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Carl Selavka Obituary

Carl Selavka, age 95, of Sun City Center, Florida, was called by the Lord on October 11, 2023. After a brief Hospital stay, Carl said farewell peacefully in the loving hands and hearts of his sons Michael Phillip, Edgar Lester, and Carl Matthew.

Carl lived a vibrant life, enjoying multiple careers involving military service as both an enlisted Marine and Army Officer (LTC; Ret), Sports Leader, Tradesman as an HVAC Tech, Farmhand and Arborist; as well as a Shriner and American Legionnaire.

Born on January 17, 1928, he was the second youngest of 8 children born to Russian immigrants Michael Selavka and Tekla Borodin in Windham, Connecticut. Carl fought with the Marines in WWII, then attended the University of Connecticut where he quarterbacked the football team to the Yankee Conference Championship (in 1952). He returned to the military as a U.S. Army officer pilot – with unique selection onto Test Pilot Teams for the Sikorsky CH-54 Skycrane and a Grumman fixed-wing spy plane – and served during the Korean War and Vietnam Conflict (two tours). During his service, Carl was awarded the Army Commendation Medal, Meritorious Service Medal, Legion of Merit, two Bronze Stars, and multiple Air Medals including one with the Valor device.

Carl retired from the Army after 22 years then obtained a master's degree in education from Central Connecticut State College before continuing as an educator and innovator in the field of athletics at the High School level in Portland, East Hampton, and North Stonington (Connecticut) and Hadley (Massachusetts). He coached basketball at the college level (Westfield State College) as well baseball for American Legion teams throughout New England.



Carl had married Janet Smith of Windsor, Connecticut in 1953 and – after his military retirement – settled in Middle Haddam Connecticut in 1970 where they continued to raise their three sons and resumed careers in education. When Janet was offered the Principal position at Hopkins Academy, they eagerly relocated to Hadley, Massachusetts. Carl continued in athletics as the Hopkins Academy girls' basketball coach for many years. During off-seasons Carl spent countless happy years working on the Goulet family farm in Hadley. Always seeking to develop new skills, Carl obtained a license as an HVAC technician and took courses to become an arborist.



Carl and Janet moved to Sun City Center, Florida in 2009 to continue their 25 years of New York Yankees preseason training camp passion. They quickly immersed themselves in the community as volunteers in the Security Patrol and singing in choirs at the Saint Andrews Presbyterian Church and Ruskin United Methodist Church. Carl enjoyed woodworking with the Sawdust Engineers and sang with the Sun City Center Men's Chorus for over a decade.



Carl will be fondly remembered by his 3 sons, 6 grandchildren, and 7 great grandchildren – as well as the extended Selavka and Smith families throughout the United States – as a leader, teacher, and supportive mentor whose wry sense of humor made everyone smile as he entered any room.

If you wish to be notified of a Memorial Celebration to be held in the future – or to coordinate charitable contributions in Carl's honor – please contact the family using [email protected].

To plant trees in memory, please visit the Sympathy Store.

Published by Hartford Courant on Oct. 17, 2023.

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Bryant Washburne

October 11, 2024

I grew up with Carl and Lary, my best friends forever. Hoping all the Selavka family is well and prospering.

Bryant Washburne

November 5, 2023

A life long friend since kindergarten. Carl, Lary and I were like brothers. For whatever reason I'm still standing. When my time comes I look forward to joining all of the family

Den

October 29, 2023

A heartfelt thank you for your service to our country.
Rest in peace.

Danette Lawrence

October 20, 2023

Rest in peace, you were the best high school gym teacher. Thank you.

Tom DiStefano

October 18, 2023

I met, had dinner and played basketball for Coach Selavka in 1975. Coach Selavka taught me personally, and his team many lessons, if you were paying attention. He told me stories about his tours in Viet Nam and the growth of boys to men. Before the start of our 1975 basketball season, but during practice, the team was messing around shooting, trying to dunk a ball, any kind of ball. I'm going through the rim touching routine when Coach Selavka comes over to me and says. "Tommy, why are you jumping from the dotted line?" He then showed me a takeoff point and to jump straight up, low and behold, whoa, I could jump. The little lessons change everything.

Sheila Pekari Mongiat

October 18, 2023

Coach Selavka will always hold a special place in my heart. His excellent coaching helped us to win the the first women's state class "s" cross country championship in East Hampton's school history and the first state championship in any women's sport at East Hampton. We only had 6 runners and his training and his believing we could do it was what got us that Championship. I personally feel blessed to have had the BEST coach who coached me through 4 successful years at East Hampton high school. Thank you coach Selavka! You had an amazing life. RIP. Love, Sheila Pekari Mongiat

Bob Russo

October 18, 2023

Coach Selavka was as fine a man as I've ever met. His compassion, intelligence and good humor made him a role model for all of us whose lives he touched. My life was greatly enriched by Carl and his family. Matt, Ned and Mike, be well.

Phyllis Pekari

October 17, 2023

My utmost sincere condolences on the loss of this wonderful man...I will always be grateful for the patience, the discipline and knowledge he demonstrated while coaching women's cross country in East Hampton....He produced a state champion 3 years in a row, and it has never been duplicated....Rest in Peace, Mr Selavka

Brad Caron

October 17, 2023

Carl "Coach" Selavka bought me my first pair of real running shoes. I'll credit him with giving me the support and encouragement that I needed as a young high school student. He was an amazing man. His memory will live on with many. Love you coach.

Kim Libera

October 17, 2023

I remember Mr. Selavka well as the East Hampton XC coach. I ran for Cromwell. He was much an advocate for me as if he were at my high school. I have often wondered his whereabouts. He comes from an era when coaches were true mentors. God bless him.

Bill Weir

October 17, 2023

Mike, Ned & Matt,
Sorry to hear about your Dad. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

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