MARY "BETSY" SANDERS
1935 - 2019
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SANDERS MARY ELIZABETH TUCKER SANDERS "Betsy" Mary Elizabeth Tucker Sanders, known to everyone as "Betsy," died peacefully at her home in Washington, DC, on Monday, January 14, 2019, at age 83 of complications from a long courageous bout with emphysema (COPD). She is survived by her husband of 57 years, Cameron Haskin Sanders, Jr., a retired U.S. Foreign Service Officer, also of Washington DC; their four children: Helen Gray of London UK, Cam Sanders III of Los Angeles CA, Marcia Brady Loughran of Astoria NY, and Nicholas Sanders of Sebastopol CA; seven grandchildren; and her three siblings: Mrs. Marcia Boogaard of Potomac MD, Mrs. Robert Gerwin (Naomi) of Cincinnati OH, and Luther Tucker, Jr. of Easton MD. She was born in Boston MA, the daughter of Josephine Pullman Tucker of Bridgeport CT and the Rev. Luther Tucker of New York NY, an Episcopal clergyman. She was a great granddaughter of Anthony Nicholas Brady, the New York public utilities pioneer. In her earliest years she lived in Shanghai, China, where her father directed an English Language School for the YMCA. On a family holiday in Japan shortly before the outbreak of WWII, her father was jailed by Japanese authorities on a possible capital charge of sedition for conveying embargoed information from Chinese students to their Japanesecounterparts regarding Japan's incursion into Manchuria (which he freely admitted doing, pleading "guilty as charged"). Betsy vividly remembered sitting in darkness at age 3 on the dock in Yokohama watching Japanese soldiers march her father off to prison as her family was just about to board their boat back home to China. Despite the alarming outlook, his release was eventually secured and the family returned to the US, where her father became Secretary of Dwight Hall, the undergraduate Student Christian Center at Yale University. In the late 1940's, he was called to become Rector of the Indian Hill Episcopal/Presbyterian Church in Cincinnati OH, where Betsy spent her teen and college age years. She and Cameron Sanders, a Cincinnati native, were married in 1961. After a brief residence in New York City where he worked at LOOK Magazine, he joined the U.S. Foreign Service, and they embarked upon a series of postings including Baghdad (where their first child, Helen, was born), Rotterdam, the State Department Atlantic Affairs Program at Columbia U in New York, and Brussels (NATO Delegation), interspersed with assignments at the State Department in Washington. Despite all the moving about, Betsy maintained her high good spirits, was supportive throughout, and kept the family firmly on track. She was educated in New Haven and Cincinnati schools, the Villa l 'Assomption in Paris, graduated in history from Vassar College (1957), and earned Master's degrees at the New York School of Social Work at Columbia U and in Early Childhood Education at George Washington U. In Washington, she worked as a teacher at the St. Alban's Day Care Center, becoming its Board Chair. She was an active member and volunteer at St. Alban's Episcopal Church, serving on the Board of the Workers of St. Alban's (WSA), its grant-making body to local charities, for the rest of her life. She served on the Board of the Marcia Brady Tucker Foundation of New York, a family charity. The Sanders family enjoyed a longtime summer home they built in Wellfleet MA on Cape Cod, and were parishioners there of the Episcopal Chapel of St. James the Fisherman. She was a member of the National Society of Colonial Dames. She was devoted to her family, her church, and her many friends and was greatly loved for her warmth, unfailing sense of humor, dedication, and always caring disposition. She will be much missed. There will be a memorial service for her at St. Alban's Church at 3001 Wisconsin Ave., NW in Washington on Sunday, January 27, at 3 p.m. In lieu of flowers, suggested memorials are St. Alban's Episcopal Church or Vassar College (for the Josephine Pullman Tucker Landscape Endowment).She was devoted to her family, her church, and her many friends and was greatly loved for her warmth, unfailing sense of humor, dedication, and always caring disposition. She will be much missed. There will be a memorial service for her at St. Alban's Church at 3001 Wisconsin Ave., NW in Washington on Sunday, January 27, at 3 p.m. In lieu of flowers, suggested memorials are St. Alban's Episcopal Church or Vassar College (for the Josephine Pullman Tucker Landscape Endowment).

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Published in The Washington Post from Jan. 19 to Jan. 21, 2019.
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January 26, 2019
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January 24, 2019
We'll miss you Betsy, Wellfleet and St. James won't be the same without you. Our love to you and your family.
Herb Elliott
January 21, 2019
Betsy will be missed by all of us who worshipped with her at St. James the Fisherman. My prayers for her and all her family, Ann Coburn
Ann Coburn
January 21, 2019
I had the pleasure of serving with Betsy on the altar guid of St James the Fisherman and attending luncheons at her beautiful home in Wellfleet. She was a gracious hostess. She bore her health problems with a positive attitude. My sympathies to her family.
Lee Fanning
January 21, 2019
Grief can be so very hard, but our special memories can help us to cope. Remember them today and always. 1 Corinthians 15:26.


BM
January 20, 2019
Lovely memories of Betsy. May she rest in peace. Deepest sympathy to Cameron and all her family xx
Olive Loughran
January 19, 2019
Betsy leaves a wonderful legacy. And her sly wit will never be forgotten. Our deepest sympathy to Cam and her family.
Julia Moore & Harry Blaney
January 19, 2019
Grief can be so hard, but our special memories help us cope. Always remember that our wonderful Heavenly Father promises to care and support you during this difficult time. (Psalms 145:18,19) Please accept our sincere heartfelt condolences.
January 19, 2019
I am truly deeply sorry for your Loss. My warmest condolences to out to the family and friends of Mary. May the God of all comport Grant you peace and strength during difficult time (psalm 91:1 ).
M C
January 19, 2019
Im sorry for your loss of such a spectacular woman. Indeed her warmth, humor, caring disposition stand out as an example of what it means to be an exceptional human being.
Sending love and prayers and healing spirit.
Sarah Fearon
January 19, 2019
I never knew her, but Marcia is a very dear and special friend. Love to all of you.
Nancy Jainchill
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