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J. Rogers Flather Jr.

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Of New York City, Nov. 22, age 71, died peacefully in his home, after he battled esophageal and liver cancer for the past 9 months. Beloved husband of Rebecca "Becky" Davis Flather, father of Lisa Flather, Julie Zeitlin, and her husband Marc, Roger Flather III, Meg Flather, and her partner James Rogers, grandfather of Rachel and Sam Zeitlin. Raised in Lowell and a former long term resident of the Boston area, graduate of Noble and Greenough School, and Harvard College, earned an MBA from Northeastern University, a MS in Education from Long Island University. Former officer and pilot in US Navy, and administrator in the first Peace Corps program in Philippines, Malaysia, and Micronesia, where he was Program Chief. Special education teacher in New York City grades 1-12 for the past 14 years. Perennial top caller for the Harvard Fund, which he solicited for the past 30 years. Memorial service will be held in Tillman Chapel, Church Center for United Nations. Donations may be made to Memorial Sloan - Kettering Hospital c/o Dr. David Kelsen's Research for Esophageal Cancer, 175 York Ave. at 68th St., New York NY 10021.

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Published by Boston Globe on Dec. 4, 2004.

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Tondalaya Gillespie

December 20, 2004

Roger offered me my first job after PC/India (I refused). I was raised in Micronesia, and staff, especially a female, was badly needed in on island training programs. Micronesia experience was hard to find, Roger spent a whole afternoon trying to convince me to return 'home" and work! I was holding out for an India assignemnt which I got. Ironically Ron and I were assigned to PC staff/Micronesia a few years later, where we met many who remembered Roger and the very early days of PC/Micronesia.

Susan Neyer

December 17, 2004

I first met Roger when I was a Peace Corps Volunteer in the Philippines, and renewed acquaintances in Malaysia. He was one of the kindest people I have ever known. It was a real delight to reconnect with him in recent years at NPCA events. He will be missed!

Jonathan Cohanne

December 16, 2004

Thank you for your service to your country and especially to the Peace Corps.



Jonathan Cohanne

RPCV, Afghanistan (1971-73)

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