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Memories and Condolences
for T.J. O'Neill
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Kerri O´Neill
August 26, 2025
Love you, TJ.
Michelle Murray
August 25, 2024
It´s wild to look back and see how people have impacted your life. TJ, our work experience together was awesome, I made a true friend in you. I loved laughing with you and going on lunch breaks and talking about life. How excited you were to be a dad! How happy you made those around you. I was 21 then... in my forties now ... and I still think of you and smile and thank God that I got to know you. May your family be blessed and find you in all the signs you send them. You are still fondly and lovingly thought of and missed.
Stevie Oneill
August 24, 2024
Missing you TJ. A lot. I miss your laugh, your caring heart, your unique style, and mostly just your presence. Love you brother.
Kerri
August 30, 2023
TJ! Been thinking of you this week. I´ll blast some Sublime extra loud for you.
Kerri
August 28, 2021
Thinking of you, TJ.
Kerri O’Neill
August 24, 2020
Love you cuz! Still missing you like crazy. ❤
With all my heart, Tia
August 29, 2019
Dear TJ,
We all miss you. I think a lot about you and dad says we would be such good friends. I would love to meet you.
Kerri O'Neill
August 27, 2019
Hey Cuz. I think about you a lot. You've helped me through some of my toughest moments. Whenever I've felt really lost you hit me with a sign and I know you have my back and it'll all be ok. Thank you for that. I know it's been 14 years but it still feels like yesterday. I remember one of our last conversations you told me you had some awesome stories to share with me when I got a little older and I know some day we'll get that chance. For now please give Kaitlyn a big hug for me up there and keep on looking out for us down here. You'd be so proud of your son- he is such a great kid. Your mom and dad are amazing and do such a great job keeping the family together with their parties. Stevie and I like to reminisce about you a lot. Tracey is such a great mom and I know you'd be proud of her. What can I say. I always looked up to you cuz and miss the heck out of you. Love you always. ❤
-Kerri
Tia O'Neill
October 28, 2016
Happy Birthday Uncle TJ. Wish I could have gotten to enjoy your smile and laughter together. My dad tells me lots of stories about you and I am wearing a special hat today to remember you.
Love
Tia
Love, Danielle
August 28, 2013
I miss you so much TJ. Everyday I talk about you...our funny little stories, your laugh, that smile, everything and anything, all the things I love about you and made you a one of a kind. I re-play the messages I saved even though its you just saying "call me back" or saying goodnight, it's still your voice. The one I still can hear clear as day. I love you so much, I always will. Words will never express just how much I still miss you so very much....
stevie oneill
August 28, 2013
Been thinking a lot about you. You are missed by all of us. You would be so proud of Jonathan. He is getting so big. All the kids miss and pray for their uncle TJ.
Stevie
August 28, 2012
Thinking of you today as I do everyday... I miss you so much TJ.
The weather is rainy and some how fitting. I'm trying so hard to keep positive with the memories I hold dear to my heart of you but it's still a challenge.
I swear I could smell your cologne earlier, I miss that. Little things like that are what comfort me with the thought that it's you still here in some sense.
I love you and miss you so much. Please keep making your presence known, we all need it.
Love always,
Danielle
April 27, 2011
Today was finally nice outside so I decided to take a little ride on my brake to enjoy the sun and listen to some music.
A few songs came on the radio, most of them still have a way of reminding me of you, even the new stuff... And every time a song comes on the radio that I like and someone tries to change it, I always think of how no matter what you always would let me keep it on.
I miss those little things, I miss you.
Some say that with time all things get better, easier, heal and what not- I'm not sure about that. Whoever started that little saying, clearly never had the honor of meeting someone like you.
Maybe it gets easier trying to deal, but nothing, no amount of time, will ever fill the void I still have in my heart for you.
Love Always,
Danielle
December 13, 2009
I've been thinking about you a lot lately. The holidays are bitter sweet. This year is a little tougher with my mom being in the hospital. I know she has good people looking down on her and hopefully giving her the strength she needs to get better! I miss you terribly. Your sense of humor is what gets me through still to this day, just knowing the smart remarks and or silly things you would do just to get a rise out of me! Just picturing your smile makes things that much easier to deal with...
Love Always, Danielle
August 16, 2009
well buddy we are coming up on your 4th anniversary and honestly it seems like yesterday to all of us. We love you and keep looking for you to walk in the door.
love you TJ
Dad.
Danielle
June 24, 2009
Hey Tj,
I miss you soooooooo much! The summer is here and I think about our little talks and walks around the pond, getting ice cream and of course hanging in the pool with your family. I take my dog to the pond all the time and tell her our stories- she's a good listener! I swear she's from heaven- she gets me through some tough days. I never imagined the wag of a tail and a big sloppy kiss would be all I need to smile sometimes :)
I still listen to the messages you left me on my cell phone that I still have saved when just hanging with the dog isn't enough. It's an indiscribable void I carry around, but I try my best to move along. I just wish you were by my side.
I love you with all my heart and soul.
Dad
March 24, 2009
hey pal it has been awhile we had cake an ice cream for jonathan's birthday today he is rally big and looks so much like you. Steve and Tia came up two weeks ago and hung out with him. we miss you alot TJ be safe
love Dad
Danielle
March 23, 2009
I still think of you everyday and miss you so much! No matter how much time goes by it doesn't make things any better. There are still so many things I think of and do and see and want to be able to just pick up the phone and call you or see your face. Not to mention what I would do for a hug- you seriously gave the best hugs on the planet! :)
Well, I hope you think of me too sometimes.
I love you Tj- today, and always...
Stevie O'Neill
December 29, 2008
Been so busy this year. I got a new job, a new house and a new member of the family. Tia Jade O'Neill. We had a George family christmas party and thought about all the pats games we went together. We all miss you.
Love
Stevie
Love Always, Danielle
October 29, 2008
Hey Tj..
Thought about you all day yesterday, sorry I couldn't muster up the will to get online. Just a little too bummed out and I like to try to stay positive, specially on here.
I hope they have plenty of cake for you there!
Well I just wanted to say I love you and miss you and I always think about you. You are a big part of my heart and you still manage to get me to smile :)
Hope you are looking over everyone..
Kathy O'Brien
October 28, 2008
Happy Birthday TJ. Missing you, I pray you are at peace. Love Aunty Kathy
Melissa Weber
October 28, 2008
Happy Birthday Thomas J. Love, Melissa
Auntie Ruthy
August 29, 2008
xo xo xo xo xo xo xo xo xo xo xo xo xo xo xo xo xo xo xo xo xo xo xo xo miss you
Love always, Danielle
August 28, 2008
TJ,
Today is as sad as the day you left for me still, yet I still woke up with a smile. I swear I heard you say "punkin" just like you always did. It was so clear. That one moment alone has gotten me through the day.
I saw a picture of your neice today. She is so very beautifull! Like I wrote to your sister, your family makes beautifull babies! I miss your family as much as I miss you. You came from such a great bunch of people. You were luckier then you could have ever known.
And I also spoke to April the other night, she is doing great! I'm planning on visiting her in FL after she gets settled in. After I got off the phone with her I checked my vmsgs I saved from you (yes I still have them) even though you thought I was weird for doing tht, I'm glad I did :)
Well, I'm at work and that is exactly what i should be doing not to mention it's not exactly the best place to get emotional. But I will being coming by to visit later for our little chat. I miss you very much, I love you even more.
You will always be a part of my heart.
steve oneill
August 8, 2008
hey tj just wanted to let you know as we approach the 3rd anniversary of you leaving us that you are still in our hearts and thoughts every day
love you pal
dad
Love always, Danielle
August 7, 2008
Sitting here thinking of you and thought I'd say hi.
You and your family are on my mind always.
I love and miss you so very much.
Love always, Danielle
June 17, 2008
I was just thinking about you and it made me smile :)
I still miss you with every inch of my heart so very very much.
I love you. Hope you are watching over all of us!
Love always, Danielle
April 22, 2008
The weather is getting warm and what I wouldn't do to hold your hand and walk around the pond!
I love and miss you Tj, very much.
Forever and a day, Danielle
March 25, 2008
Happy belated Valentine's Day and Easter. I haven't forgot about you, that would be impossible. The first of the two are very hard for me and I know you know why. I wish you were here to make a basket for though. And I wish I could update you with all kinds of good things but I'm still just doing the same. And working like crazy! But you'll see, my time will come. I can feel it, it's right around the corner!
I still miss you to pieces! Weird things have been happening lately when I think of you, in a good way. A song comes on the radio, a green truck drives by.. always something. I'm glad you are still around me. Gives me hope.
I love you TJ. Always.
Love you always, Danielle
January 25, 2008
Tj,
I miss you. I keep thinking about you and keep looking at your pictures. I have a big memory box and I have all these random things in it but when I pull somethig out that reminds me of you the memories are just so vivid. I can actually close my eyes and it's like I'm right back in your arms or sitting with you and laughing with you again. And it may seem silly but I bought a little piggy bank not to long ago and I save all the random pennys I find in it! well, i can't sleep but i should still try since i have a long day at work. I just had to write before I tried or i'd have that much more on my mind! I love you TJ.
Kathy Obrien
December 25, 2007
Merry Christmas TJ....thinking of you always.
Love, Kathy
Love always, Danielle
December 25, 2007
Merry Christmas, TJ.
I feel like I miss you more today then I have ever missed you! I love you so much and would do anything to be with you right now.
Even though once I was done hanging with the family it was dark out already, I did manage to sneak in a quick visit today and leave you a little christmas present, I left one for your uncle freddy too! I tell ya, the things I go through for you :) I'm sure you got a laugh watching me fall all over the place. I'm sitting here laughing at myself just thinking about it! Anyway- I love you, and I feel for you the same way I did the first time you told me how you felt about me, and the way I will always love you.
Keep watching over all of us.
Auntie Ruthy
December 14, 2007
Hi T missing you.Nathan is doing better but you know that cause your watching over him. thanks. love you lots
Love, Danielle
December 13, 2007
Thinking about you a lot lately.
I love you and miss you so much.
Kathy O'Brien
November 22, 2007
Hey T.J, Happy Thanksgiving! You are truly missed. Your family is thinking of you as always, please watch over them and give them a blessing from above. God Bless you T.
Love Kathy
Love always, Danielle
November 21, 2007
Tomorrow is Thanksgiving and I was thinking of all that I am grateful for.
Instead of thinking about how much I miss you and being sad, I have decided to hit the "pause button" and remember all the happy times and love that I've shared with you.
I'm thankful that I have had the opportunity to know you, and to love you, and I'm thankful that I was able to share love and laughter with you. Most of all, thank you for being my best friend!
I know you would not want us to be deeply saddened with grief, but would only want us to go on living, loving and laughing. So for you I will try my best and with all my heart to do this.
You are and always will be the love of my life.
Love always and forever, Danielle
October 31, 2007
Happy Halloween, and belated Bday... I would have written sooner but I have just been in such a funk lately. Maybe taking my brother trick or treating tonight will snap me out of it. Well as you hear me say constantly, I miss you and am thinking of you always. I love you so very much TJ.
Keep me safe tonight, you know I get spooked so easily! :)
Ruthy George
October 31, 2007
BOO :) Happy Birthday xo xo
October 30, 2007
Happy Birthday.
Love, Melissa
stevie oneill
October 29, 2007
TJ,
The red sox won the series and I was in the country this time.
Happy Birthday.
Love,
Your bro.
steve oneill
October 27, 2007
happy birthday TJ we really miss you
love dad
Love, Danielle
October 16, 2007
Hi TJ,
I am just sitting here missing you and thinking of how I wish you were here. My sister just came down to visit and we had the family over to celebrate her b day, which reminds me how close your's is coming up! And to think of it I may have missed your brother or you dad's birthday, for some reason I keep thinking so...So happy birthday to you guys if you see this! :)
I love you and I'll see ya tomorrow.
October 8, 2007
TJ,
I hope you can hear our prayers. We miss you and love you dearly.
Your bro.
Stevie
Love Always and Forever, Danielle
October 6, 2007
Hi TJ,
I was just sitting here at work and thought I would say hello. I miss you so much still. I know it may get easier someday but never will it get easy!
I definitly think that having a puppy helps keep my mind off things a little though. I swear that she came into my life for a reason! It's funny cause she has this little white spot on the back of her neck in the shape of an upsidedown heart, I'd like to think its's some kind of sign :) Not to mention I can't help notice that when you left us we had a hurricane going on, and the week after I got her from Oklahoma, they flooded!
Anyway- I should get back to work. I love you.
September 10, 2007
We miss you Tj
Love always, Danielle
August 29, 2007
Hey Tj,
Hope you liked the flowers I left you, they were as close to yellow as I could get. And I'm sure you don't mind sharing them with your grandparents and freddy. I know you were around me yesterday. It really got me through another hard day. Thoughts of you and your family are on my mind always. I miss you so much. It's been 2 hard years but as long as you keep making yourself known it will help get me by. I love you forever and always.
August 28, 2007
TJ,
I just wanted to say that I'm remembering you today on your 2 year Angelversary.
TJ's Family,
Remembering TJ with you. May your memories of him offer you comfort on this difficult day and every day.
Sincerely,
Jessica Gaudette.
Love Always, Danielle
August 2, 2007
Well, I finally got a puppy! An adorable little 3lb-er. She is so curious and is definitly keeping me busy. I think you would have liked her. She is really funny. Maybe I will take her with me to visit you when she gets a little bigger. I'm sure you are looking down and shaking your head at me. It's hard not to let her get her way when she is that cute :) WEll it's about time for a walk just thought I'd share the news. See you soon and think of you often. I miss you.
I love you, Danielle
July 20, 2007
TJ,
How I wish you were here right now to make me laugh. Tonight is just not a good night and I know I'll get through it. I just need you to keep reminding me of that. I need to stay strong for my family and boy am I trying. But it just seems that when everything seems to be going ok, everything else around me starts falling apart.
I'll never be able to share my thoughts and talk to someone the way I could talk to you. And even when I couldn't figure a way to fix things I could at least depend on you for a great big hug!
I miss you so much TJ.
Love, always, Danielle
July 4, 2007
TJ,
Just wanted to say Happy 4th of July! Hope you are looking down on us through the fireworks!
Many memories of us are on my mind today. I love you and miss you much!
Love Always, Danielle
June 24, 2007
Hey TJ,
I went camping this weekend with my friend Shanna and thought of you so much. You would have laughed so hard watching the two of us there with a tent to set up and no instructions! It was so nice just the two of us sitting by the fire and talking for hours. I was telling her about the time you and me went camping and we just sat and shared so many stories. I swear I felt you near me. I miss you so much. There is not a day that goes by that I dont think about you. And lately it seems that there are very few minutes that pass with out you on my mind.
Well continue to do what ever it is you are doing up there that has been helping me get along down here. You are forever in my heart.
I love you.
Melissa
May 23, 2007
Thomas J, I just wanted to write that I miss you. I heard some song that reminded me of when we were kids and I cried all day. Anyway, Love you and miss you, Melissa
jen oneill
May 7, 2007
Hey TJ. I was just looking at my prior entries to you and was laughing at how much I repeat myself when it comes to Jonathan. I guess that is the hardest thing for me, watching him grow and you not seeing any of it. He started little league a few weeks ago. It was stressful at first, I think more so on your mother and me than on him. Now that he has gotten the swing of things he really likes it. He's funny, he said his favorite part is at the end when he shakes hands with the other team. I signed him up for first grade too. He'll be going to the Parker just like you. We miss you TJ, Jen
Always in my heart, Danielle
May 2, 2007
I have been struggling through the day, it's a tough one. I miss you so very much TJ, I love you.
Jen O'Neill
March 26, 2007
Hey TJ, Jonathan had his 6th birthday yesterday, it is so hard for me to believe that he is 6 allready. You would be proud of him, he is a sweet kid. He really has a heart of gold. We miss you TJ. Love always Jen
Nancy O'Neill
March 23, 2007
Hey T.J.
Thinking about you. We're planning on being at your parents' house for their annual St. Patty's gathering and I was remembering you and your Uncle trying desperately to teach me to play Poker! I had a couple good hands and a couple good bluffs but all in all I wasn't very good! It was a fun night though and a great memory of you. Love, Nancy O.
forever in my heart, Danielle
March 17, 2007
Hi Tj,
Happy St. Patty's day. I miss you and think of you always. Lately it's been a little harder then usuall but I am doing my best to keep it together. I could use a little extra pull from up there if you know what I mean. I just miss talking to you and just being around you it always made me feel better. You were the only one I knew who could deal with these little moods I get into and snap me out of them. What I miss the most about you lately is how easy it was for you to make me smile. Still to this day it takes no more then a thought in my mind of you and within a second I'm grinning ear to ear. I am feeling better already.
Well, off to bed I go. Love you always.
Love you always, Danielle
February 28, 2007
Hey TJ,
I can't sleep, too much on my mind. I have been thinking about you alot. More then usuall, if that is even possible. I heard some country song on the radio on my way home from work (yea..country!) lol
I swear it was written for me to you. If ever I was at a loss for words, that song would have sure summed it up. I have no clue who or what it was though, a shame really. I would have probably went out to buy it. I understand now why people like that style of music though. Now that I think of it, it kind of reminded me of the time you were singing that song from a commercial.. "you were always on my mind.." Willy Nelson? I'm not sure but I could have sworn it was an Elvis song.
Well, I really should try to get to bed since I am over tired and don't want to start rambling. Just wanted to say I was thinking of you and miss you tons!
Love Always, Danielle
February 14, 2007
Happy Valentine's Day TJ. You will always be my sweetheart! I Love you and I am thinking of you always. I miss you to pieces.
Love always, Danielle
January 22, 2007
I have been thinking of you so much. I miss you more then you could ever imagine! It finally snowed today. Although I never cared much for winter it was nice to look at the snowflakes falling outside the window. Kind of peacefull and I need that right now. I keep thinking of all the little things people take for granted like taking a moment just to look out a window or actually step outside and take it all in. I miss our little walks. Our small talk. Being goofy and watching movies. You could always tell me anything I wanted to know about a movie cause I swear you had seen them all. And to think you thought I was full of useless information! You should see me now. I read just about anything I can get my hands on. I am sure you are looking down and I am sure you get a few laughs. And I am glad that just thinking of these things still manages to bring a smile to my face. I love you TJ, with all my heart.
Danielle
December 28, 2006
I dont know why this most recent entry has been so hard for me to write. Between working everyday and dealing with the unfortunate events that happen there on a daily basis and spending as much time with my sister before she leaves I have been just a wreck. The holidays were so different this year. I barely managed to send out Christmas cards, not to mention I forgot to put stamps on at least half of them that came back to me! That explains where my mind is at. I try keeping busy so I dont concentrate on things I can't change but it never works. I love you as much as I always have and everyday I miss you that much more. There is not a day that goes by that I dont verbalize how much I wish you were here to anyone who will listen. Its so hard TJ. Knowing that I will never meet someone like you, no one will. You were definitly one of a kind. Well now I need you to send me some strength more then ever. My sister is almost packed and it is just a few hours now before she leaves. Watch over me, keep watching all of us. I love you
Kathy O'Brien
December 26, 2006
Dear TJ, Merry Christmas, I wanted to write to you on Christmas Eve but when I got through with Grandma and Freddy, my heart was too broken to write to yet, another member of our family. So, today I thought would be better. Joke is on me, this Christmas, by far was the hardest to get through, for some reason, I could not get anyone of you off my mind and prayed for a long time to try to understand why it is so hard for us to let go. As sad as it is for us, I can't help but be happy knowing you are all together at peace and enjoying your eternal life. That helps but, still very sad. I'm finally missing your "smart remarks", I'd give anything to hear one from you now. By the way, one great thing you did though was Jonathan, I shouldn't say thing, I should say person. He's a great great kid, your mom and dad truly adore him and Jen is so great about keeping him in their lives, without him, TJ, they couldn't get through each day, let alone the holidays. We miss you TJ, but will forever be in our hearts until we meet again. Kiss grandma and grandpa and Freddy, yes Freddy for me...Merry Christmas, Love Kathy
Jen ONeill
December 25, 2006
Hey TJ, Merry Christmas. I got our wedding video on dvd as a gift and I decided to watch it tonight. Watching you and your mom dance to "Through the Years" killed me. I couldnt watch anymore. Seeing Meezy and Kathy sing to it was priceless though. Someday I will try watching it again. I can't believe how little Jonathan was in it, god he is huge now. I can't even think of showing it to him, I don't want to upset him. He is really such a good kid, you would be so proud of him. And to see your Grandmas and Freddy, it was just real sad. I miss you alot, we both do.
Love, Danielle
December 5, 2006
Just thinking of you.
Love Always, Danielle
November 22, 2006
Hey TJ,
It's holiday time again and of course I am thinking of you as always and miss you so much. I have had many memories of your family in my thoughts lately too. How could I sip a glass of kendall without thinking of your mom or eat a buffalo wing with out thinking of your dad!? And I'm still having a hard time trying to copy your Aunt Pam's salad with the strawberrys! I talked to Tracey last night and she remembered those turkeys I made with the cookies. I think I might make them tonight since I am working tomorrow (yup,Thanksgiving) and also found out my sister is leaving for Oregon by the first of the year so it can be something special we do for the holidays before she leaves. Well I should get started now since its an early day tomorrow. Just want you to know I'm thinking of you and your family and I love you. Happy Turkey day.
November 9, 2006
I miss you.
Kathy O'Brien
October 29, 2006
Hey T.J. Happy Birthday, I know I am a day late but things were rough yesterday. I wanted to send you a special birthday wish so I waited till today to do so. Hope you enjoyed yours with Grandma and Uncle Freddy and I am sure by now, you have met your "Grandpa" they are all lucky to have spent the day with you, kiss them all and continue to pray for us as you are always in in our prayers and thoughts. Love Aunty Kathy
hedy mcdonald
October 28, 2006
hey mr t,
i have seen alot since i've long written you and it seems true i have you on my squad/team what ever it takes to make it in and through this life. i have finally had a chance to speak to your mother. auntie vicki is cool and wise and thank god she speaks her mind, my how she maintains her grace. I long to be close to you and your family for reasons i can't exactly pinpoint but i also wish to reach out to all my cousins , especially since olivia was born. she is beautiful and i wish you were here so i could teach her how to vex you with poems about your favorite teams (trot trot to boston trot trot to lynn better watch out or the red sox fall...............flat on their faces! i know , you don't think that's funny, but i love you and i bring satire to the bright man who will not admit he's bright, my dear cousin you have shown bright to create this perpetual writing to you . what fun , what joy! we found ourselves remarking of tj always, you crazy diamond, i feel sensored as if i'm having a conversation that i should have had in the past but i know others can hear. happy bday tee, i only regret one day of ever knowing you......... not being able to have you to my recording studio ( on account of my protecting you ( i was going through a difficult atmosphere, which i'm sure, you in hind sight could have helped me through.)and also actually having your mother as a guest in my home.......whoa , to me what an honor, she has been the hostess with the mostest including the shower for olivia. mostly just thinking of you today and gram and fred and all thats right in the world. all my love.
i have chosen stevie and jill for god parents for olivia , maybe send a prayer.
love you and think of you every day,
cousin hedy
Tray
October 28, 2006
Happy birthday TJ! I know you would have spent this lovely rainy day in bed!! Things really aren't the same without you, but Jonathan, Alexis and Dylan crack us up everyday.
Love, Danielle
October 28, 2006
Happy Birthday TJ. I have been dreaming about you a lot more in the past week and the odd thing is most of the time I am dreaming of real moments I have had with you. Last night I had a dream we were just sitting and talking over ice cream and the conversation was word for word a conversation that I really had with you. I think it is because there are alot of things I see or do lately that I wish you were here to share with. There is a new ice cream place in Burlington that I think you would have loved so I might just have to go check it out and order a blk. raspberry ice cream sunday with hot fudge for you, since that is the only ice cream I had ever seen you order! I miss silly little things like that about you. I love you and miss you, thinking of you always.
Jen O'Neill
October 27, 2006
Hi TJ, Happy Birthday. We miss you. Love Jen & Jonathan.
Love always, Danielle
October 23, 2006
I miss you so much. I barely have time to think lately, but some how you manage to keep popping into my head. All day you were on my mind and it was really hard to focus at work. I wish I could just sit down and talk to you and tell you everything that is on my mind. I honestly don't even know where I would begin. I know I talk to you all the time but it's not the same. You have no idea what I would give just to hold your hand or take a walk around Horn Pond with you. I still hurt so bad TJ. It's not so easy to find comfort in words anymore. I would live my life in silence for a hug at this point. And you know how much I like to ramble on! Well I am trying to stay positive but I have my moments and I guess this is one of them its just tough and I am trying. I love you. Good night. See you in my dreams...
I Love you, Danielle
October 11, 2006
Well,it's been a while since I last posted anything but I feel like I just end up repeating what I tell you when I come and visit you. It's starting to get cold so I am trying to keep very busy since this weather does not bring out the best of my emotions. I hope you are proud with what I'm doing with my life. I'm now working 10 hr days,6 days a week. I feel like I have no time for anything. And I still need to go to school, I really should push myself a little harder in that direction! I hate rushing around. But I have been spending all my free time on sundays at my little brother's football games. You would get a laugh.I have no clue whats going on so I just cheer them all on. My brother asks about you too. I told him you are watching and he said good since I wouldnt know what to tell you cause I dont "get football"..He's 9 going on 19. sometimes I think he's too smart for his own good. Oh, and he wanted to make sure you know he's #55..I think he's a linebacker? Well, my break is now over so I have to head back to the school. I miss you and love you with all my heart! Keep pushing me along!...
Jen O'Neill
September 20, 2006
Hi TJ, Jonathan is getting so big! Just this week, he learned to ride a bike with no training wheels. He was just diving off of it to stop, but now hes even got stopping down pat. He has two loose teeth. And he is no longer sleeping with a bed rail. Everytime he does something new, I think of how you are not here to see them. He really is doing well despite everything. I'm sure you are looking down on him proudly. We miss you everyday, love always Jen & Jonathan
Love,Danielle xoxox
September 1, 2006
Hey TJ,
Me again...I'm still missing you so much but the best thing happened yesterday! I was cleaning out my car and I found a disposable camera that had to be from at least a year ago so of course I had to get it developed that minute to see if the pictures would even come out, thank god for 1 hour photo! It was pictures of A Red sox game I went to and a few pics of some of the players driving by but I forget the names. I know they were the "cool" ones though, lol. But the best part was right at the end there were pictures of you! For once in a long time I was so happy. You always had a way of getting me to smile. I hope you are looking down smiling too! I love you TJ. Always have, always will...
I Love You Always, Danielle
August 25, 2006
TJ,
This month has been the hardest by far, and this week even harder. Oh how I wish you were here to talk to! I just got a new job at a Vet Hospital. You would be so proud, and like most I'm sure, amazed. Its like an ER for pets! In a few months I can start training in animal revival, can you picture ME giving CPR to a puppy? It should be interesting to say the least. Well, today kinda fits the mood. It was so chilly I was about to put my summer clothes away. Although that time is right around the corner. It's funny though cause i went though a few things that were put aside and even certain items of clothing bring back memories. It's been happening alot. I will be going through my closet and come across a dress or shirt and remember exactly when and where I was with you when I wore it. It seems silly but it's those small thing that are getting me by. I miss you so much TJ, more then I could have ever imagined.
Carole Reardon
August 14, 2006
Dear T.J.,
I'm not really sure what made me visit your guest book today, but I was thinking of you. I want to thank you for helping bring Jonathan into this world. You would be so proud of him. He is getting so big! In true Jonathan fashion, despite all the ups and downs in his life he remains a happy, loving, intelligent little man. My foundest memories of you are when you were with your son. I know how much you truly loved him, and I want you to know that all of his family continues to surround him with lots of love and caring. You were a good father T.J. and Jonathan will always know that about you.
Rest in Peace,
Carole Reardon
Love Always and Forever,Danielle
August 5, 2006
I miss you....Tomorrow is going to be so sad. I keep thinking of last year over your house and I had that bright red hair and Meezie was calling me RED ;)actually everyone was...I still have the bottle of wine your mom gave me too, you would have thought I would have opened it by now. Maybe tomorrow..Well I'm gonna get some sleep,try to visit me in my dreams. I love you with my whole heart!
I love you, Danielle
July 28, 2006
I just got back from Florida to take care of my Grandmother and now I want to go back for a vacation! I couldn't stop thinking of you at all. I miss you so much! I swear you were there in your own way too. My parents and I would be talking about you and all of a sudden something would happen. When I was sitting in the car I kept smelling that spray you would wear. I'm just happy to know that I'm not alone and I thank you for somehow still managing to be there for me, I have never needed you more. I love and miss you dearly TJ.
July 17, 2006
Today is one of the hottest days so far and tomorrow is only going to be hotter. I can picture you in front of the AC right now still thinking it wouldn't be cool enough, only you would have had it on all winter. You were crazy like that but thats why I love you!
Love You-Danielle
July 14, 2006
Hey TJ,
On my way to work I saw 3 green pick up trucks that looked like the one you drove, So I couldn't help but think about you. I miss you and love you and hope you can hear me up there! I'm sure you have a headache already.
I miss you,TJ...Love, Danielle
July 3, 2006
Well TJ, tomorrow is the 4th of July and I cant believe its been almost a year now. Nothing really feels different. I still fight the tears (which always win). I still love you just as much as I ever did if not more. And I still miss you with every part of my being, always wishing you were here. I guess those things will never change. But thats okay. I know I am hurting because my heart belonged to you. And now my tears just remind me that loving you was definitely the best thing I have ever done.
Jen O'Neill
June 14, 2006
HI TJ, Fathers Day is coming up, and I just absolutely have been dreading it. Jonathan misses you so much it breaks my heart. I miss you too. I wish you were still with us. I just feel like we all are going to be forever sad without you. We are trying though. Keep an eye on us, Love always, Jen & Jonathan
Love Always,Danielle
June 12, 2006
TJ,
I have been dreaming of you so much lately, like every night. I used to wake up in the morning and be mad that I didn't! They have been so vivid, that I am sad now when I wake up and relize they were just dreams. But I will take what I can get. The sun is out and I think of being by the pool with you, the family cook outs and all the kids running around and of course all the parents running around after them. And afterwards sitting by that little fire pit, I can seriously hear Nora Jones in the backround right now! I thought that the dark cold winter would be the hardest to deal with, and all this rain certaintly doesn't help. But the summers with you were definitly my favorite. Every thing about you TJ, you were always my favorite person to be around. Even when we argued,you would always talk things out with me, and looking back now I can barely remember one bad moment, just how happy you made me. And even though you are gone you still manage to put a smile on my face! I love you.
Thinking of you always, Danielle
May 23, 2006
TJ, I still have that empty feeling in my heart that will always be for you. I love you and miss you very much.
Tracey Lavin
May 11, 2006
Last night as I was dealing with much stress in my life, I found an old book of poems that I wrote. I opened up the book and out jumped one loose picture; it was TJ hiding his face from the camera when he was about 12. You could see his teeth behind his hand. It was like he was there saying hello! It's funny what happens when you need a hello. For my mom, she sees TJ license plates! I always find pennies! Just a thought I would like to share!!
Danielle
May 9, 2006
Well I did the Walk for Hunger again this past Sunday, and I finished all 20 miles like I always do. This year felt alot tougher then last but I know I couldn't have done it without you pushing me along up there. And the help of alot of nice people who also supported me this year. I hope you are proud of me. Everything I do I am still doing for you. I love you and I miss you always.
Danielle
April 26, 2006
TJ,
I keep asking myself lately if there will ever be a day I don't feel I have to fight back the tears. Some days are not so bad but I don't feel like I will ever have a "good" day. For the most part I have the memories and the pictures and other sentimental things. But even the happy thoughts are breaking my heart inside. Its realy hard to know the reality of it all is that although I may see you again someday, I long to just see your face and hold you one more time.I think if just once again I could do that maybe I would be truly happy again. But once would never be good enough. I love you so much and I still tell you everyday, just keep listening ok? I miss you more then words can explain
Carol Ascolillo
April 19, 2006
Hi TJ,
As Jen said you have your Best Friend there with you now. I am certain the two of you are finally at peace as well. That is the only thing that seems to make it bearable for me. I am so happy that we all went to see Four Brothers that night. I had a good time with the two of you and I still have the movie stub. I'm going to buy the DVD and watch it at some point this weekend. I need something to smile about. "can I take my shoes off in here?" Hahaha Goober...I really hope that things will change around here soon.
Love & Miss You Both Always,
Carol
Jen Oneill
April 17, 2006
Hi TJ, I've been thinking of you so much more lately, if thats even possible. I love being at your parents house on the holidays they are always done in style, but at the same time, it makes me think of you even more. And then with Chachi's wake the day before Easter, that was real sad too. At least you have your best friend with you now. Maybe the two of you can be at peace up there. Me and Jonathan love you and miss you.
Kathy O'Brien
April 16, 2006
Hey T.J.....Happy Easter!!!! Saw Jonathan today, he is so big and such a great kid. He went swimming today, yes they have the pool open already! He loves the water, he's a great swimmer...I know you know that though with all the fun times you had with him in the water! Your mom and dad had a great brunch today, better than any hotel could ever do. You were surely missed but in our thoughts all day. Take care, Love, Kathy
Love, Danielle
April 16, 2006
Happy Easter TJ. My Dad was talking about you yesterday. He said he still goes down to Oneill's in Salem every so often and thinks of you. I thought it was cute. You truly had quite an impact on all the people that were so lucky to meet you! I miss you and think of you always,
dad
April 12, 2006
well big guy the days keep going by one at a time and they seem to just be a blurr to us.As Jen said we had Jonathan's birthday a few weeks a go and it was great he was the lead on the train. Mom and I took him to see the star wars exhibit at the museum of science a few weeks ago and he had a great time. stevie got him a digital camerea and he's taking great pictures with it he really is getting big tj. well i know that you know ur missed here by everyone so say hi to everyone that's up there and say happy birthdsay to Grammy for us we miss all of you
love,danielle
April 11, 2006
Today was opening day, so of course you are on the minds of most! I can picture you clear as day with that red jersey, I can honestly say that most pictures I have of you are of you wearing it! Well, I am sure you are watching from up there, and although I was never big into sports I can say so far so good! (you did get me to catch the bug a little bit) who knows maybe this year ...another ? Never mind, I won't jinx it!
Danielle
April 4, 2006
I miss you and have been thinking of you. I miss you when its warm, when it rains...when I wake up and before I go to bed at night which is still the hardest thing to do besides listening to music. Every second is a memory and I thank God everyday that I have them to hold on to. I just cant help the thoughts that I have wishing I could still hang on to you. You were my rock so many times, and I still hear myself asking you for help to get through most days. Like today. I love you TJ. ALWAYS have and ALWAYS will.
danielle
March 23, 2006
It's has been pretty tough. It seems like one thing after another. Last week we had a benefit for my 3 yr old cousin, she has a hole in her heart. And yesterday we said goodbye to George's mom, Rainey. She now resides with you up there. I kept thinking of the 4th of July party here, when you met her. How we couldn't stop laughing because her and her sister's stories,her sister falling over her chair, and the way they were laughing was contagious! And my mom's sangria that was just a fruit salad with sprite and a splash of wine! Even George was thinking about you at the service he said you two both had that same spark in your eyes, he was right.I'm glad we get to share those memories even if for just a small moment it helps us through. I miss you, we all do. And I know I'm always asking of you up there, but could you just make sure to send an extra hug April's way. I know everyone could use the same, but I know it would mean more from you then me right now.
Jen Oneill
March 23, 2006
Hi TJ, Tomorrow is Jonathans 5th Birthday. It breaks my heart that you aren't going to be there, that you will never be at a Birthday party with us again. Its so sad Teej. We miss you and love you very much.
Courtney McMennamin
March 18, 2006
I went to college with TJ...what a great guy. I am so sorry for you loss and am in shock that this has happened. My deepest sympathty to the family...I am so sorry you are all going through this. Find strength within each other.
Andrea
March 17, 2006
TJ
Jess gave me the news today, I can't believe that it took this long for any of us to find out. I guess that goes to show how much we lose touch with our friends the older we get, its a shame really. I still rememeber when we met in college, that was 11 years ago. I'm sitting here thinking about you, and the memories that I have, and the trouble that we all got into! You are definitly a big part of some of my greatest college memories, lets face it, you didn't let yourself go unnoticed!
On a more serious note, I am beside myself with grief and was truely saddened to hear your news. My sympathy goes out to your family.
You will be missed.
Maureen Monturio
March 17, 2006
TJ and his Family-
I was just informed of your sudden loss, I went to NHC with TJ and like everyone is saying he had a way to make people smile. Although I haven't seen him in years his laugh and his smile hasn't faded. My thoughts are with you,and TJ, you will be missed
Sincerely, Maureen
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