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ROYE E. WATES

1933 - 2023

ROYE E. WATES obituary, 1933-2023, Brookline, MA

ROYE WATES Obituary

WATES, Roye E. Wates, Roye E., 89, of Brookline, retired professor of music at Boston University, died of pancreatic cancer on March 10, 2023. She was the sister of the late Rev. Dr. Florence W. Pert of New York and the daughter of the late Mr. Roy and Mrs. Pearle Wates of Birmingham, AL. Mrs. Pearle Wates was a nationally known speaker and adviser to Wendell Willkie in 1940, and later to Dwight Eisenhower. She worked tirelessly against racism in Birmingham during the 1930s and '40s. Later she served as Co-Director of Civil Defense for the 13 Southern States and as Director of the Alabama Heart Association, raising in her first year seven times the amount raised by any predecessor. Mrs. Wates also taught Adult Bible Class every Sunday at Birmingham's First Methodist Church. Prof. Wates's older sister, Rev. Dr. Pert, was the first woman ordained in the 360-year history of the Collegiate Churches of New York and the first woman to preach from the pulpit of Marble Collegiate Church. Its minister, Norman Vincent Peale, named her Director of Lay Activities, where she created a host of activities still in place today, including small groups, adult education, women's groups, programs for ushers, greeters, and new members. Dr. Pert's ministry centered on increasing the role of laity and especially of women. As a board member of the ecumenical ministry Faith@Work, she spearheaded a national effort to foster leadership positions for women in ministry and in lay activities. Through workshops around the country under the auspices of Dr. Peale's School of Practical Christianity, she and others trained hundreds of clergy in spiritual renewal. Roye Wates attended Birmingham-Southern College (B.A., English, 1954) and Yale University (Ph.D., History of Music, 1965). At Boston University she first taught in the College of Arts and Sciences' Division of General Education (the University's original core curriculum) from 1962–1975, was then named a University Professor (1975–1978), Chairman of Religion and the Arts in the Division of Theological and Religious Studies (1976–1982), and professor of music in the College of Arts and Sciences until her retirement in 2015. She was named Boston University's Teacher-Scholar of the Year in 2000. A founding member of the Mozart Society of America, where she served on the board of directors from 2009 until 2015, she was the author of "Mozart: An Introduction to the Music, the Man, and the Myths" (2010). A Funeral Service will be held on Tuesday, March 21, 2023, at 10 o'clock at Trinity Church, 206 Clarendon St., Copley Square, Boston, with Interment at Elmwood Cemetery in Birmingham, AL, in the spring. In lieu of flowers, memorial contributions may be sent to Trinity Church, St. Jude Children's Research Hospital or https://baroque.boston For guestbook, please visit www.lawlerfuneral.com

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Published by Boston Globe from Mar. 13 to Mar. 19, 2023.

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John Clayton

May 6, 2023

My friend left me an email message: I have had bad news.

Just those few words.

We´ve been friends for half a century; we taught together at Boston University in the sixties. Then I taught literature at UMass Amherst; she taught musicology at Boston University. I helped her develop her wonderful, original book on Mozart. Mostly I just cheered her on.

I called back, afraid that it was cancer, and it was. Pancreatic cancer. Leaving no room for hope. I only hope it´s quick, she said. I didn´t know what to say but needed to say something. We love you. We´ll miss you. Oh, Roye. May I say a prayer? May I call again? Do you have good friends to stay with you?

Oh, John, I am tired. So tired.

But whom can she talk about this? Roye was single.

Do you call it single when you´re in your late eighties?

Roye is not a woman´s name. Her father had wanted a boy.

It must be especially hard to go through dying when you´re living alone in a high-end condo in Brookline and all your family and most of your friends have died. She had her church-Trinity Church in Boston. She thought about God a lot. We spoke on the phone; every few months, at least every year, we´d meet for lunch halfway between Boston and Amherst and talk about music or about social justice or about God.

We spoke on the phone once more a week later. Her speech was slurred. She died in less than a month.

I remember her harsh wit. I remember that she was very kind. In her seventies she took up golf seriously. And then she found a personal trainer whom she came to care about as a friend as well as a helper.

She was part of the Boston music scene.

She was capable of feeling and expressing joy.

I remember her, many, many years gone by, skiing past me down a big open slope, singing- singing opera.

Marilyn and Rob Edling

April 29, 2023

My husband, Rob and I met at Roye's apartment on November 10, 1970. Roye was my humanities professor and she remained a close friend of ours over all these years. We would visit her every two years when we'd fly back east from California. We stayed at her house last summer and had our regular picnic in the Arboretum. I also dragged her through an unmarked trail. She was ageless to us. Roye lived a full and meaningful life and had a deep impact on us, our children, and all her students and friends. Give them hell up there. I know you will.

Ginger McVea Sharbel

March 20, 2023

Roye Wates, "Sister Girl" to her friends growing up, was my friend at Camp Winnataska near Birmingham when we were young. Even then, she was an enthusiastic music lover, listening to Robert Shaw Chorale endlessly. We were later Pi Beta Phi's at Birmingham-Southern College together.
Roye loved music, teaching, traveling and constantly learning. She will be missed by all those whose lives she touched.
Ginger McVea Sharbel

Zenaide Gross

March 16, 2023

Gladly I had a chance to let her know, how appreciative I was for her life, for her efforts to understand my broken English, for all the interest she had in my daughter´s college process and it was a pleasure to take care of her beautiful home for almost 17 years.
I prayed to God to give her moments of peace and serenity on her last breath, and I´d like to believe she left to a great trip to gather with her loved ones.
God bless and light her way to heaven!
Zenaide Gross (Zina)

Donna Cerasani

March 16, 2023

A neighbor and person that we held great respect for as a fiercely independent person.

Roye was someone who held fast to her faith. Her courage in the last week of her life, having everything in order, and her commitment to have her last weeks be as she lived, was something to behold and admire.

When she informed us she said she was not afraid, and that she was at peace.

Bring her neighbor I placed the daily paper by her door, most often TV on, but as she wished - did not knock , per her instructions, only sent an email periodically.

Then there was silence....

Rest in Peace Roye.
May you fly with the angels bringing harmony into the kingdom that welcomed you on May 10th.

Donna Cerasani &
Matthias Muenzer MD

Cynthia Nasrallah Macdonald

March 15, 2023

I was a student of Dr. Wates at Bosron Ynuversity's Division of General Education in the 1970 - 71 academic year. She left an indelible impression on me. May she rest in heavenly peace.

Lynn Spencer

March 15, 2023

In 2018, I was fortunate to reconnect with Dr. Wates, who was my professor at Boston University from 1966-68. I sought out Dr. Wates to tell her how grateful I am that she instilled in me the love that I have today for Mozart and other classical music composers whose works she introduced in class. I last wrote to her while I was in Vienna (May 2022) to share my excitement at visiting Mozarthaus. She was excited for me and was also quick to make sure I knew that the Supreme Court ruling on Roe vs Wade had been leaked. That was typical of Dr. Wates--always wanting to keep her students informed. We should all be grateful to her for her contribution to the music world and to humanity. Lynn Spencer, BU 1970

Mary Meader

March 14, 2023

So many cherished memories of blessed moments with you. Grateful for the sharing and the trust. You graced my days.

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