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O'CONNOR, Patrick "Paddy"
Patrick "Paddy" O'Connor, 48, of South Windsor, loving husband of Teresa (Henriques) O'Connor, passed away suddenly on Thursday, (April 19, 2012) at Manchester Memorial Hospital. Born in Hartford, the son of David and Mary (Owens) O'Connor of East Hartford, he grew up in East Hartford and lived in Manchester before moving to South Windsor two years ago. He was a graduate of East Hartford High School and the Porter & Chester Institute. He was employed as a computer programmer at Mass Mutual in Springfield. He was a member of the Wapping Community Church in South Windsor. He helped with fundraisers for The Hole in the Wall Gang Fund. He enjoyed golfing, running and hiking. He recently ran in the Hartford Marathon. He was a former member of the Volunteer Hose Company #2 in East Hartford. He was a loving and devoted son, husband, father, brother and friend who enjoyed spending time with his family and friends. Patrick loved his children and he never missed a hockey game, play or dance recital. In addition to his wife and his parents, he is survived by his beloved children, Nicole and David O'Connor of South Windsor; his step children, Christopher and Lindsey Lawton of South Windsor; his siblings, Rita McCarty of Manchester, Brian O'Connor of Portsmouth, NH, Peter O'Connor of Manchester, Clare Fravel of Newington and Neil O'Connor of Manchester; his children's grandmother, Marie Pelletier of Clearwater, FL; many aunts, uncles, nieces, nephews, cousins and dear friends, and his close companion, his dog Bruin. He was predeceased by his first wife, Susan (Pelletier) O'Connor, and her father, Gerald Pelletier.
His family will receive friends for calling hours on Sunday, April 22, 2012 from 3-7 p.m. at the Samsel & Carmon Funeral Home, 419 Buckland Road, South Windsor. Funeral services will be held on Monday, April 23, 2012 at 10 a.m. at the Wapping Community Church, 1790 Ellington Road, South Windsor. Burial will follow in St. Bridget Cemetery in Manchester. Memorial donations in his memory may be made to MARC, Inc. of Manchester, 352R West Middle Turnpike, Manchester, CT 06040. For online Condolences and guest book, please visit http://www.carmonfuneralhome.com" www.carmonfuneralhome.com
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Sponsored by Teresa O'Connor, wife.
May 4, 2016
Today and everyday . . .
Jessica Hogan
January 14, 2014
My family would like to send their condolences. My great grandmother lived across the street from the o'connors when I was very young. We think of you all often. I have very fond memories of Nicole, David, Pat and Susan. I'm sorry this is so late but to Nicole and David, my deepest apologies for the loss of your parents. May you find peace.
April 20, 2013
Teresa, I know Patrick is right there with you. May all the wonderful memories you have bring comfort.
Susan
April 19, 2013
One year ago God needed another angel. I wonder what the fairways are like in heaven. You will live forever in my heart. I treasure the times we shared together and cherish the memories forever. I miss you more than words can say. You will always be my some kinda wonderful love.
Teresa
February 9, 2013
If there was any way I could take your place and bring you back I would.
June 20, 2012
I'm just so lost Pat & Sue . . . life is so different now . . . not what I ever anticipated. Nothing's been right since
August 14, 2002 and now April 19, 2012 and I fear that I'll never be able to really live life . . . Miss you both with all of my being . . .
Teresa
June 1, 2012
Happy Birthday in heaven sweetheart. Love and miss you very much every day.
April 26, 2012
Dear Claire,
My deepest sympathy to you, your mom and the entire O'Connor clan. Did not have the pleasure of knowing your brother, an amazing man. May the sorrow in your heart be eased by the Love you shared.
Sincerely,
Patricia DonAroma HITW
April 25, 2012
What a shock to hear that someone so full of life has passed so suddenly. I had the opportunity to work with Pat on a number of projects. Pat always had a smile and a way to make the team share a laugh. My thoughts and prayers are with his family and friends.
Sincerely, Lisa Adinolfo
April 24, 2012
To the Oconnor family,
My thoughts and prayers are with the O'Connor family during this difficult time. I had the opportunity to work with Pat in the past. What a wonderful person and so easy to work with.
Thinking of you,
Lisa Cavallo
Juanita Knight
April 24, 2012
I was shock to hear of Pat's passing. My thoughts and prayers are with the family at your time of sorrow. I knew Pat from CML and here at MM he was such a wonderful person to work with.
Sincerely, Juanita
Gary & Cathy Cyr
April 23, 2012
Our thoughts and prayers are with you in your time of grief. May your memories bring you comfort.
Julia St.Amand
April 23, 2012
Dear O'Connor family,
My deepest sympathy to all. I knew Pat through the Pelletier family. He was a great husband,father and friend to all who knew him. Nicole and David, Grandma P. is so proud of both of you. You are all in my thoughts and prayers.
Sincerely, Julie St.Amand
Kathy Brochu
April 23, 2012
To Teresa and the entire O'Connor family, I am so deeply saddened and shocked at the untimely passing of Pat. I remember he and Sue in High School, and then to hear that he and Teresa found each other after Sue's passing was just wonderful. The two of you looked so happy together. My sympathies and prayers go out to the entire family .
Penny Whitaker
April 23, 2012
To the family of Pat O'Connor. I had the pleasure of working with Pat for several years. His quiet, understated way , his hard working nature, his love of family and warm smile is something that I will always remember about Pat. His loss is shocking and he is already missed greatly. My thoughts, prayers and condolences are with you all now and always. Best regards, Penny Whitaker...
Sandra Rigazio-DiGilio
April 23, 2012
Dear Nicole
Words fail.
We are truly sorry for your loss and pray for your father's safe return home.
We lit a candle for him. It will burn in our home for seven days.
My Nonni passed on this belief to us.
The candle shines a light that connects those who are finding their way home to the people on earth who are waving goodbye until their loved one is finally there, where others, already passed, have set a place at the table for them.
In our family, we also believe that another journey begins at the end of worldly existence. We hope your father's path stretches far beyond the life we can only imagine to a place where the trials of his life are resolved . . . where the love you shared provides him shelter and peace . . . and where his soul will surely find a way to the light.
I hope you and your family are finding comfort in all the special ways you have learned to in your life's journey.
Che Dio ti Benedici
Sandra and Anthony
Cheryl Dowd
April 23, 2012
My prayers and deepest sympathy to the entire O'Conner family. I was so shocked to hear of Pat's passing, such a wonderful person to be taken away at such a young age. I am thankful that so many lives have been touched by his generosity and kind heart, he will truly stay with us in our hearts forever!! Teresa my prayers are with you and the children during this difficult time. Please reach out if you need anything we are all here for you.
Beth Bockus
April 23, 2012
Peter & Family,I am so sorry to hear of your loss.My thoughts and prayers are with you at this difficult time.
Teri S
April 23, 2012
My sympathy and prayers to Pat's family. Pat had such a good and calming influence uppon meeting him and working with him. I soon knew that his family was his rock. His smile was genuine and was for all, but when he spoke of family-the smile deepened to pure joy-know that. Prayers to you for your loss.
Nicole Birdsey
April 23, 2012
My thoughts and prayers are with the O'Connor family. I had the opportunity to work with Pat last year at MassMutual. He always had a wonderful sense of humor and kept us all grounded. He will be missed greatly!
Belinda Williams
April 23, 2012
Wishing the O'Connor and McCarty family God's continued comfort and love during this difficult time and beyond.
Tom Sousa
April 23, 2012
My best wishes go out to the O'Connor family, Pat will be missed by many. I was lucky to consider Pat as a great friend, neighbor, and coworker at CT. Mutual for greater than 10 years. He was a great person and was committed to those he loved.. He will me sorely missed.
Geet Lamba
April 23, 2012
My deepest sympathies to the O'Connor Family. I had the opportunity to work with Pat at MassMutual. He was an amazing person and will be greatly missed. My thoughts and prayers are with you all.
April 23, 2012
David I'm so sorry for the loss of your dad. He was a super guy and was always so proud of you. Please contact us if you need anything. We love you,
Robin and Cordell
Ope Akanji
April 23, 2012
My deepest sympathies to the O'Connor family. My thoughts and prayers are with your family.
Lisa McLaughlin
April 23, 2012
To the O'Connor Family, Both myself and my husband had the opportunity to work with Pat MassMutual. We remember his stories about his family and he was always smiling. Pat will be greatly missed. Our thoughts and prayers are with you all.
April 23, 2012
My heart goes out to Pat's family and many friends. I had the pleasure of knowing him through work at MassMutual. His ready smile and warm personality will be missed.
~Carol Reed, Springfield, Massachusetts
Pat O'Connor
April 23, 2012
Deeply saddened by the passing of Pat. We oftened exchanged emails at MMFG since we shared the same name. I also had the pleasure of working with Pat on a few projects over the years. My heartfelt sympathy to his family.
Peggy McCann
April 23, 2012
To the entire O'Connor family:
Our thoughts and prayers are with you all at this very difficult time.
Paggy McCann Guinan & Family
Moate
Co Westmeath
Ireland
Dolores Butka
April 22, 2012
I was so sorry to hear of Patrick's death. I remember him well - he was a wonderful young man. I was the school nurse at o'Brien School and came to know Patrick and his family. My thoughts and prayers are with all his family members.
April 22, 2012
To the entire O'Connor family, please know that you are all in our hearts and in our prayers.
Mike Downes
April 22, 2012
O'Connor Family, We are very sorry to hear aboout the passing of Patrick. Our thoughts and prayers are with you all.
Mike Downes and Ed Sullivan
Gopinath Venkatasamy
April 22, 2012
My deepest sympathies to Pat's family. We miss you Pat.
Ginn Banks
April 22, 2012
Dear Theresa:
I was so sad to hear of your husband's passing. Please know that my heart, my thoughts and my prayers are with you at this most difficult time. May he rest in peace.
Ginny Banks
Michael Byrne
April 22, 2012
We were deeply saddened to hear of Pat's sudden passing. We will keep his family in our thoughts and prayers during this difficult time. Pat was a great friend to my family over the last 25 years. When my middle sister passed several years ago, Pat was at my older sister's door the morning of her funeral lawn mower in tow...he proceeded to mow the grass and put up a tent so things would be ready for the afternoon reception...this is how I and many other will remember him...a selfless, generous and caring person who will be greatly missed by all who knew him.
The Byrne Family
Prospect, KY
Laura Armstrong-Gonzalez
April 22, 2012
To the entire O'Connor family- I am so very sad to hear of your loss. You are in my thoughts and prayers through this tough time.
John Foran
April 22, 2012
To the O,Connor family our thoughts and prayers are with you duiring this time.
Tom DeFrino
April 22, 2012
I had the pleasure of working with Pat off and on at MassMutual over the last few years. He was a great person to work with, always very helpful and caring. We also shared a passion for golf and country music. He will be greatly missed by all he touched at MM. My deepest sympathies to your family for your loss.
Dawn Loughead
April 22, 2012
My deepest sympathies to the O'Connor family. Pat was a wonderful person. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
John Chriscola III
April 22, 2012
My thoughts and prayers are with your family during this time. With deepest sympathy.
Hud Allen
April 22, 2012
To Pat's family, my deepest sympathy for your loss. I have worked with Pat on several occasions through the years and I will miss the passion and dedication he brought to his assignments. We are all better people for having known Pat. He will be very much missed. With Heartfelt Condolences.
Mintel Family
April 22, 2012
To all the O'Connor family - our thoughts and prayers are with you.We hope our love and friendship help support and strengthen you during this difficult time.
Brian Miller
April 22, 2012
Dear O'Connor family, I struggle to put in to words my thoughts of such a wonderful friend. I had the pleasure of seeing Pat many times per week as we worked together for 20+ years. We worked on several long projects which afforded us to have the opportunity to have hundreds of conversations and for me to enjoy his stories, advice and his wonderful smile. I have memories/stories that go back to when we did kenpo together in the 80's, and as recent as the running stories of the Hartford marathon (his proposal to Teresa), Manchester road races, David's hockey games, Nicole's ventures at UCONN and travels, Lindsey's 1st half marathon, Teresa photography etc.. He shared openly and I'm so happy he did. He was a genuine wonderful person!
His family should know how respected he was and how much we enjoyed working with him. Since his passing there have been so many great stories shared about this great guy. You dad, husband, son and sibling touch each of us in a positive way. He made each of us better people and work a better place.
I'm so sorry for your loss. There are no words to totally comfort you but what I can offer is to let you know those of us who had the pleasure of knowing him knew how happy Pat was and that is because of each of you! He was so proud and loved you so very much.
Brian and Kim Miller
Ken Adamson
April 22, 2012
My thoughts and prayers go out to the entire O'Connor family. May your memories of Patrick continue to make your heart smile
Brenda McCarty
April 22, 2012
Rita, Mike and Brian
I was shocked and so saddened to hear about Pat. I pray that your strong faith will help you deal with your grief at this most difficult time.
Gwynne Skehan
April 22, 2012
To Pat's family, I have known Pat since his early days at CML. He always had a smile on his face and always seemed so happy when you saw him. He was such a nice person. I was so shocked and sadden that he left us all too soon. My prayers are with you all at this time.
Beverley Maschi
April 21, 2012
To Pat's Family,
It was such a shock on Friday at work to hear of Pat's sudden passing. Pat always had a smile on his face, a very proud family man and so proud of his children. I am thankful to have known him and worked with him over the years. His friends at MM will dearly miss him. My thoughts and prayers are with you your family.
Rita DiCioccio Fogarty
April 21, 2012
With deepest sympathy.
April 21, 2012
Devastated. God you're the only one that I know will never leave my side. Stay close please . . .I'm scared that I won't survive this time.
April 21, 2012
My deepest sympathies to the O'Connor family. Pat was a great person I was glad to of known him and work with him. My thoughts and prayer are with you and your family.
Joan Wade, East Windsor,Ct
Susan Scarfo
April 21, 2012
Teresa, I am so shocked by this. I know you and Patrick were an amazing couple. My fondest memory is Patrick's proposal to you. My heart goes out you and your children. You are in my prayers.
Terry Gaspari
April 21, 2012
Dear O'Connor family, I've worked on and off with Pat at MassMutual for a number of years. He has always been a great guy to work with - smart, quick to catch on, quicker to help someone else (me!) catch on, and to top it off, all a great sense of humor. He will be sorely missed. I am so sorry for your loss, God bless.
Max Luong
April 21, 2012
Deeply saddened by the passing of Pat. I'm so proud and thankful to have known him, had him as my mentor, and worked with him on the same team. He will be dearly missed by all his friends at work. My heartfelt sympathy to you all.
Michael Brochu
April 21, 2012
We are all very saddened at work about losing Pat. He was so well liked and respected. He will be missed. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
Brian Lessard
April 21, 2012
Teresa: We are stunned and saddened by your loss. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
Jennifer Edman
April 21, 2012
To Pat's family and dear friends,
I was fortunate enough to know Pat for many years at MassMutual. So many of us that called Pat a friend were utterly devasted to hear of his sudden passing. It was clear that he was a proud family man and he always had a smile on his face or a kind word. He will be sorely missed by many. My very deepest condolences for your loss.
Jean LaTorre
April 21, 2012
Teresa,
We all saddened to learn of your devasting loss. It was clear how much you loved each other.
wayne johnson
April 21, 2012
my deepest condelences to dave and mary and the oconnor family.
April 21, 2012
I am so shocked and deeply saddened to learn of Pat's passing. I worked with him at CM and just recently we reconnected here at MM. I was so glad to know life was going well for him and that he was happy and fulfilled. What a tragedy. My sincerest sympathies to his family.
Irene Arabek
April 21, 2012
Dear Theresa ,Nicole, David, step children Christopher and Lindsey and Parents David and Mary O'Connor - brothers Neil, Brian, Peter , sisters Rita and Clare and their spouses on your loss. Patrick is now an angel - watching down over all of us. With love Mrs. Arabek.
Betty Ann Haggerty
April 21, 2012
To the O'Connor Family, I worked with Pat at MMFG. He was such a good person and he will be greatly missed, in so many ways. My thoughts and prayers are with you all.
Roland Lachance
April 21, 2012
Mary and Dave
Our deepest sympathy to you and your family
in your time of grief.
Roland & Colette Lachance
Theresa Paradis Brother from Maine
Ken Quick
April 21, 2012
Pat was everyone's friend and his passing is everyone's loss. My sincere condolences to his family.
Bill Murphy
April 21, 2012
My deepest sympathies to the O'Connor family. Pat was a great guy and will be sorely missed by me and all his many friends at MassMutual . God Bless you
Ellen Maloney Griffin
April 21, 2012
Dear Mr. & Mrs O'Connor, Rita, Brian and all the family,
My heartfelt condolences on Patrick's passing. Having lost my brother,David, suddenly just 7 months ago I know the unbearable pain you are feeling. You will be in my thoughts and prayers in the coming weeks and months as you continue to live through your grief. With Much Love,
Ron and Sherrie Schallack
April 21, 2012
We know Clare through the Little Theater of Manchester, and we are so sorry to hear this news. We will remember him in church this Sunday.
Karen Cowdell
April 21, 2012
I'm so sorry to hear about Pat. My thoughts and prayers are with his friends and family for peace and comfort!
Bill LeBlanc
April 21, 2012
To the O'Connor family, Im so sorry to hear the news about pat. We were on the wrestling teem together in high school. He was a great person and a great competeter. I will allways have great memories of pat.
Jennifer Bates
April 21, 2012
My most heartfelt condolences to Pat's family at this sad time. I worked with him off and on for the last 16 years and he was always happy to help with whatever questions I had. My prayers are with him now.
Katie Callahan
April 21, 2012
To say that I was shocked and saddened to hear the news of Pat's sudden passing would be a complete understatement. I am a friend of Pat's cousin, Theresa Owens Malone and knew Pat and Sue in high school. They were the type of couple, even in high school that made you feel "good" when you were around them...because they were so "good". When I had heard that Pat had remarried, to Theresa Henriques, it was with such joy from the family that he had found love again with such a wonderful woman. "What beautiful hearts all these people have", I would always think. Anytime there were posts about his children on FB it was as if his pride was beaming through cyber space! I last saw Pat at this years St. Paddy's Day parade and to be honest, I saw his dog before I even noticed it was Pat! Again, not knowing him well, but, knowing who he was through Theresa, mutual friends and our East Hartford connection was more than enough to feel genuine happiness to see him and ease in conversation! This is a sudden and some would say tragic ending to any life...never mind someone as truly "good" as Pat...but, I can't help but think that although some people live much longer...they don't even come close to living with such unbridled, unabashed joy and love. Pat is from an amazing family...full of love for one another, their heritage and their Faith. He is with his God...and with his family in heaven and with all of you in spirit forever. You are all in my prayers.
Pat Zappala
April 21, 2012
My deepest sympathies to the entire O'connor family. Pat was a great guy and will be sorely missed. God Bless.
julie brown
April 21, 2012
To the O'Connor family, my thoughts and prayers are with you at this most difficult time. Pat always had a great sense of humor and was an all around nice guy, he will be greatly missed. Nicole and David, there are no words that can ease your pain, however you both have grown into incredible young adults and are molds of two beautiful people, your mother and father. Know they are always watching over you. God Bless, With love, Julie and Crystal Brown
melissa gilbert
April 21, 2012
o'connor and lawton family,
i am very sorry to hear of your loss. you are all a wonderful family and my thoughts and prayers go out to all of you.
melissa-(admirals maids)
Samsel & Carmon Funeral Home
April 21, 2012
Our sincere sympathies for your loss.
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