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Jeffrey Alai Obituary
Edison - Jeffrey Todd Alai, 51, of Edison, NJ, passed from this life to the next on Wednesday, July 22, 2020 after an extremely brave three-year battle with pancreatic cancer. Born in Aurora, CO, Jeff was raised in Highland Park, NJ where he graduated from Highland Park High School in 1986. He retired earlier this year as Middlesex County Assistant Superintendent of Weights and Measures after a 30-year career in county public service. His true passion was music and since his youth, played drums and sang in several original area bands, including Seething Grey and The Robert Murdock Band. Jeff brought joy to thousands as a founding member of The British Invasion Years tribute band, touring across the country for over 15 years. Jeff also maintained a strong relationship with friends from the Nu Sigma Phi fraternity of Kean University from which he graduated in 1991.
Jeffrey is survived by his wife, Corinna, stepdaughters Rose and Madeline, sons-in-law Ryan and Robert, four grandchildren (Kayla, Liam, Nate, and Lily), parents Edward and Holly, brother Glenn, sister Staci, niece Brynn and nephew Brett, his aunt Susan, uncles John and Jan, many cousins, his good buddy Greg Barr, and many close and dear friends.
Donations can made in Jeffrey's name to the Lustgarten Foundation for Pancreatic Cancer Research at Lustgarten.org.
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Memories and Condolences
for Jeffrey Alai
Staci
July 8, 2024
BrokenHearted
Stacia Alai
July 7, 2024
Heart broken
February 7, 2021
May God bless you and your family in this time of sorrow.
Pat Quirk
August 9, 2020
Warm and careimg.Fantastic singerand drummet
Frank Riccio
August 8, 2020
Jeff and I were friends for 25 years.We shared lots of good times together.Jeff was a great singer and drummer.I was always amazed by this talent.In recent years,we didn't get together as much,but when we did,it was if no time had passed.I will miss you,Jeff.My deepest condolences to Jeff's wife,family and other friends.
Bob Burns
August 7, 2020
August 7,2020
I am so sorry to hear of Jeff's passing. My condolences to Corinna and the family. I had not seen Jeff in a while and ran into him shopping at Lowes.
We were taking about a lot of things and this was the first time I found out he was sick and what he was fighting. He never let on how sick he was. I could not believe it. He looked great, like the same old Jeff. As a fellow drummer and musician, I had the privledge to play at Jeff and Corinna's Wedding with the Hollywood Band , what a great wedding it was. Jeff would always "sit in" if I was giging and I would sit in if he was giging.
I believe we had that kind of relationship. I am glad we had that time to catch up. To Jeff I say you are wonderful drummer and vocalist and just a great person to have known and I am so glad you were able to live your dream with your special talents and spread so much joy to so many people. Rest In Peace my friend. You will be missed.
Bobby B
Steve Brining
August 7, 2020
Played with Jeff on the robert Murdock Band. Great musician but more important great guy and fun to be around when I was playing with Jeff. Condolences to Corinna as I remember you as well!!!!
Marge
August 7, 2020
Sincere condolences to Jeff's family. He will be missed.
Met him when he was the drummer for The British Invasion Years. Loved his singing and playing.
Janet Freed
August 7, 2020
I am so sorry for the loss of your precious husband, Corinna. I got to know him by proxy via your sweet Mom with whom I had the privilege of being one of her spiritual directees. A great guy, gone too soon, gave it a great fight. You are all in my thoughts and prayers.
Margaret and Stefan Granados
August 7, 2020
We send our deepest condolences to Corinna and all of Jeffrey's family and friends.
Neil Casey
August 7, 2020
I met Jeff when we worked together at the Middlesex Prosecutors Office.
Glad to have known him.
Neil Casey
Joan Benton
August 7, 2020
Jeff we will missed you. Always enjoyed your playing and singing.
Vinnie Cupo
August 6, 2020
It was an honor to work with you for 12 Plus years you were an amazing singer, drummer and a great friend. I will never forget you and the great moments Being your sound engineer. Your were always kind and so easy to work with and be around. So many great times together, these are sad times. I will truly miss you Jeff!
AnnMarie Stone
August 6, 2020
Jeffrey , a wonderful man and musician. He brought joy to a lot of people and he will be missed.
Mamo
August 6, 2020
Such a creative and delightful guy. Hard to believe he has left us — but in another way, he never will.
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