefree times. I wish I could have just one more gin and tonic with her and just "talk about nothing" that we did so many times...
Although I have not seen her for many years I will always consider her my friend.
Terrance Stromgren
October 31, 2013
Ann and Andy,

Please accept our deepest sympathies. I did not know Rhonda personally but know through Ann that she was wonderful and funny and had a big heart.
Wokie Weah
October 31, 2013
Ann and Andy:

Rhonda was so helpful to me, both professionally and personally. I got to know her when she came in as an independent contractor to help manage a huge proposal MAP was doing to the CDC - maybe 2003 or 2004. She kept me sane, and gave me plenty of advice afterwards in managing my own freelance grant writing, even sending clients my way. I got to know her right after you came into her life, Andy, and I remember especially how she delighted in everything you did. She was a very special lady, and will be greatly missed, but I am especially sorry for your loss.

Paula
Paula Nancarrow
October 31, 2013
Rhonda was a very nice person! She used to contact me per facebook and ask me about how my daughter was getting along - she too suffered from cancer and is gone now. I have fond memories of Rhonda. Barb s.
October 31, 2013
A life well lived -- a legacy that her wife, Ann, and her son, Andy, can be proud of...one that a large, loving, grateful community can carry on. --Scott Dibble
October 31, 2013
I don't know you. But my heart feel for the family.
October 31, 2013
Dear Ann and Andy,
Your Rhonda was one of the brightest women I have been privileged to work with...she is the reason Clare Housing got off to such a solid start...her guidance, direction, even-ness, know-how and respect will always be her testament to making our world a better place...and yes, her sense of humor never failed to diffuse a difficult situation. She adored you both......rest in peace, Rhonda....well done......
Kathy Hanousek
October 31, 2013
Thsi is one special lady that touched and loved so many people. She surely will be missed, but loved and never forgotten. keep her memories and love alive with laughter and stories. Prayers to the all who loved this gal.
Sue Walker
October 31, 2013
My aunt Rhonda was a special force in my life. She gave me room to explore my own sexuality. She also gave me guidance to know that attending college was one of the most important things I should do for myself. I will miss this special person.
Leslie Herndon
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