Jay D. Puestohl
1952 - 2020
{ "" }
Share Jay's life story with friends and family
Send an Email
Or Copy this URL to Share
Oshkosh - Jay D. Puestohl, 67, died suddenly on Sunday, February 2, 2020. Jay was born in Oshkosh, Wisconsin, on May 6, 1952 to Rod and Shirley (Kempinger) Puestohl. For high school he attended Lourdes Academy and later attended the University of Wisconsin-Oshkosh, where he graduated with a Bachelors degree in political science and a Masters in public administration.

Jay served for 32 years in the Oshkosh Police Department. He earned the rank of Captain and led the Investigative Services Bureau for many years. He also taught classes in criminal justice and political science at UW-O.

Jay had many talents and hobbies. He was an adept carpenter and mechanic. He had broad knowledge of how the things we use day-to-day work, how they are made, and how to fix them. Outside of his career he was always busy working on something, whether it be a car, a house, a vintage snowmobile, or helping with one of his kids' school projects. After retirement from the police in 2008, he worked part-time as a handyman. He taught his kids how to be resourceful and work with their hands.

Jay loved things that go. His parents bought him his first Harley Davidson at age 15, and he was a life-long motorcyclist. He loved cars and trucks, boating on Lake Winnebago, and bicycling. Jay also had a passion for aviation. For decades he piloted single engine aircraft and in 2015 finished building his own airplane according to a 1938 design, which he flew with great joy.

Jay also enjoyed music, other forms of art, and spending time in the natural world. He was intellectually curious, and loved learning about history and the world around him.

Those who knew Jay will remember him for his generosity. His efforts to help those near and far were tireless. One could not ask for a more loving and dedicated father.

Jay loved children and animals. He was a faithful Catholic. He was exceptionally humble, and lived with integrity and intense moral conviction.

Jay will be deeply missed by his two children, Mark (partner Sara) and Nick Puestohl; sister, Cherie Forster and nieces, Carly and Caitlin Forster; aunt, Judy (Jerry) Bauer; uncle, Richard LeBeck; many cousins; Godchildren; former wife, Deirdre; and so many friends, especially Stan Kotschi, Monty Montgomery, and Debbie Sorenson.

He is preceded in death by his parents, Shirley and Rod; grandparents, Cecelia and George Kempinger, and Eleanor and Gilbert Puestohl; his aunt and uncle, Susie and Jay Pistohl; and his aunt, Mary LeBeck.

A Mass of Cristian Burial will be held in honor of Jay at noon on Saturday, February 8th, at St. Jude Parish-St. Vincent site (1225 Oregon St., Oshkosh). Visitation will be held on Friday, February 7th, from 4 to 8 p.m. (with a 7:45 prayer service) at Konrad-Behlman Funeral Homes-Westside, and on Saturday at St. Vincent's from 11 a.m. to noon. Burial will be at Riverside Catholic Cemetery.

In lieu of flowers, a memorial has been established. The family also thanks the Oshkosh Police and Fire Departments for their service.

To Plant Memorial Trees in memory, please visit our Sympathy Store.
Published in Oshkosh Northwestern from Feb. 5 to Feb. 7, 2020.
04:00 - 08:00 PM
Prayer Service
07:45 PM
11:00 - 12:00 PM
Mass of Christian Burial
12:00 PM
Funeral services provided by
Order by phone: (866) 764-7853
Memories & Condolences
Guest Book sponsored by Konrad-Behlman Funeral Homes
Not sure what to say?
View Printed Guest Book
15 entries
January 31, 2021
Jay was a neighbor and good friend of my uncle, Wayne Stearns. My family became good friends with Jay after my uncle’s passing. We would get together with Jay for a lunch/dinner when we would come up to Oshkosh on our way to a Packer game. I miss him very much.
Ellen Mangan
March 14, 2020
the world changes from year to year.Our Lives from day to day,but the love and memory of you shall never pass away.R.I.P
Tatianna Muse
February 9, 2020
Good man. Always a nice guy. Well respected. RIP
Greg Seibold
February 8, 2020
Our deepest sympathy to Jay's family. He was truly a class act and a great friend. We will miss him a great deal.
Lyle & Sandy Forsgren
February 8, 2020
our deepest sympathy to the Puestohl family. Jay was a co-worker, and a truly good person who had compassion for all. He will be missed by many.
Jim & Maureen Thome
February 7, 2020
Police Honor Guard with Jay
I worked with Jay for many years. After I retired, I would see Jay a couple times a month at the Delta Restaurant where a group of retired Officers met weekly. Jay was always lending a hand to friends when they needed it. That was true, even to the very end.
Al Perry
February 7, 2020

A truly genuine and humble man. As a former student and traffic safety education colleague I always appreciated time spent with Jay.
Mike McGinley
Michael McGinley
February 7, 2020
Great guy gone too soon. RIP
Bob Marquart
February 7, 2020
A class act. Kind and caring. Needlessly taken too soon. He enjoyed his life to the fullest. He should have had more time to live it. Rest peacefully, Jay.
J. Flores
February 6, 2020
Deeply saddened by the loss of life for Jay. Truly a gentleman with a soft smile and big heart.
Lori Topp
February 6, 2020
The Oshkosh Area Humane Society would like to express its condolences to Mark and Nick on the loss of your father. We extend our sympathy also to Jay's entire family.

Jay will never be forgotten by the early "pioneer's" who started the Oshkosh Humane Society. He is still
fondly remembered by Joni Geiger and others for all he contributed with his skills and donations, He is remembered as a genuinely nice man, willing to help where ever he could.

Our sympathy to his family on your most difficult loss.
David Vander Linden
February 6, 2020
Jay was a great friend and neighbor to my brother, Wayne Stearns when Wayne was alive. My family got to know Jay after Wayne's passing, and had come to consider him a wonderful and caring friend of my family as well.
Ron Stearns
February 5, 2020
jay was a very nice person, fun to be with, and a great all around guy.
February 5, 2020
My Friend.
Stanley Kotschi
February 5, 2020
Jay's soft spoken spirit and kind heart will be missed especially every month at our family get togethers. Our thoughts and prayers are with his family and friends.
Steve and Kris Walter
Invite others to add memories
Share to let others add their own memories and condolences