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Auxilina Harmes Obituary

Auxilina Lucille "Auxi" Harmes, 91, of Manchester, passed away peacefully surrounded by her loving family on Sunday, May 14, 2017 (Mother's Day).

She was born on April 10, 1926 in Concord to Adjutor and Viola (Begin) Flamand. She lived with her loving husband, Jack, in Manchester and Moultonborough.

Auxi gave her time, her faith and her love to her family. She attended Concord schools and graduated from Concord High in 1944. She was active in the Boys & Girls Club and 4H in high school. For about ten years she worked as a secretary at the Philbrook Center where she met her husband.

Being a homemaker for many years gave her tremendous joy. In 1983 she was voted Manpower Secretary of the Year. Later she was employed as a medical transcriptionist at the Catholic Medical Center in Manchester.

Auxi's hobbies included gardening, taking pictures of her family, angel lights, tole painting, the Tanglewood Music Festival and knitting, as well as cooking for family and friends. Favorites from her kitchen were her homemade soups, Canadian meat pies and oatmeal raisin cookies.

She had a strong Catholic faith and received communion weekly. She supported her daughters and five grandchildren in their growing faith.

Auxi and Jack's love story spanned 60 years. Their companionship was unique in its endearing closeness. One of their greatest joys was holding hands and talking for hours at the kitchen table or on the porch at the lake. They loved watching the moon rise over the Ossipee Mountains from the porch in the evening. Early in their marriage they enjoyed a memorable ski trip to the Swiss and Austrian Alps. One day involved an ascent to the 11,000 foot level and skiing 10 miles down to the base.

Auxi and Jack along with their daughters drove across the United States and enjoyed skiing at Cannon Mountain for many years. Later, at the time of their 25th anniversary, their daughters surprised them with a handcrafted quilt that was a tapestry of their life together.

After the family had grown, Auxi and Jack enjoyed many special trips to different parts of the world including Ireland, the Greek Isles, Morocco, Portugal, Hungary and an Alaskan cruise. Another surprise was when their daughters and spouses surprised them with a 40th anniversary lawn party upon returning from a cruise.

Auxi valued family above all else. One of her greatest gifts was her giving and helping nature. Even her name, Auxilina, means "little helper." She was a loving wife, mom and grandma who cherished what each day in these roles enabled her to share with her family, including the family dogs.

As her five grandchildren were growing up, they were her world. Whether it was sleepovers, blueberry picking, big/little books, badminton and croquet games, the Moultonborough Country Store for "penny" candy, St. Jude's Bike-a-thon, hiking, playing in the sand and skiing with her grandchildren up until she was 77, Auxi treasured these times with them and they loved their fun Grandma. She was the first one to pull out the Sequence game on the porch at the lake and always had an endless supply of puzzles. She wouldn't miss cheering them on at their sporting events and being at their dance recitals, plays, and award ceremonies.

She treasured spending as much time as possible with the family at their cottage on Lake Winnipesaukee. Some years Auxi and Jack didn't close up until mid November. She thoroughly enjoyed being together during ski trips to Cannon Mountain and evenings at the Barnstormers summer theatre. She was an enthusiastic supporter of the Lakes Region Conservation Trust.

Auxi jumped at any opportunity to care for the Duttons' dog, Popcorn. They had a special bond and he sensed when she was walking to the door and greeted her with his toy ice cream in his mouth.

She made a lasting impression on all who met her. A dear friend once wrote, "You have been a real inspiration in my life. Your visits were always a ray of sunshine." It was also said, "Her smile lit up the room when she entered."

Auxi's family includes her dear husband, John "Jack" Harmes; two daughters, Sharon Lawyer and her husband, Lance, and Marcia "Marci" Dutton; five grandchildren, Tara Lawyer, Ryan Lawyer, Benjamin Dutton, Mitchell Dutton, and Amelia Dutton; her brother, Raymond Flamand; her goddaughter and niece, Lucille "Lucy" Geddes and other nieces and nephews.

She was predeceased by her sister, Rachel Gomes and brothers, Ludger Flamand, Joseph Flamand, and Edward Flamand.

The amazing compassion and dedication of Auxi's two Visiting Angels and dear friends, Valerie and Krista, are beyond words. Debra from St. Catherine Church was a spiritual friend of Auxi who was always there for her. We are so blessed that they were a part of her life for the past five years. We are also immensely grateful for the compassionate nursing staff and other kind staff at the Courville at Manchester.

Surrounded by her loving family, Auxi slipped away peacefully while holding her rosary and listening to a hymn. We will always cherish her sweet warm smile, gentle touch, and kind heart. She was loved by so many and will be forever missed by her loving family and friends.

She is gone from our sight but will live on in our hearts and lives forever.

SERVICES: There are no calling hours. A Mass of Christian Burial will be celebrated Monday at 11 a.m. at St. Catherine Church, 267 Webster St., Manchester. Committal prayers will follow at Mt. Calvary Cemetery, 474 Goffstown Road, Manchester.

A celebration of Auxi's life will take place in August at the family cottage.

In lieu of flowers, the family asks that memorial donations in Auxi's honor be made to either St. Catherine Church in Manchester or to the Lakes Region Conservation Trust.

Lambert Funeral Home & Crematory, Manchester is assisting the family with arrangements. To leave a message of condolence, visit www.lambertfuneralhome.com.

Published by Union Leader on May 18, 2017.
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Uncle Jack,
I am sorry to hear about the loss of Aunt Auxi. She will be missed. My family's thoughts are with you.

David Harmes

June 3, 2017

Jack, So, so, sorry for the loss of Auxi. Hold tight to the many memories you shared over the years. She is still will you. She will watch over you and your daughters from above.

Joy St.Pierre

May 24, 2017

Uncle Jack My heard aches with you Sharon & Marcy. She was such a special woman. She was my wonderful Aunt. I will miss her laugh. Blessings to her. God take her to your heart

Ed (Sandy) Harmes

May 24, 2017

A lovely lady inside and out.....

Shirley Harmes

May 23, 2017

Dear Sharon, Marcie & Mr Harmes.
Mrs Harmes was always a joy to be around. Anytime I saw her out and about she had a beautiful smile on her face and a twinkle in her eyes. As a family, it was always a pleasure to spend time with you all on skiing trips and visiting your wonderful cottage. She will be greatly missed here by friendss and family but heavan has gained another wonderful voice in its choir. Thank you for all you have done.
Chuck Therrien

Chuck Therrien

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May 21, 2017

Dear Jack, Sharon, Marcie and family,
My heart beats a sadness and a joy. I simply can't find words appropriate to express how truly sorry I am. Auxi was nothing short of wonderful. My heart is heavy with sorrow. I want to take this pain but I can't. It's all part of the plan. His beautiful plan. The God Auxi knew and loved calls this "precious". Psalm 116:15 "Precious in the sight of the Lord is the death of his faithful servants". And so as I hold tight to this promise I find joy. Auxi loved God. She lived her life grateful and pointing to Him. She's home now. Safe and free. How beautiful. One day we too who share this hope will join her. Until that day know that I will hold you close and prayer. Thank you for the honor of caring for and loving her. She is and will remain part of my story. My beautiful beloved friend whose sweet smile will echo in my heart until we meet again.

Krista Collins

Friend

May 18, 2017

Jack, Sharon and Marci,
Hold tight to memories for comfort, lean on your friends for strength and never forget how much you are cared for. Auxi/mom's love will always be with you and she will send you signs that she is nearby....look for them.
With much love, I send heartfelt, thoughts to each of you.

Valerie Bayko

Family Friend

May 18, 2017

Two Special Buddies
Valerie and Auxilina
Christmas 2012

Valerie Bayko

Family Friend

May 18, 2017

Auxi,
You have touched so many lives and made this world a better place. Your infectious smile and sparkling blue eyes were enough to light up the room. I was truly blessed to have you in my life, you will be forever in my heart. I love you and will miss you dearly.
God had better plans for you ... so fly with the angels my dear friend....fly high.

Valerie Bayko

Family Friend

May 18, 2017

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