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Carrie Borkowski
June 17, 2021
Hello My Friend. I can't believe it has been 12 years since you passed. You live in my heart forever. Your smile, your laugh and our memories. I was truly blessed to have you in my life. Our boys are 12 now. To think of all the fun we could have had, with our families, breaks my heart. Until we meet up again. Love & Hugs.
June 19, 2010
Elly, it has been a year, your little man is so precious, what a gift you gave to Stephen and this world, I will never forget you and what mark you left in my life and heart. I miss you my friend. Never to forget you. I keep you with me always. Love Shawna.
May 26, 2010
Hi Elly, I think of you and miss you everyday.
May 9, 2010
Happy mothers day Elly! You wouldnt let me say it last year so that makes it official for me to say it this year.I miss you every day. I know you are watching over everyone. Miss you like crazy. give your little guy a hug and kiss from me :0) shawna
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April 4, 2010
Happy easter Elly. I miss you a ton. Today is opening day, go sox!!!! -- Shawna
Colleen Maloney-Mercier
January 1, 2010
I think of you often as I watch my son grow. You are very much missed by so so many. Peter will grow up knowing he had the best mom ever! Just thinking of you makes me want to be a better mom every day. Miss you, Elly!
Carrie Borkowski
December 25, 2009
Merry Christmas my friend. I know I have one more angel around my tree this year, and that is you. Miss you always!
December 25, 2009
Merry Christmas Elly- we miss you very much.
All our love-
Aunt Patty and Uncle Nel
December 25, 2009
Merry Christmas Elly. I know you will be with your family today. I miss you so. You have such a handsome little man. Think of you always. miss you --- shawna
larry dubois
December 24, 2009
I know your gone, but i,m having a very hard time with the loss of you. love you forever. dad
Mary Dixon
October 28, 2009
Dear Stephen,
I am so happy that I finally met your beautiful son, Peter. The pictures posted are a wonderful way to see him and all that is happening day by day. Hope to see you soon.
Sarah Guy
October 14, 2009
What a beautiful poem Stephen. I guess we all have that person in our lives that we would like just one more day with, if only. Peter is getting more adorable with each picture posted on the photo blog. What a proud papa you must be.
October 13, 2009
Can we talk a little longer?
I have one more thing to say
I often wonder why
but who am I?
If I could be a light
for you
I'll try
Oh Love, I just have one more thing to say.
I love you.
Stephen
Glen and Wendy Houle
September 25, 2009
Our thoughts and prayers are with you in your time of grief. May your memories bring you comfort.
Carrie Borkowski (Case)
September 24, 2009
I was going through some of my old boxes the other weekend when I found a card you had written to me when my grampa passed away. You always knew what to say. I think of you often and miss you much!
larry dubois
September 23, 2009
i miss you sweetheart. dad
September 16, 2009
Happy Birthday Elly!!
Miss you so much.
Karen Ginz
September 10, 2009
I just heard of your loss Stephen. I don't know you, but Elly and I went to high school together and shared many common interests. Words cannot describe how deeply sorrowful I am for you and for your son, never knowing firsthand what a special woman his mother was.
May you always hold Elly near to your heart and may you feel her strength and love shine down upon you and your little Angel.
Karen Raymond Ginz
August 26, 2009
Steve
May you discover and feel Elly's spirit and light as you raise your son, Peter.
Our deepest sympathy for your loss.
Sharon Anne Byron & family
August 24, 2009
Peter Benjamin is beautiful.
I'm so sorry for your loss. I pray for strength and peace during your time of sorrow, and health and happiness for the rest of your lives.
Mari Neistat, Avon Dental Group patient.
August 19, 2009
Stephen - we were all extremely lucky to know Elly and call her a friend. She was a delight to know and to share our mutual highs and lows. Her spirit is around you and Peter and I know you feel it. You have a beautiful son and I know you will share wonderful memories of his mother. Who knows why these things happen; it's a mystery. But at least we are all better people for knowing "Miss Elly".

Everyone but me is in this pic!
Sarah Boudreaux
August 19, 2009
I found a pic of Elly and some neighborhood kids- She has a huge smile on her face! Hope you and Peter are doing well. You guys are still in my thoughts.
Oona Gargan Cadorin
August 8, 2009
Dear Stephen,
Thinking of you and little Peter. Offering love and strength to reach out and to reach in. May you find comfort in the present moment as you honor and grieve your beautiful wife and Peter's mommy. gentle blessings, Oona Gargan Cadorin
Joan King
August 3, 2009
I wish nothing less than a happy life for little Peter and his family. My thoughts are with you all in your time of sadness.
Annette & Michael Tkacs
July 28, 2009
Stephen,
We are so sorry for your loss. You and your family are in our thoughts and in our prayers. Thinking of you.
Annette & Michael Tkacs
Avon Dental Patients
Stephen Sok
July 6, 2009
To ALL,
They say you can count your good friends on five fingers. I don't have enough hands. My grasp will never weaken for I hold all of you close to my heart. Thank You.
Eric, Debra and Manuel Michaud
July 6, 2009
Our thoughts and prayers go to Elly’s husband, Stephen, and son, Peter, as well as the rest of her family and friends, during this difficult time. Peter is a beautiful baby, and we know Elly is watching out for him. Elly was such a caring, warm person – Eric was fortunate to have worked with her at The Hartford.
Lisa DuBois
July 2, 2009
Dear Stephen,Larry,Kathy and John
May the beauty and love you receive from baby Peter, and from all whom care and surround you be your strength.
We love you and want you to know we are here for you and Peter always. We know Elly will always be there with you in spirit and may she rest in peace knowing you are all loved.
With Love,
Lisa, Scott, and Sienna
July 1, 2009
STEPHEN,
WE ARE SO SORRY TO HEAR ABOUT ELLY'S PASSING. MAY GOD BLESS YOU AND WATCH OVER YOU AND PETER DURING THIS DIFFICULT TIME.
NANCY AND MARK PERRELLI OF KENSINGTON
PATIENTS OF AVON DENTAL
Renee Owens
June 30, 2009
Peter,
I am an old friend who worked with your wife and Stephanie at the Hartford. But I have since moved to Arizona in 2003.
I remembered when we used to talk about how our children would look. We would laugh that we didn't want a child with a small head and a big smile like we all had. LOL The Christian that I am I made sure we ended our conversation knowing that if we leave it to God then the child that God sends us be perfect in our eyes. He did just that because Peter is as beautiful as Elly imaged. I know this is a very difficult momement but please continue to seek God for guidance and help.
God Bless,
Renee
Tammy McBreairty Anderson
June 30, 2009
My deepest sympathy for Elly's family. Elly and I played together when we were young. I remember she always had a smile on her face and was very happy. I'm very sad that such a great childhood friend is gone.
June 29, 2009
From Father Michael of St. Catherine of Siena church in Simsbury CT:
I ask for your prayers for the repose of the noble soul of Eleanor “Elly” Sok, a young mother who died during childbirth last Friday. Elly, and her husband Stephen, are new parishioners of our parish.
Let us pray for Elly that she may now enjoy the abundant and Eternal life of Christ and be counted among the citizens of Heaven.
We pray also for Stephen Sok and his new son, Peter Benjamin, that not only will faith in God’s goodness be their consolation, but that they will find comfort in this parish community and that their loss, while never replaced, will be softened by the love, fellow-ship and comfort of the good people of Saint Catherine of Siena. May she rest in peace!
June 28, 2009
Our most deepest sympathies to you, Stephen and Peter. May god be with you in the days ahead. May Elly watch over the both of you now and always.
Bill and Denice Capitani
June 28, 2009
Dear Stephen,
We are saddened by the loss of Elly. May you find the peace, and strength in the days to come. Peter is beautiful. Your in our prayers.
Love,
Ted & Jennifer McDonald & Family
June 28, 2009
Kathy,Larry and family..We are so sorry to hear of your loss. Patty,Al Canty and family
Patricia Hunson
June 28, 2009
Steve, Your son is beautiful. My love and sympathy is with you and for your loss. I think of you all everyday. It is so hard for me to believe this happened. But your little man is sweet. If you need anything please contact me. Love Always Aunt Pat
June 28, 2009
Steve
Words can't express the loss we feel for you and ourselves. Our prayers are with you. Peter is beautiful and look so much like Elly. Hey he needs a haircut. I teased Elly that I will have to call him Peter Cotton Tail, How she laughed. Love Aunt Lynn & Uncle Arn
June 27, 2009
Dear Stephen,
Such unthinkable sadness, be brave, keep the faith and cherish your beautiful son, I know you will ...Elly will always be there with you both, watching over her growing son....stay strong. Everybody loves you.
Miriam and Bob Ahern, Lauren and Olivier

Peter and Dad
June 27, 2009
June 27, 2009
I do not know you. However, I wanted to express my deepest sympathy to you and your family. My Aunt who is an RN at the hospital hold me about the heroic efforts that went on that day. You will be a wonderful father as you were a husband.
Joan Platt
June 27, 2009
We extend our deepest sympathy to Elly's family and friends. We did not know her well, but had seen her over the years at various family functions. Stephen, may Elly always remain on your shoulder and help guide the path for you and your beautiful baby boy.
Mrs & Mrs Edward Platt & Andrea Daigle (Platt)
Laura Canton Midas
June 27, 2009
Elly was such a sweet lady and will be dearly missed. Prayers are with you and your family.
Debbie, Nathan, Isabella & Brayden Savino
June 27, 2009
Stephen & Family,
I am so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Peter is just beautiful!
Mitch and Anastasia Lusas
June 27, 2009
Stephen, Peter and family, we're praying for you right now and we're so sorry for you loss. We pray that God will give you strength, comfort, and peace now and in the days to come.
Ricoh
June 26, 2009
My Dear Stephen,
It is said that there are angels on this earth disguised as people. Elly was one of them and it was my honor and blessing to have known her. May god grant you peace and strength in the days ahead and forever. God bless you and little Peter.
Amy Hollis
June 26, 2009
Stephen and family,
How can words express what you are going through? Very simply there are none. May Jesus Christ bring to you the peace which surpasses all understanding and may His Holy Spirit strengthen you and encourage you in the days ahead. With love and sorrow, Amy
Chris Carpenter
June 26, 2009
I was blessed to have Elly as a dear friend for many years. She was the most extraordinary and beautiful person I have ever know. Her smile and laughter will be greatly missed, but never forgotten. Stephen - May God bless you and little Peter.
Dot & Helen
June 26, 2009
Our thoughts and prayers are with you
Ralph and Carol Souza
June 26, 2009
Stephen and extended families. Our heartfelt thoughts are with all of you at this loss of a loved one.
Amber Hague
June 26, 2009
Dubois and Sok Families,
My heart and prayers are with you all. When I heard of the tragic news, my heart just stopped! Elly was dear friend of mine all through high school. She had the best smile and presence always! I know little Peter will be blessed with the same!
All of my thoughts, prayers, and love are with you all.
June 26, 2009
May God bless you and your family in this time of sorrow.
Joe Galiette
June 26, 2009
Stephen, My sincere, heartfelt sympathy for you and yours in this very unfair and trying time. No one is ever prepared for something like this, but in my heart, I believe God has a plan. One that no one can ever second guess. Keep faithful and hugs to Peter. Joe Galiette
The Gerard Family
June 26, 2009
Stephen,
Our deepest condolences and heartfelt sympathies as you balance once of life's most difficult losses and one of its greatest, most precious gifts. May you find strength, solace and peace in the blessing of your son. Elly will always be with you both; she is the whisper of the wind, the kiss of light rain and all things you hold dear. Peace be with you.
Becker Family
June 25, 2009
Stephen and Peter,
Words cannot express the depth of our sadness at the loss of Elly. Please know that you are in our prayers and call on us for help at any time.
Tom, Cindy, Tait and Christian Becker
Erick & Tammy Royer
June 25, 2009
Stephen, Baby Peter and family,
Our heartfelt sympathy is with you all during this sad time. My husband went to school with your wife and brother-in-law. Although we don't know your family intimately, our prayers and thoughts are with you.
Warmly,
Erick and Tammy Royer
Heather Hall-Oldziej
June 25, 2009
I have many fond memories of Elly from school. She was just a beautiful person, with the most amazing smile. I can definately see Elly in Baby Peter. May God Bless you and Baby Peter in your time of need. You both are in my thoughts and prayers...

Post Bathtime - Day 5
June 25, 2009
Brian and Jenn Campbell
June 25, 2009
Stephen, Peter and all family,
There will never be enough words to describe how wonderful and amazing Elly was. She will forever be one of my closest friends and I hope I can share with Peter what a wonderful woman his Mommy was. We will cover you in prayer and be praying for each of you. Peter is so handsome and reminds me so much of Elly.
We love you so much!
Anonymous colleague
June 25, 2009
June 25, 2009
This rain has been tears from Heaven showering down around us all. I don't believe I have heard a story more tragic. Such a well-liked, beautiful, young woman on the cusp of motherhood . . it should never have happened, it's just so unfair. My very deepest condolences to all of you. Baby Peter is just gorgeous and he looks very much like Elly. He certainly has a very special guardian angel. May his presence aid all of you in getting through these most difficult times. God bless all of you and may He comfort you. She will be missed by all who knew her.
Michele Dufour Benson
June 25, 2009
Dubois and Sok families,
I am so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your families. Peter is a beautiful boy and I'm sure Elly will live on through him and give you some peace.
June 25, 2009
I am so saddened to hear of your loss. I work at The Hartford, but unfortunatly did not have the pleasure of knowing Elly. I can tell that she's a wonderful person. Peter is an angel from heaven, he's beautiful.
My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Anonymous
June 25, 2009
No words of mine can express how sad and shocked we were to hear of Elly's passing. We pray that you will find strength, comfort and joy in the life of Peter. Please know that our thoughts and prayers are with you and Peter.
Nick, Shellie and Lelija
Amy McGuire
June 25, 2009
I worked with Elly at Hartford Life and I wish that I had the words to take away your pain. I will keep all of you in my prayers.
June 25, 2009
May God Comfort you during this most difficult time. Remember that her life was a blessing and she has left the most precious gift for your love and care.
Trish Dixon
June 25, 2009
Stephen,
My deepest condolences to you as you balance one of life's greatest losses with one of it's most precious gifts. Peter is adorable - may you find strength and solace through him during this difficult time.
June 25, 2009
Stephen,
Please accept our heartfelt sympathy for your loss. Know that all of our thoughts and prayers are with you and Peter and we love you.
The girls of FVOA- Liz, Beth, Pam, Marie, Wendy and Mary
Sarah Boudreaux
June 25, 2009
I am shocked and saddened to hear of Elly's passing. I have been trying to find her online for years. I was hoping to reminisce about our times as children at Nanni Drive. I have several pictures of Elly, Jon and I playing. I will never forget the plays we put on for our parents, playing indians in the woods (starting fires) and catching tadpoles in the swampy area at the end of the building. Larry, Kathy, Jon- I am so sorry for your loss. Stephen, may your beautiful son give you strength in this heartbreaking time.
Amanda Roberto
June 25, 2009
Stephen -
So very sorry to hear of your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Peter is beautiful.
Jaime and Rob Smith
June 25, 2009
I live in the Stafford Springs area.. and heard about the loss of a mother working to give life to her unborn baby.. I don't know what words I can say to express how my heart breaks for your loss..Peter looks just like her.. remember he is a piece of her forever..
Stephen hold his left hand always and she will hold his right to keep him going down the right path.. stay strong and never give up.. alot of people are praying for you across the state and nation.. you are not alone ever.. may peace come over you in this hard time.. be his footsteps and Elly will be his angel.. my God shine upon you in all things ahead.. he has already with the life of Peter...god bless..
Kiesha Morley
June 24, 2009
Stephen, Peter and All of Elly's Family - I am so sorry for your loss. It's impossible to understand why such a truly wonderful person had to leave this world. I have had the pleasure of knowing Elly since she started at The Hartford. Her never-ending smile and kindness made her the kind of person who could always made you happy even on a bad day. If only there were more people in the world like Elly. I know she would have been the best mother. I hope that time can help to ease your pain and you can find comfort in knowing you have a very special angel to watch over you. My deepest sympathy.
The Walters Family
June 24, 2009
Stephen -
Our family, one of the many from ADG, is saddened to hear the news of your loss. I'm sure Elly was a very special woman, and that she will watch over the two of you with eternal love. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your new son, Peter.

Peter Benjamin Sok - 5 days old
June 24, 2009
Stew and Sandi Smith
June 24, 2009
To the Sok Family,
We did not know Elly and had never met Stephen. However, we always considered our friendship with Frank very special.
Our deep sympathy and caring thoughts are with you all at this time. You are in our prayers.
God bless,
June 24, 2009
There are no words...I am so sorry for your loss.
anonomous
Terri Renwick
June 24, 2009
Stephen,
We are incredibly sad and heartsick for your loss. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your son.
The Renwick Family
June 24, 2009
Stephen,
Our condolences from the Sopelak family.
Avon Dental Patients
Mark Zacchio
June 24, 2009
Stephen,
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this very difficult time. I'll always remember Elly with a smile on her face and her passion for life. I worked with Elly for nearly 10 years, and I can only imagine how much she will be missed. God Bless you and your new son, may he bring you all the joys of the world.
June 24, 2009
Dear Stephen,
I would like to express my deepest sympathy to you for the loss of your beautiful wife Elly. She is a true hero. May God give you hope and strength for both you and your son Peter in this difficult time.
Inge Biekert
Patient Avon Dental Group
BMC W
June 24, 2009
Baby Peter, you have a guardian angel with you always. Your family will always be in my prayers.
Susan Briscoe
June 24, 2009
Please accept my deepest sympathy. I did not know Eleanor. My Aunt, Barbara Gilbert, told me of her passing. My heart goes out to your family and friends. You are in my heart and prayers.
Colleen Maloney-Mercier
June 24, 2009
Peter, you had the most wonderful mother. She was very excited to meet you, and will be watching you grow up from heaven.
Stephen, my thoughts and prayers are with you now and always. God Bless you and your son. I know it's difficult to be strong right now, but know that Elly is watching over you and Peter.
Marie Knudsen
June 24, 2009
Stephen,
I have been a friend of your dad and Tom for many years starting when my daughters, Beth & Jennifer Mix, went to school at Region 10. When there just are no words that can comfort, let me offer my prayers for you all.
June 24, 2009
From a complete stranger.....may God Bless you all....
Hyla Sklar
June 24, 2009
I did not know Elly..want you and your family to know my prayers are with you all...Please accept my deepest sympathy..May Peter be a great comfort to you
Mary Dixon
June 24, 2009
Stephen,
I was so sorry to hear that your wife was called to heaven while giving birth to your beautiful son Peter. May God comfort you and Peter always.
Mary Dixon (friend of your father for many years).
Becky Tebo Hanson
June 24, 2009
Stephen and Peter,
My condolences and prayers. I will always remember all the wonderful times spent growing up two doors down from Elly in Winsted and later when we worked together breifly at the Hartford.
I will miss her very much
Nancy Carlson
June 24, 2009
Stephen -
Please know we are thinking of you at this terribly difficult time. May your wonderful son bring you strength and comfort in the days ahead.
Nancy and John Carlson and Family
June 24, 2009
Stephen,
I extend my deepest heartfelt sympathy to you, Peter and your family in your recent loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Dianne Edwards
Patient, Avon Dental Group
Susan and Bruce Elliott
June 24, 2009
Dear Stephen,
Our sincere condolences go out to you and all of Elly’s family. No words can describe the lost for everyone who knew Elly. In God’s loving arms is a perfect angel.
Elly was the sunshine at The Hartford. Everyday Elly had a smile on her face and made everyone feel better for knowing her. She was a conscience worker who you could rely on for not just the right answer but the complete answer. I will miss Elly with all my heart.
Peter is her gift to you. What a beautiful baby who will remind you of all the good and beauty Elly brought to the world. Your love for Elly will shine through in Peter. Please know you are in our thoughts and prayers.
Pam & Brian Lusas
June 24, 2009
Stephen & Peter, As I read all the encouraging and loving notes here and at ADG, I am comforted by the love and support for you both. I believe that Elly is close by, smiling and watching over you. I can invision her beaming with pride as she watches father and son bonding together. Her spirit lives on in Peter and it will be a joy to watch him grow up. He will be surrounded by stories of a loving, fun and sensitive mother and nurtured by a kind and loving father. I will miss her phone calls and her laugh and of course seeing you both together. May the Lord give you strength and keep you both safe. With much love -
June 24, 2009
To Stephen, From all the OB staff, our deepest condolences to you and Peter and all your families at this very difficult and bittersweet time. Elly was so nice and she did such a great job in labor. In the short time we knew her, we all liked her. We hear the baby is well and coming home soon. Keep us posted on how you are both doing, and we will keep you both in our prayers. God bless.
Kerry(RN)and staff.
Sean Drake
June 23, 2009
Stephen, my condolences and prayers for you & your son.
I'll always remember the smiles and joy Elly brought. I'll always cherish our U2 concert/music conversations we had.
Unbelievable.
June 23, 2009
Stephen,
There are just no words to express the sadness we felt when we learned of your wife's passing. May God hold you & Peter close and comfort you in the days ahead. Your wife must have been someone so very special - may she live on in your heart & Peter's forever. Our sympathy to her parents too. God Bless you all. The Held Family (from ADG)
Tim and Cara Beneski
June 23, 2009
Stephen,
Cara and I are praying for you in this most difficult time. We know that your precious son will be a great comfort to you in your time of need, and that the many, many smiles you shared so willingly and easily will come back to you from the many folks whose lives you have touched. You and your wife lived life joyfully. We hope that you will soon feel that joy again, and rejoice in the life that you shared, as well as the life you created in Peter. May God Bless you and your family.
Alice Wallin
June 23, 2009
Stephen, although I know you only as a patient at ADC, I just had to convey my deepest sympathy to you and your beautiful new son. Know that my thoughts and prayers are with you and yours.
June 23, 2009
Stephen,
Few things slice as deeply as the loss of a spouse. Your new son will embody all of the wonderful attributes that Elly and you have planted in him. We send our condolences to you and your family.
Farmington Valley Orthodontics
Dr. Philip DePasquale
Dr. Marshall Seidman
Dr. Mark Claus
June 23, 2009
Dear Stephen and Peter,
We are so saddened to hear about your loss. Please know that our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this difficult time.
~With love,
Pooh's Corner Daycare
June 23, 2009
Stephen,
Our thoughts and prayers are with you and Peter always. We will Miss Elly and her smile very much. Elly gave Peter the best gift a mother could give herself.
We love you and will always be here for you and Peter.
God Bless
Ron and Sharon Brewer
June 23, 2009
As a new mother myself, my heart breaks for your family. Kiss and hug and hold that baby close. I don't know you, but my thoughts and prayers are with you now and always. Press on for your beautiful baby son.
Susan Janovic
June 23, 2009
Dear Stephen,
I was shocked to hear the sad news of the passing of your wife. May all the most wonderful and loving memories of Elly keep you strong. You and Peter are in my prayers.
Most Sincerely,
Susan Janovic
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