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Fran Patrick
October 8, 2022
Dear Bernie & Family - I will always have wonderful memories of our sandwich making at St. Bernard's Church hall for one of Tom's many charities - The House of Bread. Prior to my joining with this awesome group of friends & parishioners, I had just begun a Spiritual Journey @ this amazing Church where it was destined to meet many good people ; among them Tom & Bernie. This was in summer of 2011 and a brief time later, read in the church bulletin of the Social Action Committee for House of Bread led by Tom & Bernie. Yes, sandwiches were made, food donations brought to those in deep need which we felt honored to be a part of. Like it was yesterday when about a dozen of us gathered not only to provide nourishment, but fully, really enjoy ourselves with stories, latest family news and more. In fact it was the atmosphere that fostered the "Family" vibe. Bernie would gift us with garden bounty and Tom was always there beaming, quiet but ever in the moment no matter where he was. Temporarily based in NC to care for my husband was the primary reason that I could not attend. God Bless you Bernie and your family. Tom is never far away as he watches over all of you. Love is Strong, Love Endures and Love always wins. with our love, Fran Patrick & Family.
Apostol & Judy Laske
June 23, 2022
Bernie & Family,
We were saddened to hear about Tom's passing. Tom always made us feel welcome when we first started in CIGNA's GPD back in the late 80s. That tight knit actuarial group still brings back great memories and he was such an integral part of that successful team. Not to mention a mentor to so many. We were always impressed that Tom could churn pension numbers in his head as accurately as he did. More importantly, he was a kind and engaging person who you could talk to about anything. He had a very distinct chuckle and laugh that we will always fondly remember. In our eyes a true legend in the DB actuarial field, he will be missed. May his memory be eternal to all of his family, friends, and all of the people who were honored to have worked with him.
Richard E. Dooley
June 22, 2022
He was a special friend in college, and then later, my wife and I always visited with Tom ,often with Bernadette, @ many of our Holy Cross reunions, where our relationship deepened a lot. I'm proud to have that depth with Tom, his character & values, and his many activities .
Katherine Duguay
June 21, 2022
Tom greatly influenced me as a young actuary and I modeled my professional career on his.
He was well respected by clients and colleagues alike. He often would provide estimated financial figures which would, days later after running the data, would prove to be right on the money so to speak.
I was always impressed Tom could pinpoint any files in his office amongst the stacks and piles.
He balanced it all well, demanding national account clients, contributions to the Society of Actuaries, and mentoring many, many actuarial students.
It was always clear his family was important to him and I´m sorry for your loss.
Unfortunately I am out of town and will not be able to attend his services.
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