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Gordon, Bruce Andrew
November 14, 1962 – September 29, 2017
Saskatoon, Saskatchewan
It is with profound and heartbroken sadness that we announce the passing of Bruce Gordon. Bruce will be dearly missed by Chris (his best friend and wife) and their children Jillian (Cory Bodnar and daughters Payton and McKayla) and James (Shelby Novak). Chris and the family would like to express their love and appreciation to all their friends and colleagues for their support, comfort and celebrations over the last four months. After earlier years on a farm near Marsden, Bruce moved with his family to Saskatoon. Always striving to be the best he could be, Bruce was active in several sports. He finished a hockey career as the captain of the Saskatoon Blades in 1981/82. Bruce's 28 years in the Saskatoon Police Service included Detective Sergeant in both the Sex Crimes Unit and the Major Crime/Homicide Unit. After retiring from the SPS in 2012, Bruce briefly worked as the Director of Investigations for the new civilian oversight agency in Vancouver, B.C. before enrolling in the College of Law at the University of Saskatchewan. Upon graduation in 2016, Bruce launched his legal career with Cuelenaere LLP, and was called to the Bar in June 2017. After many years of training for bike races and triathlons (completing the Penticton Ironman 9 times), Chris and Bruce became active members of the Saskatoon Cross Fit community. While many are aware of Bruce's achievements in all the public aspects of his life, countless others offer stories of how he was always quick to lend a helping hand to fix a flat, support a parent looking for help with a difficult situation, or to counsel a friend or colleague. Chris and the family would like to thank the many doctors and medical staff for their outstanding support and comfort during the last 4 months. The Celebration of Life will be held at the Elim Church, 419 Slimmon Rd at 3:00 p.m. on Wednesday, October 4, followed by a brief reception. Those wishing to offer messages of condolence may do so through the obituary pages of the Dalmeny Funeral Home (dalmenyfuneralhome.ca) or the Star Phoenix. Consistent with Chris and Bruce's belief of "Community Above All Else", donations can be directed to the Saskatoon Cancer Centre (patient comfort care and pancreatic cancer research). #BeLikeBruce with #CourageLikeChris: make every second count!


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Published in Saskatoon StarPhoenix from Sep. 30 to Oct. 3, 2017.
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January 2, 2019
Our sympathy to Chris and family. What an honour it was to know and work with Bruce ! His attitude was what many could wish for . Dave and Rae
David Wilton
Coworker
September 30, 2018
It's hard to believe that a whole year has passed. Time marches on. Blessings to you all, and to Bruce's memory.
Marylynn Nurnberger
October 21, 2017
Dear Chris, Jillian and James:
Stephen and I would like to express our sympathies in the passing of Bruce. Remember to be gentle with yourselves in starting this new journey and learning to cope with this excruciating loss. Love above all will help heal your sadness. Our prayers are with you. Rest easy Bruce rest easy.
Jackie & Stephen Coad
(Old neighbours on Estey Dr)
Jackie & Stephen Coad
October 14, 2017
Our condolences from the Pryor Family. We go way back to when the Gordon and Pryor families were close friends and neighbors at Marsden. Unfortunately as time passed, people moved, and some passed on we have pretty much lost contact over the years. We remember Bruce and siblings as very young, and Sharon sort of herding (babysitting) them. It is very evident that Bruce was a fine young man who earned the respect of many people, and was taken far too young.

Len and Sharon Pryor Marshall, Sk.
October 12, 2017
I had the honour of getting to know Bruce when we were members of the same Jasper-Banff Relay team for a couple of years. In the middle of the night, sitting in a vehicle for hours waiting for your leg of the relay to start, there was a lot of time to talk about many things. The conversations Bruce and I had focused on our favorite things, as we both knew we were blessed with our respective families being married to incredible ladies (Bruce to Chris, and I to Grace) and so blessed as well with the children who are the best parts of us, and so much more. Those conversations were and always will be cherished memories.
Bruce's special spirit will continue on in all of us who were so fortunate to have known him, and to Chris and Family, thank you for sharing Bruce with us.
John Stevenson
October 10, 2017
Myself and Jordan are so sad for the loss of Bruce...so much life left to live, so much giving yet to give. He will be missed by many; thoughts and hugs to you
Kim Christiansen
October 8, 2017
I am at a loss for words. I know there is nothing for me to say that will make your loss easier but know that we are sending you our love and support. I hope you can understand what I can't put into words. I have spent many moments reminiscing about Bruce and the Gordon and Edwards families and will always cherish the times we had together back in Marsden.
Randy & Jody Edwards
October 6, 2017
I met Bruce when I started working as an investigator at the Saskatchewan Human Rights Commission. He was friendly and welcoming from the beginning, and invited me to sit in on a witness interview he was doing so that I could get experience. He was professional and thorough, so clearly skilled at what he was doing, but always genuine and relatable. He told me that he approached every file as if it would end up in court one day with him having to answer to every decision he made during an investigation.

I would get to work in the morning frazzled and Bruce would tell me what he'd already accomplished that day: a bike ride, his class readings, a few hours of work. If I was carrying a coffee cup from McDonald's I could always expect a bit of a teasing hard time.

When Bruce moved on from our office, he told me to keep in touch and to let him know if I was ever performing in more musicals. He said that it was a world that he knew nothing about but that he wanted to take Chris to more of those kinds of things. When he would come back to visit, he would stop in to my office and plop down in the chair, smiling and saying, Hi friend, what's new?

I will remember Bruce's incredible drive, his good nature, and his endless encouragement. I am grateful to have known him, and I am so sorry for your family's loss.
Robin Burlingham
October 5, 2017
Greg and I share your grief and send our condolences to all who loved him. We are so saddened with the loss of Bruce.
Sandra and Greg Rollheiser
October 4, 2017
Chris and family, our deepest condolences. Sending lots of hugs & love- Bruce was one of a kind, and special guy that will be missed
Bonnie&Guy Ethier
October 4, 2017
Our deepest prayers and thoughts are with you Chris and your family, Bruce will be deeply missed by all. Take care. Kevin and Heather Acton
Kevin Acton
October 4, 2017

James I am so sorry May the love of friends and family carry you through your grief.May your hearts soon be filled with wonderful memories of joyful times together as you celebrate a life well lived you are in my thoughts and prayers
Frankie Bright
October 4, 2017
Wishing your family comfort in this difficult time. Grew up on the farm 4 Miles north of my Gordon cousins. Ran into Bruce in a bike shop two years ago and learned about his accomplishments and his plans for the future. His Mom and Dad would have been so proud of him. Hoping that you find solace in the memories of this special man.
Barry and Yvonne Morgan
October 4, 2017
You must be a very strong family to be able to handle everything you have gone through. Although I haven't seen you Chris in many years, you and Bruce made a huge impression on me. Please know my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
Joanne Sirota
October 4, 2017
Dear Chris,

I have been lost this last while thinking about Bruce. I can't imagine the heartache that you and your family have been experiencing. I am sending all of you my love from up in the Yukon.

I got to know you and Bruce around the same time as we all entered high school, and before you were together. I had just moved to Saskatoon, and Bruce and Dwayne called me up out of the blue one night for a laugh. And we became friends from that moment on. As a friend, Bruce was extremely loyal, and I know this developed into his strong sense of community. Even from that age, it was clear that Bruce's path was built on courage and a tough self awareness and sense of determination. I thought a lot of him, and was always inspired by his drive. I kept moving until I finally landed in the North. I always knew Bruce was my friend. Even thought the time we got to hang was brief and decades ago, I miss him.

I am sorry that I can't be there with you today on all days. It is my hope that with the sadness you are also able to have some peace. With much love, xo John

John Streicker
(Yukon Minister of Community Services)
John Streicker
October 4, 2017
Chris and family;

Please accept the sincere condolences of the Regina Police Vets Association at the passing of this incredible man. Bruce was counted as a friend and colleague by many of our members. The tremors of this loss can certainly be felt here. Please know that you are in the thoughts and prayers of many of our members this day, and days going forward.
Curtis Kemp RPS Vets Association
October 3, 2017
Thinking about you, Chris, in this very difficult and lonely experience.
Kathy Bradford
October 3, 2017
Chris, our deepest heartfelt sympathies are with you and your family. How we enjoyed Bruce staying in touch with us over the years. Bruce contributed so much good in so few years. Take comfort in his love and memory. In Friendship Always, Dave and Colleen
October 3, 2017
My sincere condolences to Chris, Jillian and James.[I am Bruce's cousin ( my mother, Eileen, was Shirley's sister), and Bruce was named after my brother, Bruce Edwardes, who died in 2008.] We hadn't seen each other in many years, but our extended family was close and we always knew what we all were doing! Bruce was a kind and caring man, taken from us too soon and too young.He will be missed and remembered by all of us.
Laurie Crozier
October 3, 2017
In 2011 Bruce's personal effort in the Sask provincial road Race (cycling) was key to helping a very deserving Bob Hawboldt to win that year. In July 2016 Bruce rode the 165 K Prairie Gran Fondo in just 4:42:32, in the first group of 3 to finish. I still cannot believe you are gone, Bruce, but I feel very fortunate to have known you, and will really miss you. Could you please get some cycling events organized in heaven? Our sincerest sympathy to all of your family.
Rob Howse
October 2, 2017
Chris,
My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family at this most difficult time. I am so sorry for your loss. Hugs to you.
Deb Lougheed
October 2, 2017
My deepest condolences Chris and family on the passing of your loved one. May the love and support of family and friends help you through the journey ahead.
Remembering you in love and prayer, Judy Simonson
October 2, 2017
Dear Chris,
It has been 17 years since we were lucky enough to be next door neighbours to you and Bruce. I must say, you were the best neighbours. We were both so shocked and saddened to learn of Bruce's passing. We have such fond memories of Bruce; he was so kind, generous, had such a big heart and a great sense of humor.
Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
Barclay and Stephanie Laughland
October 2, 2017
To my Prince Philip classmate as well as in high school. Thank you for your inspiring message to live strong. May God keep you in his loving arms until we all meet again.
Marylynn Mckelvie
October 2, 2017
My deepest sympathies Chris & family on hearing of your very sad news. He was such a great man & so lucky to have you in his life. You two were the best cycling leaders & I feel so fortunate to have met you both. Sending love, prayers & peace at this this very difficult time. ❤❤
Robyn Kondratowicz
October 2, 2017
Dear Chris, we have been thinking of you and Bruce, and your family over the past 4 months. My heart goes out to you, Jill, James and family. Our family has so many warm memories of Bruce as a neighbourhood friend and hockey coach to our son. Our thoughts and prayers are with all of you during this difficult time.
Linda, Kelly, Katherine, Thomas Martin
October 2, 2017
Every moment I think of Chris and Bruce, of your relationship and Bruce's passing, I lose my breath. From a distance you both have me appreciating and honouring my relationship with Linda even more. Thank you. You are and have been giants among mankind and to refer to you as friends has been a blessing and a gift. Although your inspiration and connection together and with others changes now, I trust that your impact will remain boundless and unlimited. From our hearts to yours and more we extend only
Doug Geiger
October 2, 2017
It only seems like yesterday I sang at your wedding and your Bridesmaids were in the beautiful soft green dresses. Bruce and I were joking around like we always did. What an amazing guy he was Chrissy. I've thought about you two since I heard the news. God Bless Bruce, and may God bless you and your family in this time of sadness.
Lieca and Dave Lawrence
October 2, 2017
Chris, I am so sorry for your loss. I was very fortunate to be able to meet Bruce this year and I am thankful that I spent some time with both of you at graduation. Take comfort in knowing that he will always be smiling down at you and your family. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Kerry Deault
October 2, 2017
Dear Chris and family,
Please accept my condolences on Bruce's passing. My thoughts and prayers are with you in this difficult time.
Having played a lot of hockey with Bruce as a teenager I remember him well as a great teammate and a scary opponent. It was a privilege to have known him. He will be well remembered.
Brian Korchinski
October 2, 2017
As an employee at the University of Saskatchewan I got to know Bruce as a student. Always saying Hi and thanking me for my work. My thoughts and prayers to his family.
Jason Blum
October 2, 2017
Bruce was my first Pedal Wench leader and what a leader he was. If not fir him, I may have not made my second ride. He and Chris are inspirational and my heart goes out to all of those he leaves behind.
Shannon Forrester
October 2, 2017
Having known Bruce through SPS days his positive outlook was one for us to remember and we became richer because of it. May faith hold you tight during this time
Ray Mutlow
October 2, 2017
I really looked forward to seeing Bruce dominate in the practice of law like he did in so many other things in life. He accomplished so much - yet had so much more potential. Without doubt, the legal community has lost one of our brightest stars.

Chris - and family ...Your courage in the face of his illness is inspirational. I hope you are comforted by the legacy Bruce leaves on our city. He has been celebrated and will be celebrated for good reason.
Brian Pfefferle
October 2, 2017
To chris and all your family..so sorry for your loss..i am proud to have known Bruce and proud to have been a fellow colleague on the police force..he was a great inspiration to everyone and most of all a great husband and father to you and your children..he won't be forgotten..
Tim Sellar
October 1, 2017
I REMEMBER HIS DAYS OF PLAYING FOR THE SASKATOON BLADES HE WAS A VERY ACTIVE IN SPORTS , AND MAY GOD COMFORT YOU AT THIS TIME CHRIS AND FAMILY ON THE LOSS OF YOUR HUSBAND AND FATHER TO HIS KIDS.
Carmand Bourgeault
October 1, 2017
My very sincere condolences on Bruce's passing. My thoughts and prayers are with you on the loss of this fine gentleman
Harmen Wouda
October 1, 2017
I am so sad and sorry over the passing of Bruce, my condolences to his wife and family. He was that extraordinary person who was ever ready to help; he was calm and effective, going above and beyond, someone you knew would always do the right thing. Honestly, I am mad, because the world needs more of Bruce, not less. May his spirit live on and inspire us to Be like Bruce.
Veronica S.
October 1, 2017
So sad to hear this news; it is heartbreaking for all who knew him to learn of his passing. Extending heartfelt condolences to you, Chris, and to your family.
Wendy Davies
October 1, 2017
Chris, I am so sorry to learn of the sudden lose of your husband. It has been a long time since we were in Nursing together but I remember how much in love you were and I know those memories will be with you forever. Shari (Tebb) Watson
Shari Watson
October 1, 2017
Our thoughts and prayers are with you Chris, Jill and James.
Scott, Marilyn, Graeme, Greg Donaldson
October 1, 2017
Bruce was an amazing man,he inspired so many. Chris,James,Jillian and family our thoughts and prayers are with you at this difficult time.
Nick and Jeannine Minnema
October 1, 2017
My deepest condolences to your family at this difficult time. Bruces's example of generosity courage and strength will live on.
Cara Fitz
October 1, 2017
To the Gordon family,

My heart goes out to all of you. I know Bruce will be missed so very much - just remember he will be with you wherever you go and whatever you do because I know you will be carrying him in your heart forever. Hang on to all the good times you had with each other and keep those times close. Memories of his smiles will warm your heart and he will be with you to pick you up when times are tough. Remember how blessed you were to have him for as long as you did. Even though it may be hard at times - start each day with a smile and take one day at a time. Our lives are all richer for having people like Bruce in them!!

With very loving thoughts
The Mitzel family - who lovingly carries Brian in our hearts!
October 1, 2017
My prayers are with you Chris and your children at this most difficult time. My condolences are also for Shelley, Robin, Calvin, John and Dean. My late husband Earl and I were Glenn and Shirley's neighbors on Bell Crescent for many years. I had the pleasure of knowing the whole Gordon family well.
Jeannine & Robin Brown
October 1, 2017
Dear Chris, It has been a very long time since I last saw you & Bruce, but from the articles in the Star Phoenix, it appears you 2 had a fabulous life together!! I wanted to let you know my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this difficult time.
All the best, Laurie Carmichael
October 1, 2017
I am deeply saddened to hear of the passing of my childhood friend and relative. My sincerest condolences to the entire Gordon family.
Richard Christopherson
October 1, 2017
I am sure the first tear was from God, so thank ful I could call him a friend.
Dennis , Brenda Temple
October 1, 2017
Our deepest condolences to you and your family, Chris. Bruce was an extraordinary man who has left our world a better place just for having been part of it.
Ed & Kathleen Underwood
October 1, 2017
I played hockey against and with Bruce , let's just say playing with "Gordie" was much better !!! He was a great teammate who always had your back even if he knew you were in the wrong .... Sorry for your loss Chris of you're best teammate.... I know we all are better people to have had Bruce in our lives .... RIP "Gordie"
Dave Houston
October 1, 2017
We met you both thru our family, Marlene & John. Thinking of you all and pray for peace in your hearts. Candle for Bruce. We care.
Tom & Martha Laxdal
October 1, 2017
Our sincerest condolences to the entire Gordon family. Bruce was a special teammate and friend from the moment I first met him in 1979 during our time together with the
Medicine Hat Tigers. I'm thinking of your entire family during this very difficult time.
Kelly and Donna Hrudey
September 30, 2017
I will miss Bruce. He had an mpact on so many people. His legacy will continue as people strive to emulate his example. Be like Bruce.
Joan Cochrane
September 30, 2017
Our Deepest Condolences to Chris and your whole Family. For all that knew Bruce a piece of each of us has been taken away. Our memories of Bruce will remain with us always. Our thoughts and prayers are with you all.

Brian & Wendy Kuny
Brian Kuny
September 30, 2017
Thinking of you ,Chris,and your family at this sad time. May you find peace and comfort.
Cora and Lorne Roslinski
September 30, 2017
Chris-Our heart aches for you and your family-how devastating to lose Bruce-your best friend and husband for 32 years. The community support and achnowlegments are such a testiment to who Bruce was -a leader in whatever initiative he took on. How well loved and respected he was-a life well lived but far too short. May Bruce rest in peace.

With our deepest sympathy,
Sharon & Scott, Calgary
Sharon Gray
September 30, 2017

I cannot find the words to express the sorrow... we are better people for knowing Bruce. He was an idol to many and will be dearly missed. My thoughts and prayers to you and the family.
Andie Vogel
September 30, 2017
Chris and Family, my deepest sympathy for your profound loss. Thoughts and prayers to you all.
Patty Whiting
September 30, 2017
Chris and family. Such a very sad time for you and your family. Always in our hearts and prayers.
Bill and Christiane Kemp
Christiane Kemp
September 30, 2017
My deepest condolences to Chris, Jill, James and the whole Gordon family. I have fond memories of Bruce and the determination and care he brought to every part of his life. He will be sorely missed.
Frank Rooney
September 30, 2017
Chris my heart goes out to you and all the family. I have many warm memories of Bruce, he was a special person and will be missed by a great many. Hugs and all my love.
Rae Odishaw
September 30, 2017
My deepest sympathy to the Family ! I am glad I got to meet Bruce in March ! RIP Bruce !
Eleonore (Maggie ) Halvorson
September 30, 2017
Wishing you peace to bring comfort and the courage to face the days ahead and loving memories to forever hold in your hearts. Please know you are all in our thoughts and prayers ❤.
John & Sheila Graham & Family
September 30, 2017
Chris,
I'd like to send you and your entire family my deepest condolences. Our world has lost a wonderful man; the greatest loss is yours to bear. I know you can manage this, you have such faith and strength. You have your family, and a huge circle of friends to support you, so please reach out when you need to. Bruce's pain is gone; take solace in that. My prayers and thoughts will be with you always.

Della
Della Summers
September 30, 2017
Thanks for being our friend, we are better people for it.
Chris Mason
September 30, 2017
My condolences to you and your family, Chris. May your memories, of him, always be with you.
Lee Gifford
September 30, 2017
To Chris and family and to all the Gordon family,
Our sincere condolences on the passing of Bruce.
May he rest in God's arms and may you all find peace in the days ahead. He was an inspiration to many. Love and prayers,

Rita Christopherson and Grant Vogeli and family.
Rita Christopherson
September 30, 2017
Dear Chris.....You and Bruce have been in our thoughts over the last 4 months. It was an honour to have known Bruce and he will be greatly missed. My heartfelt condolences go out to you and your family.
Kyla and Mike Kelly
September 30, 2017
Deepest condolences to the Gordon Family. I was a team mate of Bruce with the Saskatoon Blades 1980-81. Always amazed at his work ethic, during games and practices and always lead by example. RIP my Captain!
James Sinclair
September 30, 2017
Sending love to your family who have been such positive influences in so many peoples lives!
Amanda and Mike Gore-Hickman
September 30, 2017
My heart goes out to you and your family Chris. Bruce was a special guy. He was always present with a smile, listened to every voice with intent and a helping, open attitude. #BelikeBruce is a very fitting goal for everyone to look up to in all areas of life. I am thinking of you all. Sharon Courtney
Sharon Courtney
September 30, 2017
Dear Chris, Jillian and James, we are so deeply saddened today, and our love goes out to you all. What a beautiful and special man you have had the Blessed privilege to share this life with in Bruce. My prayer is that you are forever warmed by all the love, and fun and strength you shared together. Bruce, all he was and stood for, will always be an important part of you. May the God of all Comforts help you in your every need.
Psalm 120:1 In my distress I cried to the LORD, And He heard me.
Love always,
Joy and Dallas Claypool
September 30, 2017
To Chris, and family and the Gordon siblings...it is with profound sadness I learned of Bruce's illness and recent passing. Having grown up with Bruce and his siblings in Marsden I have fond memories of our family connection and also our days together in Saskatoon. Our prayers and thoughts remain with all of you during this difficult time. We should all strive to be like Bruce.
Marina Christopherson and husband Dr Ed Jorundson
Marina Christopherson
September 30, 2017
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family, may your memories help you through this difficult time.
Annette Menzies
September 30, 2017
i remeber bruce i move to saskatoon i watch him play hockey for the saskatoon
ever shift he gets a penalty ever shift he goes on ice for shift he was tough person the ice beat ever person in fight
in a hockey game and or going to blades practice saskatoon arena and watch and see him after whl was finish i see him and talking to him he seem like a very nice person i will miss him
bob gordon
September 30, 2017
Our condolences to you and your family, Chris. Bruce was an amazing person that made an impact on many lives. We are so sorry.
Lianne and David Balantyne
Friend
September 30, 2017
Bruce was such a kind soul. No words can express how much he will be missed by everyone he touched. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this difficult time.
Norm and Colleen Derksen
September 30, 2017
Our thoughts and prayers go out to Chris and family. Bruce was truely a kind and generous person and he will remain a smile in our hearts.
Marilynn and Dave
September 30, 2017
Our deepest condolences to the Gordon family. Bruce made a huge impact with a lot of folks here in Surrey BC. He was a true friend.

Fred and Susan Leibel
Fred Leibel
September 30, 2017
My sincere sympathy to the Gordon family. Bruce and I were professional friends during my social work career. He was my " go to cop". Always returned my calls and came out to the schools to meet with me, about children and families . I could always count on his help . We had a easy friendship and lots of laughs as well. He was a great guy and will be missed by everyone who knew him RIP Bruce
Colleen Koller
September 30, 2017
Chris, Jill, James and family. May the strength of community guide you through the coming years Bruce always had the ability to see the sorrow I. Others and offer words of wisdom and a great big hug. He will be sadly missed by so many but never forgotten. He is a man you can all be truly proud of.
Linda and Bob
September 30, 2017
Our deepest and heartfelt condolences to the Gordon and Hrychuk families from the Premachuk and Bazylewski families. We are all saddened by this tragic loss of such a beautiful human being. Wishing you peace and courage in the days ahead.
Susan and Patrick Bazylewski
September 30, 2017
Chrissy and Billy......So sorry to hear of your loss. Pray and hope all will be good in the days ahead.
Ron Tomyn
September 30, 2017
Sincere condolences to all Bruce's loved ones. I didn't know Bruce but I've learned about him in last few months from articles and posts. He was beloved and will be missed by many. My thoughts are with Bruce's family and friends.
Elizabeth Rooney
September 30, 2017
My heart goes out to Chris and the family. As a social worker, I worked with Bruce a great deal for many years. He was always my " go to cop", always quick to answer my calls or meet with me to discuss a situation. We worked well together and always shared a laugh , even in the most dire of situations . He was a good man , who would do all he could to help someone. I will never forget him and will fondly remember him and his treasured family in my prayers.
Colleen Koller
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