To Doug and all of Thom's friends, colleagues, and family, we share your sorrow as we mourn our collective loss of Thom, taken too soon from us all. But we also know Thom was a joyful old soul, and we choose to remember him for how he lived his life and treated all of those around him.
Some people are lucky in life in that they enjoy friendships with a few extraordinary people. We count ourselves among those very fortunate few for having known our friend Thom, one of those exceptional people who has enriched our lives through the gift of his friendship. We know all of Thom's friends and family must feel the same way because he was so special to us all.
It is not often that you form new friendships in your adult years. It is even rarer to find witty, kind, generous, and enjoyable friends like Thom and Doug, whom we were lucky enough to meet through one of life's beautiful serendipities. Our friends Jennette and Matt happened to move next to Thom and Doug after living overseas in India and quickly formed a new friendship with their neighbors.
After meeting Doug and Thom through Matt and Jennette and knowing good people when we saw them, we promptly incorporated the dynamic duo into our close circle of friends. We enjoyed many "found family" dinners, Parnell Road Flamingo parties, outside fireside COVID gatherings, and other events together. Inseparable from Doug, Thom always played the comedic equivalent of Gracie Allen to Doug's straight-man George Burns, and hilarity always ensued.
Not only was Thom professionally accomplished as a gifted musician and producer, but we also knew him as a master gardener of roses, mixologist, and conversationalist possessed of rapier wit.
During the COVID lockdown, I got to see another facet of this complex, wonderful man, Thom, the entrepreneur. We were both dealing with the business crisis that hit the performing arts and events businesses particularly hard. Cut off from each other by the lockdown, we brainstormed via text, email, and phone, looking for creative solutions to complicated urgent business issues we were both facing, and swapped information on various strategies to survive the shutdown, which we both did, fortunately. Thom showed me his tenacity, intelligence, and fighting spirit in those dark days.
Most of all, I think we will remember Thom for his humility, kindness, and generosity of spirit. Our son Santo and Thom, both natural musicians, enjoyed a special bond of kindred spirits, Thom a giant in his field, and Santo barely starting out. It is not often you see a 4-time grammy award-winning producer and internationally acclaimed musician taking time out to help a 10-year-old struggling to play the flute-a-phone or to listen to him sing songs, but Thom took that time for Santo. Thom engaged and befriended Santo as a fellow musician, treating him as equal. He was always interested in Santo's stories and questions as they had long, thoughtful, gentle, and encouraging conversations about music and life. We are thankful to Thom for his musical and life mentorship of our son.
We will miss our friend Thom. We hope to see him again, smiling his warm, slightly mischievous smile, scotch in hand, as he opens the door and waves us to join him at the party he is hosting for us all in the great beyond.