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Shirley Abbott Tomkievicz

1934 - 2019

Shirley Abbott Tomkievicz obituary, 1934-2019, Portland, OR

BORN

1934

DIED

2019

Shirley Tomkievicz Obituary

Shirley Abbott Tomkievicz, 84, died of cancer Monday, April 8, 2019 in her Portland, OR home.

She will be remembered for her intellectual curiosity and prowess, quick wit, and literary accomplishments. Revered by family and friends for her compassion, generosity, and sense of adventure-she was our mentor, doer, and storyteller.

Born in Hot Springs, AR, she graduated from Texas State College for Women in 1956. She spent a year in France as a Fulbright Scholar at the University of Grenoble. In 1959, she was hired at Horizon: a Magazine of the Arts in New York, where she worked for over fifteen years, eventually becoming the editor. She published in Smithsonian, Harper's, Glamour, and others. She also wrote and edited several historical books and for 25 years worked on the University of California, Berkeley Wellness Letter.

Although she made her home elsewhere - including in Haydenville from 1995-2012 - Abbott's Southern roots captured her writer's imagination. Her memoirs Womenfolks: Growing Up Down South, The Bookmaker's Daughter: A Memory Unbound, and Love's Apprentice: The Education of a Modern Woman approach her heritage from different angles. Her novel, The Future of Love, is set in NY.

She is survived by her daughters, Katharine Rubick of Portland, OR, and Elizabeth Tollis of Flagstaff, AZ, her sons-in-law Jade Rubick and Marc Tollis, and three grandchildren, Sasha Rubick, Velma and Lorenzo Tollis. Also a cousin, June Owen of Texarkana, TX. Her husband, Alexander W. Tomkievicz, died in 2012.

Send memorial gifts to the organization where she volunteered, The Western Farm Workers Association 725 SE 7th Ave, Hillsboro, OR 97123.

To plant trees in memory, please visit the Sympathy Store.

Published by Daily Hampshire Gazette on Apr. 19, 2019.

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Michelle Bisson

July 13, 2023

I met Shirley when I went for a job interview. I didn´t realize she was Shirley Abbott, whose memoirs I had loved, but I was immediately attracted to her warm, bright personality. For some reason, a few years later, I reread Womenfolk and realized who she was. I got in touch with her and we began a wonderful, if too short, friendship, meeting in person only once, not too long before she moved to Portland. I´m so glad I got to know her, and so sad she´s gone.

Antoinette Kennedy

April 23, 2019

Shirley was a writing colleague and friend who inspired me with her wisdom, intelligence, sharp wit, and welcoming spirit. I am so grateful for her presence in my life. My deepest sympathy to her family. She will be so missed, but the memory of her? That is a gift alive and well.
Peace, every good.
Toni Kennedy

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