Calder Jacob "Mr. Awesome" Sloan
2007 - 2014
April 6, 2007
April 13, 2014
Calder Jacob Sloan, I am Chris Sloan, Calder's dad. In lieu of the traditional obituary, my wife and Calder's mom, Carla Kaufman Sloan wrote the most touching apt description of how she, our youngest Caleb, and I feel about our super hero and big hearted boy: Calder "Mr. Awesome" Sloan

"People tell you when you have a child you will never feel a stronger love. It is not necessarily instantaneous. Especially when you struggle to breastfeed and latching becomes a curse word rather than the simple way that nature takes her course. Then unaware to you a bond forms. It immerses you in a mesh-like cloth of genetics, mannerisms the smallest breathes and smiles that ensnare your heart, body and soul. Every giggle, victory, blood shed becomes a part of you as it is of your child. You become the ferocious protector and caregiver. There have been numerous incidents in the Miami Children's Museum that my friends can attest to, when I was ready to throw down. Yet these are nothing. Passing moments. Your love soon intensifies into a salve that you can't live without. Thank you Calder for being a genuinely good person and for having a moral center at age seven and years before. I hope I live my life in such a way that makes you as proud of me as I am of you. We do everything in our ability to make things right. Listen, discipline, teach good values and you pray it is enough; that you are safely guiding your loved one down a protected path. The kisses Calder was still willing to bestow with such joy remain precious, fresh on our lips, the hugs a warm victory that could have soon been fleeting when the teenage years kicked in. If you are lucky your children watch you grow old, and you become their tree stump to come to for solace, or to rest during a brief a visit. Sadly in our case tragedy and an unimaginable accident intervened to take Calder from us 7 days after his 7th Birthday. In his never ending exuberance for life he was taken from us. Calder was special with a true morality beyond his years. A day didn't go by that he didn't worry or have concern for someone, his little brother Caleb, Aron Zohar who broke his hand, Ms. Schimmel who he was sure we needed to go shopping for so she knew how much we cared for her. He wanted to be with Evan every day that he could. If Caleb hurt himself Calder created elaborate slapstick routines that would have made Charlie Chaplin envious. He would give me this special look, "Don't worry Mommy, I'm not hurt this will make Caleb laugh." Calder's little secret with me, and it worked every time. Calder thought differently. When he learned about even and odd numbers he had thoughts, "Mommy, 5 can be even," he said to me. "If I have five cookies and I have four friends and we each get a cookie. Then it's even, right?" Being a big bad soccer Mom, when Calder was on the field and he was having trouble getting by someone I made a suggestion. "Calder when you see him coming just stop the ball and he will roll right over it." He looked at me in slight disbelief, "Mom if I do that he could get hurt. I don't like that idea." I took my seat on the shame bench and kept my mouth shut. Calder was a rule follower. A moral compass. He made me laugh hard, big unexpected belly laughs. His big blue eyes pierced and warmed the hardest of souls. Every morning that I am not awakened by Calder's soft warm body and cold feet snuggling up to me before the alarm goes off, I will indulge by sobbing into my pillow for a few moments then pull myself up for a different day. A day absent from the bright light that shown from within Calder Jacob Sloan out into the world."

Services will be held Friday April 18th at 11:30AM at Temple Beth Shalom at 4141 Chase Avenue in Miami Beach.

In lieu of flowers, we are asking for donations to be made to Calder's School, Lehrman. Your donations are tax deductible and will go toward establishing a legacy foundation in his honor. Calder absolutely adored going to school and loved his friends, math, soccer, reading, and Hebrew class...really everything about it except for waking up early. His younger brother Caleb attends Lehrman and is receiving a great education. We love it that Caleb will be reminded of his beloved brother each day he goes to school.
Please make checks out to:
Lehrman Community Day School
memo: Calder J Sloan Legacy Fund
Lehrman Community Day School
727 77th St
Miami Beach, Fl 33141
Attn: Jodi Bruce, Head of School
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Published by the Miami Herald on Apr. 17, 2014.
No memorial events are currently scheduled.
To offer your sympathy during this difficult time, you can now have memorial trees planted in a National Forest in memory of your loved one.
Sponsored by Chris, Carla, and Caleb Sloan.
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he sounds amazing...mostly due to you...can't say anything else....wish I had the words...I don't
michael marshall
May 23, 2014
what a sweet little boy my prayers go out to the family
Bethany Kleinschmidt
May 14, 2014
Dear Neighbor,

I read your wonderful words in The Miami Herald guest book for your 7- year old loved one, Calder Jacob Sloan.

Please let me extend my sincere condolences to you and the entire family. It is apparent that he touched so many lives and will be missed by many. Family is one of the strongest bonds to soothe grief.

I recently read an article entitled, “When Someone You Love Dies, How Can I Live With My Grief?” I think that you will enjoy reading the article and sharing it with others. I would like to send you this comforting article. I would be more than happy to e-mail it to you because it has helped so many people in a time of grief, including myself.

I hope that you are doing well. Take care.

Mrs. Banks
Chicago, IL
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Mrs. Banks
May 6, 2014
I wish I could have gotten to meet Calder. I am so sorry beyond words for the loss of your little boy and fellow AvGeek. I am always here for you.
Cody Diamond
May 4, 2014
Chris, I was so sorry to hear about your son. I know you have kept in touch with Robert all these years and I have wondered about you often. I wish this was not the reason for my contacting you, but do want you to know my heart goes out to you and your family.
Gay Johnson
April 29, 2014
Chris ,
I just met you the other day at the memorial service of Chantelle Pyatt.
You and your wife were the vessel that God chose to love and care for this beautiful child. But when that little angel left us, it's every mothers lost.
My thoughts and prayers be with you and your family.
Sandy Hyacinthe
April 29, 2014
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Calder seemed like an amazing and precious little boy. May God comfort you in the days ahead as only He can.
Jamee Green
April 26, 2014
Carla and family, I am so sorry to hear of this tragedy. You are all in my thoughts and blessings.
Gina Nicotero Preston
Gina Nicotero-Preston
April 25, 2014
My heart was broken when I heard this story. I am so sad for this family. Rest in peace Calder. My thoughts and prayers to the family. Mr Awesome is now an angel watching over his family. God bless
Kathy Quinn
April 25, 2014
My heart and prayers go out to the family and friends of Calder Jacob Sloan.. May you always have comfort in all of your wonderful memories of Calder.. He will always be with you. Hope Kalish
Hope Kalish
April 25, 2014
There are no words to even try to convey the pain I feel for your loss. May you find comfort in your loving child's memory. May the legacy of "Mr. Awesome" ease your pain in the days ahead. God Bless you and your family!
A Nunez-Calicdan
April 24, 2014
Lifting your family up in prayers.
April 24, 2014
B"H My sincere condolences to your family.
Stephen Kaufman
April 24, 2014
Even though I never meet the Sloan family, my heart goes out to you in this dark time. Life is too short and there are no words to describe what you are feeling right now. You are not alone in this and so many people will remember your son.
Dominique Hoskins
April 24, 2014
My heart grieves for your family during this loss. May God mightily bless you and your family during this tragedy.
Cindi Inman
April 24, 2014
It's times like these where the right words are so hard to find. Even though I never met Calder the imprint he leaves behind will always be remembered. My sincere condolences to you and your family.
- Mike Gomes (Coral Springs,Fl.)
April 24, 2014
Word cannot express what I am feeling right now. You have my sincerest, heartfelt condolences. I grieve with thee.
Dan Trigona
April 23, 2014
I did not know you but I have two children 12 and 9 now. I know how precious you were to your mommy and daddy and your picture inspired me and brought me joy even though the news of your loss broke my heart at the same time. May your family and friends find peace in time with your loss, you are so precious and of course, AWESOME!
Aaron OFarrell
April 23, 2014
Calder was such a funny and kind child. My son Evan said, "It was so great to be his friend".
Calder always made me laugh, he always had a funny story or something funny to say. He was always there for Evan when Evan needed a friend. They really had so many great memories together.
We love Calder always and forever.
April 23, 2014
I will always remember Calder walking Caleb into class in the morning, a big smile across both of their faces... So sweet, so very special. Calder was always checking up on Caleb... He was amazing. My heart is truly saddened by this news but I will always remember his beautiful smile!
April 23, 2014
Esther Lopez
April 23, 2014
I feel Calder was a member of my family. What a beautiful little boy. May his spirit and kind heart live on forever.
Marion Dorskind
April 22, 2014
Mr. Awesome's zest for life will inspire me--and everyone who got to know him personally or virtually--day in and out. Thank you for sharing your beautiful memories of your incredible Calder. Much love to his family and friends.
Joan Harrison
April 22, 2014
Calder will always hold a special place in our hearts. Our time together was short, but the memories we shared will last forever. What I wouldn't give for a high-five from Mr. Awesome right now. Calder truly knew the meaning of happiness, friendship & fun. My heart goes out to everyone touched by his infectious smile and uplifting attitude. He was gifted beyond his years. Calder helped me change the color patterns on my laptop, and pointed out a feature even I didn't know of! After watching how brilliantly he planned and played a strategic video game, I remember telling others "that boy is going to change the world someday" - he certainly left his mark and his legacy will light up many lives for years to come.
Ashley Hartford
April 21, 2014
Carla, Chris and Caleb,
Ian and I are very grateful that we had a chance to meet Calder when you all were in Dallas.
Our deepest sympathies to your family.
We love you.
Susan and Ian Shores
April 21, 2014
Such a tragic loss! Calder sounded extraordinary and his life will always exemplify the love and light you brought to him. I am without words, grieving for your loss. Nothing is worse than having to carry on with such sadness. Our hearts are with you at this time. With love and our deepest condolences.
Jill and Scott Katz-Miller
April 21, 2014
Dear Carla, Chris & Caleb,

We have no words to express our deep sorrow for your tragic loss. Our thoughts and prayers are with you for your healing. May Calder's spiritual light continue to shine in a way that will give you comfort and strength. He will be holding your hand always.

Linda & Sidney Rothschild
(Louis' parents)
Linda & Sidney Rothschild
April 20, 2014
a beautiful star in heaven!bless your family, you are in my prayers!
April 19, 2014
Your son is only a prayer away, and is always there to hear from you. I hope your grief is leavened by your joyful memories of times together.
Peter Maszak
April 19, 2014
Lehrman Community Day School was a better place with Calder in it.... We will miss his smiling face every day!
Amy Siama
April 19, 2014
My heart goes out to your whole family. Sending you love and light. I am friends with Roberta and Steve Sloan, who were very close friends of my Mom and Stepdad, Harriet Phillips and Frank Colavita- killed by a drunk driver in 2009. I am so very sorry for your loss. May Calder's memory be for a blessing.
Lisa Phillips
April 19, 2014
My boys and I met Calder a few times when our nannies walked together as we live in the same neighborhood only a few blocks over - he left an impression on us as he was so talkative and warm hearted and kind to my boys. My wife and I have cried this week during our dinner prayers with our boys, after tucking our kids in at night and basically anytime we thought about your loss. We cannot imagine how someone could endure such a loss as we have a 7yr as well - we are your neighbors and we are so sorry and we wish we could do something to ease your pain. We will be praying for you and your family, we wish you peace.
Theron Nix
April 18, 2014
My heart goes out to you at this time and pray for you for peace and the strength to endure. God bless you all.
Ruth Kettaneh (Miami Shores, FL)
April 18, 2014
A childs love is unlike no other. God bless you and your family, our prayers are with you.
Richard Etienne
April 18, 2014
God Bless You All...Heaven Has Received Another Beautiful Angel...May Your Son Rest Under Gods Watchful Eyes...
Tawni Lee
April 18, 2014
My heart is broken for your family. I wish you peace and strength during this horribly difficult time. I will hold my children tighter and closer every day in honor of Calder. My heartfelt condolences. (I am an old acquaintance from TLC in Silver Spring)
Bianca Moreno Rupert
April 18, 2014
Dear Sloan Family
I am a fifth grade teacher at Lehrman Communtiy Day School. As a teacher of older children it is common to not know all of the younger students in a school. I am proud to say I did know Calder however. I met him on the first day of our school Shuk. The store had closed because it was Shabbat. Calder had not had a chance to make a purchase. For whatever reason he ended up next to me in the cafeteria. He was just looking at his money and he couldn't understand why he couldn't get something. After a couple of minutes my heart was melting. I took him by the hand and walked him back to the Shuk. Ms. Jodi was more than welcoming of Calder and his purchases were made. I will always remember that smile. My family's thoughts and prayers will be with you.
Judi Fishkin
April 18, 2014
Rest up in the Airways, Calder. Peace, love and hugs forever.
The Hartys
April 18, 2014
The story of your son touched my heart and soul beyond belief. Your attitude in the face of such tragedy and loss, touched me even more, you are incredible.
Kathy Rotundo
April 18, 2014
Patricia and I know that this child felt a love like no other from his parents. There can't be a worse heartbreak than to lose your baby. We surround your family with wishes of peace and tender memories of Calder that will never fade. All our love.
Marcia Wilkie
April 17, 2014
Simply beautiful my dear friends. No words for once I am speechless. Loved that boy with all my heart. Calder "Mr Awesome" Sloan you will forever be our favorite little cutie!
Dana Zuckerman
April 17, 2014
Dear Sloan Family
My wife and I were very distraught to hear of your tragic loss. Calder sounded like a son we would all want. We will keep you in our daily prayers that at sometime God will begin to heal your hearts.
God Bless
Joe and Mary Erie, Pennsylvania
April 17, 2014
Chris, Carla and Caleb just heard of it on the news! My family send our deepest condolences and will keep your family in our prayers. God Bless you! From one of your WAMI Family.
Marcia Grenet-Vidal
April 17, 2014
It is with great sadness and a heavy heart as I write this. As Calder's science teacher at Lehrman Community Day School , our class is currently studying Astronomy-specifically constellations and stars.
Some stars stand out from the rest. Their brightness is a factor of how much energy they put out- Calder was full of energy. He would always brighten up my classroom and day with his smile, curiosity for science, and his warm heart. He will always be a shining star to everyone who knew him.
Shea Polakow
April 17, 2014
I'm friends with Spencer Condon. My heartfelt sympathies for your loss. Your family is in my prayers.
Matt Winslow
April 17, 2014
What a beautiful tribute to your precious son. It must take incredible love and strength to write something from your heart when it is so broken. God bless you all as you move forward. You are a blessing to all who are witness to your endless love, strength and faith. My love to you all.
Becky Willsey
April 17, 2014
Chris, Carla & Caleb,
There are no words that can accurately express how deeply we care about your family. Your loss is unbearable, unthinkable. May it comfort you the slightest bit to know you are loved and we are here for you although far away. Bless Calder. We know he is flying the heavens. We are so glad we got to meet him. Love you guys. Hugs and prayers from Houston. We wish we could be there. Thank you for your beautiful writing about Calder. I, as a mother, will read it many more times.
Carolyn, Jim, Jack & Mallory Harty
April 17, 2014
Our heartfelt condolences to you and your families. Calder was everyone's son and grandson. Sincerely,Brenda and Richard Frank
Brenda and Richard Frank
April 17, 2014
Beautiful sentiments, Carla. Wishing the Sloans love and strength during this difficult time...
Leslie-Anne Frye
April 17, 2014
My prayers are with you and your family. He will always live in your heart and the hearts of those who knew him! May God give you the strength you need and bless your family.
Duncan & Monica Stewart
April 17, 2014
Carla, I am so saddened to hear of your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this tragic time.
Susan Spell James
April 17, 2014
So sorry for your loss. What a touching tribute. An angel among us. We will keep your family in our prayers.
Leanne Samuel
April 17, 2014
Chris, Carla and Caleb , As someone who works with words for a living, I must tell you that words fail me. I feel not only the ciao passion as a parent and a friend, but I believe that our boys are inexpicablly linked, by the few years we spent together as a family. What an amazing tribute! Please know that Calder brought so many children into their parents arms. He gave so many parents many more moments of patience and gratitude. That is a legacy that centaganarians would long for. You are loved and have touched so many. Please allow so many to be there for you. Prayers are being sent up constantly for you all. Love,
The Palanca's
Tammy Pescatelli-Palanca
April 17, 2014
I always new Calder as a very smart and sweet boy with a charm and character that could not go unoticed. Our thoughts, prayers and heartfelt condolences are with his loving, beautiful family. He will be missed immensely and his presence will continue to endure and be felt forever.
Lilla and Jerry Sher
April 17, 2014
What a beautiful and touching tribute to an amazing little soul. We are all mourning his loss, but he will never, ever be forgotten. So much love to all of you.
Roseanna Bragg
April 17, 2014
Our deepest condolences on your tragic loss. The world as we know it was a better place having Calder in it. May he watch over you and your family and smile!!!
Ina and Robert Rentzer
April 17, 2014
April 17, 2014
You and your wonderful family will continue to be in our thoughts and prayers at this very difficult time.
Stephanie and Steven Fanger
April 17, 2014
Chris, Please accept my families sincere condolences over your family's loss. Your wife convey the spirit of your son so clearly in her Obit.
Yours, Jesse Garcia NBC
Jesse Garcia
April 17, 2014
...a beautiful tribute to a beautiful young heart goes out to Calder's family and friends for their tragic loss. May the love Calder had for you all sustain you through this difficult time...
Lisa Wood
April 17, 2014
I don't think I have EVER read a more beautiful tribute. Obviously inspired by and befitting such a beautiful boy. My thoughts and love to you all.
Peter Schankowitz
April 17, 2014
I was very saddened to hear of the news, as the loss of a child must be one of the most difficult things to bear in this world. My deepest sympathies to your family.

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Marisa Perez
April 17, 2014
We are so sad and so sorry to hear the news. Calder sounds like a wonderful boy. Our deepest sympathies.
Jerry & Debbie Caldwell
April 17, 2014
We are strangers, but my heart broke at the news of your tragic, incomprehensible loss. Wishing you, your son and your families strength, courage and peace. I imagine there is no pain more far-reaching and deeper than losing a child. My heart and prayers go out to you at this most difficult time.
Nicole Burik (Mark's sister-in-law)
April 17, 2014
An unimaginable loss. Our thoughts and prayers for you and your family. Wonderful tribute.
Fred Silverman
April 17, 2014
May he always rest in peace and may his loving memory sustain you through this very difficult time.

Marcia & Jorge Morin
Marcia & Jorge Morin
April 17, 2014
My deepest sympathies.
Michael Cronin
April 17, 2014
Our condolences to you and your family,words cannot express my sympathies.I do not know your family but saw this through Facebook from his science teacher,Shea Polakow. I wish your family love in this time of sorrow. So sorry for your loss.
Lynda Stein
April 17, 2014
I am very saddened by your sudden loss. I have two boys and can't even imagine what you must be going through. I almost lost one of my sons and couldn't bear it at the time. My prayers are with you but know that he is surrounded by love and will always be a part of you. May God provide you with strength and courage during these difficult times. God Bless!!! Ana Bustamante, MDAD Family
Ana Bustamante
April 17, 2014
So sorry to hear about your loss. Didn't know Calder but we crossed many a times in the hallway at Lehrman. My prayers go out to you and your family.
Maria Rangel
April 17, 2014
My deepest sympathy and heartfelt condolencies in connection with the tragic loss of your son Calder.
I never met your son, but my son told me on numerous occations about what a very special little boy Calder was. So polite and considerate way beyond his years. But also funny and full of life.

My Heart goes out to you.
(Thomas' Danish Mom)
Ina Lise Warming Larsen
April 17, 2014
We understand your pain. Our prayers are with you.
Chau and Ken Pyatt
April 17, 2014
I cannot even imagine.
Mary Thornton
April 17, 2014
Chris, Carla & Caleb, what a beautiful tribute to Calder. We will miss him so much. All of us at the studio are praying for you. God Bless.
Jane Spinney
April 17, 2014
Chris, Carla and Caleb, thank you for sharing Calder with all of us. His memory will live forever in our hearts and his spirit will always be with you. God bless you.
Lauren and Jeff Stover
April 17, 2014
Carla and Chris-- our thoughts and prayers are with you and your beautiful family..Calder is holding someone's hand and taking care of everyone up in heaven right now...our children are beautiful gifts to us, and Calder's spirit clearly touched many in a very special way. May you find peace in the joy you had with him.
stephanie drachkovitch
April 17, 2014
Much love to you all. I can't get you out of my mind. Blessings.
Karen Emmich Collins
April 17, 2014
Being a parent of two, the poignancy of your words has left me breathless. I wish I could've had the privilege of knowing your most special son. As many have said before me, know that our hearts too break for you and your family during this most incomprehensible time. May your little angel rest in peace.
Barry Gurstein
April 17, 2014
We have nothing but love and prayers for you in our hearts. I would have loved to have even one moment to know Calder. All who had the chance to have one moment with him have been touched by an angel. Thank you for sharing the deepest part of your souls.
Stephanie Arnold
April 17, 2014
My deepest sympathy to you and your family
Sam Munhollon
April 17, 2014
Dear Sloan Family,

My thoughts and prayers go out to you during this time. What an amazing little boy Calder was, he will be missed by so many. We will carry him in our hearts always.
Cathee + Rossano
April 17, 2014
We love you. There are no other words...We love you. You are in our thoughts and prayers.
Jonathan,Julie,Jeremy, and Lydia Gold
April 17, 2014
So incredibly sorry for your loss. When my ten year old son hits his knees tonight we will include you in our prayers.
Chris McWatt
April 17, 2014
Beautifully said. A reminder of what we tend to forget: Children often carry the light for us "adults." Pax.
Kim Wanous
April 17, 2014
Chris and Carla, our thoughts and prayers are with you both and you little boy Caleb. Calder has a greater purpose spiritually and will live on
forever. With the deepest of
Mo & Rob Walker Fitzgibbon
April 17, 2014
My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Maria P. Otero
April 17, 2014
Our hearts go out to your entire family.
Monika, jeff & Olivia Gittleman
April 17, 2014
Heartbreaking. Calder's Mom wrote a heartwarming letter that touches hearts and souls so deeply. Lovely tribute for a lovely boy. So incredibly saddened for the Sloan family. Tragic loss. May there be some comfort in the 7 years and 7 days of wonderful memories.
Ellen Curtis
April 17, 2014
Your words are beautiful and he was lucky to have you as you were him. As a mother and with tears in my eyes I have a heavy heart. I just dropped my only 8 year old son off at school and was called by his pop pop to see read your touching words. I am so sad for your loss and know his heart will be with you forever.
Jenn Avrach
April 17, 2014
My deepest sympathy to hear about the loss of your loved one.
M. Harewood
April 17, 2014
Dear Sloan Family, News reached me today about Calder's passing. I will treasure having known Calder and your family while being part of the parent child classes at TBS. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Ms. Corina
Corina Dekker
April 16, 2014