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Jayne Shalkowski Obituary
Middletown - Jayne Shalkowski, 61, of Middletown, NJ, died on May 21, 2019 in Red Bank, NJ. She was born in Staten Island, NY. Jayne was a Guidance Counselor and Cheerleading Coach for St. John Vianney for over 40 years and she was also the Cheerleading Coach at Montclair State for 14 years. She loved her role as a guidance counselor and she found fulfillment in touching so many young lives. Her greatest love was for her family, her beloved husband and daughter, her siblings, whom she was very close to, her mother, and her nieces and nephews.
Surviving are her husband of 37 years, Bernard Shalkowski; her daughter, Staci Shalkowski; her mother, Harriet Jeffreys (nee Glenn); her three brothers, Glenn Jeffreys, Harry Jeffreys, Richard Jeffreys; her sister, Susan Lang; and her many nieces and nephews.
Jayne was preceded in death by her father, Richard Jeffreys.
Visitation will be held Thursday, May 23, 2019 from 2-4 & 7-9 pm at John F. Pfleger Funeral Home, 115 Tindall Road, Middletown. Funeral services are scheduled for Friday, May 24, 2019 at 8 am at the funeral home. A Funeral Liturgy will be offered Friday, May 24, 2019 at 9:15 am at St. Catharine's RC Church, Middletown Rd., Holmdel.
In lieu of flowers. please consider a contribution in Jayne's name to the American Heart Association at www.heart.org.
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Memories and Condolences
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Kathy Kubiak Crusco
June 3, 2019
Jayne was my popwarner cheerleading coach and a great mentor. I always remember her as being a positive force. Sending my deepest sympathies to all her loved ones.
Carol
May 27, 2019
I will always remember her strength and grace under pressure. Condolences to Bernie, Harriet, Rick and family.
Chris McRell
May 25, 2019
I am heartbroken to hear of the passing of Jayne. What an inspiration she was to all who knew her and her commitment to her work was priority one. Her one true joy in life- her family can take solace in the legacy she has left behind. She's touch so many lives and the world is a better place for having her in it. Rest in peace my friend.
Lisa Teevan Carey
May 23, 2019
Heartfelt condolences to Bernie, Staci and family...Mrs. S was the best coach who instilled Lancer pride and devotion in all of us to be the best that we could be. I am filled with gratitude to have been a blessed member of her team under her amazing leadership. Three cheers for Mrs. S with her inspiring legacy that lives on forever!
Sincerely, Lisa Teevan Carey 89 and Family
Alfonso and Patricia Gomez
May 23, 2019
Staci,
Our family held your mom in the highest esteem.
Alexis - SJV cheer 2008 - 2012
Eric - SJV football 2009- 2013
She affected all of our lives because she was Jayne.
So sorry for your loss.
The Gomez family
Mariagrace Welsh
May 23, 2019
Mrs. S was my coach 30 years ago and will never be forgotten. She was one of a kind and impacted so many lives including my own. I consider myself lucky to have had her as a coach, mentor and friend. My sincerest condolences to Bernie, Staci and the rest of her family. My love and prayers are with all of you.
Fazio Family
May 23, 2019
It's with a Heavy Heart that we say goodbye to a wonderful person. Thank you for always being a cheerleader for my boys, Giovanni, Giuseppe and Giuliano. You will truly be missed.
Fazio Family
May 23, 2019
It's with a Heavy Heart that we say goodbye to a wonderful person. Thank you for always being a cheerleader for my boys, Giovanni, Giuseppe and Giuliano. You will truly be missed.
Bill Kusch
May 23, 2019
My sincerest sympathy to the entire Shalkowski family. It was an honor and a pleasure to work with Jayne for the past 12 years at SJV !! It will not be the same without her. Her dedication to the students and compassion for them was second to none. Her sense of humor was also something I greatly enjoyed !!! Heaven has gained a gem !!
Cathy Filusch
May 23, 2019
Dear Staci and Bernie,
My heart is breaking for you. Much love and strength to you and your family.
R H
May 23, 2019
The SJV Family is strong because of you Mrs. S. Thank you for everything.
Dawn Williams
May 22, 2019
Jayne was not only a superior guidance counselor but also the best cheerleading coach ever. I was privileged to know her when she coached my daughter Morgan. She was a fabulous woman and I am so incredibly sorry. Our hearts are broken for her beautiful daughter Staci and her husband Bernie. You are both in my prayers and thoughts.
May 22, 2019
Sending prayers to Glenn and family....
Eileen Fleming
Patonay
Yadira Trimino
May 22, 2019
Please accept our most deepest condolences. May she Rest In Peace!
Love always,
Arianna
Adrian
Yadira
American Heart Association
May 22, 2019
May your memories of the wonderful times you shared with your loved one comfort you and your family, today and always.
Patti McGrath Homefield
May 22, 2019
To the entire Family,
Thoughts and prayers coming your way at this difficult time.
May 22, 2019
Rest in peace Mrs. S. Our condolences to her family in this incredibly difficult time. Kulaszewski family
May 22, 2019
As a co-worker of Jayne's for 27 years, I can honestly say that I have never encountered anyone who touched so many people from every kind of background. Kids who excel at academics. Kids who struggle in the classroom. Athletes. Kids who had 100 friends. Kids who needed a friend. Freshmen. Seniors. Graduates. Kids who needed a mom. Kids who needed gentle love and kids who needed tough love. She knows all of their names.
It was so fitting that cheerleading was one of her passions. She will forever be our biggest cheerleader.
With my deepest sympathy and prayers.
Diane Thompson
Cindy Hottinger
May 22, 2019
Mrs. S touched so many young lives in such a positive way. She always lit up the room. Thank you Mrs. S.
Condolences to the the Shalkowski family.
Tania Thomson
May 22, 2019
Dearest Staci, Bernard and Shalkowski Family, Please accept our heartfelt condolences. Ms. S we will miss you tremendously. Your dedication, kindness, warmth, smile and laughter has always been a bright light in everyone's day. Your love coupled with your strong faith will stay in Arianna's and my heart forever. Thank you for watching over all of us. With great love, Thomson Family
Karen Gaunt-Lewis
May 22, 2019
May you Rest in Paradise, Jayne. So sad to hear of Jayne's passing. Many memories shared at St. Pius all those years ago. Condolences to the family from Karen Gaunt-Lewis
May 22, 2019
The Giannios Family is completely heartbroken after learning of Jayne's passing. The impact she made on kids is immeasurable. Her legacy will live on forever in the hearts of so many. We will miss her.
Joanne Cook
May 22, 2019
Both shocked and saddened to hear of Jayne's passing. Had many happy times with her at SJV many years ago when we were starting our careers. Her enduring faith promises she is "home." May her daughter, husband and family take solace in knowing how loved she was in this life and what a footprint she left. You are all in my prayers at this time of grief. May your healing come swiftly and your memories carry you through the difficult times.
Joy Perine
May 22, 2019
We are heartbroken to hear of Jayne's passing. We will be eternally grateful for the impact she made on Carley's life and so many others. She will be greatly missed but her legacy will live on forever! Our prayers are with her family, friends, students and staff at SJV.
Marnee Morris
May 22, 2019
My memories of Jayne are of a strong and impassioned coach who loved her kids and the sport of Cheerleading with a ferocity that was often unmatched. Her pride in Staci was an honor to experience and lit up her eyes with the radiance of the sun. Jayne was a force. Her legacy lives on in the lives of her daughter, husband, athletes and students, and all who were honored to know her. I am so deeply sorry for the loss of such a magnificent woman, counselor, mentor, and coach.
May 22, 2019
We are so sorry to hear about Jayne. Both my girls and I will always remember her wide smile and love of cheerleading.. She will be greatly missed by all.
Love Jenn, Riley and McKenzie Troisi~ Keyport NJ.
Lori Veit
May 22, 2019
So saddened to hear of Jaynes passing. She was one of the kindest and most generous people I know. Condolences to her family.
Love and condolences, The Esposito Family
Laurie Esposito
May 21, 2019
Much love and appreciation to such a loving and dedicated woman. You made such an impact on so many lives. RIP Frank, Laurie, steven and Ally Esposito ❤
May 21, 2019
May her soul Rest In Peace and her memory be eternal. Forever grateful for all she did for my son, Demetri
Terrie Cook
May 21, 2019
Jayne was an amazing women! The cheer world has lost an amazing, beautiful Soul! She will be missed by so many! God Bless!
Her legacy will live within all of her beloved cheerleaders ❤
Alyssa Brousseau
May 21, 2019
May 21, 2019
We were devestated to hear of Jayne's passing. I had the great pleasure of teaching Jayne at St. Pius X, as well as sharing many fine years as a colleague and friend at SJV. Jayne meant so much to my boys, whether it was helping them academically, or just getting them through their high school years. They always knew they could go to Aunt Jayne. Kathe always commented how Jayne was perfectly suited as a guidance counselor as she had an uncanny ability to relate to the youth at SJV. Jayne was a true inspiration and she will be greatly missed. We will always remember the good times. May she RIP! God bless Staci and Bernie. The Cooks, Barry, Kathe, Justin, and Zak
Smirnov Family
May 21, 2019
Our prayers for the family, friends, co-workers and all students, who had a special gift to cross their Paths with Mrs. Jayne Shalkowski.
Please accept our deepest condolences.
- Smirnov family.
Bill Herman
May 21, 2019
My heartfelt condolences to your family
Armand Valentino
May 21, 2019
❤
May 21, 2019
We are so sorry for your loss. The world lost a wonderful light here on earth but a star to watch over all of us...our prayers are with you and your family...
Kelly Supp and the Red Bank Catholic Cheer Team
May 21, 2019
My deepest condolences on the loss of your mom, wife, daughter, and sister. May you find peace.
Kathy Nestor, SJV
We love you!!!!
May 21, 2019
Mrs. S you will be missed and always remembered. I know you will be watching over my Erin and all the girls. our deepest condolences from the McGovern's
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