Paul Fleming Munde Shaver III
NAGS HEAD, N.C. - Paul Shaver, an Outer Banks businessman, investor and continent-hopping adventurer, died Sunday when he was thrown from an all-terrain vehicle on his mountain property in Montvale, Va. Paul Fleming Munde Shaver III, known to his friends as 'Paulie,' died at age 65, although his physician medically certified him as age 55 and he always thought himself to be even younger. Paulie, son of the late Paul F.M. Shaver II and Betty Shaver, was born and raised in Newport News, Va., where he attended Warwick High School. In Newport News, he worked as a bank manager and worked for his father's piano business, Shaver's Magnavox. In his younger years he traveled Europe, lived abroad, taught skiing in Switzerland and ran with the bulls in Pamplona, Spain. He is survived by his soul mate and lifetime partner, Sarah Morris; his daughter, Kimberly Harrah, and her significant other, Jimmy Bayne; and his son, Leonard A. Bennett, and his wife, Drina Northam, who Paulie was very close to and gave away at their wedding. He is also survived by his granddaughter, Kendall Carrithers, who he thought of as his daughter and his granddaughter, Sydney Smith. Also surviving him are his brothers, Billy Shaver, now of Buchanan, Va., and Jack Shaver of Newport News, Va.; his sister, Sally Cudworth of Bel Air, Md., and their spouses, Cheryl, Mary Lou and Carl. He lost his younger sister, Beth, to an automobile accident when she was a teen. Paul is also survived by countless close friends, including his former wife and mother of his children, Donna Harrah, and friend, Bill Jordan. On late Sunday afternoon, Paulie left on his 4-wheel ATV to travel up a mountain on his Goose Creek Valley property. When he did not return after dark, Sarah and a neighbor searched for and found Paul. He was thrown off the ATV and suffered what is believed to be a fatal neck injury, while traversing a steep part of the mountain. The medical examiner believes that he died near instantly. Paulie lived in his Nags Head home in the Nature Conservancy and came to the Outer Banks over 34 years ago. Paul was the owner of The Black Pelican Seafood Company Restaurant, Kitty Hawk. Together with his partner, John Lancaster, he began his ventures in the Outer Banks with the night club 'Oz.' They then built and operated Nags Head Realty and J. Fleming Munde's Restaurant, which was later sold to Kelly's. They also developed and owned the Barrier Island Station Resorts and recently formed Barrier Island Aviation. Paulie was also co-owner of Surgarcreek Café, formerly RVs, Nags Head and numerous other real estate and ventures in the Outer Banks, Roanoke Valley, Wyoming and even Switzerland. Paulie lived an adventurous life, but was never a daredevil. He raced cars and trucks, including a stint in the NASCAR's Sportsman class, marathon rally races from London, England, to Sydney, Australia, and recently, in May 2006, up the length of South America, and even desert racing across the Mexican Baha. In addition to running with the bulls in Pamplona, Paulie mountain climbed and even took the opportunity to fly a Russian Mig Jet. An avid pilot, he regularly and often flew young burn victims and their families for the Shriners, and together with long time friend Rex Peters, flew relief missions for Hurricane Katrina victims. Memorial contributions may be made to Transitions Family Violence Services, 137 Kings Way, P. O. Box 561, Hampton, VA 23669. There will be a memorial celebration at 6 p.m. Tuesday, Aug. 8, at the James River Country Club, Newport News, Va.
Published by Daily Press from Aug. 3 to Aug. 6, 2006.
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Paul, it's been many years since you left us, however, your presence is ever present within the people in which you had an impact and shared your life with.
Paul Benko
July 26, 2020
Valenda Newell
September 19, 2016
Was flitting thorough online and had recently run into an old friend in Portsmouth and started thinking about Paul and Sarah ... imagine my shock to see that Paul passed on and I didn't know about it. Truly never thought he would give up life for anything ... my thoughts are with you Sarah ... Brie and I have the fondest memories of staying on the 'island' with Ms. Mary. Give me a call.
Sheryl Bessette/Sacerino/Almy
April 1, 2008
Paul is the only person I've met who stayed at my favorite hotel in Katmandu, Nepal...the Yak and Yeti. But then, I'am not suprised.

Rest in lived a life!
Ben Grimes
May 24, 2007
To my beloved farther, my rock, insperation and the love of my life. I love you more than words can explain. I can not except that you are gone. I have been in a black hole since you left me and children. I want you back desperatly. But since Teresa Merritt has left us, I am sure you are with her and that is a confort for me. DAD, I LOVE YOU MORE THAN YOU COULD EVER NO. PLEASE TAKE CARE OF TERESA, FOR I NO YOU WELCOMED HER WITH OPEN ARMS TO HEAVEN. I miss you! Love to you from your only daughter, Kimberly Anne Shaver.
Kimberly Shaver
March 18, 2007
Hello Paul~
We lost another angel... Theresa Merritt, I am so glad she is with you. Her husband sent her a song that Rex and Tori are putting a video together it is "Have I told you lately that I love you" what a beautiful song... tears... tears why do so many people we love leave us.. why...we will be there for your daughter and husband count on us

much love Sue
Sue Erickson Goodrich
February 23, 2007
Hi Paulie,

Have been looking at footage of the London to Sydney marathon and the Sudamericana Rally and there you were as large as life. Always thinking of you and hold you in a special place in my heart.
Paul Benko
January 16, 2007
Dear Paul,
Rex and I and Eddie and Sue were up late watching the video Rex put together for you:) we laughed ,we cryed,we felt alone, we still miss you terriably.....
Sara coming to Sue's for dinner tomorrow night,we love reminising about you:) The Bright days on the Outer Banks just don't feel the same with out you:( anyway just thought I would write it down..We love you and still miss you Paulie.......Love Tori
Tori Peters
January 14, 2007
Dear Paul and Sarah~
Wishing you comfort during this Holiday we miss you still...... does it ever end ...the hurt
Love you all
Sue Erickson Goodrich
December 25, 2006
Hello Paulie~
My sister Tori said, it was your Birthday today... Happy Birthday we will always remember the day you touched our hearts. Tonight there is an gentle evening shower which makes me think of all the tears that are falling...still... sad tears and happy tears for all the lives you have touched.... Sarah always said, "Write it down, it makes you feel better." So I am writing, finally, perhaps you are my angel I can write to. Love to all
Sue Erickson Goodrich
September 19, 2006
Imet paulie while living in Kitty Hawk and also working at Ace Hardware in Nags Head. When you met Paulie you would never know he was more than the guy next store. A GREAT GUY!
Dave Rick
August 23, 2006
Billy, Cheryl, Kim, my kindest regards in this terribly sad time. Know he will be missed by all, he was one of a kind, and we all loved him. Some of my fondest memories are from those days we all had together so long ago.
Rob Askew
August 23, 2006
Paul was larger than life to many of us who had the fortune of even meeting him shortly. He was interested by all he met and seldom talked of his own achievements. His humor in adversity and his eternal smile were the encouragement we so often need.
My condolences to all his loved ones.
He will be missed
Hans-Erik Rhodius
August 21, 2006
So Paulie, you bring me to this quote...

"Life should NOT be a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in an attractive and well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, chocolate in one hand, wine in the other, body thoroughly used up, totally worn out and screaming "WOO HOO what a ride!"

Now if there is one person in all the world I could think of that has lived their life to the fullest no matter what, every single second of every single day, with the good bad and indifferent it would be you! You have inspired, traveled, loved, hoped, wished, smiled, helped, worn blue eye shadow for crying out loud (haha), faced your fears, been a great friend, laughed, flown, conquered mountains in vehicles, visualized, made things happen and so much more! Most importantly Paulie you've touched the lives of so many people and we are all so lucky to have known you and have you in our lives for the time we did.
All of the emails and conversations, which I still remember to this day, I often reflect back upon and they still give me that boost when I need it. I'm sure that is true for several of us. I miss you and will continue to miss you the rest of my life, but I get at least some peace of mind knowing that you lived...truly LIVED. You will be my constant reminder that that's exactly how I want to live my life. TO the FULLEST ever day no matter what. You had a great life Paulie...and I hate to see it cut short it. It hurts...literally. Just know that anyone who knew you is a better person because of you.

I admire you. I love you. I miss you.

With all my gratitude and so much thanks,
Brittany Love
August 19, 2006
To the entire family, we are sorry for your loss. Our prayers and thoughts are with you.

Corrie Shumate & Connie & Chris Lowe
August 18, 2006
Dear Bill and Cheryl,
I was heartbroken to hear of Paulie's death. He definitely lived life to the fullest and touched us all. Take care.
Suzan Bell(Forbes)
August 11, 2006
Paulie, you were more than just my grandfather,father and bestfriend you were my hero. I couldn't of ever imagined living a day without you pushing me through it. I love you so much and still can't stand the fact that i lost you forever but i know i can carry you in my heart till the day that I'm with you again. All my accomplishments from here on out are for you paulie. love kendall mae ..your biggest fan
August 10, 2006
Dear Paulie~
I miss you.... In a blink of an eye you were gone.... did you know how many people you inspired? Did you really know? You inspired my daughter's Lindsay and Jenny, my niece's Brittany, Casey, and Catherine my nephew Brandon, and me and my husband Eddie. One thing I have learned during this sad, sad time is, I know that you gave us all a gift... don't be afraid of living... capture life at its best! Don't waste time on things we cannot change, but to grasp life, to love, and to cherish. I open my eyes through the tears and you were gone.... forever in this life, that's the hardest part to deal with. I am going to miss your sweet ornery smile, your mischievous playful ways, but I will never miss you in my heart.
We will cherish your entire family.
Sally, I never had the pleasure of meeting you until recently, but Paul said to us, he had a sister and her name was Sally. That's my mom's name. I never forgot it. Sally's are terrific! That being said, I give my heart to you Sarah and to all of the Shaver Family, may you find comfort knowing how much Paul meant to all of us.
Much love,
Sue Erickson Goodrich aka: Tori's sister and Rex's sister-in-law
Sue Erickson Goodrich
August 9, 2006
A legend has departed. What a guy! Over the events that Paul did with TWE we developed a seriously good relationship and spent lots of time just having a laugh. Paul never ever talked about all the good things he did for others, you had to really dig hard to get him to chat about that. He will be sorely missed by all of us, not just for his fun and humor but for his incredible competitiveness. You will be missed Paul but everyone at TWE will keep a very special memory of you.
Mike Summerfield
August 8, 2006
Paul and I were born into the Shaver family 65 years ago, one month apart, and we played together as babies, toddlers, youngsters and teens. Through all the years, we were close friends as well as first cousins. His escapades throughout the world amazed us all - always wishing him safe journeys.

"Thank you, Paul, for always being there, these past 65 years. You were there for one of the happiest days of my life, when you married Robert and I, soaring high above the ocean east of St. Augustine, as captain of your aircraft. One of the saddest days of my life was driving through the midnight's darkness toward your and Sarah's home in Roanoke, just last week, to be there for you, one last time. A huge part of my life, the lives of all of those who knew and loved you, is gone, the void is bottomless, but cherished memories of happy times and lessons of human compassion will always remain. Thank you for being 'you'. See ya' wherever ya' are, sometime soon!"
Elsie Jay Carr
August 8, 2006
Paul I still remember when you took my cousin Brittany and I out for a drive in Wyoming. We were in the middle of nowhere, with so many feet of snow around us, but I felt so safe when you were driving. I remember you talking about when you were growing up and the hardships you had endured to get where you were. I dont think you knew at the time how much you influenced the rest of my life. Looking at such an ambitious driven man made me realize thats how I wanted to truly be. I told you things in that car that I didnt want to be said again and you said you promised not to tell, and you didnt. I trusted you for your advice and I loved your great heart. That trip was still the best adventure I have ever been on. Thank you for everything, you will be truly missed. Rest in peace.
Lindsay Erickson
August 7, 2006
I am very sadden over Paul's early passing.
Norris Perry
August 7, 2006
May time and cherished memories help to gently ease the loss you bear and may it bring you special confort to know that he lives on in those memories.
Geneva Owlsey Matteis
August 7, 2006
I give my hartfelt condolences to all of Paulies family and friends. I recently competed in the SudAmericana rally with Paul and had developed a real friendship with him. A marvelous human being has been lost to all. My prayers and thaughts are with you.
Paul Benko
August 7, 2006
My condolences to the Shaver Family and all his Friends,Paul was a fine fellow ,I hadn't seen Paul since he moved to Nags Head. Paul and I and many other of his friends Graduated from Warwick High in 1959. very sorry for his loss.
Charles M. [Charlie] Fry Jr.
August 6, 2006
I was visiting my brother in Concord this weekend and took my kids to the Charlotte racetrack today. I was telling them about the time I was there with you and Paul, I showed them the scorekeepers box where he let me keep score for him, and how much fun I had in the "pits" with all of you.
As you can imagine I was shocked to read about Paul when I got home this afternoon. Please know that my thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time.
Chris Jeter
August 6, 2006
Dear Sarah, and the rest of the family, We were so shocked and sorry to hear what happened to Paul. Our hearts go out to you. It is tragic. We will always be glad we got the chance to know Paul, especially Annie, who cried when she heard what happened. Don and Helen Hollis, Annie and Gary (Cheryl's brother and family)
Helen Hollis
August 6, 2006
We were shocked to learn of Paul's death. Although it has been many years since we'd seen Paul, he remained in our thoughts. Paul took me to my high school prom, (class of '61) my boy friend, (Goose) was in college and since we were all such good friends, Paul became my date so I wouldn't miss my senior prom. My husband Walt (Goose) Carter (class of '58) and I will never forget all the wonderful times we had, not only at Warwick High School but also just hanging out on the corner in Hilton Village. Thoughts of Paul always brings a smile and a small wish that we were all back there once more, wearing pegged pants and smelling of Old Spice......Thanks Paul for the wonderful memories!!!
With deepest sympathy,
Susan and Walt
Susan Carter (Seabolt)
August 6, 2006
I miss you already, you will always be in my heart. You always said "Keep it on the sunny side." I will miss your words of inspiration and direction. May
the angels be with you now.

Trina Banks
August 6, 2006
I loved this poem..... It kind of bought some comfort to me.... I hope it does for all of you too:)
Please do not be unhappy just because I'm out of sight.
Remember that I'm with you every morning, noon and night.
That day I had to leave you when my life on earth was through,
God picked me up and hugged me and He said, "I welcome you."

Take comfort in knowing that now you have a special guardian angel to watch over all of you.
Tori Peters
August 5, 2006
To Sara & all the Shaver Family,
Stay Strong and keep your sweet smiles:) Paulie would of wanted it that way:)..........I am so happy I have shared tons of happy times and memories with all of you.....I will cherish them forever!
"Semper Fi."............ Much love always Tori Peters
Tori Peters
August 5, 2006
Paul will really be missed by more than most. He was always a part of our reunions and it will not be the same without him.
Mary Faulkner Kurowski
August 5, 2006
To have known Paul was indeed a blessing. He will be fondly remembered by all of us here on the Outer Banks as well as the rest of the world that he touched. Truly a great loss for us all. His contributions to the Outer Banks and the people in his life are more than anyone could comprehend. Billy and family, you are in my thoughts and prayers.
David Hoppe
August 5, 2006
I first met Paul the summer of 1976, we had many a fun evening at the OZ. Everyone loved Paul, he was larger than life. He will be truly missed.
Teresa Merritt
August 5, 2006
paulie was a great friend to me and my husband rick. we sailed the bvi's together along with sarah, rex, tori,sammy, linda, carl, donna,and a host of others.our last trip together was belize in 2005.we will always treasure those memories! we'll miss ya paulie! love, jayne loesch
jayne loesch
August 5, 2006
We will miss you so much Paul, knowing you for so many years has been a great joy and a wonderful experience. You are a awesome man and we will never forget you and that beautiful grin that you carried with you all the time.
We love you,
Sam and her family
Alisha Scaff
August 5, 2006
I grew up with Paulie, although he was younger than I. I remember him and his family well, living across the street from his grandparents, and around the corner from him, his parents and siblings. He was more of a friend of my brother. My condolences to all of the Shaver family. Your loss is my loss.
Martin Evans
August 5, 2006
Paul will be missed by so many. He had a certain charisma about him not had by many folks.
Billy Hudgins
August 4, 2006
I'll miss you.

peggy young (Woodall)
August 4, 2006
Knowing Paul in the Hilton area in Newport News (Warwick really), he was always full of enthusiasm. After graduating from high school I lost contact with Paul until the high school reunions, I am sorry that I did not know Paul better. The reunions will never be the same. Life for him was all the fun you could squeeze from it. May God bless the family at this time of such a shocking and untimely loss.
Martin Givens
August 4, 2006
When Suzette called me Monday morning with the incomprehensible news of Paul's tragic and untimely death, I felt sick to my stomach. How could this be? My old friend who was THE most daring, fun-loving, life-loving person I'd ever known was no longer with us? I was maddeningly shocked! I called my brother, Teddy, and we exchanged stories of our unforgettable adventures with Paul. As my anger slowly subsided, my heart filled with a great sadness. I was so looking forward to seeing him again soon...
Nags Head will never be the same for me; just as it was never the same after Paul and John moved there many years ago. Thank you, Paul, for all the good times. (Thanks for opening your home to me; and allowing me to teach Cecil how to brush his teeth in your bathroom! Thanks for the job at the OZ! Thanks for the birthday dinner with Pam.) Though you'll live on in our memories, in our hearts, in our stories, and in our photographs, you will be missed beyond words. May God bless your soul!
My heartfelt sympathies to his family, John, and to Sarah.
With love and prayers,
Barbara E Tyner
Barbara E Tyner
August 4, 2006
He will be missed by many
August 4, 2006
I haven't seen Paul in more than 20 years. he was a frequent visitor to my mothers busness, Franks Italian Restaurant. He lent me the money to buy my first car in 1964 when he worked for the bank (no cosigner,handshake only). He was a great guy and I always enjoyed listening to him talk to my mother about a great business opportunity in a place called Nags Head. My best to his family. I know he will be missed.
Ron Angello
August 3, 2006
Paul, we will meet again.

It is the will of God and Nature that these mortal bodies be laid aside, when the soul is to enter into real life; 'tis rather an embrio state, a preparation for living; a man is not completely born until he be dead: Why then should we grieve that a new child is born among the immortals? ~Benjamin Franklin, 22 February 1756.
Dicky Dawes
August 3, 2006
My heartfelt sympathy is extended to all of Paul's loved ones of family & friends-- indeed, an extensive list--from the Outer Banks and beyond. He was truly an amazing person who I will fondly recall as one of the first to give me my first real job upon my arrival to Nags Head back in the early '90s...I wrote the "Legend of the Black Pelican" for him when that beloved Kitty Hawk beach gathering place, The Black Pelican, was a mere eatery concept in Paul's fantastic imagination. Paul is a dynamic, generous, fearless individual who liked to involve all those fortunate to be around him in his endless energy for fun, fortune and overall LIFE. Everlasting CHEERS to you Paul--may you rest in peace and know that your "LEGEND" will always live on.
Lisa (Haraburda) Sharp
August 3, 2006
Pamela Boyd
August 3, 2006
My sympathy and condolences go to the Shaver family and friends.
My wife and I are owners at Barrier island station at Kitty Hawk. Mr. Shaver was the chairman of the board and he was always very responsive and friendly when we would see him at the yearly owners meetings. I am saddened to hear of his terrible accident.
Douglas Martin
August 3, 2006
Kim and Donna, I am so sorry for your loss. My prayers and thoughts are with you and all your family. God has another angel watching over you now.
Take care and God bless.
Gary P. Webb
August 3, 2006
Paulie was the most remarkable and special person I have ever met. His joy of living and generous soul were endless. My world is forever dimmed with his passing.
Mrs. James J (Cindy) Jordan
August 3, 2006
So sorry to hear of your loss. My deepest sympathy to you and your family.
Debbie Cross
August 3, 2006
Paul built my parents house in Kitty Hawk back in the 70's and his house was across the street. He was larger than life and he reminded me of Richard Petty only smarter. He knew back then what the Outer Banks was to become. If there was ever a "Mr. Nags Head" it was Paul. Through his accomplishment, a lot of people were employed. I don't know anybody who didn't work for him at one time or another. Paul made me laugh and I always wished I had his energy and business accumen. The last time I saw him, he was holding court at Barrier Island. He will be missed. My condolences go out to all his friends and family. Rest peacefully Paul.
Tom Jensen
August 3, 2006
I'm so very, very sorry about Paul, I know everyone is heart broken. I wish I could wave a magic wand and turn back time to before Paul went riding on his ATV. I wonder if Aunt Bettye, Uncle Paul, Beth, Grandma and Grandpa Dunham, and Mary needed Paul with them, but I don't think they would have taken him away so soon. My thoughts are with you all, love, Barbara Jay
Barbara Jay Bromley
August 3, 2006
Len and Family,

I am so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Pamela Campbell
August 3, 2006
Sheryl and Bill, my heart goes out to you. I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. Paul will surely be missed by hundreds of friends and family. You'll be in my prayers, take care and I love you both.
Iris Silverthorne
August 2, 2006
Dear leonard, Drina, Kimberly and Kendall: I never knew Paul but I know he was a "great" person as he was loved by all of you. I pray that God will help heal your hurt. Love all of you.
Dreama Coleman
August 2, 2006
My thoughts and prayers go out to Paul's family and friends. I first met Paul in 1982 when I moved to the Outer Banks and worked at J Fleming Munde's. Paul and his brother Bill and sister-in-law Cheryl were wonderful employers and true friends.
Ruth Ann Ramey Ross
August 2, 2006
Paul's departure leaves a big hole in the Warwick High Alumni. I count myself lucky to have known him, and will miss his spirit of adventure and constant good humor. Mary and I always look forward to seeing him on our trips to the Outer Banks; it won't be the same without him. His family and friends will be in our thoughts and prayers.
Earl & Mary Snyder
August 1, 2006
The years have kept us somewhat a part but the memories were never far from my thoughts. Paulie was a big part of the high school "party people" from Warwick High School that I grew up with. We have enjoyed him at every class reunion since graduation. He did not graduate with me but, always came and surprised the people at the reunions and brought smiles and cheer. I felt I could call him at any given time and he took the time to catch up on all the things happening in his world and mine. Just last September he drove up from Nags Head to Newport News to buy me a beer and give me a hug and kiss at my reunion and then returned to be with Sarah. My life is better for knowing and having him in it. Love, Patsy
Patsy Queensberry
August 1, 2006
The Outer Banks would never have been the same without the significant influence of Paul. From the OZ to the present, Paul added a great deal of character to these islands that are our home.
Our thoughts and prayers are with the family and his many friends.
Harvey Hess and Family
Capt'n Franks, Kitty Hawk, NC
Harvey Hess
August 1, 2006
My thoughts and prayers are with you all. I met Paulie when he obtained permits for the home at Goose Creek. We talked about my love for Nags Head and when we were vacationing there he treated me & my family to dinner at the Black Pelican. He always had lots of interesting stories to tell and send pictures of. I am so sorry for your loss. He will be greatly missed
Teressa Dooley
August 1, 2006
In life we have many great influences, Paul was one of those greats! I'll remember him fondly and I hope all the footprints he left behind are comforting for those who were closest to him.
Crystal Hueston
August 1, 2006
Paul was a great guy and a pleasure to have known. My thoughts and prayers are with you all.
Donna Winters
August 1, 2006
We were very sorry to hear of your loss. Paulie was loved by all. He will truly be missed. Let us know if there's anything we can do for you. God Bless You!
Mr. and Mrs Matthew Hatter
August 1, 2006
Dear Puaulie,
I miss you more than life itself. As Leonard said when my grandma passed, "It's suppose to hurt, that's the way it is when you love someone." I love you and miss you and want you back!
Love Dreamer
Drina Northam
August 1, 2006
My sincerest sympathies to Paul's family.
Dale Pittman
August 1, 2006
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