Peter Stuart Schilke
1960 - 2018
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Gales Ferry - Loving father and husband, Cmdr. Peter Stuart Schilke, USN retired, of Gales Ferry, passed away suddenly on May 19, 2018, surrounded by his wife and children.

Peter was born to Donald Schilke and Margaret Chernals Schilke, Sept. 20, 1960, in Oak Park, Ill. He was raised in the Chicago suburb until age 17, when he attended the U.S. Naval Academy. Following commissioning, he attended the USN nuclear power school in Orlando, Fla., and later served on submarines. In 1989, Peter began his career at Electric Boat, at one time leaving to work at Millstone Nuclear Power Plant for five years before returning to work at Electric Boat until May of 2018. Peter also served in the Naval Reserves from 1988 to 2004. In 1998, he received a master's in mechanical engineering from Yale University. He continued his education, studying naval architecture, submarine weapons, and acoustics at MIT.

Peter's greatest passion was sailing. He was on the Naval Academy sailing team, where he excelled on the foredeck, setting and dousing the spinnaker. He met his wife, Laura Izard Schilke, while competing in the Storm Trysail regatta on Block Island. They quickly fell in love and were married on Sept. 17, 1983.

Pete and Laurie settled down in Gales Ferry, where they raised their daughter and three sons, Sarah, Peter Thomas, Erik and Jonathan. Peter loved running. As a State of Illinois track relay champion, he passed on his tenacious spirit to his children by frequently running with them early in their lives. This tenacious spirit permeated all activities he shared with his wife and children. He was known for being the loudest one cheering at his children's sporting events, and enthusiastically rooting for all team members.

Pete's family was most important to him. He was a one-of-a-kind dad, always making his family laugh while supporting them in the best ways possible. He could fix anything around the house and he loved working on his sailboats, The Captain Crunch and My Wawie. He had a way of enhancing everyday tasks by putting his own comedic spin on them. His humor has left his family and friends with endless stories to laugh about. Every day began and ended with his two dogs, Missy and Wolfman Jack, who always put a smile on his face.

Peter is survived by his wife and his four children, his father Donald Schilke and Don's wife Linda Schilke, his siblings Carole Schilke and Paul Schilke and his wife Marta, and his mother and father-in-law Margery Izard of Glastonbury and Dr. Mark Izard of Avon.

A memorial service will be held at 11 a.m. on June 9, in the Wethersfield Congregational Church, 250 Main St., Wethersfield. A reception will take place afterwards down the block at the Keeney Memorial Cultural Center at 200 Main St. in Wethersfield. In lieu of flowers, the family requests that donations be made to Ledyard Congregational Church, where Peter and his family have been members for many years.

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Published in The Day on Jun. 5, 2018.
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May 19, 2019
Remembering you on this day. Taken way too soon. All were blessed to have had you cross our paths. We are all better human beings because of it. Keep smiling.
Namaste Peter.
Leann Rider
November 18, 2018
In Iceland 1995
To the entire Schilke family,
I am so sorry for your loss. I just read about this online. I was stationed with Pete in Iceland Defense Force 101 reserve unit in the 90's. Pete was an outstanding Officer and boss. I will always remember his upbeat personality and devotion to his family and the Naval Service. Rest easy shipmate.
Jan Efflandt
June 26, 2018
Laurie, Thomas, Erik, Jonathan , Sarah...Don, Paul and Carole..and all of your extended family. Michael and I were so, so deeply sad to hear the news of Pete. He was my backyard neighbor since we were in First Grade. He was my good friend..then and in the present. The Forest Avenue ...and Kenilworth Avenue kids growing up was so joyful! We were all good friends from Holmes School...and beyond. Peter was larger than life! So kind and giving to all! He was always so positive and could help you, even if you thought ...the situation was impossible!! His biggest pride and joy was his family and his 2 dogs! Laurie, Michael and I are praying for all of you. "Blessed are they that mourn: for they shall be comforted"..Love and peaceful comfort to all of you. We know the Lord is helping you and keeping all of you in his arms! Pete is there with him!
Lorrie Wilkie
June 15, 2018
My deepest condolences go out to the entire Schilke family...Peter was a GREAT neighbor and will be SADLY missed by all who knew him...may your MANY memories help all going forward.
Richard Pearce
June 14, 2018
To The Entire Schilke Family,

So sorry to hear of your loss.Peter was a classmate at O.P.R.F. I remember him as a bright,witty,warm,and fun loving guy. He was also humble, yet he instilled so much confidence in those around him.I am sure this trait was recognized at Annapolis and beyond.
One of the last times I remember seeing Pete was at a friends wedding in Oak Park (at the Nineteeth Century club ).Pete and his mom were both in attendance.
Although its been so many years since Ive seen him I will still miss him and remember him so very fondly

Tom Brennan
June 10, 2018
Laura, I am so sorry to hear of your loss. Pete was my first - and BEST - Division Officer on the Nat Greene. He was a very special officer and gentleman, a true leader.

Every time I see a small island with a house on it I am taken back 30+ years to the party you all hosted for E-Div on Potato Island.

Please know that you and your family are in our prayers and rest assured that Pete is having a blast in Heaven.
Scott and Julie Watkins
June 10, 2018
So sorry and sad to hear. Pete and I were classmates and teammates at OPRF. He was always upbeat fun to be around and a great competitor and positive person.

Mike Lane
Mike Lane
June 8, 2018
Dear Laurie, Thomas, Erik, Jonathan and Sarah,

I am so sorry for your loss. Pete was a very special person. Always happy and knew how to enjoy life. He was always willing to give a helping hand. Such a great example to all of us. Enjoy all of his wonderful memories.

The Strelevitz Family
Mary Strelevitz
June 8, 2018
I'm shocked and saddened to hear about Pete. He's one of the finest men I've ever met.

So many memories of time on the Nat Greene are flashing through my head that I'm confronted with tears and chuckles.

My prayers are with you and your family Laura.
Mike LaFleur
June 8, 2018
I worked with Pete on many projects during my years at Electric Boat. He was always a source of knowledge, enthusiasm and humor. His easy going manner and desire to ensure the group's success made him a pleasure to work with. Donna and I were saddened to hear about Pete's untimely passing and send our deepest sympathies to his family.
Karl Hasslinger
June 7, 2018
I would like to pass on my families prayers, as well as The Carolina Piedmont Base, United States Submarine Veteran's, who were crew mates on the SSBN Nathaniel Greene. I was going through Advanced Radioman Submarine School in Groton at the same time then Lt. Schilke was attending officer's school there. I regret that I never got the chance to make his acquaintance at the time. I was eventually assigned to the USS Albuquerque, SSN-706 where I was qualified submarines. The branch of the Schilke's that I come from was from the Schilke's of Middletown, Connecticut (1950's through Present). My uncles at the time always told me that if my last name matched any other Schilke's that we were related somehow. Once again, Our prayers for your family. Hand Salute Sir, We have the watch.
Robert Schilke
June 6, 2018
Dear Laurie, Tom, Erik, Jon and Sarah.....
There simply are no words for your loss.
We hope that you can take some comfort from the family and friends that
Peter and you have cultivated over the years.
With deepest condolences,
The Bowles Family
The Bowles Family
June 6, 2018
Laurie and family, Judi & I send our deepest condolences. Peter was my best friend in high school. He will always live on in our memories. Running with him, the radio blasting by the pool at his parents house, the few times we sailed on the Chesapeake, weekends at your fist home, his goofy laugh.
Leo & Judi OBrien
June 6, 2018
Sincere Condolences to the Schiller Family
The DeNeve Family
June 6, 2018
My sympathies to the whole Shilky family. I am saddened by the news of Peters passing. I have some fond memories of Holmes elementary school with Peter. Rest in Peace, Peter
Michael Wich
June 6, 2018
Laurie and family , we are so sorry for your loss. We just ran into the two of you this summer in the borough. Pete always put a smile on our faces. Lots of love and prayers sent to your whole family.
Heather & Chris Rowley
June 6, 2018
On behalf of the United States Submarine Veterans (USSVI), I offer our sincere condolences on Peter's passing. You and your loved ones are in our thoughts and prayers. We are forever grateful for Peter's service to our country in the U.S. Submarine Service. To our Brother we say, Sailor, rest your oar. We have the watch. May you rest in peace and may God bless your loved ones who remain. Thank you for your service to our country.

"Now may the Lord of peace Himself give you peace always in every way" 2 Thess 3:16

Peter Stuart Schilke CDR, US Navy, Now on Eternal Patrol.
Fair Winds and Following Seas Shipmate.

Bill Dixon, National Chaplain United States Submarine Veterans, USSVI.
Bill Dixon
June 6, 2018
Please accept my heartfelt sorrow and condolences to Pete's family.
Pete and I worked together at Electric Boat and my memories of are of his perpetual smile, his gentle spirit, his friendliness and his willing to step up and help in every situation.
God bless you Pete and may you be resting in Jesus arms today for you fought a long hard fight and with honor.
Rest in Peace.
Rocco Tarulli
June 5, 2018
A great guy to talk to through grade school in Oak Park. My condolences to the Schilke family.
Thomas Keys
June 5, 2018
Laurie and family:

No doubt in my mind that Pete is in heaven sailing, and though many years will pass till you see him again, they will be but the blink of an eye in 10,000 years. This is our Father's plan for all of us. I am so sorry that he called Pete home at such a young age.

Your husband and dad was part of an elite culture. Pete valued things that we all should hold dear: faith, family, honesty and service. He was easily the best man I've ever known and remains a beacon that I hold myself upto. This isn't hyperbole or exaggeration. Pete was awesome.

Sandra and I have very warm memories of our Tango Bravo "party" at Watch Hill. He was my confident, friend and boss. ...and although I haven't seen Pete since 2007, somehow I sense that the world is smaller without him here. You are all in our prayers.

Joe and Sandra Gavin
Richmond Hill, GA
Joe and Sandra Gavin
June 5, 2018
I have such a heavy heart hearing this sad news. I too was a classmate of Peter's at Holmes Elementary School in Oak Park and have such fond and warm memories of Pete. He was such a positive influence on those around him and never a negative thing to say about anyone. He is/was the best of 'em! God bless you, Pete and guide your family through this difficult time.
Brayon Weiser Miklasz
June 5, 2018

To Peters Family and Friends,

Pete and I worked together at E.B, and he was - one in a million.

He was respected and well-liked by all his co-workers.

A fellow animal lover, Pete and I always had a - great story to tell about our beloved tail wagging friends.

I have a picture Pete gave me, of his son on his motorcycle, with dog Jack in the basket enjoying the ride.

I love you Pete, and you will always be in my memory, till we meet again in Heaven.

Diane L. Amburn
June 5, 2018
I worked with Pete at EB on and off over the years. Besides being incredibly knowledgeable and insightful, he was a pleasure to work with. He always managed to find humor in things. I always considered him a friend and will miss him. My heartfelt condolences to his family. I am so sorry.
Steve Menno
June 5, 2018
Pete was one of my classmates at Holmes School, Oak Park, IL. At that time, kids attended grades K thru 8th grade. Pete was always a well liked guy who would always help you. My condolances to his family and friends.
Clay Huntley
June 5, 2018
I will never forget running all over Oak Park with you to train for cross country....and to train for the fun weekends afterwards. You rest easy pal...I hope to see you again someday.
Bob Horder
June 5, 2018
I am so very sorry to hear this sad news. My deepest sympathies to you, Laurie, and to Thomas, Erik, Jonathan, and Sarah. I have so many wonderful recollections of all. May you all find peace and comfort in your memories. My thoughts are with you.
Kathy Uschmann
Kathy Uschmann
June 5, 2018
Pete and I went to grade school together (Holmes) and he was a good friend. I later was able to reconnect with him at our Holmes school reunion in 1999 but have not seen him since. He was a great man and was a great friend back in the days when we both were young. Very sad to hear of his passing but will pray for his family.
Bruce Barclay
June 5, 2018
Thoughts and prayers to Peter and his family. He was a Great guy and true gentleman. I truly enjoyed our time working together at Millstone, running into him at Block and seeing Peter when we attended events at Ledyard High. Rest In Peace
Bill Satti and family
June 5, 2018
I am so sad to hear of Peter's passing. I'm not sure if you remember me but I was an Instructor with Peter when he worked at Millstone. Peter had called me just a few months ago and we talked of getting together to go sailing on his boat. I am so sorry for your loss Laurie. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

Gary Sturgeon
Gary Sturgeon
June 5, 2018
Laurie, I was so sad to learn about Pete's passing. He always made me laugh or smile when we had Women's Club events. Such a loss. I am keeping you and your children in my thoughts and prayers during this difficult time.
Shelley Williams
June 5, 2018
Butterflies are free.
Lisa McCluskey
June 5, 2018
What I will miss most about Pete...his outrageous sense of humor, his smile, and the love that he showed for his wife and family at all times. My heart aches for this family, but I know that each of his family members knew that they were loved by Pete. I would imagine that he is smiling down on them, while creating laughter in heaven. God Bless...Elen , Steve and Troy
June 5, 2018
In my many talks with Pete, he would joke about almost everything except his love for his family and our country. He was one of a kind. Joanne and I are so sorry for your loss.
Pat Bevins
June 5, 2018
Dear Laurie, Sarah, Peter, Erik, Jonathon, and the entire circle of Pete's family and friends,

I'm a friend of Pete's from work. We, first of all, shared dolphins; we also shared faith...Pete has been part of a prayer circle I moderate for a number of years. We regularly passed one another in the halls where we talked of family and dogs, and, of course, sea stories! While he was intensely intelligent, he was, too, disarmingly funny, and he was crazy proud about his family. He also tried to talk me into sailing and now I truly regret the some day!

Having lost both parents myself, know, all too well, this very special loss! Understanding the hole left behind, regardless the inevitability or forewarning, pray this helps some wee allow...enable...the grief! And this grief will come...and linger; indulge it because it is is how God built us...and it reflects the measure of whom you've lost...and I know that's much!

So truly sorry to hear about your husband, dad, friend. At least now he's at peace with our Lord...definitely keepin' y'all in my prayers!

When my mother died, even after a years-long battle with cancer, I was shattered by the loss...inconsolable...she was my mentor! I like to think that I got my character from my father, but my mind and its capacity from m'dear sainted mother!!! BUT, "If your faith assures you she's in heaven, then what are the tears all about?!?" I hold eternity dearly close...a cherished, hard-won prize...but, in the interim, that answer lies below.

(I Eulogize My Beloved Mother - March, 1989)

Today we cry...must admit they're selfish tears.
You see...our faith assures your journey's done.
But it's not for you we mourn, at all, my dear;
It's for those of us you've left behind...alone!!!

We share your joy...share your happiness at rest,
Your painful fears now for forever stilled.
You've fought the good fight, passed the final test,
But you've left behind a hole that can't be filled!!!

So, until we each rejoin you some someday,
And, while your memory buoys us through those years,
We'll miss you...but continue on our way,
And, from time to time, we'll cry our selfish tears!!!

Ray Hamilton (c) March 19, 1989

My sincerest condolences and prayers,
Ray Hamilton
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