Judith "Jude" (Donohue) Ebbinghaus
1951 - 2021
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Groton - Judith "Jude" Donohue Ebbinghaus, 69, of Groton passed away Monday, Feb. 15, 2021, due to complications of COVID-19. She was born April 16, 1951, in Fulton, N.Y., the daughter of Francis Donohue and Alice (Frawley) Donohue.

She is survived by her husband of nearly 43 years, Charlie Ebbinghaus; her daughter Alycia Ebbinghaus-Owens, son-in-law Will Owens, and grandson Ronan Owens; sisters, Kathy Chicos (Bill) and Claire LaBelle (Skip); brother Frank Donohue; sister-in-law Barbara Yering (Larry); stepbrother Glenn Reading (Janet); as well as numerous nieces and nephews. She was predeceased by her parents; stepmother June Reading Donohue; stepbrother Scott Reading; and daughter Cheryl Ebbinghaus.

Jude was a graduate of Minnechaug Regional High School in Wilbraham, Mass. She studied education at Nazareth College in Rochester, N.Y., and later completed a master's in education at Eastern Connecticut State University. She began her teaching career in Wyoming, N.Y. and later moved to Connecticut and taught in Groton Public Schools, including Sacred Heart, Colonel Ledyard, Eastern Point and Catherine Kolnaski schools for 38 years. She held many roles as an educator, including second grade classroom teacher, reading specialist and literacy coach, among others. She ran the GPS Summer Reading Program for many years, and launched parent literacy courses to guide her students' families in supporting their educational potential. She believed in and saw the best in her students, and she connected their other interests to books to cultivate the love of reading and learning she shared with them. In recognition of her service, she was selected to the Groton Educators Hall of Fame.

Volunteering was a lifetime value for Jude, and her communities benefited from her enthusiasm, force-of-nature energy and the life experiences she shared through the Girl Scouts, Parent Teacher Associations and her daughters' schools and sports teams, R.E. Fitch Marching Band, Connecticut Children's Medical Center, the New London County Ostomy Association, which she served as president, Youth Rally as a counselor for youth facing chronic illness, and United Ostomy Associations of America, for which she received the ConvaTec Great Comebacks Award.

In her retirement, she was a kindergarten classroom volunteer at Catherine Kolnaski School, a therapy dog handler for Fairview Retirement Home with her husband Charlie and an avid quilter contributing to community projects to provide quilts to the homeless, Hospice patients, new parents, and masks for elementary school students and frontline healthcare workers.

Jude was a devout Catholic and member of Sacred Heart and St. Mary, Mother of the Redeemer Churches. At St. Mary's, she served as a CCD teacher, lector, and Eucharistic minister. She found immense strength in her faith and used it to face many health challenges throughout her life, and bring compassion, strength and understanding to others facing similar challenges.

Despite her health challenges, Jude was an adventurous traveler and loved exploring the U.S., Ireland, Scotland, Alaska, Myanmar and Thailand, where she traveled for the birth of her grandson, Ronan. She approached new people and cultures with enthusiasm, warmth, and appreciation for different cuisine, music, and worship traditions.

Throughout her life, Jude maintained an indomitable spirit and ability to turn negative setbacks into positive opportunities. She continually showed those she loved how to be stronger than they thought they could be, and to live to the fullest possibilities. She held her convictions and beliefs deeply, yet was not afraid to evolve in her opinions, embracing the LGBTQ+ community, working to become anti-racist in her thinking and actions and deepen her understanding of the role of faith in social justice. Over her life, she empowered thousands of people in her students learning to read, her co-ostomates to live with independence, her colleagues to become stronger educators, her family and friends to find joy and hope in unlikely places.

Due to COVID-19 restrictions, a Mass of Christian burial is tentatively scheduled for 10:30 a.m. April 15, 2021, at St. Mary, Mother of the Redeemer Church in Groton, with interment to follow at Colonel Ledyard Cemetery. Donations in lieu of flowers may be made in Jude's memory to Connecticut Children's Medical Center, 282 Washington Street, Hartford, CT 06106 at https://www.connecticutchildrens.org/ or to your local community food bank through https://www.feedingamerica.org/find-your-local-foodbank.

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Published in The Day on Feb. 21, 2021.
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March 5, 2021
My condolences on Jude's passing. She is a wonderful person and spirit. She will be missed. I'll always remember her as my first reading teacher. My thoughts and prayers are with you and the Ebbinghaus family
Laura Maiolo
March 4, 2021
Charlie and family, We just heard about the passing of Jude and wish to express our condolences over her loss. May the love of those around you support you and your family at this time.
Nancy and Mark Elliott
Coworker
March 1, 2021
Charlie, so sorry to read about Jude. Condolences to you and your family.
Tim Choiniere
Acquaintance
March 1, 2021
Charlie and Alicia, So sorry to hear of Judith's passing. Way too soon. I didn't know her personally but from the obituary, she sounded like a very talented and caring person. Thoughts and prayers are with you and Alicia.
Rochele Noel-Gray
Classmate
February 26, 2021
Dear Charlie, Alicia and family- very heartfelt condolences to you on Jude's passing. What a wonderful, caring, giving person ! She accomplished so much in her life ..and all selfless causes - what a legacy ! She touched so many lives and made the world a better place! I fondly remember the great days of the Fitch Marching Band when we all put in many hours volunteering. She is at peace with Cheryl and they are sending you strength.
Nina Ursitti
Friend
February 25, 2021
Dear Charlie and family: I was so sad to hear about Jude's passing! Jude helped at a time when I needed it the most and I will never forget her kindness! She was a wonderful woman and God now has her home!
Mary-Jean Dunn, Niantic, CT
February 24, 2021
Jude was my "go to " person at Eastern Point..... The quintessential teacher, adored by her students, and respected by the faculty. My condolences to her entire family.
Linda Pershaec
Coworker
February 24, 2021
Charlie & Family, I’m so sorry for your loss. She was a pleasure knowing and working with her. She will be missed by many. Dave Laffargue
David Laffargue
Friend
February 24, 2021
Charlie & Family, Please accept our sincere condolences on your loss. Jude was a very special person and truly "one of the best". We are all better for having known her . She will be greatly missed. Judy & Bob Strouse
Robert and Judith Strouse
Friend
February 23, 2021
Charlie and family. We are so sorry to hear about Jude's passing. A truly thoughtful and giving person that we were blessed to know. Heaven will become a better place now that she is there. Our thoughts are prayers are with you and your family.
Bob and Darcy Peruzzotti
Friend
February 22, 2021
My deepest sympathies to Charlie and to Jude's Family. It was a pleasure knowing Jude, and playing trivia with her.
Richard Chioccola
Friend
February 22, 2021
Charlie, I am so sorry for your loss. Jude was a wonderful caring person and she will be deeply missed.
Tony Reinhold
Friend
February 22, 2021
Charlie,
We are so very sorry for your loss. We knew Jude as a fun, caring and involved person. She will be missed by so many.
Deb and Kevin Kelly
kevin kelly
Friend
February 21, 2021
We were blessed to work with Jude in ministries at St Mary church, and she will be missed....always faithful and faith filled.
Karen and Jerry Carriera
Acquaintance
February 21, 2021
To entire Ebbinghaus family
I only met Jude a few times but seemed like a very nice person. My son Adam spoke fondly of her you are all in my thoughts and prayers.soar hish with the other angels Cheryl and Adam will be waiting for you
Al Rowland
Acquaintance
February 21, 2021
Charlie,
I am so sorry to hear about Jude's passing. She was one of the first patients I met while volunteering at ECHO and she will always be one of my favorites. She was a wonderful and dynamic person.

Holly Simmons
Hollis Simmons
February 21, 2021
I am so very sorry to hear this sad news. Not only did I work with Jude on summer reading programs in my work with the library, but she was also the reading specialist when my daughter was a student at Eastern Point School. I've long admired her commitment to promoting literacy in young people. Such a wonderful lady. My sincere condolences to Charlie and the family.
Mary-Jane Carle
February 21, 2021
To the Ebbinghaus family,
Charlie, I am so sorry to hear about Judith. My thoughts are with you and your family. I didn't know Judith but she sounded wonderful, way too soon to leave you, Carole Drong
Carole Drong
Friend
February 21, 2021
Jude was a kind and giving person. She will be missed by the many friends she was able to influence so positively in her life.
James LaPointe
Friend
February 21, 2021
Charlie, Jude was a wonderful and generous person. So sorry for your loss. You are in thoughts and prayers. - John & Mary LaMattina
John LaMattina
Friend
February 20, 2021
To the family of Mrs. Ebbinghaus,
We are deeply sorry for the loss of this great woman. Mrs. Ebbinghaus was my daughter’s reading specialist when she had attended Eastern Point Elementary School. She touched so many lives, including my family and I. She will be very missed and our thoughts and prayers are with you at this time.
Immacolata Maiolo
Friend
February 20, 2021
I am truly saddened by the loss of Jude! I can tell you she really loved helping children and others! She was a true trooper ! She definitely will be missed!
Deborah McClellan
February 20, 2021
We are so sorry to learn that Jude has passed. She was always positive, kind, joyful and energetic. Jude truly lived her faith through her actions. I was fortunate to teach with Jude years ago at Sacred Heart. I later had the pleasure of teaching Alycia at Groton Heights. She and Charlie were devoted, supportive and loving parents. They were always involved in their beautiful daughters’ education and activities. We were among the many friends who were praying for Jude’s recovery. Charlie and Alycia and all your family, we will continue to keep you all in our thoughts and prayers. Jude will certainly be missed!

With love and sympathy,
Diane and Ed Kolnaski
Diane Kolnaski
Friend
February 20, 2021
I haven’t known Jude for too long, but at first meeting her I felt like I’d know her all my life. She was so warm and loving. We found many areas of commonalities in our lives. I will miss her so much at quilting retreats. Rest In Peace, Jude with your daughter at your side. We’ll meet again someday at the great quilting retreat in heaven.
Betsy Flanagan
Friend
February 20, 2021
So deeply saddened to hear Jude has passed. She was there for so many people. Including me many times. Jude you will be missed deeply. My thoughts and prayers with Charlie Alicia and family.
Ellen Kenyon
Friend
February 20, 2021
Words can hardly express the sadness I have for you all. Jude was the most lovely and kind person I have ever met. Your family was such an integral part of our Groton Heights family. Iwill miss her gentle and kind spirit. Her legacy of care for others will continue. My condolences to you Charlie and Alycia and family. With my deepest sympathy and love.
Denise Moffett-pierson
Friend
February 19, 2021
I remember Jude as a wonderful person. Always with a smile. My condolences to Charles and family.
Nancy Seely-Butler
Friend
February 19, 2021
To the family of Jude-

So sorry to hear of your loss. I remember Jude greeting me at Eastern Point School when teaching there filling in as a substitute. She was so excited as she loved the profession of teaching and welcomed me aboard.

Her strength and happy nature was a magnet for the children and others. Her dedication to Sacred Heart Church and throughout her interactions with so many people showed her living her faith daily. Her happy smile was so welcoming and encouraging and may her spirit live on.
Andrew Parrella
Friend
February 19, 2021
So sorry to hear of Jude's passing. Please accept our sincere condolences. You will all be in our thoughts in the coming days as we remember Jude. Prayers for peace and comfort ♡ Love and hugs to you all.
Julie and Owen Tarhovicky & family
Family
February 19, 2021
Dear Charlie, Alycia, Will and Ronan
It is with our deepest sympathy of Jude's passing that we send you our love and support. May God fill your hearts with comfort knowing she is no longer suffering. We have many good memories of times spent together with family gatherings, St. Patrick's Day parties and I having the privilege of cutting Jude's hair short before undergoing chemo treatment.
I was also fortunate to work with her as a teaching colleague. Jude gave so much of herself to her students.
Jude always wore a smile, she was capable of lifting one's spirit. Thank you Jude for being a part of our lives. We know that you are happy being reunited with Cheryl.
Rest in Peace, my friend.
Paula & Tony Timpano
Friend
February 19, 2021
I’m so sorry for your loss of Jude! She was my first colleague at Sacred Heart School. Her kindness, love for teaching, sharing her knowledge and love of people made her the best of the best in every dimension of her life. Heaven gained another angel! You touched my heart and made me want to be better everyday! Charlie and Alycia, I’ll be keeping you in prayer! ❤
Michele Benbow
Friend
February 19, 2021
David and I are so sad at the loss of Jude. An amazing human being who touched so many people. To Charlie and family our hearts SND tears are with you. Love you all
Donna& David Vanasse
Friend
February 18, 2021
Prayers for your family in your loss of Jude. I only knew her for this last year in the zoom WW group on Saturday mornings. She was a lovely person and added a spark to everyone’s day. She will be greatly missed. May she Rest In Peace.
Linda Jordan
Acquaintance
February 18, 2021
Charlie, Alycia, and all who loved Jude, we are sorry for your loss, the earth lost an angel. Jude touched so many, so often, her spirit, enthusiasm to help, and want to get involved made so many others lives better. I have fond memories of growing up with Aunt Jude and Uncle Charlie always the loving caring couple who would help out the Benham Rd/Cutler St. kid pack that would form.
Please accept our sincerest condolences, your friends (and extended family), The Adams
Tim Adams
Family
February 18, 2021
We have lost a beautiful woman that cared so much about life and her family. The love she showed my children especially Hope that was one her daughters best friends to Cheryl, taking her on trips with the family and fun times at their home with family and puppies and pool time are just the tip of what she did with all the kids that came there. Her comforting voice to her amazing smile always meant everything was going to be ok. Jude and her awesome husband Charley always loved every single day.
Bless your family and Hug to Cheryl and Adam in heaven. It's now time to party in Heaven "Jude" you deserve it!
Donna Lessard
Friend
February 18, 2021
Charlie, Alycia and family. All of you are in our thoughts and prayers. We will remember Jude for the wonderful woman she was and her dedication to CCMC. Sending all of you love.
Dory Redman (Champion Family 2009)
Friend
February 18, 2021
Charlie, My sincere condolences on the passing of Jude. She was a wonderful person who touched so many people's lives. My prayers are with you.
Mike Fergione
Michael Fergione
Coworker
February 18, 2021
Charlie and Alycia our thoughts and prayers are with you at this most difficult time. Will always remember her with fondness and a smile. She was the BEST!
Debbie and Ernie Grant
Friend
February 18, 2021
My thoughts and prayers are with the family. Jude was always a person who taught for the love of the profession and was an advocate for all students.
Deane Beverly
February 18, 2021
Jude was a beautiful person, who lived her life in a way that was a force for Light and Love wherever she went. She will be missed by so many...
Sarah Biggart
Friend
February 18, 2021
I'm very very sorry for loss. Jude was an amazing woman. God bless this family❤
Cheryl Deck-peckham
Friend
February 18, 2021
Our thoughts and prayers are with you Charlie and your family. Jude was a wonderful woman and will be missed. Love, Robert and Denyce Thomson.
Denyce Thomson
Friend
February 18, 2021
I’ll forever be grateful for you shaping me into who I am today Mrs. Jude. Someone wise once told me, “ohhh shush there are no good byes. Just see you laters!”

See you later. I love you
Kevin Jarvis
February 17, 2021
I am so so heart broken to hear this news..i pray God to watch over and protect the Ebbinghaus Family..your family has always been in my heart. Mr and Mrs Ebbinghaus had a big role in my life when is was on elementary and middle school with my disilbities and the bullying I went through. Their daughter Cheryl god rest her soul is miss her everyday as well. Mr Ebbinghaus amd Alicia please keep your faith amd gentle hearts together.. May God help ease your pain..always in my heart...
Kristy Miner
Friend
February 17, 2021
I’m so sorry for your loss. I worked with Jude at Eastern Point School many, many years ago. She was a wonderful person and educator. My thoughts are with you at this time.
Lisa Tedder
Coworker
February 17, 2021
Dear Jude,
I will miss seeing your smiling face every Saturday morning on our Zoom workshop! I’m so sorry we didn’t get the chance to meet and take a walk on the beach like we wanted to. You have touched my heart and I will never forget you! There is no doubt in my mind that you’re walking among the angels in Heaven!
With love,
Annie D.
Torrington, CT
Annie Davis
Friend
February 17, 2021
Jude will missed by so so many. She touched all our lives in different but wonderful ways. She is for sure another angel in heaven ❤
Doreen Wilson
Friend
February 17, 2021
Thank you Jude, for loving my son and taking such good care of him. Your Rally family will miss you.
Karen Robitaille
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