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Bob Smith Obituary

Dec. 24, 1958 – Jan. 20, 2018

Buffalo-born humorist and author Bob Smith, the first openly gay comedian to appear on prominent national TV showcases in 1990s, died Saturday in New York City after a 12-year battle with amyltrophic lateral sclerosis. He was 59.

"I knew this was a big moment," he said of his 1994 appearance on "The Tonight Show With Jay Leno" in an interview from his hospital bed last year with Tim Teeman of The Daily Beast.

"I was really nervous before I went out onto the stage. I didn't know what to expect. I had played before primarily straight audiences before, but this was different. But once I got my first laugh, I knew things were going to be all right."

Soon after, he became the first openly gay comedian to have a half-hour special on HBO.

He also appeared on "Politically Incorrect" and "The Late, Late Show" and wrote for "Roseanne," "MADtv" and "The MTV Video Awards." He also wrote for Comedy Central and covered the Gay Games for Howard Stern.

Mr. Smith was the author of several books. An essay collection, "Openly Bob," won the Lambda Literary Award for humor in 1997. Another book of essays, "Way to Go, Smith!" was nominated for a Lambda Award in 1999. He published two novels, "Selfish and Perverse" in 2007 and "Remembrance of Things I Forgot" in 2011, which was voted an Amazon Best Book of the Year.

He contributed regularly to Out magazine and the Advocate. His writings also were included in the anthologies "America's Best Contemporary Humorists," "101 Damnations" and "When I Knew."

Another essay collection, "Treehab: Tales From My Natural Wild Life," was published in 2016. According to the Hollywood Reporter, Mr. Smith wrote it on an iPad with his one hand that wasn't afflicted by ALS.

He began to notice effects of the disorder in 2006 when he unintentionally slurred his words during a performance and was asked if he was drunk.

When he received the diagnosis in 2007, he quipped, "Lou Gehrig's Disease? I don't even like baseball."

He stopped performing in 2010.

The son of a state trooper, he was a descendant of Henry Smith, an early Canadian settler and namesake of the Henry of Pelham Winery in St. Catharines, Ont.

He was encouraged to become a comedian by an English teacher at Kenmore West High School, where he wrote skits for the class shows and graduated in 1976. He went on to earn a bachelor's degree from the University at Buffalo and began doing stand-up at the old Tralfamadore Cafe.

"The first gay bar I ever went to was in Buffalo," he told Buffalo News reporter Louise Continelli in 1995. "I remember walking in the door and I couldn't see anything because they had a fog machine on the dance floor. I thought: 'Great. The last thing we need in Buffalo is bad weather indoors, too.'"

Mr. Smith transferred to the comedy clubs in New York City's Greenwich Village in the early 1980s and worked as a waiter until he teamed with gay comedians Danny McWilliams and Jaffe Cohen after they did stand-up together in Pride Week festivities in 1988.

They performed around the world, appearing at Australia's Gay Pride Mardi Gras and in 1993 at the March on Washington for Gay and Lesbian and Bi Equal Rights and Liberation. They also collaborated on a 1995 book, "Growing Up Gay: From Left Out to Coming Out."

As guests on Joan Rivers' syndicated daytime talk show, they were the first openly gay comedians to appear on national television. After concentrating on their solo careers in the late 1990s, they reunited for a tour in the early 2000s.

Mr. Smith and his partner, Michael Zam, co-creator of FX's "Feud: Bette and Joan," raised two children together in New York City.

In addition to his partner, survivors include his mother, Sue; two brothers, James and Gregory; a daughter, Madeline; and a son, Xander.

Zam said a memorial will be held at a comedy club at a time to be announced.

To plant trees in memory, please visit the Sympathy Store.

Published by Buffalo News on Jan. 24, 2018.

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February 19, 2018

I would like to express my deepest condolences to the family for their loss. May you find comfort and help in God during this time of sorrow.

February 14, 2018

MY CONDOLENCES TO THE FAMILY AND FRIENDS OF BOB SMITH, SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS.

John Laracy

February 5, 2018

Thank you Bob for make the world a funnier place!

G Scribner

February 4, 2018

Bob truly wanted to make a difference in the world and encourage others to live their dreams and reach their goals and for these and other reasons, he will be missed and remembered by many many people. A word of love: " Your dead will live. My corpses will rise up. Awake and shout joyfully you residents in the dust !... And the earth will let those powerless in death come to life. " Isa 26:16. Respectfully submitted with love.

Charles Finn

January 27, 2018

He made us laugh, and that made the world a better place.

January 26, 2018

Grief can be so hard, but our special memories help us cope. Remembering you and your loved one today and always.

January 26, 2018

Bob, I was broken hearted to hear of your passing. My name is David Hodo, better known as the construction worker from Village People. At one time we lived just down the street from each other in the Bronx. Years ago I sent you an e-mail and said that I was a big fan of yours. You replied that you were a big fan of mine. Right now I am pushing your books on my FB page. I have read and reread them. They still make me laugh. I've often told people, "If you think David Sedaris is funny, you haven't read Bob Smith. Once again the world is a sadder place knowing that you are gone.

January 25, 2018

Sympathy goes to the family and friends of Bob Smith. May the family finds Comfort in these difficult days that is ahead. 1Peter5:6. JS

Harry Simpson

January 25, 2018

Godspeed Bob....

January 25, 2018

Condolences to the family.

Richard Franz

January 24, 2018

Thank you, Bob for your gift of humor and sharing it with the world. May your soul rest in peace.

G. Holler

January 24, 2018

I'm so sorry for your loss.
My heart go's out to Mr Smith, all his
Family and friends.
Each one of you are in my
Thought & Prayers.

G. Freeman

January 24, 2018

As the days and weeks pass, and as you return to life's routine, may you continue to feel comforted by the love and support of family and friends.

P D

January 24, 2018

So sorry for your loss,the 121st Psalms is very comforting and encouraging scriptural passage. Know that God cares and he will support you through these days of deep sadness. My deepest and sincere condolences to your families and friends.

January 24, 2018

May God bless you and your family in this time of sorrow.

January 24, 2018

I'm sorry for your loss. May God grant you peace to cope with your loss during this time Phillippians 4:6,7.

Thaddeus McDonald

January 24, 2018

May we bow our heads and pray.
Leviticus 20:13

D Cover

January 23, 2018

I am so sorry to hear of your loss. May the family find comfort in the God of tender mercies and comfort. (2 Cor. 1:3)

Carlotta

January 23, 2018

May the God of all peace bring comfort to the Smith family and friends at this difficult time.

January 23, 2018

To the family, please accept my deepest condolences. May all have peace during this time.
PB.

Mark Buckley

January 23, 2018

The world has lost a pioneer and great comedian. Thank you a lot of laughs and for advancing the cause of LGBTQ equality. Rest in peace.

T,O

January 23, 2018

As the days and weeks pass, and as you return to life's routine, may you continue to feel comforted by the love and support of family and friends.

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