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Helayne Metz-Porter
December 18, 2007
Tony was a part of the Rhawnhurst family. He will be missed.
Jesse Briggs
December 15, 2007
I am greatly saddened by the loss of Tony. I will miss his wicked sense of humor, his compassion, and his dedication to the Cashier. During all his medical problems and his battles with bureaucracy, he would call his trips down to Bivalve as good for the soul. After a day of poking around the bilges, fixing leaks and recording what he found, he would be tired but happy. He would have Jimmy Buffet on the radio or sea shanties to set the mood. Tony loved history and old things and Cashier (built in 1849) was the perfect fit for him. To paraphrase one of Jimmy Buffet’s songs Tony was a “Cashier Captain born 158 years too late”.
I wish I could be there today, but Meghan, Delbay and I are in Norfolk for a memorial service for my Mom who recently passed away. Tony will always be with us in our memories and his accomplishments.
Meghan Wren
December 13, 2007
My heart goes out to Tony's family, friends and particularly all his good friends here at Bayshore Discovery Project - most anyone who knew Tony considered him a good friend. I don't think I've ever met anyone with such an openness, readiness to share his passion and ever-present good humor.
Tony's dedication to CASHIER and to BDP were unrivaled. Since he started in 2003, he logged almost 2,500 hours. Several recent years saw him spending over 500 hours - in one year! - volunteering in Bivalve - mostly on CASHIER, but pitching in wherever and whenever he was needed. I'm sure if he was feeling better, he would have been here even more.
And the sheer numbers don't come close to capturing Tony's enthusiasm, dry wit, generosity, and soul that he brought to the Project.
His good nature and love for what he was doing were contagious. Not a person ran into Tony without gaining an appreciation for CASHIER and for the man who was her biggest champion.
And Agnes was never happier - Tony kept whipped cream in his fridge which she had on demand...
On a personal note, I'm still shocked and dismayed at his disappearance from our world. I depended on him greatly for updates on CASHIER, for a touch of humanity on a Saturday when I was working in a quiet office to 'catch-up'and for a chuckle-out-loud from his periodic quirky emails.
He had quite a soft spot for Delbay, Jesse and my son; he'd bring him gifts (starting with a real drum at his first Christmas, which Delbay still loves.)
I'm especially disappointed that our entire family will miss the chance to share sadness and stories this Saturday as we'll be in Virginia with Jesse's family laying his mother to rest. It's been a difficult few weeks...
To say that I will miss Tony and that he will be missed terribly in Bivalve (and Shellpile) is an understatement. There will be a huge gap in the space he built in the hearts of all the people of BDP.
Agnes is headed back to Bivalve and maybe we can still send Tony some love through her.
Joe Meyers
December 12, 2007
Tony
Was a classmate of mine in grade school and unfortunately we were never
able to find him for the only reunion we ever had. We are planning
another one next year and will remember him fondly. Reading the
guestbook I see he continued to be a fine person with a positive effect
on others. He will be missed
Sally Van de Water
December 11, 2007
Fair winds, Tony. We'll miss you.
John Parlapiano
December 11, 2007
Tony was always a "curiosity" to me as I was always curious as to what new tidbit surfaced. Be it a joke, new facts, recovered treasure, or just a cry for help for an assist. Lunch at Al's or tailgating in the lot Tony was the proverbial diamond in the ruff. Fair winds shipmate and "Here's to you..."
Greg DeCowsky
December 10, 2007
Passing of a Shipmate
I’m very sad to learn of Tony’s passing. He was our brother, dear friend, and shipmate. Tony came aboard CASHIER as a green volunteer in the winter of 2002, joining us on the frozen Maurice River as we pulled her engine on a bitter December day. He rapidly took on the role of shipkeeper and was soon appointed Boatswain at a BDP volunteer appreciation gathering. The appointment came with a sailmaker’s palm and needles, with which we hoped he would soon be patching CASHIER’s sails.
Tony’s skills as a librarian served him well as he dug, electronically and sometimes literally, through many a moldy archive from Bivalve to Washington. He always delighted in finding new obscure tidbits about CASHIER, in preparing interpretive displays, and in talking about her to anyone who chanced to wander onto the docks at Bivalve.
Tony literally gave his life to the CASHIER restoration. He was aboard her almost every weekend, plugging leaks, checking the pumps, meticulously documenting his work in his regular email Bosun’s Logs, and advocating constantly for her preservation and restoration within BDP and in public. It is because of his diligence that she is still afloat and holding together. In spite of her declining health and his own, he always met life with humor and grace, and was quick to share a joke or cartoon with his many friends.
We will miss Tony in more ways than we can count. We know that he’ll always be with us aboard CASHIER and is looking forward to the day she sails again. We hope to be worthy of his dedication and perseverance, and to make his dream come true. And whenever we raise a cup of tea in the Sunday toast “To Absent Friends,” his face will be before us. Fair winds, Tony, and we’ll see you someday in Fiddler’s Green.
On behalf of the crew of CASHIER,
Greg DeCowsky
Chair, Schooner CASHIER Restoration
Bayshore Discovery Project
Bivalve, NJ
Annemarie van Hemmen
December 10, 2007
First day I met Tony, his dedication to the Schooner Cashier was extremely impressive. The consistency of his dedication proved even more incredible. However, the enthusiasm of the Cashier stories he shared with school children topped all. Whenever I'll see a school group eat lunch on the dock adjacent to the Cashier, I'll fondly remember Tony.
Mitch Brodkin
December 10, 2007
I will remember Tony for his great and inventive sense of humor and his dedication to maintaining the Schooner Cashier. I will miss him very much.
beverly demeritte
December 9, 2007
I worked with Tony for many years at Rhawnhurst Elementary school. I was sadden to hear of his passing.Please know that your family has my deepest sympathy.
December 9, 2007
A gentler soul I've never known. He will be missed by all who knew him. Agnes the cat found her true love when Tony took her in. Good friend with a quiet and always welcome presence.
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