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Nicholas DeFelice Obituary

Nicholas F. DeFelice, age 86, of Southington, CT., beloved husband of Doris Maule DeFelice, passed away peacefully at home on October 8, 2023. Big Nick was born in Derby on February 4, 1937, to Francis T. and Carolyn Cirillo DeFelice.

Nick is survived by his beloved wife Doris, his four children: Deborah, Landa, Scott, husband to Jacqui, and Nicholas L., husband to Karen, as well as thirteen cherished grandchildren and four great-grandchildren. Nick loved being a brother-in-law to Paul and Denise Maule and Dan and Sue Ahern. He was an incredibly proud uncle to Jay and Kristy.

Nick spent his childhood in Derby, and as a Red Raider in high school, he found his first love, football. Nick continued his studies at Southern CT, graduating with a BS in education in 1961 while pursuing his football career as an offensive Tackle and Captain of the team. After college, Nick started teaching at Hamden Hall, and he continued to play Semi-pro football with the Ansonia Knights and the Hartford Charter Oaks. During the summer of 1965, Nick was invited to the New York Jets training camp and made the team, # 71. Nick played as a Jet for two full seasons and was asked to return for a third but declined and came home to captain the Hartford Knights, allowing him to be closer to his family.

Nick continued to be an avid Jets fan for the rest of his life and valued all the friendships he made while playing. He especially enjoyed his lifelong friendship with another Jet rookie from 1965 who just happened to be a quarterback from the University of Alabama. Nick went on to help Joe coordinate his charitable endeavors and sat on the Board of Directors for Broadway Joe's March of Dimes Celebrity Golf Classic fundraiser for many years.

After his playing days were over, Nick put the same amount of energy into his business career and family. Leveraging his celebrity as a professional athlete and his commitment to success, Nick started a Sales and Marketing company that he owned and operated for over 40 years. Oxford Industries focused on Industrial marketing to all the defense contractors in New England. Nick was incredibly proud of his relationships at Sikorsky Aircraft and always pointed out the parts of the helicopters that were manufactured by the companies he successfully represented. He traveled the world for work and created lasting friendships wherever he went.

Nick lived life to the fullest. He had a unique way of touching people and inspiring them to reach higher. While running his business, he found time and relished coaching football at Xavier High School with his best friend, Larry McHugh. Nick always looked forward to his monthly Thursday night gatherings with his Scungilli Brothers, where they celebrated their Italian heritage and friendship. He enjoyed playing golf at Racebrook Country Club with his gang and would occasionally admit that 19 was his best hole of the day. Nick was an avid skier into his 80's. He was always very well dressed and skied mountains in New England, out west, and Europe. Nick enjoyed fine dining and traveling with his wife, Doris. If he liked the places they visited, he sometimes purchased real estate on a whim. He loved holding court and telling stories while enjoying a cigar and a scotch with family or friends. The only way you could pick up a check when out with Nick was to secretly slide a credit card to the waiter before he realized what was happening. Nick loved his family and would proudly share details of their recent accomplishments with everyone. He was a true inspiration for living a robust and meaningful life.

Per his final request, services will be private. Lastly, Nick adored children, and they would continually flock to him, somehow sensing his 'gentle giant' soul. With this in mind, his family humbly suggests honoring Nick by listening to 'We'll Meet Again" by Frank Sinatra and consider donating, in Nick's memory to River Street School. Donations can be sent to Dr. Jay Maule, Director, River Street School, 601 River Street, Windsor, CT 06095. The Iovanne Funeral Home, Inc. is in care of his arrangements. Share a memory and sign Nick's guest book online at www.iovanne.com.

He was a class act all the way. May he rest in peace.

Big Nick DeFelice Jets # 71

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Published by Hartford Courant on Oct. 15, 2023.

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Paul Maturo

January 29, 2024

To the Defelice family I send my condolences. I will be praying for him and all of you. I played at Xavier and he was my line coach, but he was more than that to me. He was such an inspiration and throughout my life a constant friend. I have so much to say but can´t fit it all here. I love him and will miss him greatly. With love and respect Paul Maturo

Royce Toni Jr.

December 24, 2023

RIP big guy. It was a pleasure getting to know you. Sincerely, Royce A. Toni JR.

Lisa Zajac

November 8, 2023

My deepest condolences to Doris and family. My Mom always said it was the best job she ever had working for Nick. So kind to me growing up. I know my Mom was part of the gang who greeted him when he went through heavens gate.

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sean mchugh

October 23, 2023

He was the best. I am sure he is showing all the angels a good time in heaven. He had a way to make everyone feel important. He will be missed. Rest in peace Mr. D.

Larry McHugh Jr

October 19, 2023

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October 19, 2023

In loving memory of Big Nick. He touched so many lives each and every day. He touched my live as a kid growing up in North Branford, as my OL coach At Xavier, as an young adult growing into a man. Thinking of Big Nick brings a smile and chuckle. Great memories to be cherished a lifetime. I love and I will miss the Big Guy
Larry McHugh Jr

Oxford industries

October 15, 2023

Working for Nick and traveling with him and Dick was the most fun anyone person could have. Nick telling the GPS lady she's wrong every where we went. He was a great boss and Nick and Doris celebrated my anniversary with my husband was a memory I will never forget.

Milton J. Northrop

October 12, 2023

Nick played at Derby High School and at Miami (Fla.) before he transferred to Southern Connecticut State University. One of his Derby teammates was Bobby Madgic who was a three-sport athlete at Amherst (Mass.).

Cheryl and James Ferguson

October 12, 2023

Our sincere condolences to the DeFelice family. Jimmy & I have a cottage almost right behind Nick and Doris at WSB. I last saw Nick when he & Doris were painting their shed in their backyard. A meeting of the minds was taking place as to the right way to do the job. I laughed as they reminded me of Jimmy and I trying to get a project done.

Lorenzo Marshall Sr.

October 11, 2023

The Journey here is over Coach, job well done!!!!
R.I.P. Sir Nick!!! Appreciate having the opportunity to share a bit of it with you!!! Sincere condolences, and all the best to family and friends!!! #LIVELIFE

"Lo"

Christy Hayes

October 11, 2023

Nick was a great SCSC football guy . May he rest in Peace

Ed McCarthy

October 11, 2023

Nick was a true gentleman in every respect. If he was together with his side-kick Larry McHugh, it was going to be a fun evening. May God Bless You, Nick !

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