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Stephen Gardner Waters, age 84, passed away after a long illness on April 5, at home. Born in Bridgeport, CT, the son of Dorothy Gavitte Waters and Everett Oyler Waters, he grew up outside of New Haven in Mt. Carmel, graduated from Mt. Hermon School (now Northfield-Mt. Hermon, Northfield, MA) - Class of '52, received a BA from Yale University in 1956 and a MALS from Wesleyan University in 1963. He served in the U.S. Army Reserves.

Steve began his teaching career at the Fay School (Southborough, MA) 1956. From 1959 to 1970, he taught English and Social Studies at the Englewood School for Boys (now the Dwight-Englewood School, in Englewood, NJ), became Principal of the lower-school, and Assistant to the Headmaster.

From 1970 until 1991, Steve served as Headmaster of St. Andrew's School (Barrington, RI). The school was founded in 1893 to serve disadvantaged boys. During Steve's tenure, he introduced programs to help kids with learning differences. In 1982 he introduced co-education.

Steve was interim Headmaster (1991-92) at the Oakwood School (Poughkeepsie, NY).

From 1992 to 1997 he served as Headmaster of the Charles Armstrong School (Belmont, CA), a school for the dyslexic learner. Steve's "whole child" approach added arts & physical education to the curriculum. This introduced self-expression to the students as well as a sense of community.

In 1997, he and his wife, Jane, returned to New England, to their beloved farmhouse in Deering, NH. Although retired, Steve remained committed to education and to his community. In 1997 he became a consultant for the administration of St. Thomas-Moore (Oakdale, CT). He became Vice-President of the Hillsborough Historical Society and was elected to two terms on the Hillsboro-Deering School Board (2000-2006). In 2007, Steve, along with his wife, Jane, was honored to be chosen as Citizens of the Year. Other contributions included: Youth Diversion Program (2005-17); Duncan-Jenkins Trust, Grant Committee (2000-006); Deering Foundation (Eleanor Campbell Charitable Fund), Board Member, and Emeritus. Steve also served the State of New Hampshire on several educational boards where he especially enjoyed mentoring student teachers for Plymouth State University as a Clinical Faculty member. Closer to home at LINEC (Learning Institute at New England College) he enjoyed attending classes and served as chairperson for its 25th-anniversary celebration. A life-long learner, Steve often said: "I never left school!"

In 2000 he joined the Deering Community Church where he had responsibilities as Moderator and as a member of several committees including the choir. He also was a leader of the planning committee for the UCC "Prepared to Serve".

An accomplished pianist and downhill skier, Steve was a gifted writer and public speaker with featured editorials in the Concord Monitor. He enjoyed traveling, the annual "mini-reunions" with his classmates from Northfield-Mt. Herman, and weekly outings with friends known as the "Knights of the Roundtable" whose motto is "Often in error, never in doubt". Steve was a member of the AMC for fifty years, spending many memorable summers with his family at Three Mile Island Camp on Lake Winnipesaukee, NH.

Steve is fondly remembered for his kindness and respect for everyone, his listening skills, his enduring faith in people's better angels, his humility, generosity, wry sense of humor, and ever-ready smile. Perhaps most important in his life was his wife, Jane, married for 54 years. They were known for their coordinating and matching outfits!

Preceded in death by his parents, sister, Deborah Waters, and daughter, Carolyn Maren Waters. He is survived by his wife Jane; son John and his wife, Tracy, their children, Turner, Jack, and Greer; his sister Hope Waters Thomas; nephews, Jim Hattstaedt, Bill Thomas, James Thomas, Peter Thomas, Ben Thomas, and niece, Martha Quigley, and their spouses.

Donations may be made to the Deering Community Church, 763 Deering Center Road, Deering, NH 03244, or The Stephen G.Waters Scholarship Fund, St. Andrew's School, 63 Federal Rd., Barrington, RI 02806.

A celebration of Steve's life will be at the Deering Community Church, 763 Deering Center Road, Deering, NH at 2:00 PM on Saturday April 27. There will be a Memorial service at St. Andrew's School, Barrington, RI in the fall.

To plant trees in memory, please visit the Sympathy Store.

Published by Concord Montior on Apr. 22, 2019.

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carol amd jack hubert

April 17, 2023

wishing we could go back in time and relive some of the wonderful interactions. much love

Carol Hubert

April 21, 2021

I can picture him singing in the angel choir and applauding Jane and all the church work she and we all are doing.
Love eternally Carol and Jack Hubert

Carol Hubert

April 16, 2020

I know with all my heart that Steve is watching over Jane and applauding how she has carried on with all her work and love. He lives on in our hearts and minds.

Richard Lufkin

May 15, 2019

Mr.Waters was headmaster while I was student at St.Andrews I invited him to be my speaker at my Eagle Court of Honor. He accepted and gave a great speech I always will remember that

Matthew Fong

April 27, 2019

Mr. Water's was the principle when I attended Charles Armstrong School. I remember him, because he taught the entire middle school the importance of a firm handshake and visited our classroom weekly to read the newspaper and drink hot chocolate. Thank you!

Shawn P. Egan

April 24, 2019

Blessed to know you Steve and know I will see you again...

Gregg Allen

April 22, 2019

Steve was a neighbor, and a friend that I admired and respected. He was a good man, and he will be missed. Our thoughts are with Jane.

April 22, 2019

I hear you playing the piano for the angels.taking my love with you. Carol Hubert

Michael Jones

April 22, 2019

Steve, I must consider myself blessed to have know you and had the pleasure of many a conversation with you. One did not need to exchange many words before knowing your love of Country, Family and the many friends you had. Our world is a better place having had you a part of it. May you rest in Peace for eternity.

Hutch Liebewein

April 22, 2019

Goodbye old friend! We'll miss you in coming reunions. May you rest in peace with our Lord Jesus Christ.

Russell Broad, Jr.

April 22, 2019

I was so happy to be able to say good-bye in person on April 4th to my very best friend of 74 years. I will miss our friendship over these many years.

Mary Bryan Terry

April 22, 2019

There will be many accolades for this fine man, but his perpetual search for truth, ethical and spiritual honesty and genuine concern for his fellow man have only been underscored by the love of his wife and family. Steve will live on forever in my heart.

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