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Tina Hightower
May 13, 2007
I have trying to figure out what to say so here I go. I meet Tommy and Billy when they were little boys when they came to Michigan with their mom and dad. I still keep in great contact with their mom and was gonna have Tommy come up to see me and the girls this summer. We were all looking forward to it but our time together will come when we all take our final step in life. My condolences to his family and may God be with you.
With all my Love,
Tina Hightower
Christine Provo
May 3, 2007
Tommy I just have to say Good-Bye again. I also want to tell you that there could never be anyone like you tommy and you should be here. I do not think it was your time but God has something for you to do tommy He needed your help like you needed his.I really wish you and your family had come up here to stay for a while I know that you would be so happy here just like I am. On the day of your funeral when we were at the parlor I just kept looking at you and even though I was crying so hard I watched to see if you would wake up I was waiting for you to get up and walk over to me and for us to go hang out...
I think about you everyday just like your wake cards said when I think of you I think about the fun we've had, about you crying on my shoulder and me crying on yours, most of all I will never forget your HEART always telling guys " Don't you hurt my cousin" Herald tells me that everyday he says he can hear you say it all the time. I know you can hear me talk to you all the time. I miss you not making "jail house soup in the kitchen" you know the one where when you put your hand threw it felt like water......
I know You are up there watching everyone here who LOVES you more then life itself. I know when those little miracles come that you were here giving all you got. Tommy you would never give up one anything nor would you ever walk away feeling defeated as I wont either I will never give up on you I will never let go of the times you & I have had.I dont ever want to dissappoint you so if I do I am very SORRY & I will never ever stop Crying for you , You are so special Tommy and you have put this dent in my heart not for pain but for love and everyday it hurts that your not here...
I LOVE YOU SWEETIE AND YOU CAN BET THAT EVERY TIME I GO TO CONNECTICUT I WILL BE STOPPING TO SEE YOUR HANDSOME LITTLE BUTT and I wil stop to see your Wife Lisa and my little baby cousins every time just so I can hold you over & over Again. I will end this here Tommy but never MY HEART. I LOVE YOU TOM I WILL ALWAYS LOVE YOU & I Miss you Constantly always Will...
LOVE ALWAYS YOUR COUSIN CHRISTINE & FAMILY HERALD, TOD J.R, BRYTTNIE-LYNN, PETE & JUANITA
P.S. YOU BETTER BE WAITING UP THERE AT THAT GATE FOR ME :)
Michele Auriemme
May 3, 2007
I would like to thank everyone for their thoughts, comments, and sympathy for our family. Thank you all for being a part of my son's life and all your special comments. They will last forever. It's nice to know that he touched so many people in many different ways.
Lisa Bird Mintell
May 2, 2007
Hey Hubby, I miss you so much. There's a spot in my heart that will never belong to anyone but you. I never knew what loneliness was till I lost you. Every day you are in my thoughts and every night you are in my dreams. I can't stop thinking about you. Every day I catch myself crying. I just can't believe this happened. Everything reminds me of you. Hearing car systems boom outside, certain foods you would eat, the smell of your cologne, things you would say, songs you liked, and movies you watched. I wish things were different, but I have to accept the things I can not change. So many memories I will never forget. At night I sleep with one of your shirts so I can feel closer to you. I kept all of your letters you sent me so I can read them. I even have the voice mail you sent me saved on my phone so I can hear your voice every day. I talk to you every day hoping you'll hear me. I love you more then anything, and this pain will never end. When you left you took a piece of my heart. I never thought it would end this way.You were so young and strong..never in a million years could I of seen this as the outcome. I thought we were going to grow old together. It's so hard knowing we have to do it without you. I would do anything to hold you in my arms again, and never let you go. I miss you more then words could express. It's so hard knowing I wont see you again. When my phone rings I keep wishing it would be you. Lil Tommy keeps your picture on his wall by his bed, and he kept all the pictures he drew for you. He loves you so much. He wanted me to call him Punkaroo cuz that's what you use to call him. He will always have a place for you in his heart. You were such a great father. I'm going to make sure the new baby knows who you are too. You were so excited about the baby. It hurts me so bad knowing you can't be here for when it's born. I'm just trying to have faith that you'll be there in spirit during the whole thing so you don't miss anything. I just don't get why it was your turn to go. I probably never will. There is so many unanswered questions that will never be answered. I miss you so much, your smile, laugh, hugs and kisses. but I know One day we'll be together again. I will be eventually coming home to you to share eternal life, and be free. and there will be no more pain. You're a very special person and you will never be forgotten. You have touched my life in so many ways. I love you babe. Just for you Hun ~ Wifey
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nick trovarelli jr
April 30, 2007
tommy was a good friend and a good dad to his son he will miss for eveyer
William Michael Auriemme
April 30, 2007
To my Older Brother Tommy, our history is all my history;
"Why is life unfair? A mother losing her son, a boy losing his dad, a widow so young, it's not supposed to be this way."
"Tommy, you weren't supposed to die, not you, you are so strong, physically, mentally...powerful. It hits me again and again when I see something that you enjoyed, something you ate, remembering something you would have said. All I have are pictures now. Pictures are hard, when I'm alone, you, frozen in my mind. When I see little Tommy, I think 'God no, how unfair.' How am I supposed to cope?
In dreams, I get the chance to you hug you, seems so real, I actually hear your voice. In them you tell me 'It's ok, don't worry, don't stress about it.' I wake up and tears are already there. I can't help it, so many things I could have said. I had never thought that 25 would have been the last time I had my chance. Why would I think otherwise? Too late, oh no...it's too late. You leave behind so much, a son. Little Tommy was your light, your reason for being, nothing compared to the love you had for your son. When you wanted to give up hope, when you were sad and you thought the world was tough, you would tell me, 'I only keep fighting because of my son.' And I would say, 'And that is reason enough.' I'm angry, sad, frustrated."
My brother. My blood. My opposite. We were opposites. Tommy and Billy, always came as a pair. Short and tall, brown hair and blond hair, you could never tell we were related. "He's your brother?" they would ask. "Yes, he's my brother." I was always proud to say that, I was so proud of him...despite his flaws, his errors, and his decisions.
I made a mistake too. I never told him I was proud of him...although he constantly said it to me, "I'm so proud of you." Stupid me. "Oh God, why did I never say that to him?" I am ashamed.
His heart was so big, so loving. Always wanted the best for everyone around him. He was always there to fight for me, to protect me.
"Tommy, you were always there, willing to fix any problem that I had, whether emotional or physical. And especially car problems, which many times you only made worse. Your stories, although you could tell when you were exaggerating, were always fun to listen to. Your character, original, fun-loving, cute, will never be forgotten. You would have found out how to fly if I wanted you to fly. You would have done anything I wanted you to do. You would have given me the world. To you, everyone else came first. You were endowed with such noble characteristics, admirable...not many people are like you. You always knew what I didn't. You had so much insight and experience in life that I would never be able to comprehend. So many people love you because you showed them love. You weren't supposed to leave just yet.
We are alone now...just the two of us, Mom and me, remembering you. I know God has you now, but He wasn't supposed to steal you...'Too early God, this death was too early...' Although it was early, at least I know that you are with Him. You are immortal now, in God's realm, watching over me, your son, your mother, your wife, your family, and many others. May you read my words, which are finite and constricted...and may you hear my heart, which speaks to you boundlessly.
You see how it hurts me at night, when I'm alone, how angry I am, it's hard to sleep. I have to turn your picture around because I can't look at it. I can't believe that you're gone. This is definitely the hardest thing that has ever happened in my life. God I am angry. But I know you are watching me, protecting me like always. I just want my chance to see you again, to speak to you. You never hung up phone without saying 'I love you,' and I'm angry because this time I couldn't say it back.
Now I must grow older without you, something I never imagined. You were supposed to be by my side as the years went on, Tommy and Billy, Mom's treasured children. I will protect her now, don't you worry.
May peace be upon you my brother. It's seems that dreams are our meeting place, and I am grateful for that. There I can see you and hug you, so vibrant, it makes me happy and sad. That will do, until one day when we will really meet again, and then I will get to tell you face to face, 'I am proud of you.'"
"God, protect my brother, show him the way, guide him, teach him, tell him that I love him."
"Tommy, I love you. I don't want you to go, but it's too late. I don't want to stop writing, but I have to. This goodbye is too hard for me to say to you, I can't say it...so for me, this is only 'A see you later.'...With eternal love, your little brother, Will."
Danielle Ludwig
April 30, 2007
Tommy I have so many thoughts of you running through my mind. Remembering all the times that i have spent with you and Billy, I'm going to miss them all. I think about you everyday, I still can't believe you are gone. To Aunt Mick and Billy I love and miss you guys.
YOUR COUSIN CHRISTINE PROVO
April 24, 2007
Hello Handsome I know that you hear me talking to you right now I have to say that your passing has hit me pretty hard I think about you constantly about how I could've helped you in any way, I miss the way you'd talk to me about things and how you and I knew exactly what the other one meant, how much fun we used to have they are now just memories for me to hold on to for the both of us. I Just want to say for the record Tommy You Were The Best Cousin I had and I will never forget you My Family ( My Fiance Herald (who you know ), Toddie, & Bryttnie, & My Parents Pete & Juanita none of us will ever forget you and we miss you with each day that passes by till I see you again with your wings on I am Thinkin About You, Missing You, & Loving You More then You know I LOVE YOU BABY LOVE YOUR COUSIN ALWAYS CHRISTINE
Lisa Bird-Mintell
April 15, 2007
Tommy, words can't even express what I'm feeling right now. It still doesn't seem possible. We had our future planned out. You stay on my mind every single minute of the day. I miss you so much I don't know what I'm going to do without you. I miss you calling me every day hearing your voice, and all the text messages you would send me just to say I love you. I feel like a piece of me is missing and I feel so empty. The only thing that is getting me through this is having a piece of you live on through your kids and knowing that every day that goes by is a day closer till we are together again. You meant the world to me, and you will be always in my thoughts and forever in my heart. I love you so much. I still remember the nicknames we gave each other and the random road trips we would take. We had a lot of memories that will never be forgotten. Rest in Peace. I love you hun.
Hazel Marie Chevett
April 14, 2007
This is my Third Attempt. I wanted to let you know tommy that you will be missed by a lot of people. I sorry our lives ended up differently than we talked about. I know you are looking down on me and all your family and friends. You will be all of our Guardian angels. Anyone that knew you will truely miss you. I send my deepest Condolences to your family and friends. I will always have our memories and times together. I know that it will take time for your family and friends but I know you would want us all to move on with our lives but always remember you. Love you always. I know you would like my fience.
Samuel McDougall
April 13, 2007
Tummy i still think about you daily, everytime i hear a system outside, everytime i see a honda. wow cuzz i really miss you, cant wait to get back up wit you...
love always your cousin SAMMY & KAYCEE & CHILDREN
Aunt Mickey and Billy God bless you two, just know I have always loved Tommy as a brother and if I seen him doing something to hurt himself you know I would stop it. Just know that I am truly sorry for your lose.
meredith figlar
April 11, 2007
RIP Tommy,i will miss you and my condolences to the family.
love meredith
Christine Provo
April 11, 2007
This is the second time I am writting something to my cousin Tommy. Hey there you handsome boy you !! I miss you and I love you, The last time I wrote in here I am assuming that someone didnt like what I had written so the deleted my message but thats o.k. this is for Tommy. I arrived at the funeral home to see you and during the fathers prayer I was watching you and I really just wanted you to look over at me and to just get up come over to me and for us to leave like we always did but, you wouldnt wake up always so stubburn right Tom. I will never forget you as I placed the carnation and roses that I kissed on your casket I thought about a millon things about when we were younger like when your mom and dad came to buy my grandmas washer and dryer and you, me, Billy, and my sister Cynthia all made popcorn and about the time you put your hand threw my kitchen wall and how about when you and sammy called and you ripped the stearing wheel off of the car see Tommy I remember you and I know you were in my room with me the other day thank-you for being in my life all the time I WILL ALWAYS LOVE YOU AND I WILL ALWAYS MISS YOU YOU WILL NEVER BE FORGOTTEN LOVE YOUR COUSIN CHRISTINE PROVO
lawrence j pitcher
April 9, 2007
tommy you will be greatly missed by all who knew and loved you,from all of us and especially me.
you are an angel now,be free.
R.I.P. BROTHER
Lisa Bird - Mintell
April 7, 2007
I would like to thank everyone for their thoughts and prayers for my husband Tommy. He will live on thru his son Thomas and his unborn child. He was a great man who loved with all his heart. I will always love him with all my heart and he will be greatly missed, and I know one day we will be together again. We always knew we were each others soul mate, and we stuck together thru the good times and always found our way back to each other thru the bad times. I will always cherish the memories of our wedding, the smile on his face when he saw his first child born and the smile on his face when I told him we were expecting our second child in October of this year. I know he is watching over us and is with us at all times. His memory will live on. XOXO I love you Tommy. <3
Vince Miller
April 7, 2007
My boy Tommy, the "Wheelman". We spent sooooo much time together in cars. No matter what vehicle, you were drivin. I always thought on our last trip together that I'd be ridin and you'd be drivin. Turns out, on our last trip you were ridin, and I was walkin.But I know I wasn't takin you anywhere bad,I know in the end it its all love. Tell I see you again my friend.
Love,
Newt
debbie corica
April 5, 2007
dear tommy we will miss you i am sorry this hapenned and you wont be here to spend time with us and your nephew we will miss you alot love always debbie and kody jr.
frank
April 5, 2007
god bless tommy he was like a brother to me i meet him when i was 11 and i will never forget him i say a pray everynight for you and to his mom iam sorry for your lost and iam sorry i couldent make it to his wake to pay my respect but ill be there so see you and iam going to his grave your boy fatz
Lynne Moore
April 4, 2007
My mother & I met Tommy over 7 years ago through our family, Niki & Jim Brennan. Tommy was a great person. He and Jim helped us in our home with painting. Tommy was proud of his son. His eyes would smile when he spoke to us about him. This is a terrible loss for all of you. Take comfort and remember the good times you shared with him. Tommy will always be with us in spirit. Please know our thoughts and prayers are with you all during this difficult time.
Diana & Lynne Moore
Kathleen Mintell Packer
April 4, 2007
To Grandfather Tom
My deepest sympathy on the loss of your Grandson. Kathleen Mintell Packer
Linda and Dee
April 4, 2007
Dear Micki, Tom & Billy:
It doesn't seem that long ago that we were all together at one of our picnics on Laurel Ave. So much has changed since then.
It's so hard to understand why God calls our loved ones home, especially at such a young age. Tommy was a good kid, loving and special. He always had a special place in our hearts and has left us with precious memories.
Please know that our thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time.
Tasha (Clark) Perregaux
April 4, 2007
To Michelle,Tom Sr and Billy,
Tommy thought the world of all of you. You were always there for him and he told me how much he appreciated it and loved you.He will be with each of you in everything you do. Tommy was a great guy who could always make you laugh and would of done anything for anyone. He will be missed dearly. I wish I could make it tonight but I won't be able to. Just know that my thoughts and Prayers are with each of you. To Lisa, Tommy loved you more than anything there isn't anything he wouldn't of done for you. I know you two had many ups and downs but when remembering him remember all the great times you had together because thats all that matters. To Tommy Jr, your dad loved you more than anything and anyone he would of given you the world if he could. The last time I saw you, you looked so much like him. God bless all of you. And always remember You may not be able to see Tommy but he will be with you all everyday and in everything you do.
Barbara Carey (Welker)
April 4, 2007
I have not seen little Tommy since he was a toddler. The reason no longer matters.
I enjoyed reading the beautiful things people have said about him. I wish I had gotten to know him.
May the Good Lord get the family through this time of hardship.
Paul Hightower
April 4, 2007
Tommy:
He was great to be around and always had a smile,always was there to help and give you his support. You will always in my heart and mind. When I'm trucking I'll be thinking of you driving my truck and learning to be able to do this on your own like we were talking about. Watch over us all and we will be seeing some day. God bless you.
P.S. God take great care of our Tommy Boy!!!
Steven Jimenez
April 4, 2007
RIP Tommy, my condolences to the family.
Carmen and Donna
April 4, 2007
To the family : I can't imagine how your coping with this . Just know that God's love is with you and all you have to do is lean on him . Our prayers are with you all . If you should ever need someone just to talk to don't hesitate to call .With great love and compassion .
ziggy r.
April 4, 2007
R.I.P TOMMY your CUZZ ZIGGY
Samuel McDougall
April 4, 2007
I'm Tommy's cousin Sam... Tommy I will always miss you and love you... I never seen it endeing this way.
Samantha Cushnie
April 3, 2007
God Tommy why did u have to leave us all.... u are a great man and didnt desever this.... i will never forget you babish, you were a great bother and friend to me i will never let you go you will live strong in my hearts and Solos heart as well.... things will never be the same till we are together again....GOD BLESS YOU boi!!!!
heres a lil poem for you
~WILL BE MISSED~
"The days go by with out a trace
I cant seem to stay on track
my mind keeps slipping to your death
I just wish I could get you back
it gets harder and harder to cope with
Just aint right that it happened to you
well miss you always remembering you truly
with out you can you still make it through
I do know that it will be hard
effecting us all every single day
I didnt know you all that well
at least I knew you that I can say
just know we miss you
and never will I forget your face
Ill love you always never forgetting
Cause youve got a place in my heart a special place!"
Rose Linnartz
April 3, 2007
RIP Tommy you will be missed but always kept in my heart you were and always will be my friend. i have know you for years and will remember all the good times together.
Gayle and Mike Caro
April 3, 2007
My husband Michael and myself were Tommy's neighbors for years. When I first met him he was just the cutest 10 year old with that long dark hair. We always enjoyed having him come over - to listen to his stories. He helped my husband in the yard and with carpentry work. We are still in shock that Tommy was called home so early. Our hearts go out to Mikey, Will and Tom and the rest of Tommy's extended family as we know how much you are suffering. We pray that God gives you the strength and peace that you need.
Sincerely,
Gayle and Mike Caro
CRYSTAL CRUTE
April 3, 2007
WE WILL ALWAYS MISS TOMMY HE WAS A GREAT FRIEND THAT EVERONE KNOW AND LOVE I WOULD LIKE TO THANK EVERONE FOR SHOWING THERE LOVE IF YOU WOULD LIKE TO KNOW THE FUNERAL ARRANGMENT YOU CAN CALL ME AT 203-494-9590 AT ANY TIME
CRYSTAL CRUTE
April 3, 2007
RIP TOMMY.WE ALL LOVE HIM SO MUCH HE WAS A GRET GUY AND LOTS FOR PEOPLE KNOW HIM. FOR ANYONE THAT WOULD LIKE THE FUNERAL ARRANGMENTS THEY CAN CONTACT ME AT 203-494-9590 LEAVE A MESSAGE IF I DONT ANSWER AND ILL GET BACK TO YOU ASAP THANK YOU ALL FOR SENDING YOUR LOVE.
Tasha (clark) Perregaux
April 3, 2007
I can't believe this is true.I have known Tommy forever and even dated him for a short while. to tommy's mom,dad and brother I am so very sorry for your loss he was a great kid. Tommy Jr just know your daddy loved you more than anything. I learned alot from Tommy and I will keep him in my prayers forever and close to my heart. God bless all of you at this sad time in your lives.
Niki Brennan
April 3, 2007
I will always remember the late phone calls when Tommy needed just to talk or just needed some where to go(usually at dinner time).I will never forget any of the special times we have shared over the many years I have known him. Tommy has been such a BIG part of my life for many years, and I can't imagine my life with out him. He was like a brother to me. I will miss him dearly. He will always be with me, and everyone else whos life he has touched in one way or another.
Niki Brennan
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