Kathleen Teresa Quinlan
Ely Funeral Home
3316 State Hwy 33
Neptune, NJ
Kathleen Teresa Quinlan

AGE: 69 • Bradley Beach

Kathleen Teresa (nee Philbin) Quinlan made her transition to heaven, Friday, April 12th at her home in Bradley Beach. She was born March 5, 1944 in Caldwell New Jersey to Patrick and Louise Philbin. Kathleen held a masters degree from Loyola College in Maryland and taught elementary school for many years going on to become a much beloved guidance counselor. Her last position from which she retired 3 years ago was with Asbury Park Middle School. Kate was an extraordinary person who cared for and touched so many children on her path. Her light & legacy is immeasurable. She lost her only son CW3 John A. Quinlan, A Special Operations helicopter pilot, 6 years ago in the war in Afghanistan. Through it all Kate was the definition of strength & grace. Despite her pain and grief, she lived with gratitude and used her energy for good by connecting with & supporting other grieving families of lost soldiers. Kate loved her family, East End Avenue beach, cooking large delicious meals and sitting on her front porch in Bradley Beach. She had a kind and generous heart, once you met her you could not forget her. She treasured her role as a grandmother earning the nickname "Golly" that suited her so well that eventually everyone called her Golly! She showed us how to live by her example and we will carry that forward to honor her memory. We take some peace in knowing she is reunited in heaven with her son, who loved her so.

Kate is survived by her husband Robert Quinlan, daughter and son in law Susan and Greg Ripke, sisters Alice & Anne, and her grandchildren Keely, Olivia, Maddie, Erin, William and JAQ, who she loved beyond measure. Also survived by her great friends the Reillys, Julie Golden, the Farrells, the Edwards and her special neighbors, Helene & Rachel whom she adored.

Visitation will be held Tuesday, April 16 from 5pm-7pm at the Ely Funeral Home, 3316 State Highway 33, Neptune, New Jersey 07753. A mass in celebration of her life will be at 10am Wednesday, April 17 at St Elizabeths Church, 424 Lincoln Ave, Avon-by-the-Sea, New Jersey 07717. Kate will be laid to rest at Arlington National Cemetery. In lieu of flowers please make a donation in Kate's or John's name to the "Run For The Fallen Memorial Fund" benefiting our fallen warriors from New Jersey. www.njrunforthefallen.org or send a check to NJRFTF, NJ Run for the fallen, Inc., PO Box 474, Wrightstown, NJ 08562-0474.

Published by Asbury Park Press on Apr. 14, 2013.
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Mrs Q you are truly missed! Thank you for all the lectures, the days after school, and the extreme push to follow my dreams
TeKeira Farley
April 8, 2021
Oh Kate we so miss you
April 8, 2020
Katie-Q!!! You were so AWESOME to the students and parents and your colleagues. I love you and miss you!
Yvose Jackie Damour
April 9, 2019
Kate, I can't believe it's 6yrs. since you left us. I still sit on my porch and look at your house wishing you could join me again. When I plant my flowers I miss hearing you say." Hay Janet what are you planting? I'll be right up ". You were a ray of sunshine! I will always have a special place in my heart for you. Till we meet again!
Janet Devaney
April 8, 2019
Night night Sissy...You were just the best sister ever. We got ourselves into lots of trouble when we were kids and we stuck together like glue. It is so hard to be all the way down here right now. I always thought I'd see you just one more time.
All my love to Susan and to Bob and all the rest of the family. It has to be terrible knowing that our beautiful Katiemom is gone. She was magic, generous to a fault and the definition of love.

Anne Philbin
April 26, 2013
Because of life changes, I haven't seen Kate in a number of years but I will always treasure past memories of our time together. My friend Bob & his family are in my prayers.
Jeanne Cockefair Johnson
April 20, 2013
To Kate's family - Though I did not know her personally, she was a wonderful friend to my friend, Helene, and to her daughter, Rachel. Kate was ever present in our conversations about life in Bradley Beach and it was more than once that I wished for "my own" Kate. Our family's thoughts are with you.
JoEllen Gardner
April 17, 2013
To the family, sending prayers your way and just want you all to know that I am only a phone call away. So thankful for the impact that Mrs. Q had on the life of my grandson, Sharif. Rest in peace!!!!!!
Louve Johnson
April 17, 2013
Our deepest sympathies go out to your family! We will miss seeing Kate on her porch on our way to the beach! She always had a kind word and smile to start our day. God Bless!
Steve Ecker & Susan Fisher
April 17, 2013
Much love to you all at this unfortunate time. I'm just SPEECHLESS!!! Luv u Mrs. Q!!!!
Sharif Woods
April 16, 2013
TO the most wonderful person I can remember meeting. Smiling, sometimes gritting her teeth, but still smiling. Always enjoyed conversation with Golly. Kate I miss you much already. RIP
Joy Thompson
April 16, 2013
Sue- Mr Q - - we are very sorry for your loss. Your Mom was a great lady and we will always remember her big smile and how she adopted a few kids from Avon. Buercky - Jerry - Kegs - Mish Man -
April 16, 2013
Kate Quinlan (K-K-Katie--- Beautiful Katie!!)

Kate oh Kate! Where did you go?
To be with John that is what I know.
When he left he took a chunk of you.
Now you are together, but what are we to do!!!
Sitting near your son, smiling, listening as he tells an Irish story.
No more tears, to Our Father goes the glory!!

You were such an inspiration, your wit was your tool.
She helped many students in the Asbury Park Middle School.
From the beginning you enjoyed working there,
The students liked the “ cool lady “ with the “beautiful, white hair”.

We had things in common and at times we would share.
We talked about things where others would not care.
You were very special to me.
I knew of your love for all, especially family!

We were both Pisceans with a great big heart.
We liked each other, right from the start
You also drove a Honda, so I knew you were smart!!

When you spoke about your family it put a smile on your face .
To measure your love , it would take a big space.
They were the twinkle in your eye.
Through them, your love and spirit will never die.
So I will try to be strong , but not afraid to cry.

You will live forever in the good that came from you..
On beautiful night , I will know “Golly” is passing through.

Remembering your respect for Iyanla Van Sant,
is why I chose this priceless chant:
“You are special. You are precious. You are It! “
Kate, Golly. Mrs. Q ,Your love and influence will never quit.

You helped many people improve their quality of life.
Such a great woman, mother, grandmother and wife.
So it is with sadness and happiness, too
That I bid farewell to a Great lady, Mrs. Kate Q.

Rest In Peace, Mrs. Quinlan !
APMS Retiree

April 16,2013
Wanda Smith
April 16, 2013
May peace dwell in the hearts of those you left behind. From one gold star mother to another. J C Young
April 15, 2013
To the Quinlan Family,
My thoughts and prayers are with you at this very trying time, I'm sort of lost for words, but I'm gonna try to say this. Mrs. Q, Suzie Q as I call her was a second mother to my son Sharif and I am eternally grateful to have had the chance to know such a wonderful person, friend, and confidant. She also inspired me to follow my dreams when there was times when things didn't seem to look so bright.Just know that you are not alone at this time and I will contact you at a later date. The world would be a better place if more people were like "Suzie Q". I thank GOD for allowing such a special person to enter my life. R.I.P. Suzie Q!!! Luv u!!!!
Greta Woods
April 15, 2013
Dear Bob, Susan and Family -

I am truly sorry for your family's loss. Kate was a gracious lady with a great smile, and she loved her family.She will be missed.
Ed Staunton
April 15, 2013
Kate- Even though we never met, everytime I talked to you I could tell that you were a special person. Your wonderful support of Tim, when you were his mentor, is something my family and I will never forget! He adored you and spoke of you so often that I felt that I did know you. Rest in peace!
April 15, 2013
Kate was the best sister; she was also a role model. Her public service was an inspiration to me, and I shall focus on the love she brought to all as I cope with the loss of my beloved sister. Love to you, Bob and Susan and all of Kate's friends and relatives.
Alice Philbin
April 15, 2013
To the Quinlan Family - My prayers go out to you. Please know that Kate will be truly missed. She touched many lives and many of her ex-student are the better for knowing her. My deepest and heart felt sympathy.
April 15, 2013
Although I am extended family, you always welcome everyone. I will so miss you and that smile. Heaven is a happier place now, but we are so saddened down here. Rest in peace Kate.
Love Joy
JOY Thompson
April 15, 2013
Kate and family,I don't have enough words to describe what you meant to me and how huge of a loss it is that you suddenly are no longer with us.
As a young teacher you taught me as much as you taught your students. Your passion for your career and the kids was the drive that I needed! Thank you for being my mentor as I studied to become a guidance counselor- thank you for inspiring, motivating and showing me what it took. I am so lucky that we met. You will be greatly missed by your family whom you cherished so much and by your friends who cherished you. I hope that you are hugging John. You may be gone- but not forgotten, you will live on through all of the lives you have touched. Love you, miss you.
Christine Hayes
April 14, 2013
Dear Mr Quinlan, Susan, and grandkids,
I always thought of Kate as " my mom at work" I am sure I am not alone. She was my strength when I needed someone strong, my shoulder to cry on and my place to go to laugh so hard my stomach would hurt. She was my FRIEND.
No words I can say will bring her back but she will live on in all the students lives she touched. She treated each one as though he or she was her own. Lives were changed because of her kindness.
I hope you can find comfort in knowing that she spoke of each of you with such love and pride. You were the loves of her life.
I will miss her. My deepest heart felt sympathy,
Lisa Spiegel
April 14, 2013
I had the pleasure of knowing Kate, though only briefly. She was a wonderfully generous and caring woman. She went out of her way to help people she just met and made them part of her family. She will be greatly missed.
Stacey Kahermanes
April 14, 2013
Although we only lived in Bradley a short time..you made us feel welcomed..your bright smile will never fade nor be forgotten.
Marge & Bob Reynolds
Burlington Ave.
(Friends of the Devaneys)
April 14, 2013
so sorry for your loss. thoughts and prayers from our family to yours.
joseph grissman
April 14, 2013
Always Honored ~ Always Remembered ~ CW3 John A. Quinlan and Gold Star Mother Kathleen T. Quinlan.
NJ Run For The Fallen
April 14, 2013
It was wonderful knowing Kate. She was a lovely person. Sabina from Avon Beach.
April 14, 2013
To know Kate, was to love Kate! Even though we only had the pleasure of knowing her for 4 years, she touched each and every member of our family with her kindness, compassion, wit, love and indomitable spirit. We are truly blessed to have known her! A GREAT lady! We will miss you, Kate!
The Frustieri Family
Jim & Cheryl Frustieri
April 14, 2013
Everyone who crossed your path is brighter and blessed because of what you gave to them. We will miss you my friend. We pray God's perfect peace for the family.
April 14, 2013
Absolutely the BEST Guidance Counselor at the Asbury Park Middle School EVER!
Harvey Cytryn
April 14, 2013
I remember our time at the Mount and our double date to the prom. What wonderful memories. What all has been said about Katie, was exactly the way she was then. My love and prayers, MaryEllen G. Royce "62
MaryEllen Royce
April 14, 2013
Kate,you were not only a great neighbor but a wonderful friend.Your smile and laugh will be missed by Ed and I. Monmouth Ave. will not be the same. I will especially miss our chats on the porch. Love you, Janet
Janet & Ed Devaney
April 14, 2013
I had the pleasure of knowing Kate, she was a wonderful,strong person. God Bless
stephanie mcanee
April 14, 2013
KTQ - Your passing will leave a void in a lot of lives. Your memory will forever remain deep in my heart.

Nia and I love you!
Yvose "Jackie" Damour
April 14, 2013
Ms Quinlan was the BEST guidance counselor Ever! Without your constant push and ongoing faith for us at APHS some of us could have never made it to be the successful adults we are today! You will be Forever missed and charished
-TeKeira Farley
April 14, 2013
May God bless you and your family in this time of sorrow.
April 14, 2013
What a very classy LADY. It was a pleasure to have worked with you. May the HOLY SPIRIT comfort the family at this time. Now she can hug & kiss her Baby Boy as much as she wants!!!!!
Cordelia Golden
April 14, 2013
Kate, we will miss you so very much!
You and I shared a common bond - we married Quinlan's, what a wonderful family!
John Mocko
April 14, 2013
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