Dr. Stanley Paul DeFehr MD
1951 - 2018
BORN
1951
DIED
2018
Dr. Stanley Paul DeFehr MD, age 67, passed away at his home surrounded by family and friends on May 24, 2018. He was born April 8, 1951 in Weatherford, Oklahoma, the second son to Paul and Elsie DeFehr. Stan was raised in Weatherford with his three brothers, Ken, Jody and Jeff, who have remained life-long friends. His family was embedded in the community as owners of the local John Deere implement. This legacy continues today, as DeFehr Implement has expanded throughout Oklahoma and Texas as part of the Western Equipment family of dealerships.
Stan graduated as salutatorian at Weatherford High School in 1969 and enrolled at the University of Oklahoma, where he was a President's Scholar. After initially pursuing a degree in engineering to further his dream to be an astronaut, Stan decided instead to enroll in medical school after acing his MCAT his junior year. He graduated from the University of Oklahoma College of Medicine in 1976 with distinction, achieving membership in the Alpha Omega Alpha honor society. Stan moved to Bartlesville in 1980, opening his medical practice in internal medicine with an interest in cardiology. He returned to the University of Oklahoma in 1983-84 to complete a second year of cardiology fellowship and began focusing solely on cardiology in the mid-1980s.
Stan's original practice in Bartlesville was with Doctors Daniel Houtman, Thomas Riggs, and James Young. He later formed BlueStem Cardiology with William Patrick Tinker and Gary Dykstra. In recent years, his practice has expanded to include several additional partners and advanced practice providers, including cardiologists Anderson Mehrle, Andrew Kurkklinsky, Katy Farguson, and Chris May. He has served tens of thousands of patients in clinics in Bartlesville, Nowata, and surrounding areas over the past 38 years and has enjoyed being on staff at Jane Phillips Medical Center.
Stan was recognized during the 1997 Bartlesville Centennial Celebration as the outstanding physician in the medical community. In addition to his work with patients, he served as Chairman of the Board and Chief of Staff at Jane Phillips and Governor of the Oklahoma Chapter of the American College of Cardiology. Stan was active in promoting health care policy in Oklahoma and Washington DC, advocating on behalf of physicians and their patients.
During medical school in 1974, Stan married Joyce Johnson. They were married for twenty-two years and had two children, Grant and Mary. Stan later married Cynthia Burkhart in 2003 and gained three more sons, Justin, Lee, and Ben. Stan and Cynthia were happily married for almost fifteen years.
Stan had a passion for his eight grandchildren, attending performances and games while having sleepovers and campouts at his property outside of town. He oversaw the construction of a treehouse along the creek and had recently installed a pool for the summer. His grandchildren enjoyed riding the John Deer Gator and playing sports on the front lawn. He delighted in hosting his nieces and nephews for summer vacations and holidays.
Stan imparted a passion for travel, entertainment, education, and the development of intellectual curiosity. He took family trips to Boston, Washington DC, New York City, New Orleans, Hilton Head, Disney, Hawaii, France, Italy, and Spain. He was an OU season ticket holder for over forty years and never missed an opportunity to attend the Red River Rivalry or a major bowl game. Stan also looked forward to the events for OU President's Associates and listening to the speakers at the Teach In each spring on campus in Norman.
In his youth, Stan enjoyed playing baseball in vacant neighborhood lots, where he played alongside his brothers and friends and developed a love for the game. He was a varsity athlete for the Weatherford Eagles in baseball, football, and basketball. His passion for baseball continued into adulthood, where he participated in numerous fantasy camps for the Dodgers, Red Sox, and Reds. Stan was named Camp MVP for the Dodgers in 2008 and also was a two-time recipient of the Don Drysdale award in 2008 and 2014 as the outstanding pitcher at the camp. He also traveled to Cuba on two occasions as part of a baseball outreach program, competing against local teams comprised of a combination of former amateur and professional players. Stan was thankful for sharing these experiences with his family, attending many of the camps alongside his children Mary, Ben, and Grant and his son-in-law Jon. Stan continued his baseball development in the off-season, taking weekly pitching and hitting lessons and throwing summer batting practice on occasion with the high school team.
Stan appreciated the arts and music. A member of the band in high school, he played the tuba, saxophone, base, and piano. He was known for singing in the office and even during procedures in the cath lab. He and Cynthia took ballroom dancing lessons in Bartlesville and at dance camps in New England, perfecting their steps in foxtrot, waltz, rumba, cha-cha-cha, tango and swing.
Stan accepted Christ at a young age and has been an active member of the Christian community in Bartlesville for over thirty-five years, first as a member at First Baptist Church and later as a member of East Cross United Methodist Church. Stan served as a physician on several medical missionary trips to Nicaragua with First Baptist, caring for thousands of patients while spreading the gospel. He was also involved as a past board member of K-Life Ministries.
Stan was passionate about serving his patients and the broader Bartlesville community. He was compassionate and caring, a servant leader in the model of Christ. He would take the extra time to know his patients personally as well and professionally, thankful for the gifts that God provided him and his ability to make an impact on those around him. He was appreciative of having the opportunity to serve on numerous civic boards and committees.
Stan embraced a philosophy of life based on finding happiness and contentment in personal interaction and combined experience. He valued quality time together over material possessions. He was independent in thought but selfless in action, focused on experiencing joy in helping others and culturing relationships.
The family wants to express their appreciation to the friendship and care offered by the medical staffs at MD Anderson and Jane Phillips over the past several years as Stan battled multiple myeloma. In particular, they are thankful for the advice and care of Doctors Wong, Manus, Myers, Mehrle, Matheson, and May, Jane Phillips's oncology department, the nursing staff of the Jane Phillips CCU, and BlueStem Cardiology. They are especially thankful for the long-time friendship and care of his Nurse Practitioner, Mollie Bechtelheimer.
Stan was preceded in death by his parents, Paul and Elsie DeFehr. He is survived by his wife Cynthia DeFehr, his children Grant DeFehr and wife Summer, Mary Eve and husband Jon, Justin Marshall and wife Laurie, Lee Brammer and wife Amanda, Ben Brammer and wife Morgan, and his three brothers, Ken and wife Sally, Jody and wife Ellen, and Jeff and wife Melanie. Stan's legacy lives on in eight grandchildren, Brooks, Ryan, Luke, Burke, Katie Marie, Presley, Hollis, and Asa Paul, and numerous nieces, nephews, and extended family, including his BlueStem Cardiology and Jane Phillips cath lab family.
Funeral services for Stan will be held at First Baptist Church in Bartlesville on Wednesday, May 30, at 2pm.
Anyone wishing to donate in the memory of Stan, please send donations to the Bartlesville Public Schools at 1100 S. Jennings, Bartlesville, Oklahoma 74003 or BlueStem Medical Foundation at 3500 Frank Phillips Blvd., Bartlesville, Oklahoma 74006.
Friends who wish may sign the online guest book and leave condolences at www.stumpff.org.
Published by Examiner-Enterprise from May 27 to Jun. 26, 2018.
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May the God who "binds up the brokenhearted" and "comforts all who mourn" sustain your family during this challenging time. (Isaiah 61:1,2) With heartfelt sympathy.
CW
June 17, 2018
My wife Sandi and I just found out about Stan. We are deeply grieved and saddened by the news. Our prayers go out to his family. Stan and I were classmates at OU and colleagues in B'ville. Sandi worked with him at Blue Stem. Stan's smile was always the beaming light in the room. Again, we are so sorry for the community and his family's loss as well as the loss of a close friend.

Ray and Sandi Loffer
Ray Loffer
June 13, 2018
Ken and Sally,
So sorry for your loss. Think of you often and will be praying for you.
Peggy Howell
June 8, 2018
Dr DeFehr Saved my life several times. He was a friend and Cardiac Doctor for 20 years. He was always cheerful even though we had Chemo Therapy for cancer he never gave up. He is in my prayers and will be missed
Lee Graham
June 6, 2018
you was the best and the only doctor we trusted you have saved my husband for years,you will truly be missed dr defehr
debra&gene bohannan
June 2, 2018
dr Stanley defehr has kept my husband alive for over 15 years its really gonna be hard to go to bluestem cardiology and not to see his happy smileing face,we will miss you so very much dr defehr,you are the best in this world
debra&gene bohannan
June 2, 2018
He was a beacon in the night........ wonderful man
Jan Todd
Friend
June 1, 2018
On July 4,1999 Dr. DeFehr saved my life at the ER preventing a massive heart attack and changed my lifes path forever. He was my doctor and my friend. Thank you, Stan, for your kindness.
tom gordon
Friend
May 31, 2018
What a beautiful service today to honor the legacy of one of the greatest men/physician's I will ever encounter. Dr. DeFehr touched the lives of so many people in such a special way. He was a gift from God, that we will not take for granted.
Sandy Loerch RN
May 30, 2018
Have been out of touch, so just found out today. Am so sorry for all of your family and friends but so happy you are whole and happy to be with Jesus. Everyone that knew you will miss you and I certainly know I will. Thanks for everything. Love to you.
Linda Jo Eldridge
May 30, 2018
Stan is a great example of walking in love. Although he could have done anything, through medicine he found his calling in service to others. My dad liked to say Dr. DeFehr saved his life three times. All consider Stan a friend.
Mike Holt
May 30, 2018
I had a great time with Stan during our grade school and Jr high years. He was a froth at could be counted on. My prayers are with the family and know God will heal and bless all during this time.
Jim Cagle
Classmate
May 29, 2018
My Mother lived in rural Arkansas. She had a history of strokes, was taking twelve different medications, and was hospitalized with an episode of high blood pressure. I called Stan, took her AMA out of the hospital, and brought her to Bartlesville. Stan met us at my home and then sent us to JP. Within three days my Mother's blood pressure was normalized and she was released from JP on three medications. My family has always believed that Stan's skill gave us our Mother for an additional fourteen years. He was the kind of man that went out of his way and made a difference. We will be forever grateful to Stan and the DeFehr family.
Helen Wren
May 29, 2018
We love you and are so very sorry
Reese and Laynie Travis
Family
May 29, 2018
May God bless you and your family in this time of sorrow.
Jen Halloran
Coworker
May 29, 2018
May the Good Lord guide & watch over you all, during this difficult time!
Jona Martin
May 29, 2018
Stan was a good friend, a selfless physician, thoughtful, kind, quiet, profound, self-sacrificing, fun, always ready to help. He was a godly man whose life would be well worth imitating, and whose faith would be worth seeking to understand. He exemplified a life well-lived.
Marcia Penuel
Friend
May 29, 2018
May God bless you and your family in this time of sorrow.
Leah Jacob
Friend
May 28, 2018
He left a great legacy!
Kathy Hughes
May 28, 2018
My mother,LaVon Mabry, had the privilege to work for Dr. DeFehr. She adored him! She would fondly share stories of him and how he loved to sing Wolly Bully by Sam Sham and the Pharaohs. He was both a friend and physician for my parents. Stan was a remarkable person who will be missed by many. To his family, keep him close to your heart... he is always with you. I send payers of comfort for you and yours.
Joni Mabry
May 27, 2018
Mary and Jon, what a legacy Stan has left! My heart breaks for you but I know he has been such an inspiration and positive influence on so many people. Love you guys! Jenny
Jennifer Fish
May 27, 2018
My condolences to the family. Stan DeFehr was a genuinely kind and lovely man. Im so sad to hear of his passing but feel blessed to have know him.
Kellie
May 27, 2018
What a wonderful, kind person he was. He will be missed. My favorite story of Stans was getting a call when he was home by a panicked patient who said her teeth had turned blue. He paused a minute and then asked what had she just eaten? Blueberries was the answer. So he reassured her that was the cause and not to worry. He just chuckled at that one!
Marion Monroe
Family
May 27, 2018
I will greatly miss him. He got me through a couple of tough times with my heart and got me back ony feet. Rest in peace.
Alan Bennefield
Acquaintance
May 26, 2018
I met Stan in 86 at JP as a new nurse and quickly let him know I was a Cornhusker & the bantering never stopped. Ill miss the football jabs.
Sending prayers to his beautiful wife Cynthia, who truly made his life complete. As well as to his children, grandchildren, and extended family. I know how blessed I am that I was able to call you my friend
Teresa Watson
Friend
May 26, 2018
DR DeFehr was an amazing caring Dr. When he told me he could do no more for my Husband Don, he held me while I cried.
Karen Moon
Friend
May 26, 2018
In memory of a wonderful person. A great doctor, family man and loved by all.
Grace Farmer
May 26, 2018
Such a great guy! I was rounding the corner and he had thrown a paper plane!! It missed me by a long shot, but I said you could have put my eye out!!! He was so amused!! I was too! So sad he is gone.....
Dona Garner
Coworker
May 26, 2018
I worked with Dr. DeFehr for several years at Jane Phillips. I remember his love for snacks and his joking around. He taught me so much about cardiology. He was always ready to answer a question. He was a very special person. Stan, you will be missed.
Candace Finch
Friend
May 26, 2018
Stan was such a wonderful man! He had the most cheerful smile and was always kind to visit at family gatherings.
Brian Ayres
Family
May 26, 2018
Definitely had a servants heart!! Stans presence will definitely be missed!!
Curtis and LeeAnne DeLapp
May 26, 2018
In loving memory of a wonderful person. We will love you and miss you always.
Diamond Pratt
Friend
May 26, 2018
I'm just a grateful patient who is thankful for his care and concern.
Doctor, you will be missed.
Jere Smith
Acquaintance
May 26, 2018
My sincere condolences to his family. You're in my thoughts and prayers.
Lisa Sanders - Scheidt
Friend
May 26, 2018
Stan had such a servants heart. He will be missed so much.
Stacy Lard
Friend
May 26, 2018
Dr. DeFehr was singing in cath lab... And he ask me Do I Sing Good? I told him yes.. I can still hear his laughter... :) He always made his patients feel good and like everything is going to be alright.... He will be greatly missed by all who was lucky enough to have met this man... Please accept our condolences to the family of Dr. DeFehr..
Chenya Henry
May 26, 2018
Phyllis
May 26, 2018
May the God of all comfort strengthen the family during this time of deep sorrow. Those who pass on, God keeps in his memory because they are precious in his eyes. My sincerest condolences. (Psalms 116:15)
S H
May 26, 2018
A kind and caring man who saved and touched many lives! He will be remembered by many!
Sharon Pugh
May 26, 2018
Stan, you will always be remembered fondly in my memories.
Kevin Purkey
Friend
May 26, 2018
Dr Defehr had a unique way of making you feel like you were not only his patient but his friend. He was a Godly man and excellent doctor. I wouldn't be here today if it wasn't for him. So glad you are no longer in pain. Kiss Jesus for me, see you again some day. You will be greatly missed.
May 26, 2018
Better than an astronaut, youre flying high, Doc! Continued prayers for Cynthia, kids and grandkids, extended family, and friends. There will never be another human being like Stan Defehr! Rest easy, Doc.
Melissa Sweem
May 26, 2018
No matter the circumstances, Stan had a way of making everyone's day a little better. He was one of a kind and we are honored to have been able to call him our friend. Our loss is heaven's gain.
Mike and Charlene Pearman
Friend
May 26, 2018
Weve known and loved STAN for 47 years, first as my best friendss boyfriend, later as a brilliant man, full of humor and compassion. Such a wonderful mixture in STAN! We will never forgot the fun times we shared, the birth and raising of our children together, or the kindness he extended to us in caring for my father. Heaven is richer with STAN there but he will be sorely missed by all of us on this side of eternity. Our prayers are with all of the family.
Dave and Mary Beth Johns
Friend
May 26, 2018
Bob Adcock
May 26, 2018
Stan was my loyal friend for over 60 years. He was a groomsman at our wedding almost 48 years ago. As kids during the summers we played baseball almost daily. We had so many great times and I have great memories of those days with Stan. We have shared many great times together. I cherish the memories we share.

I remember Stan accepting Christ and being in church with him throughout our younger years together. Stan was a trusted friend and was there for me when he was needed. I will never forget the night in February 1975 that Stan and a very close mutual friend, Benjie, came to the Norman hospital and sat with me for around 5 hours. I will never forget their presence at that critical hour for me. I was an act of sacrificial love. This really was so typical of Stan and the honor of being his friend.

I will see you in heaven my dear friend.
Jim Prock
Friend
May 25, 2018
Rest in peace Dr. DeFehr and thank you for all you did for Don over the years. Don and Louise Powell
Louise Powell
May 25, 2018
You are such a amazing man you will greatly missed! Happy trails fussy ears!
Christie Badertscher
Friend
May 25, 2018
Class of 1969, Weatherford High School, will always love, admire, respect and remember Stan as one of our all time favorites and among the elite grads of all time.
Class of 1969 Eagles
Classmate
May 25, 2018
He was a good Doctor and a Great Man he was like a friend and was to all that knew him.
Bruce ROBISON
May 25, 2018
What an honor it was to work for him years ago at Internal Medicine. He was always so kind and compassionate to everyone he met. Excellent doctors are find. He was one of those chosen few. May he rest in glory.
Judy Topping
Coworker
May 25, 2018
Fabulous human being and doctor. He will be missed. Prayers go out to his family.
Michael Smith
Friend
May 25, 2018
I was blessed to work with Dr DeFehr for the past 10 years. He was not only a great physician he was also a great teacher and friend. We lost a great man but heaven gained a wonderful angel. He gave it his all and fought hard each day. You will truly be missed.
Lyn McKee
Coworker
May 25, 2018
A wonderful person and doctor. You will be greatly missed.
Joan Wilson
Coworker
May 25, 2018
In loving memory of a wonderful person. We will love you and miss you always.
James Marshall
Family
May 25, 2018
Stan you will be missed by your family, friends and community. You have impacted so many lives with your kindness, love and your expertise of interventional cardiology you will be missed each and every day but never forgotten. Love you my dear friend, co-worker and former boss. I pray for peace and serenity for Cynthia and your entire family.
Bryan Wesson
Friend
May 25, 2018
I am glad I got to know you and will greatly miss you.
Sandra Ele
May 25, 2018
Stan DeFehr was one of the smartest, talented, and handsomest guys I ever knew, on top of these just an all around kind, generous, charming, thoughtful, and loving friend, especially charming. He was a very good athlete, baseball, basketball, and football player, and a great fan. One of my best memories of him is when I was in 10th grade. I walked into Mrs. Spanns geometry class one afternoon and there on her side desk facing the seats was a personal TV, apparently brought from someones home. Mrs. Spann was pretty strict and normally all business as a math teacher. That day, however, she let us watch the World Series instead of having class! I thought to myself, Who the hell could have talked Mrs. Spann into this. You guessed it: Stan DeFehr.

Just over two years later, Stan was helping in training me how to sell Bible reference books in Mississippi door-to-door. After working all morning, we stopped for lunch. Stan told our waitress how tired we were, asked for extra large slices of apple pie, and then turned on that smile of his. Ill be darned if she didnt give us both a slice that was 1.5 times that of a normal slice. I just thought, There are some skills that some of us have and others of us dont have, incomparable charm in this case. Stan always had the It factor, whatever It is. I know he will be sorely missed. God bless you, Stan, always. ❤Someday beyond the blue.
Paul Nail
Friend
May 25, 2018
You will be missed .prayers for your family.
Carla gail Jackson
May 25, 2018
What a great Doc. I'll miss him.
May 25, 2018
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