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Paula Netto Obituary
Paula Jean (Aselton) Netto, 58, wife of Darrell Netto, passed into eternal rest May 16 at Middlesex Hospital in Middletown. Born August 31, 1955 in Portsmouth, Virginia to Beatrice Aselton and the late Gordon Aselton, Paula was a lifelong Connecticut resident who had resided in Colchester since 2003. An avid reader and swimmer, savvy bargain shopper, zealous Scrabble player, experienced world traveler, and lover of life, Paula visited five continents, hiked Machu Picchu, and loved walking the world's beaches collecting sea shells, beach glass, and shark teeth. After graduating South Windsor High School, Paula earned her Bachelor's degree summa cum laude from Saint Joseph College and her Masters in Social Work from Fordham University. Always a Mother first, Paula worked for Price Waterhouse, Klingberg Family Center, and was the first Social Worker at Marlborough Elementary School, developing the entire program herself. In recognition for her Peer Mediation and Playground Peacekeeper program, Paula was recognized with a CAS award from the Connecticut Association of Schools in 2009. A beloved friend and mentor, Paula will be deeply and forever missed by her husband, mother, and her children; Michael Dunshee of Manchester, Jeffrey Dunshee of Colchester, and Elizabeth Dunshee of Colchester. Paula is also survived by her sisters Pamela, Patricia, and Penny Aselton, her mother's husband Tom Wilenski, numerous relatives, friends, and colleagues. Calling hours will be at First Congregational Church of South Windsor, 992 Main Street, Tuesday, May 27 from 4:30-7:00. In lieu of flowers donations can be made in Paula Netto's name to Middlesex Hospital Hospice and Palliative Care Unit, Office of Philanthropy, 28 Crescent Street, Middletown, CT 06457 or Stand Up To Cancer at File 1224 1801 W. Olympic Boulevard, Pasadena, CA 91199-1224 or via StandUpToCancer.org
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Memories and Condolences
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Barbara Christensen (Jolyn's daughter)
June 27, 2021
I just came across this notice. Sending the Aseltons my thoughts, even all these years later. I remember her from family events on McGrath Rd; she was always kind to me.
Sally Dengenis
May 15, 2019
Dear Paula,
I miss you and love you still.
Sally Dengenis
Sue Cowan
May 15, 2019
Thinking of you all and cannot believe its been 5 years since Paulas passing. We lost my mom last year and it changes everything. I know she will always be in your hearts and memories. We wish you peace. Sue, Steve and Emily Cowan
August 31, 2014
Lu-Ann Drury Horn, Frank,Becky and Lucille are so sorry to hear of Paula's passing.
John Rebecchi
June 9, 2014
Aunt Bea, Pam, Penny and Patti I can't imagine the sadness you must be feeling from losing one so precious. From our family the deepest condolences for the loss of Paula.
Love to you all,
John, Patty and the Rebecchi Family
June 5, 2014
Darrell, We are so sorry to learn of your wife's passing. We hope you are holding up.
Rich Baber and Susan Sacco
Rosalie Roth
May 29, 2014
To the Dunshee children -- I will remember your mother fondly from our days together in Marlborough. We had many good times! The world has lost a wonderful person with a great love for life. You have my heartfelt sympathy.
Rosalie Roth
May 28, 2014
Our heartfelt condolences to the entire family. We have so many fond memories of Paula that will remain in our hearts forever. That smile!!!
"A loving heart is never forgotten"
Carl, Laraine and Brian. Ericson
Sue Cowan
May 27, 2014
Darrell, Liz and family;
Our deepest condolences on the loss of Paula. She was our neighbor for too short a time. We will always remember her smile and warmth, and we wish you all peace and beloved memories.
Love; Sue Steve and Emily.
ellen grimaldi
May 27, 2014
Darrell and family , we will miss Paula and the great times we had with her and the family. She was a very special women. Sincerely, the Grimaldi Family
jimmy defemia
May 27, 2014
A very loving and honest person. Like a sister to me and many others all through high school. God Bless you sweetheart. And God bless her family.
Mark Aniello
May 27, 2014
My heartfelt condolences to the family. I was sadden to hear of her passing. We grew up in the same neighborhood and went to school together. She was always a kind and caring person.
Dee Burkhart
May 27, 2014
Darrell, sorry for your loss. It's so special that you found your soulmate. Cherish all the wonderful memories you two made together. All our love and prayers. Kurt, Dee & Paige Burkhart
Robin Greenwald
May 24, 2014
To Darrell, Liz, and the rest of the family, my heart goes out to you. I am so sorry for your loss. Paula will be remembered as a loving and caring person who shaped the programs, the culture, and the children at Marlborough Elementary. What a sad loss, but what an important life.
Fondly, Robin Greenwald
Janice Auretta
May 23, 2014
Paula, my dear sweet friend who I loved and adored. We knew each other since we were 8 years old. Her friendship was of fun, adventure, unconditional love and 1,000+ great times together. She made my world a better place. My prayers and sympathy to the family. Jan-Jan
That's me...I wish she had gotten to see me during my dance recital but she had gotten sick :(
Mackenzie Korth
May 23, 2014
Hi, it's Mackenzie K. ..I just wanted to say I'm so sorry! She was a good woman! She made me the person I am today! She was like a friend to me! No one can replace her! R.I.P Mrs. Netto! We will miss you! ALL of us who had a chance to get to know her knows she was a spiritual and beautiful woman! All of Marlborough and Marlborough Elementary School will miss her! I'm so sorry for your loss Mr. Netto!
May 23, 2014
To family and friends, although our hearts are broken Paula's love and kind spirit will live forever in our hearts. I adored her as a friend and though years have passed, I will never forget you. Dwight Whitey Dewey Colby
May 22, 2014
To all Paula's Family: Please accept my deepest condolences on Paula's passing, and surely she is up in the heavens now and at peace. We worked together at The Travelers, and how wonderful, and charming , and smart a young woman she was. Peace to each of you, and I will be remembering Paula in my prayers.
Sally Dengenis
May 22, 2014
Bea, my thoughts and prayers are with you and
your family. Fondly, Terry Kurtzman
Banas family
May 22, 2014
Peace and love to Paula's family.
Judy Banas
May 22, 2014
Paula. Thank you for never giving up on our son. We appreciated the encouragement you gave him. You are missed. It's not fair when good people leave us so soon but God must have needed an angel to help with the kids.
Carole. Lavoie-Teeter
May 22, 2014
Paula will be missed by everyone who knew her. My thoughts and prayers are with you and her family.
May 22, 2014
our sorrow is with your family. she will live on in memories and spirit be in peace Paula. Nick &Arline Champ
May 22, 2014
I first met Paula when she was about two years old and she and her mother (my sister, Bebe) and her father (Gordon) came to the house on Long Island that my mother and father were renting for the summer. Paula was beautiful then and over the years she grew in beauty -- both in her looks and in her spirit. I will miss her ever so much.
May 22, 2014
My thoughts are with you at this difficult time.May you find peace.
Don Roy
Karen Rossi
May 22, 2014
It was a beautiful summer afternoon for a Norfolk Open House. I opened the door to Paula's beaming smile. She had made the adventurous trek with her little sister. It wasn't Pammie, it was a young woman that she had become the mentor of.
Paula made adding good to the world look easy, and while she was at it, rasied three wonderful children.
My condolences to the family, friends and community which has lost Paula. It is a comfort to know that her spirit will live on in all the wonders she created.
So proud of you!, Paula!
Amber
May 22, 2014
I am so sorry to hear about Paula's passing. what a beautiful obituary! she lived quite an exciting life. my heart goes out to all of her family and friends.
May 22, 2014
To Jeffrey and Family,
Please accept our heartfelt condolences at the loss of Paula. She will be remembered at our Chapel Bells Mass on November 5, 2014.
Office of Alumni Relations
University of Saint Joseph
Ava Reed
May 22, 2014
So sorry to hear of your family's loss. Paula was such an amazing person. She truly touched the lives of everyone who had the pleasure of spending time with her. She will be missed so much.
roy flanagan
May 22, 2014
bea,pam,patty,and penny,im so sorry to hear about paula,ill be thinking of you all,my thoughts and prayers.
Jennifer Marques Patterson
May 22, 2014
I am shocked and saddened to hear of Paula's passing. The Aselton ladies were such a big part of my childhood and I will always cherish those memories. As a young girl, I remember Paula as sophisticated and vivacious, generous and kind. My love and condolences to the family, my thoughts and prayers with you always...
Kathleen Taylor
May 21, 2014
Our sincere condolences in the Loss of Your Beloved.Scott & Kathy Taylor
Suzanne Terase Kunz
May 21, 2014
So sorry for your loss. Prayers and hugs to the entire family.
May 21, 2014
I'll miss you my loving wonderful daughter. God gave me you as a gift but he wants you
back. I will always love you & cherish all the great memories. Christmas Eve will never
be the same. Mom
May 21, 2014
Prayers and condolence to Bee and to Paula's family. We all love you Bee and miss you. God will see you through this sad time.
Mary Lou (Burnham)White
May 21, 2014
The thing I will always remember about Paula is her sweetness. After many years of not seeing her and reconnecting through Darrell's running Paula hadn't changed at all. She was the same sweet girl that I was friends with in middle school. My thoughts and prayers are with her family
Patty and Joe Montineri
May 21, 2014
We will miss you dear friend!
Greg Gobble
May 21, 2014
God bless Paula. I knew her well during her high school years. She left us too soon. Greg Gobble.
May 21, 2014
We are so very sorry for all of you. " Mrs. Netto" was a very special person in our house,as she was in many other homes in Marlborough.Her dedication to the children was sincere, unselfish and unending.We are forever thankful that she was a part of our lives.
Joachim, Rose and Hanna
Diane Kominske Legrande
May 21, 2014
Deepest condolences to Paula's family and friends. Paula was one of my first elementary school friends and that friendship lasted through high school and allowed us some really fun times together with a special group of friends. Paula will not be forgotten.
Doreen
May 21, 2014
Pam, Penny. Patti and Bea and remaining family,
I am so very sorry to hear about the passing of Paula. My prayers are with all of you at this very difficult time. May The Lord strengthen you and give you peace at this time.
Love to you all,
Doreen (Metzger) Russ
Liz Dunshee
May 21, 2014
I love you mom!
May 21, 2014
Paula will forever be in the hearts of the families and children at MES. She was a remarkable woman who helped so many.
Traci Slot
May 21, 2014
Our thoughts and prayers are with the Aselton, Dunshee and Netto families. The girls were very much a wonderful part of my life in South Windsor. Tom and Carol Aselton Benoit
Melanie Merritt
May 21, 2014
Thank you for always brightening a room when you entered it. We know your shining down on us all. Much love and peace to the Netto, Dunshee,& Aselton families. XOXO~ Mark & Melanie Merritt
Valerie and Kevin Brodie
May 21, 2014
All of our love, prayers, and hearts are with Darrell, Mike, Jordy, Liz and all of Paula's beloveds. She was an amazing woman whom we will miss beyond measure. My travel and TJ/ Marshall's guru, I will never, ever forget you and I love you.
Shelley Wilkerson
May 21, 2014
It has been many years since I have seen Paula. She was a very close friend of my younger sister Nancy for many years. I remember the close knit group they had and their many adventures they encountered. I have to admit that I was a little jealous of the times they had together. It has been more than forty years and they still kept in touch. You have to be a very special person to have such a lasting friendship. From the amount of time that I knew her, she was always a vivacious and spirited girl. I am sure she will be missed for the bright light that she was. Your family has my sincerest condolences.
Shelley Hayden Wilkerson
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