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Stephen and Djeswende Reid

1955 - 2022

Stephen and Djeswende Reid obituary, 1955-2022, Concord, NH

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Stephen Reid Obituary

Stephen & Djeswende Reid

Concord, NH — Stephen Leavitt Reid and his wife Djeswende Pasgo Reid tragically died on Monday, April 18, 2022. Steve was born in 1955 in Concord, New Hampshire, the second of five children of William and Peggy-Ann (Leavitt) Reid. Djeswende, affectionally known as Wendy, was the eldest daughter of nine children, born in Benin in 1956 to Bila and Poco Pasgo.

A man of great learning dedicated beyond the call of duty, gifted yet humble, Steve grew up in a lively and loving home in south Concord. Steve attended Concord schools graduating from Concord High School in 1973. An avid athlete, he played defensive back for the CHS football team and made 3 interceptions in a single game which up until that time had never been done at CHS. Steve later attended the University of Notre Dame where he graduated with highest honors in 1978 with a degree in English. After receiving full scholarships to several law schools, Steve decided to pursue a career in public service, starting by joining the Peace Corps.

In 1979, Steve's first overseas assignment took him to the small town of Madaoua in Niger, West Africa where he taught English. In 1982, Steve returned to the United States to take a position at Peace Corps headquarters in Washington, D.C., as a liaison to several West African countries. It was there that Steve met the love of his life, Djeswende (Wendy).

Although Wendy was raised in Togo, both her parents and the extended family hailed from Burkina Faso. As the daughter of a prominent pastor in the Assemblies of God Church, she was raised with, and maintained, a deep-rooted faith.

Departing from tradition Bila Pasgo nurtured and supported his daughter's love of basketball and encouraged her to achieve an early international career. Wendy traveled the world with the Togolese National Basketball Team participating in international competitions in Lagos, Cairo, Paris, Beijing, Nanjing, Shanghai, Buenos Aires, Bamako, Kinshasa, and Brazzaville –and winning awards and medals in Tunis, Dakar, Nairobi, Mexico City and Yamoussoukro.

Wendy applied to and earned scholarships to attend college in the United States. While an undergraduate in Washington, D.C., Wendy was introduced to Steve via a mutual friend who told her that he knew an American who spoke Hausa (a West African language) and Parisian French well enough to meet her conversational standards. Upon meeting Steve, Wendy went from disbelief to impressed. It took several invitations to play tennis from the timid Steve Reid, as well as a hint from Wendy's college roommate for her to understand the romantic intentions behind those invitations.

Wendy was as outgoing and extroverted as Steve was introverted and reserved; in short, they made a dynamic pair who complemented one another and brought out the best in each other. From both sides of the Atlantic, the Pasgo and Reid families recognized Wendy and Steve's genuine love for each other and blessed their 1984 marriage in Senegal. However, Steve and Wendy ensured their children were born in Steve's native Concord, NH. In 1986 their first child, Lindsay Wenkouni Reid arrived, followed in 1990 by the birth of their second child, Brian Daniel Reid. Steve and Wendy provided their two children with abundant multicultural childhood experiences, and instilled in them a sense of global community, love of humanity and human diversity in all its forms, hard work, courage and integrity.

A promotion to Associate Director of the Peace Corps in Senegal, had Steve leading numerous projects addressing reforestation, water supply, community development, and intercultural language training. Steve eventually left the Peace Corps to attend Syracuse University to pursue a master's degree in public administration while Wendy worked to support their growing family.

In 1989, Steve was recruited by the U.S. Agency for International Development (USAID) to work with a local NGO (non-governmental organization) headquartered in Burkina Faso dedicated to addressing the interrelated issues of climate change and food security in West Africa. Here Wendy worked first as a Personnel Assistant and later as a Community Liaison Officer for the American Embassy.

Steve excelled in the field of international development and became a career Chief of Party, directing USAID-funded projects in Bangladesh, Burkina Faso, Liberia, Niger, Senegal and Haiti for Tetra Tech (formerly Associates in Rural Development) and The Mitchell Group. Always respectful of local people and cultures, Steve was an exceptional leader of multicultural teams. Soft spoken and down-to-earth, he easily gained the respect, love, admiration, and trust of those he served as a living embodiment of humility, hard work and compassion.

Throughout his long career, Steve was able to count on the love and support of his wife, who was instrumental to his success, often accompanying him on field visits, organizing logistics, translating and copy-editing reports in French and English. In 2003, she completed the degree she was pursuing before marrying and raising two children. Wendy graduated Magna Cum Laude with a Bachelor of Science in Business Administration, from Suffolk University (Dakar, Senegal Campus). She went on to serve as an Admissions Counselor for the University, recruiting and supporting the enrollment of students from French-speaking West African countries.

Later they moved to Burlington Vermont where Steve served as a Senior Associate for Democracy and Governance at ARD Inc. (presently Tetra Tech ARD) and Wendy served as a Program Coordinator at Vermont Refugee Resettlement, a field office of the U.S. Committee for Refugees and Immigrants.

In 2009, the couple accepted an assignment in Haiti where Steve worked on a USAID-funded local governance project to increase transparency and improve collaboration among municipalities. Steve and Wendy were in Port-au-Prince during the devastating earthquake of 2010. Instead of evacuating the country like most foreigners, they chose to stay. Steve helped shore up the municipalities most impacted by the earthquake and Wendy supported efforts to protect internally displaced persons as an Administrative Coordinator/Interim Program Manager, again for the U.S. Committee for Refugees and Immigrants.

After retiring in 2019 from Niger, Steve and Wendy finally returned to Concord with the intention of spending the rest of their lives with family and old friends whom they loved so much. After a gap of several decades, Steve returned to playing tennis, and enjoyed the challenges and comradery of doubles competitions. Spurred on by the pandemic's emphasis on outdoor activities, Steve and Wendy enjoyed hiking together on Concord's vast trail system.

Although not a publicly affectionate man, Steve left a trove of romantic letters written to his wife. Forming a remarkable team throughout their married and professional lives, Steve and Wendy lived and died next to each other, united for better or worse, when their lives were cruelly taken on April 18th.

This exceptional couple will be remembered for an impressive list of humanitarian accomplishments. Their lifelong contributions to making the world a better place have left an indelible mark on the lives of many people around the world, their children and all who knew them. It can be said that the two were loved and respected by all of those with eyes to see and ears to hear. They will be greatly missed.

Steve and Wendy were predeceased by Steve's parents William and Peggy-Ann (Leavitt) Reid, and Wendy's parents Bila and Poco Pasgo. They are survived and mourned by their daughter Lindsay Wenkouni Reid and husband Nathan Reynolds of Vermont; son Brian Reid and wife Jackelina of Florida; brothers and brothers-in-law; Peter Reid and wife Barbara of Concord; Mark Reid and wife Isabel of Miami, FL; Scott Reid and wife Marion of Warner; Jacob Pasgo and wife Happy Pasgo of Ouagadougou, Burkina Faso; sisters and sisters-in law; Susan Forey and husband Rod Forey of Concord, Marie Pasgo and Elise Pasgo of Lomé, Togo; brother Benjamin Pasgo and his wife Delphine of Lomé, Togo; as well as many beloved nieces, nephews and cousins.

A memorial service celebrating Steve and Wendy's lives will be held June 24 in Derry, New Hampshire. The exact time and location will be posted on the website of Waters Funeral Home @ https://www.watersfuneralhomeconcord.com/obituary/stephen-and-d-reid There will be another memorial service in Togo and/or Burkina Faso at a later date. In lieu of flowers, memorial donations may be made to PCI Media (www.pcimedia.org), and Doctors Without Borders (www.doctorswithoutborders.org).

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Published by Concord Monitor on May 26, 2022.

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Diana j Freund

October 24, 2022

I am so very sorry for the loss of Steve and Wendy Reid. Joan Reid was my aunt and was married to your uncle Merle Raymond Reid. Joan always talked about you guy and we were going to go back east to visit. the found memories Joan had of from your family . Joan passed away Sept. 24 2022 I am so sorry i will not here of the memories anymore. Thank you GOD for the fellowship you gave to her and your family Steve had contacted me about reaching Joan i gave him the information. My Heart is broken about the news about Steve and Wendy. Prayers and Love go to all of you.

Marie Hu

October 20, 2022

I did not know Mr & Mrs Reid, but I´m so sorry for the loss of them. I feel that the world has lost some of its brightness and humanity with the tragic passing of this loving couple. God bless the family of this lovely family, may He give you the strength you need to endure, and the peace in your heart that you deserve.

My deepest sympathies

PC Niger October 1981

Amy ONeill

June 23, 2022

I trained and served as a Peace Corps volunteer with Steve in Niger. He was so hard working and respectful to all, whether he was practicing Hausa, teaching or socializing with Peace Corps volunteers. Such good memories! My sincere condolences. Amy Fitzpatrick O'Neill

Michael Klinger

June 14, 2022

I have been a friend of Steve and Wendy for over 40 years. When I think of people who deserve reverence and respect for their accomplishments, those two rate quite high on my list. Which is why what happened is so tragic. A wonderful couple and two great people. My heart goes out to their families.
-Mike

Kent Elbow

June 12, 2022

I had the privilege of periodically working with Steve in several African countries and the US over a period of three decades. I could not name a professional collaborator for whom I have greater respect and admiration than I have for Steve. His unique combination of calm, competence and humility made him a role model in my eyes. I also had the good fortune on occasion to enjoy a group meal with Wendy, whose warm and outgoing personality ensured pleasant evenings and lasting memories. You´ve enriched my life, Steve and Wendy - and I´m a better person for that.

Marcia Nagy

June 2, 2022

My condolences to all regarding this wonderful family; didn't know them, but was a neighbor; such a tragic demise; so sorry.

Mary Jo Rousseau

May 30, 2022

I am so sorry and devastated by your loss. I remember Steve on Bow Street as neighbors. He used to babysit my sister and I. We kept him busy watching 2 girls! The Reid family have fond memories of my childhood. My thoughts and prayers are with all of you. I pray for Wendy and Steve.

Darlene Crandall

May 28, 2022

I never met them but as a neighbor I feel such sadness and have every day since this happened. What a beautiful couple. My thoughts and prayers are with their family over such a profound and horrific loss.

Kathy barker morang

May 27, 2022

I spent alot of time in my teen yrs with the reid family there were the happiest loving family sue and I were very good friends .I am so sad and sorry this happened . My heart goes out to a wonderful family

Greg Barrett

May 27, 2022

Most of us reading this obituary did not know this couple but, in the brotherhood of man we grieve as intensely as we would for our own friends and family, maybe more.
May the road rise to meet them...RIP

Richard & Dana Jones

May 27, 2022

GOD Bless Steve & Wendy. Our deepest condolences to the families. The world has lost two remarkable people.

Tom luckern

May 27, 2022

My thoughts and prayers go out to the Reid family , we shared the the same playing fields in the south end of concord in our youth.the world would be a better if we had more people like Steve and Wendy

Sherry Rosano

May 26, 2022

Sue I an so sorry for your loss of your brother and sister in law although I never met them they seemed to lead a very selfless life in helping others. You've been a great friend to my parents and wanted to let you know your family is in my thoughts. My mom sends her condolences.

Heidi Hamer

May 26, 2022

My deepest condolences to the families and friends of Wendy and Steve.

David Foster

May 26, 2022

What a lovely tribute. I didn´t know either of them, but the loss to Our little community and the whole World beyond is tangible. I am in tears.

natalia cereser

May 26, 2022

Natalia from Guatemala, offering my condolences to all the family, such an inspiring obvituary of two amazing people.

Sue Reagan LeBrecht

May 26, 2022

Scott and Susan,
Offering my sincere condolences for the loss of your brother and sister in law.
Heartfelt sympathy.

Susan Faretra

May 26, 2022

Two such worthwhile lives gone way too soon. Thank you so much for sharing this story of their life together, it's a beautiful tribute. I'm so sorry for your loss.

Kristin Austin

May 26, 2022

I didn't know Steve and Wendy, but I've been following their story and would like to offer my condolences to their friends and family. They sound like wonderful people who touched many hearts. May they together rest in peace.

Bob Nerbonne & Family

May 26, 2022

So sorry to the Reid family for your loss. In addition to school, I remember playing sports and tennis with Steve growing up in the south-end. Even then, growing up just having fun as kids, he was a kind, intelligent, fun, family oriented person. And although reserved, always showed his competitiveness in sports. Reading this, and seeing all he has done throughout the years, is not only honorable, but very consistent with all those attributes he showed growing up. And it sounds like he was fortunate that when he found, met, and married Djeswende, that he found a person with those same attributes. Thinking of you, and so sorry for your loss.

David Caswell

May 26, 2022

My condolences to the entire family on behalf my entire family who were friends with the family during Steve´s high school years in Concord.

Ed Harvey

May 25, 2022

My deepest sympathies to the Reid and Pasgo families. Steve and Wendy were two of the kindest and most wonderful people I have ever met. We will all miss them dearly. May they rest in peace.

The Entire Staff of Waters Funeral Home

May 26, 2022

Offering our deepest condolences at this difficult time.

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