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Susan Alling Miller 1927-2013, a former resident of Weston, died suddenly but peacefully in her sleep on January 17. She was 85 and lived at 122 Palmers Hill Road, Stamford CT. Born Helen Susan Alling in Newark, New Jersey, on December 21, 1927, Susan was the oldest daughter of Dr. Frederic A. Alling and Helen Stearly. Her maternal grandfather was the Rt. Rev. Wilson Stearly, the fourth bishop of the Episcopal Diocese of Newark. In the 1930s, her family moved to Montclair, New Jersey, where Susan lived for most of her life. The family spent summers on Buzzards Bay, Mass. and in Quiogue, Long Island. Susan attended the Kimberley School (now part of Montclair Kimberley Academy), where she graduated in 1945. Pretty, vivacious, intelligent, outspoken, and with a ready laugh, she made many lifelong friends. She played the piano and sang, appearing once in a school production of Iolanthe that left her with an abiding fondness for Gilbert and Sullivan. At Vassar, she majored in political science and also sang with The Gold Dusters, graduating in 1949. Susan was a loyal member of her class and participated actively in her 60th reunion there. In 1950, Susan married Paul R. (Tony) Miller, Jr., also from Montclair, where they lived from 1952 to 1971. After getting her certificate at Montclair State, she worked briefly as a teacher, but although she stopped teaching to concentrate on raising four children, she never lost her interest in education. She was appointed to the Montclair Board of Education and served as its vice president during the tumultuous years of social change in the 1960s. Her passion for education and civil rights never left her. In 1971, after Susan and Tony moved to Weston, MA, she went back to school, earning her MA at Boston College in 1974. She then became a high school counselor, concentrating on college counseling, working at the Dana Hall School in Wellesley, MA and, later, Weston High School. In 1984, they moved back to New York City, where Susan worked in the admissions department at Columbia and at the United Nations International School. Even after her husband died in 1991, she continued to volunteer her talents, counseling students at Martin Luther King High School and individually in New York. Susan and Tony entertained often in Montclair and at their summer home in Amagansett, NY. Later in life, when she moved to the Edgehill retirement community in Stamford, she remained active, serving on the Residents Council and never losing her interest in current affairs and social justice. She was a member of St. Pauls Episcopal Church in Riverside. Susan loved life, family, and friends. Her lifelong love of music never diminished; she regularly attended the opera in New York City and classical music concerts there and in Greenwich. The night she died, she attended a New York Philharmonic concert with her dear friend, George Davis. Susan is survived by a brother, Fred, of Marblehead, MA, and a sister, Stearly, of Knoxville, IA; her youngest brother Wilson died in October. Also surviving are four children | Fred, of Port Washington, NY; Darcy, of Mount Vernon, NY; Daniel, of New York City; and Paul, of Takoma Park, MD | and five grandchildren. A memorial service will be held at 11 a.m. on Saturday, February 2, at St. Pauls Church, 200 Riverside Avenue, Riverside, CT. In lieu of flowers, the family would appreciate donations in her name to the Annual Fund for Scholarships at Vassar College, Box 725, 124 Raymond Avenue, Poughkeepsie, NY 12604, or to the Greenwich Chamber Players, P. O. Box 35, Greenwich, Connecticut 06836.

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Published in The Weston Town Crier from Jan. 25 to Feb. 1, 2013.
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May 25, 2013
The Gang at Bryce Canyon (no Millers though)
Susan and Tony Miller were important members of the Bloomfield (NJ) Garden Apartment Group, which included the Foxes, the Babsons, the Atteridgs, the Kinneys, the Mohrmans, the Parsons, the Marlatts and another Princeton classmate of Tony's who I can't place now but we inherited a couple of wing chairs from him. We all raised kids together and had group parties. Then, when we had spread all across the United States, Louise Atteridg got us having annual reunions, traveling across the country to each other's residences. This continued until about 5 years ago. When our daughter Lisa had Sam in 1990, Betty Fox stayed with the Millers in NYC. Then, after Betty died in 1992, Susan - then a widow - and I started a long distance romance that could not last. I'll never forget Susan, she was a wonderful person.
Joe Fox
February 3, 2013
My sympathy and love are with you. Susan was a dear friend and will be greatly missed.
Helen Swinton
January 30, 2013
My love and sympathy to you all. Susan was a close and wonderful friend during her New york years, when we worked together at The Cosmopolitan Club. She will be missed very much by all her friends there, and by me! Anne Evans
January 29, 2013
I am so sorry for the loss of your loved one. Please find peace and comfort in Psalms 65:2.
January 27, 2013
"I know the young gentlewoman; she has good gifts."
I knew Susan as Aunt Susan, of the Middleton parallel family, the Millers, whose paters Tony and Elliott grew up together on Melrose Place in Montclair, had the same gender kids within months four times over, with Fred being my doppelganger, also friends throughout growing up in Montclair.... Aunt Susan enjoyed a great life, did a lot of good, and will be missed. Love to all the extended Miller family from Spike, Val, Jess and Andrew Middleton
Elliott Middleton III
January 25, 2013
If Susan's son Fred is any reflection of who she was, Susan must have been quite a wonderful person, who has left us all a legacy in her children. Our prayers and thoughts are with you all at this time of loss; may your sorrow be tempered by the joy she gave. My warmest condoleances to you.
Susan Sturman
January 25, 2013
I wil never forget learning how she was sister of Dr. Fred Ailing the beloved direction of Addiction services at St. Luke'a Hospital. She was warm and social always. Our condolences to all her family. She will be missed by all.

Susan and Jim Massingill
January 24, 2013
Our most sincere condolences. Susan will be greatly missed. Her bright spirit lives on in her wonderful children and grand children, which is a great legacy and a tribute to her life.
Leonardo & Olga Suarez Paz
January 24, 2013
Warm memories of this special time, xo
All of our love to my extended family. Our thoughts and prayers are with each of you. Sending our hugs.
Kristin & Garrett
Kristin Wood
January 24, 2013
Our thoughts and prayers remain with you. May her soul rest in peace and rise in glory!
Love, Barbara and Bill
January 24, 2013
I sincerely offer my condolences to the family. Words seem insufficient at this difficult time. Although nobody denies the certainty of death, we all need comfort in the reality of it. May you find real comfort and relief, and as a result, begin to recover gradually from the pain. Love from those around you will help you through the days ahead. The precious memories of your loved one will bring you comfort.
Emily W.
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