Raymond D.

Bender, Sr.

Raymond D Bender Sr., age 81, of Milton Delaware formerly of Edgewood MD died peacefully Saturday morning, November 2, 2013 in his home surrounded by his loving family.

Ray was the son of the late Anna Deetz of Philadelphia, PA. He was a veteran of the United States Army serving in the Korean War retiring after 22 years of service as a Master Sergeant. Ray then worked for 20 years as head of Radiology Maintenance at Johns Hopkins Hospital. He also enjoyed volunteering at Beebe Medical Center and Delaware Hospice for the last four years where he made many new friends. Ray whole-heartedly enjoyed family gatherings and cookouts and was surprised in August by all his nieces, nephews and their families at his home to honor a loving father, grandfather and uncle. He will be sadly missed by all.

In addition to his mother, he was preceded in death by his wife of 58 years, Emma C Bender; a sister, Anita DiNoia and a brother, Roland Deetz. He is survived by his children, R. Dale Bender Jr. of Abington MD, Linda Bender Huss of Georgetown DE and Richard C. Bender and his wife of Elkton MD; 3 grandchildren, Joshua B. Huss of Dewey Beach DE, Raven D. Bender of Edgewood MD and Ashley Huss of Georgetown DE and 3 great granddaughters, Kayla Strohmeyer of PA, Emma Doucette and Hunter Givens of Georgetown DE.

A visitation will be held from 6-8 p.m. on Tuesday, November 5, 2013 at the Long Neck Chapel of Melson Funeral Services, 32013 Long Neck Rd., Millsboro, DE 19966. A private graveside service will be held at the Delaware Veterans Memorial Cemetery in Millsboro, DE. In lieu of flowers, the family suggests memorial contributions in Ray's name to the Veterans of Foreign War by visiting www.vfw.org, the American Diabetes Assoc. by visiting www.diabetes.org or to Delaware Hospice by visiting www.delawarehospice.org.

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Published by The News Journal on Nov. 4, 2013.

Memories and Condolences
for Raymond Bender

11 Entries

John Del Rossi

October 29, 2023

Always in my Heart,Never to be Forgotten.RIP My Friend

John Del Rossi

October 30, 2022

Grief can be so hard, but our special memories help us cope. Remembering you and your loved one today and always.

John Del Rossi

October 29, 2020

In loving memory of a wonderful person. We will love you and miss you always.

Julia Vita

November 6, 2013

I've met thousands of people during my lifetime, both in the USA, and abroad. But, there is only one Ray Bender. What a man!!! Ray suffered in silence, while bringing joy, and laughter to everyone around him. I am one, of many, of his hospice buddies, and will miss him, dearly. Ray's response to God's calling, "Send me in Coach". Heaven, I know, is laughing up a storm, and will be for a long, long time. God Bless, and keep you close to His Heart. I miss, and love you always.

Julia Vita

November 6, 2013

I've met thousands of people, during my lifetime, both in the USA, and abroad. But, there was only one Ray Bender. What a man! Ray suffered in silence, while bringing joy, and laughter to everyone around him. I am one, of many, of his hospice buddies, and, will miss him dearly. Heaven, I know, is laughing up a storm, and will be for a long, long time. God Bless, and keep you close to His Heart!!! I miss, and love you, always.

John Del Rossi

November 5, 2013

Uncle Ray, What could I say,I could write a book on you,all I no is that you were a Great Inspiration to me , your Unselfish Love for Family and Friends, your Positive Outlook on Life even when Times seemed so Bleak for us all, you alway's had a smile and a joke to comfort us, that's a Blessing from God, and I will alway's remember you for your kindness in my time of need, I will miss our e-mail conversations and the thing's we talked about in life, like our love one's that had went before us, and all the good times too, and now I must say goodbye to you too. you once told me that when thing's like this happen and we lose a loved one, that we must do everything in our power to keep going on with our life as much as it hurts,and that was Great Advise you Bestowed on me, now my Mentor is gone, but I will try & remember the thing's you Tought me and Inspired me with, Uncle Ray you were a Great man and a Standup guy in my book's Rest in Peace my Friend you will alway's be in my thoughts and pray's . Love you Ray, Your Friend John.

carol neal

November 4, 2013

mr.bender always had a smile. i got to know mr bender through a co-worker. i use to iron his clothes. they were always nice and neatly on a hanger but he loved the way i ironed them. i will miss his phone calls.rest on mr bender.

Robert(Van) Van Alstine

November 4, 2013

I met Ray at the Hospice lunches. He was always smiling. I enjoyed the times he shared his home with us and all the laughter he brought us. He will be missed! I'm so glad I could call him friend. Thanks for the laughter and joy. I will miss you my friend. I'm so glad you will have no pain! Thanks for the memories.

Lois Clark

November 4, 2013

What could I say about Ray? I think his smile says it all. He was a wonderful man. I am very blessed to have had him in my life, even though it was a short time. He smiled always,shared always, and loved much. I enjoyed our time together where he told family stories and life experiences. He would tell of the kind acts his family and neighbors did for him and say "I don't understand why they do so much for me". I told him if he were in our shoes he would understand. If you were lucky enough to know Ray, you were blessed.He loved to dance. We named his dance "The Bender",what joy he brought us!!! And he will be missed! He will live in my heart and I will think of him whenever I dance,hear music or see a smile! We are all blessed by the beautiful family he has left with us.I'm sure he is smiling at his wife and dancing for the Lord. Blessed with great memories. Shalom my beautiful friend,I love you.

November 4, 2013

You were a friend to so many people and you will be greatly missed. You were so much fun to be around. Your infectious smile and your "Bender dance" at the Elks and just getting together with your friends. We will all miss you but you are no longer in pain and you are with your wife, whom I know you missed very much. It will not be the same without you but I know you will probably be entertaining everyone in Heaven with your jokes. With love, Betty Kilpatrick

Pat Manley

November 4, 2013

Ray....I first met you at the hospice luncheons, but you became a close friend of mine very quickly. I loved your smile, your funny jokes, and visits to your home, and cook outs. You loved going out with a bunch of us to the Elks, and you sure could dance.....I will miss you more than you know, you were a wonderful man, and a good friend. I know how much you missed your wife, and now you will join her in Heaven. Thank you for being my friend, I will never forget the joy and friendship of just being a part of your life. The world will not be the same without you Ray, but you will have no more suffering and pain. GOD bless you my friend, and may you rest in peace!
Love you,
Pat Manley

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