Mary Allan Carson Sauder

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SAUDER, Mary Allan Carson (Hoey) 13 March 1944 - 22 July 2018 It is with the deepest sadness that I announce the passing of my dearest May; companion, friend and sweetheart. Small in stature, she had a large heart, a compassionate nature and an unconquerable spirit. Born in Sterling, Scotland, May received her basic schooling in Scotland and advanced education in Scotland, England, and later in British Columbia. From an early age she wanted to be a nurse, a career which she pursued all her life. Trained originally in midwifery, May practiced midwifery from 1967-1969 in Bellshill, Scotland. In 1969, May moved to Glasgow Royal Infirmary as Ward Sister, Open Heart Unit and in 1971 moved to the General Hospital at Leeds, England as Nursing Officer, Critical Care. In October 1973, May decided to travel and responded to a Canadian nursing colleague who invited her to Canada, and Prince George, BC, specifically. May arrived in October with the snow and departed in May with it still snowing. While in Prince George, May practiced as Staff Nurse, Critical Care Unit at Prince George General Hospital where her nursing skills were recognized as well as her gregarious nature. She made many friendships which continue to this day. In the spring of 1974, May was looking for new horizons and applied for nursing positions in Toronto, Vancouver and Victoria. Toronto and Vancouver responded with requests for interviews. However, there was no response from Royal Jubilee, Victoria. Prior to departing for the interviews, May phoned Victoria and was advised the job was hers if she wanted it. May accepted and joined the staff at Royal Jubilee Hospital as Clinical Teacher, Critical Care Unit. For 19 years, May dedicated herself to nursing in Victoria region hospitals, her patients and her colleagues. May held positions as Head Nurse Critical Care at Victoria General; Head Nurse Neurosciences, Royal Jubilee; and, Department Head, Nursing Services, BC Cancer Agency. In late 1995, May moved to the long-term care sector and held, over the next 17 years, senior-level administrative positions at James Bay Lodge, Beacon Hill Villa, Victoria Chinatown Care Centre and lastly Oak Bay Lodge. Wherever she worked May thrived, continually providing the best leadership and problem-solving skills, mentoring colleagues and leading by example. May delivered the best and expected others to do the same and she was prepared and willing to help and lend a hand to anyone who tried and wanted to improve their skills. May was not, however, all about work. She enjoyed her life and her friends. She enjoyed cooking and dinner parties were a regular part of her life. May met me in the mid 70's, and despite a somewhat embarrassing introduction by myself, we continued meeting and were married in 1983. Yes, I was rather slow in making commitments. On August 6th this year we would have celebrated our 35th wedding anniversary. We attended the theatre in Vancouver and Chemainus and later on when the River Rock Casino opened in Richmond, a night at the theatre followed by a flutter with 'armed bandits' was a real treat. May always enjoyed travelling around BC and the US, especially Hawaii. May took sick in November 2017 and was diagnosed with cancer. She put up a valiant fight and outlived the initial prognosis and was able to celebrate her 74th birthday. However, the cancer advanced and she passed peacefully at Victoria Hospice. May is survived by her brother, Bill, in Scotland and her hubby, Jerry. Special thanks to the nurses, doctors and volunteers at Victoria Hospice for looking after and caring for my wife. Also special thanks to the friends who dropped by to visit, phoned or sent cards. May appreciated all your thoughts and best wishes, as I did as well. A private family gathering was arranged prior to cremation. A public 'gathering' to remember May will be held August 25th from 2-4 PM at the Union Club, Victoria. In lieu of flowers, please donate in May's name to Victoria Hospice or your local SPCA. Rest in peace my sweetheart. You are my love, always and forever. Jerry Sauder


Published in Victoria Times Colonist from Aug. 11 to Aug. 12, 2018