Poignant letters written by 9\/11 families to their departed loved ones speak of grief and sorrow, but also of hope and love. When I was a child, we had an annual ritual of writing letters to Santa Claus and then going out to the backyard with my parents to burn them. Fascinated even then with all the rites of Native American Indians, I was certain my Christmas wishes would become smoke signals easily read by Santa in the North Pole.I was reminded of this recently, reading "The Legacy Letters: Messages of Life and Hope from 9\/11 Family Members." These are published letters for all to read. But in my mind \u2013 and, clearly, in the letter writers\u2019 hearts \u2013 these poignant letters from children, spouses, siblings, relatives and friends are being equally received by the dearly departed. It won\u2019t take a book burning for the poignant sentiments expressed so eloquently here to become smoke signals wafting to heaven.As you might expect, "Legacy Letters" is an extraordinary collection of letters expressing sorrow, grief, sadness and loss. Somewhat less expected, though, it also contains heartfelt messages of hope, enduring love, memories and undying devotion. Most of them also contain the inevitable message that life does go on as impossible as it is to believe that when a loss is still raw. It is something likely none of them could fathom 10 years ago.Jenny Laychak, now a teenager, was seven when her father, David Laychak, was killed at the Pentagon. In her note to him, she captures that inevitability of \u201cmoving forward\u201d without losing the loves and shared experiences of the past:People think that we have \u201cmoved on,\u201d but I prefer to think that we have moved forward. Our loss will always be part of who we are. It is part of our story."Legacy Letters" was collected by Tuesday\u2019s Children, an organization providing support and programs for the families of victims and first responders of 9\/11, and edited by Brian Curtis, a journalist and author who was in Los Angeles stunned and feeling helpless as the events of that day unfolded. With this project, he has become involved and, no doubt, been a help to the healing process for these families.Caitlin Nelson, the daughter of James Nelson, 40, a Port Authority police officer called to the World Trade Center wrote:I\u2019m not the little girl you remember. Mommy says I\u2019m just like you. I love the Beatles. I love to read. I love fencing. I\u2019m not the only one who has gotten older\u2026 Grandpa is ninety years old, if you can believe it\u2026Mommy is in her fifties (you didn\u2019t hear it from me).From Jessica, Stephanie, Maria and Jamie, daughters of James Waring, 49, head of security at Cantor Fitzgerald in the North Tower:The most important lesson you taught us is to live life to the fullest; you certainly did. Still to this day, our hearts ache with sadness when we think about you and how your life was unfairly taken. You should\u2019ve had the chance to be here with us and to experience all of our achievements and milestones over the past ten years. We miss you tremendously, but we want you to know that we are living our lives to the fullest, just like you did.Julia Senit Escobar, now 12, wrote her Uncle Jimmy \u2013 James Audiffred, 38, who worked in building maintenance in the North Tower \u2013 that, though just a toddler when he died, she still remembers him holding her in his arms and \u201cSpanish dancing with me across the floor.\u201d She writes:I hope you will watch over us!James Michael Gray was an almost-45-year-old firefighter called to the North Tower on 9\/11. His sister Pitzal, now 42, wrote:In your death, I have gained the knowledge of bravery that stuns the world, the legacy of a hero that my daughter is now reading in her history books. I know that when it is my time, you will be there to greet me with open arms.In reading the emotional, poignant messages in "Legacy Letters," I am reminded how cathartic and healthy it is to put feelings in writing. Isn\u2019t this a technique often used by psychologists and counselors, urging their patients\/clients to express and release their deepest emotions?To this day, I still feel that smoke can carry messages of love or despair and have, more than ones, written letters of affection or frustration, feeling thoroughly satisfied as they curl up on small flames.Why not sit down and address a meaningful note to someone who will be missed over the holidays? Even if you don\u2019t believe in smoke signals carrying messages of love, the mere act of writing, expressing and, yes, even sharing, could be a way to include someone in your holiday thoughts even if they no longer have a seat at the table.***Susan Soper is the founder and author of ObitKit\u2122, A Guide to Celebrating Your Life. A lifelong journalist, she was formerly the Features Editor at the Atlanta Journal-Constitution, where she launched a series called "Living with Grief" shortly after her father died. Susan lives in Atlanta with her husband.