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Frank B. Dilley

1931 - 2018

Frank B. Dilley obituary, 1931-2018, West Grove, DE

Frank Dilley Obituary

Frank B. Dilley

West Grove - Frank B. Dilley, who served for many years as Chair of the Philosophy Department at University of Delaware, died on Friday the 13th of April 2018. Consummate planner that he was, he drafted the following for his obituary:

"Frank would like to be remembered for his good points. 1: his efforts to reform the teaching of philosophy to make it more attractive to women and minority Americans; 2: his teaching directed to making philosophy a part of the lives of students who are not intended to be professional philosophers; and 3. helping to create distance learning opportunities for doctoral degrees for already employed older students (for which he was awarded an honorary doctorate by Walden University). He asks forgiveness from all he offended, including those he intended to offend.

He worked hard, too hard, to do those things while still helping his beloved wife Jane to raise a family of three - Brian (called Maxx), Carol, and Kathryn (called KK), who developed in quite different directions, all of whose accomplishments he admired. He leaves all of them behind along with six grandchildren.

Born in 1931, Frank grew up with two brothers and a sister (all now deceased) in an academic environment where his father Frank B. Dilley, was Director of Admissions at Ohio University in Athens Ohio, and his mother, Geneva Steiner Dilley, was very active in community and University affairs. He earned BA and MA degrees at Ohio University, a Master of Divinity at Union Theological Seminary, and a PhD from Union Theological Seminary and Columbia University. He won many awards which seemed important at the time but seemed to him finally to be not worth listing.

Frank taught at Sarah Lawrence, Smith College, and Milliken University, and came to the University of Delaware as Chair of the Philosophy Department in 1967. During that time, he left the chairship for four years to serve as Associate Provost. at the University of Delaware. He published two books, about forty articles, and miscellaneous reviews and minor pieces.

His last years were lived with his wife, Jane, at Jenner's Pond, a residential community which provided comfortable accommodation for his rapidly declining body and a communal atmosphere for mental and social engagement."

Frank was a passionate supporter of the performing arts and received great pleasure from perusing the season brochures. He steeped his family in the performing arts and in retirement, he organized his schedule around season tickets for these events.

Among the professional achievements he valued most were: bringing the American Philosophical Association (APA) to be housed at the University of Delaware; being President of the University Faculty Senate twice; being the first faculty member to receive the Excellence in Service Award in 1995; and starting the Jewish Studies Program and the Jewish Studies and the Religion Minors. Under his leadership, the Department grew from a faculty of four to eighteen fulltime and joint faculty, of which 43% were minority or female. At one point, 73% of the student body at the University of Delaware took at least one philosophy course to fulfill their humanities requirement. He was co-founder of the Delaware Humanities Forum (DHF) and was a two -term member of the DHF council. He was an early adopter of media as a teaching tool, creating three philosophy courses on video and producing 70 radio and TV interviews for the DHF.

He also served on multiple accreditation teams charged with assessing foreign Universities seeking to become affiliated with the University of Delaware. This sparked an enduring passion for travel. He and Jane traveled extensively through Elderhostel /Road Scholar including trips in Europe, Africa, Asia, Australia, Russia, Central America and to see polar bears on Hudson Bay. An exchange year with Hull University in the north of England sparked a lasting relationship with Great Britain.

A memorial service will be held at the Newark United Church of Christ, 300 East Main St. in Newark, DE on Saturday, April 28th at 10AM. In lieu of flowers, please make contributions to the Newark United Church of Christ (of which he was a founding member), or to a local performing arts organization of your choice.

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Published by The News Journal from Apr. 22 to Apr. 23, 2018.

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Randy Parker

September 20, 2022

To Carol and Family,

I'm so sorry to hear of your father's passing. I first met you in drawing class. You are all in my prayers.

Take care,

RANDY PARKER

Alan Muller

March 28, 2020

Frank Dilley touched my life as an undergraduate in the 60s-70s. I suspect he touched many. He was a good person and will be missed.

April 28, 2018

Dear Dilleys, I have really fond memories of Frank from all the way back to Decatur. I clearly remember his remarks at my Dad's funeral. Your family and ours were so aligned for so many years. Really sorry this world has lost Frank. All the best to you all. Love, Betsy (Moore) Shieh

Alan Williams

April 27, 2018

Carol and KK,

Sorry for your loss. Lost my father in 2007.

Kip King

April 25, 2018

Frank will be greatly missed. He had a quiet dignity that added to his scholarship. A great friend. Our best to Jane and a wish for good health and happiness.

Donna Friswell

April 24, 2018

Dear Jane and children,
I am saddened to read of Frank's passing but absolutely loved his obituary. It was always a pleasure to see Frank and you come into our office and it was definitely a pleasure booking your travel all over the world. Both Charlie and I were thrilled to have you as clients. I enjoyed hearing updates on the children's activities (dance and theatre).
Please know that Frank will forever have a soft spot in my heart. And I loved his beard!
My prayers are with you all.
Donna Friswell
(Charlie B. Travels)

Becky

April 23, 2018

My deepest sympathy to your family, May you keep in mind the hope of life
everlasting which can help sustain you through this difficult time-John 17:3

Vicki Senn

April 23, 2018

What a beautiful obituary! It made me want to read his books and articles. I love philosophy and wish I would have known Frank! It is obvious he was a super achiever. I send my condolences to his wife and family, how blessed to have him in your lives! All best wishes to all of you.

Jim Green

April 23, 2018

I read of this loss of a good person with great sadness. And the line "Frank was a passionate supporter of the performing arts..." was so true. And he was always an interesting visit when encountered at a concert, with wonderful observations. Oh, and I met him managing against him in a summer recreational softball league at the Univ', and he had long since forgiven me for my team occasionally beating his. He was a wonderful presence. My prayers are with the family.

Alison Moore

April 22, 2018

It seems like Frank Dilley was always a part of our lives. Frank and my mother had attended Sunday School together as children in my grandfather's church in Ohio. A few decades later my father and Frank were teaching at the same college in Illinois. Frank's and Jane's children became friends with my siblings and me.

We said goodbye to them when my father left Milliken University and took a job in Buffalo, NY, and 5 years later we landed in Wilmington, Delaware only to find Frank and Jane Dilley were here in Newark! Our families my grandfather having followed us continued to visit periodically, and I can't remember ever going to the Grand Opera House for a performance without encountering Frank and Jane in the audience.

Fast forward another decade or two and I was called in to meet with Frank in his U of D office because I'd signed on to teach a course in his department (as an adjunct), an evening class cross-listed with Women's Studies. Our meeting wasn't exactly an interview, but the venue and purpose suggested I was being assessed, yet somehow he didn't make it feel that way. In my observation, Frank addressed everyone with the respect afforded to an equal. When I was a child, that had impressed me about both him and Jane. Because of it I always wanted an interaction with them before leaving with the children.

Frank's courageous and moving testimony at my father's memorial service, many years later, is something I will never forget. I last saw Jane at my mother's memorial service. This feels like the end of an era.

I can imagine the deep well of grief his family must feel at his loss. I hope you remember the well is full of memories, and you will drink from it for years to come and be sustained by them. I loved Frank's own life summation quoted above, wherein he zeroed in on all that mattered to him the most, and shrugged off all that didn't. May we all have time to assess that and know the difference.

April 20, 2018

When someone you love becomes a memory, the memory becomes a treasure. May the wonderful treasures fill your hearts with love and bring you peace. Our thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time. Hosea 13:14 *

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