Joan M. Callahan
1947 - 2021
Joan M. Callahan


, NH — Our Yankee Doodle Sweetheart, Joan McCrave Callahan, formerly of Pembroke, passed away on July 18, 2021, two weeks after her 74th birthday, with love in her heart.

She was cared for by the staff of Granite State Hospice and the Merrimack County Nursing Home (3 South) during the final few months of her life, and for that we are eternally grateful. We would also like to acknowledge St. Joseph Hospital's Senior Behavioral Health Unit for their care and guidance.

Per her wishes, there will be no services, so this is our tribute to her. Known for her sense of humor and compassion, she was a fierce feminist, voracious reader, lifelong Democrat, bargain shopper, recovering Catholic and world traveler.

Born on July 4, 1947 in Providence, RI, she was the middle child of William F. McCrave, Sr. and Marjorie R. (Callahan) McCrave.

She was predeceased by her sisters, Patricia A. Lucy and Kathleen F. Ustick; her nephew, David C. Vantine and our dad, Ray F. Warner, Jr.

She is survived by her younger siblings, Marjorie Sinclair (David) and William F. McCrave, Jr. (Annmarie), the families of her siblings, several cousins from our large Irish Family, her former sisters-in-law, Linda Stone (Tom) and Penny Bright (Dan), her favorite ex-daughter in law, Kristin McCarthy, the Thursday Morning Breakfast Club, and friends.

Her career fulfilled her desire to help. She was an early childhood educator in Rhode Island, the Director of Community Services at Rockingham County Community Action, Human Services Director for the City of Concord, a Research Assistant for Dartmouth Psychiatric Medical Research Center and an Exceptional Services Assistant at Pembroke Academy.

She volunteered and served on committees or boards for several area agencies including the Capital Region Food Program (where she was inducted into the Mark E. Manus Honor Society), NH Coalition Against Domestic and Sexual Violence Crisis Center, Zonta, Merrimack Valley Daycare, NH Women's Lobby (NH Women's Foundation), Concord Area Trust for Community Housing (CATCH), and the Concord Hospice House with her friend Gerri Donahue.

A lifelong learner, she earned an undergraduate degree in Early Childhood Education and Human Services and a Master's in Public Administration and Women in Political and Government Affairs.

She continued her professional development as a participant in Leadership Concord (1998) and Leadership New Hampshire (2000); but she was most proud of the opportunity to attend the JFK School of Government at Harvard University upon receiving the Caroline Gross Fellowship in 1998.

She leaves behind a legacy of service to others and us -- her favorite son, Danniel D. Warner (Tara) and their family, Mavinee, Abigail, Laxmi, Alexandra Warner, Cannon Callahan Warner and Dan's grandson Bradyn; and her favorite daughter, Cassandra A. Mason (Kevin) and their family, Kelsey (Aoife), Jacob, Olivia, and Ben that loves Buki.

She will be missed for her inappropriate sense of humor, her full-chest press, her inability to cook, and her weekly grocery delivery that included items such as Double Stuff Oreos, toilet paper and Steak-ums.

She was known for gift giving of unusual sorts and abundance.

She was always available to help and to offer sound Irish advice or her personal colloquialisms.

She wanted you to remember her the way she was. We hope that you consider a donation to any of the charities listed in this obituary or another of your choosing.

In lieu of flowers, buy yourself a pint of locally made ice cream (or Ben & Jerry's) and some chocolate. Her choice of the Cremation Society of NH for arrangements (because she couldn't donate her body to Dartmouth) meant giving up her lifelong dream of being felt up by a doctor.

We encourage you to talk to your family about your end of life wishes, make a plan and make a backup plan.

Being diagnosed with early onset dementia was not part of her plan, but we knew what she wanted and we followed her wishes. She didn't give us any directions for her obituary and Dan considers this a loophole, so we have taken artistic license. We love you, Mom!
Published by Concord Monitor on Jul. 21, 2021.
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I worked with Joan for a number of years when she was director of Concord City Welfare and I worked on the state and federal side of public assistance programs. She was caring, energetic and a a joy to work with figuring out how to remove obstacles to get help to those in need. She made life easier for many and was a great example of how one person can make a huge impact in the world.
Mary Anne Broshek
August 3, 2021
Love to you all.
George Hodgman
July 22, 2021
I was her mail man on green st ,and we were on worked together on the capital region food program. She was a hoot & i loved her.
Dave Duncan
July 21, 2021
Joani was an incredible individual. Her generosity, kindness, and consideration for others has resulted in so many being positively touched by her. This world is a better place because she was part of it. May her memory be eternal.
Steven & Maria Manus Painchaud
July 21, 2021
Cassie and Dan, I was so sad to hear about your Mom's passing when Cassidy called me from the Concord Monitor. I tried my very best to talk about your wonderfully loving, fun, wacky, devoted professional that was your Mom. She always, always checked in with me as a tired working Mom while I served as the ACM and CM in Concord...she was like my own resident Mom. And she did such a wonderful job of staying in touch with me after I moved on to Hanover. Your memory of her captures her perfectly! She was so proud of all of you, loved you so much and just made a difference every day. She done good....and so many of us watched her work with respect and in awe. Bravo Joanie Callahan, bravo. All my loving best to both of you and your collective clan. Julia
Julia Griffin
July 21, 2021
I worked with Joan on the Spirit of Giving Christmas program of years ago. Loved her as no other having shared many hours working with her on the Spirit of Giving Program of years ago... Always upbeat and smiling, her caring and concern for others was always paramount. Many in Concird are in a better place because of this beautiful lady.
Melody Shaffer
July 21, 2021
We were so sad to learn of Joan's passing, and are thankful to have been remembered in your wonderful tribute to her. Our deepest condolences to all of her family. Friends at Merrimack Valley Day Care
Merrimack Valley Day Care
July 21, 2021
My heart is saddened to learn of Joan's death. Her legacy of caring for the less fortunate and those in need around the Capital Region will live on. The impact she had on so many people during her years of service will never be forgotten. Yes, and her humor will be deeply missed. Rest in Peace dear Joan.
Joe Riley
July 21, 2021
I did not know your mom personally although I knew of her for years. My condolences on your loss and her early onset dementia. Your obituary is absolutely wonderful! Loving, funny and a great picture of your mom. All the best
July 21, 2021
I miss her and growing up in a family where everyone looked the same. For my uncle Bill, her father, starting every joke did you ever hear the one about...... She was the one I always looked up to. Especially when she choose Callahan as a last name instead of McCrave to give her mother credit. I'll miss her a lot.
Barbara J McCrave
July 21, 2021
Joani, you were an amazing, giving, loving, and generous person. Thank you for your life of service. It was a privilege to call you friend. Our Valentine´s Day "date" was the best.
July 21, 2021
CASSIE & DAN, What a beautiful tribute to your mom; a unique and incredible woman. She touched and improved so many lives. Joan inspired me to go to graduate school. I am so sorry for your loss. I enjoyed our family trip to the Hamptons so long ago; especially the ferry, makes me smile : )
Jean McCrave Baxter
July 20, 2021
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Cassie Mason
July 20, 2021
We always heard such nice things about your mom Dan. Sorry to hear she left you so early in life. She sounds like a really fun lady
Kyle and Jane Kucharski- Kristin and Alex's Aunt and Ancle
July 20, 2021
I am with heavy heart to hear of my dear friends passing, Joan and I go back about 40 years ago, Her Christmas cards were here day after Thanksgiving!! She will always be in my heart,rest in peace my dear.
Barbara Gould
July 20, 2021
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