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Margaret #5
April 19, 2024
Thinking about you all the time, still. My grief has not gone anywhere, the only thing that has changed is that I'm so happy to know that Dad & Tom are now with you. All three of you are safe in the arms of God where there is no more pain. Photo was taken at Catalina Island some time in the 1970's
Jim
July 29, 2022
Style. You either have it or you don't. And Mom had it.
So this is where I get my good looks from :D <3
carly morles
December 1, 2015
Carly Morales
December 1, 2015
Since you passed away, Grandma things haven't been the same. It's almost like you were the glue that was holding everything and everyone in life together. I wish for you to pop up in your chair under the clock every time I walk into your house, or wish for you to be in the kitchen cooking, or sitting in the guest bedroom looking out the window watching the neighborhood and birds I know you are looking down on him saying "Donald Fredrick!" whenever he is eating his chocolate, wine, and his new love for Coke :D
We all miss you so much! Words can't describe how much we all miss you
love you grandma!
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One of my favorite pictures <3
Carly Morales
December 1, 2015
Tom Becker
August 20, 2015
Missing you Mom. Still can't write something like this without crying. I don't believe that will ever change. I wish you could see how the girls have grown up so tall and beautiful.
Love You.
Tommy
Margaret
January 24, 2015
1-24-12 Love you so much Mom .. You are so missed by every member of our family .. I don't care how may years go by it will never feel right without you .. You were and will always be the BEST Mom anyone could ever hope to have in this world.. We were so lucky to have you ….
November 17, 2014
Dad, Jim (Dena) , Ann and I, attended the funeral of Pat Becker last month.
He was the oldest son of Mark and Martha Becker, Uncle Tom's Oldest son.
He was to young to die so soon in life. The service was beautiful and with many friends and family.
We were leaving the service and Dad got the chance to speak with Mark and Martha.
Martha took time out with all that was happening and spoke with my Dad for several minutes.
She told Dad that Patrick was up in heaven right now with Kay and he was in good hands.
I pictured Mom jumping right back into taking care of one of the kids, like always did.
October 11, 2014
On my mind every day , always in my heart Mom. Can't wait to see you again..Our world is lonely with you gone,still. Love you , Margaret
May 16, 2014
Mom .. we just went through our 2nd Mother's Day without you. I'm finding that even though I'm a Mom this day is so empty for me. I can't stand hearing the commercials on the radio or seeing them on tv. We are all going on with our lives but the empty feeling is still here and I don't see it going away any time soon. When I go home to see Dad , walking in the house and seeing your empty chair, hurts :( I want you to be there reading, drinking coffee or watching tv... yelling at Dad in the other room ... or my favorite was listening to you & Dad talk to each other on those walkie-talkies you bought! I love you Mom ... Margaret
June 1956
Margaret
March 15, 2014
Ann Edwards
November 26, 2013
Mom, missing you very much this Thanksgiving. I have been feeling your presence though as I go through all of OUR November issues of Bon Appetit to find TG recipes. I happened upon the 2003 issue where you had circled all the recipes you liked and all the selections just screamed you! I am making a few of them this year for Dad and family. You are forever on my mind and I can't believe you are gone from our sight, still. Love Ann
November 22, 2013
Santa Claus is making cookies right now Mom. The sky is all full of pink clouds. I always remember you walking out on the driveway at the Lomina house at sunset, after you washed the dishes. All the neighborhood kids would be out and you would annouce to us all "Santa Claus is making cookies" I say that now to my girls and they love it.
Love Tom
Ann Edwards
September 30, 2013
Think of you every day Mom, but especially this past weekend. Jon and I were staying on the Sonoma Coast and traveled back home via Sonoma Valley and Jack London State Park. I thought of you and Dad and Aunt Patty, Aunt Margaret and Uncle Corny all hiking down to the Wolf House and I even said to Jon that I think you were about our age (54/55) when you all took that hike. What a weekend that was all of us in Sonoma for Jim and Shari's wedding. I'll call Dad tonight and tell him about our trip and I guess I am telling you now. Miss you forever Mom. Love Ann (The Bossy One)
Margaret #5
September 14, 2013
Mom ,, You are always on my mind, forever in my heart. The pain of losing you is still so heavy. I miss you so much :(
Pat Wisialowski
July 12, 2013
Think of you daily, dear sister! Know you are watching over all of us!
July 12, 2013
Miss so very much Mom.
Love Tom
Carly Morales
March 5, 2013
Bought macaroni and cheese the other night from target and the first thing i thought of was when grandma would make me macaroni and cheese, then cut up a hot dog and put it in my macaroni cheese. Ever since then that is the only way I can eat macaroni and cheeseI wish i could say things have gotten easier but they haven't. There are still so many things that i see, smell, or do that remind me so much of grandma and it makes me miss her even more. If only grandma could make me lunch one more time while i'm watching tv with grandpa. Her coming out with my sandwhich made, crust cut off, and potato chips on the clear plates that she always used. Along with my chocolate milk. just one last time would be the greatest wish to come true.
I still miss grandma everyday, and wish she was here
Love, Carly ( your favorite )
Carly Morales
February 11, 2013
Happy Birthday Grandma!I love you so much & miss you every single day. I know you're celebrating you're birthday today with some good pie and all the whip cream you want, while looking down on us.
Love you grandma!
love always, your favorite <3(:
Carly Morales
February 6, 2013
Well, we made it through a year. I dont know how we did it but we did. It was the hardest year i think i have ever had to go through. I miss grandma so much everyday. This was the strangest birthday to not be able to call grandma and talk to her about my birthday or what I was going to do for my birthday. I miss getting birthday cards from her & grandpa with her signing her & grandpa's name. "Love, grandma & grandpa" in her cursive writing. I wish I could get one last birthday, or christmas card from grandma. They were the best cards. I wish I could have one birthday dinner at her house with her scrambling for candles at the last minute and they were always either in the drawer with the sharpies or in the cabinets above the drawer. Just one last birthday with grandma would be amazing.
i love you grandma & wish you were here everyday. It's still not the same without you..i'm still waiting for "it to get easier" since everyone keeps saying that. I just wish you were here. I love you very much grandma. you'd be very happy to hear we got grandpa hooked on fast food :D FINALLY! haha Love, Carly (your favorite)
Carly Morales
December 18, 2012
everyone's christmas lights are up, their decorations are up, and trying to decide on what to buy their loved ones. The one person I keep finding all these cool gifts for, and coming up with ideas as christmas presents isn't here anymore. Not having Christmas at grandma's house this year is one of the weirdest feelings i think i've have ever felt, next to not having grandma here.
I just want to go to grandma's house with the big reef on the outside of the house, walk into the house with the tree up, with all her matching ornaments, presents under the tree, all her cute decorations around the house, hearing football on the tv, and see her either in the kitchen or sitting in her red chair. Just one last christmas with her so I could take one last picture, or tell her i love her one last time. That would be the greatest christmas present in the world.
i miss you & love you so much grandma
love always, carly (your favorite)
Carly Morales
November 17, 2012
If I had one wish ... JUST one single wish to be granted it would be to have you back grandma.
I miss you everyday so much. This year has been so hard and the one person I talked to about everything, the strongest person I know & the one who was my best friend isn't here to help me.
If I could be granted just one single wish, I would wish to have you back grandma. Everyone tells me it will get easier, it will get better and I'm still waiting for it to get easier & better because to me, life was way better when you were here.
Love you so much grandma, miss you everyday, wish every night that you could be here.
Love Always, Carly (your favorite)
Carly Morales
November 14, 2012
to think .. around this time last year.
we were at aunt amy and uncle tommy's house eating thanksgiving dinner..
it's just not the same anymore.
Margaret Morales
October 2, 2012
Mom ...
I miss you everyday .. it's not getting any easier :( And now it's the Holidays coming and I'm more sad knowing your not at home wondering what you want to do for all your children and grand children .. thinking about what to get everyone and how many dishes to make for Thanksgiving .. I'm constantly running through my mind last Christmas when you were so bummed that you weren't well enough to go shopping for gifts, you wanted to make sure you got something for Grammy Sandy and my Tom and those robes at Macy's ... you were feeling so sick and you never let us know just how bad it was. I think back to Christmas night when you were directing traffic and everyone was running around and you put your best foot forward, you didn't want anyone to know how much pain you were having. All night you were making sure I knew were all the special plates and platters went and where the fancy bowls were. You were thinking about the next holiday and that you wouldn't be here and I had to know for you. That's you Mom .. ALWAYS thinking of us and not YOU <3 You were so smart Mom.. You were the BEST .. You are the BEST .. Best person in my life :( Love you Momma ... Margaret Jean #5
Carly Morales
August 26, 2012
Tomorrow is my first first day of school without grandma. It's going to be a hard day not being able to go over or call her and tell her all about my new classes and give her my school schedule. It's going to be weird not talking to my best friend on the first day of school.
I love you so much! and miss you everyday grandma
Love, Carly
June 11, 2012
Just added a photo of Gretchen lighting a candle for Grandma at San Juan Capistrno Mission chapel. It was one of her favorite places to visit.
Love Tom
Gretchen Becker
June 11, 2012
April 27, 2012
The Becker's had their first Holiday Dinner without our beloved Mother.
Easter Dinner was held at our house, with some new dishes and some of our old favorites.
Before we began eating, we toasted our sweet Mother and all fell silent for a brief moment.
But Ann brought us back on track and told Dad and us all, Mom was here with us.
She was there directing traffic, loving all the food, and asking for a few ice cubes in her wine.
She will also be there for each Holiday, Graduation, Wedding and Birth of her marvelous family she and Dad created.
Love Tom
Carly Morales
April 2, 2012
"GRAAAANNDDMAAA" that's all i had to yell when i was at grandmas house and wanted some chocolate milk, cinnamon toast, mac n cheese, or even when i was getting ganged up on(: grandma took care of me when I had fevers, came home from school sick, when i was hurt, or if i didn't want to sleep over at a friends house i could call grandma to come pick me up and i would stay the night with her. The greatest person in the world was my grandma. I can't go a day without wanting to call her and just talk to her, to just tell her how excited I am about a grade I got on a test, or even just to say hello. Not a day goes by where I wish i could just hear her call me "lovey" one more time.. to walk into grandma & grandpas house and hear her say " Hi lovey what did you do today?" or for her to ask if I would like to take home any food because I never left grandma & grandpa's house empty handed. Grandma was the most important person in my life, she still is because I still do not want to believe that she is really gone. Everything around me reminds me of her. She was the strongest person I know and no matter what I was going through or complaining about she always would tell me "it's okay lovey, it gets better trust me" and she would hit me on my leg with a great big smile on her face that just made everything okay.
The last thing I heard grandma say was when she was telling grandpa she didn't want to do something and of course grandpa tried telling her she should & grandma said "donald fredrick i will throw you out this window" and she had the biggest smile on her face and with her fist in the air. To the last few days she was still grandma, smiling..laughing..telling people what to do..and picking on grandpa
I love you grandma sooo much and not a day goes by that I don't hear your voice in my head telling me it's going to be okay and that everything gets better. You will ALWAYS be my best friend and every single day i wish you were still here, sitting in your chair telling me what to do and to give my mom a break I promise to keep an eye on grandpa for you down here while you watch him from heaven. We make the perfect team- like always
Love Always & Forever,
Carly (your favorite)
March 23, 2012
Lucky. That's what we were. Growing up, from Bayside to Palos Verdes to Long Beach, we had a loving and smart mother who despite having 5 children by the time she was 31, was always positive and selfless. She taught us to deal with life as it was, and not to get lost in trepidation. She gave us freedom to make our own way, to make our mistakes, to enjoy the good times and not worry so much about the other times. She was generous and kind to our friends; supportive and tolerant of all the crazy (and sometimes stupid) things we would do. She made growing up easy and carefree and fun, the way it's suppose to be.
This last January she endured quite a bit, but through it all she continued to be upbeat and strong. In fact, our ignorance of her true condition obscured how strong she really was. I'm sure that was her plan all along. And though she could not have been feeling too well and some of the simple things were not so easy for her, she could still tease Dad and give us a smile to let us know everything will be fine.
She gave her best for her family and for that, we were all so lucky.
Love you and miss you Mom.
Jim
Margaret
March 21, 2012
Here is the Poem ~
"Remember Me"
Remember me when flowers bloom early in spring..
Remember me on sunny days in the fun that summer brings...
Remember me in the fall as you walk through the leaves of gold..
and in the wintertime --remember me in the stories that are told.
But most of all remember each day - right from the start...
I will be forever near for I live within your heart.
Margaret
March 21, 2012
A very good friend of mine shared this with me and I wanted to now share it with my family .. it's called Remember Me and I know for certain that my Dad, Brothers, Sisters, and the Grand Kids will never forget my Mom .. but I like this because in everything we do my Mom will be there .. because she loved us so much and she made sure we knew that no matter what ...
Your Daughter - Margaret Jean #5
The Young Sisters - Patti, Kathleen, & Margaret (1972)
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March 17, 2012
March 17, 2012
Dear Grandma,
I'm really sad that you have passed away. But it was fun spending time with you. I know we did so much together. I will always have our memories. It was fun having a sleepover at your house. It was peaceful. I wish we could do that again. I hope I can write to you later.
Love you,
Your Grandson Sam
Our Lomina house where the Gardenia's bloomed ..
Margaret
March 17, 2012
Every day I seem to have more vivid memories of my Mom. And along with those pictures in my mind is the sound of her voice so clear .. I was walking early in the morning and I smelled Gardenia's blooming and I thought that was strange considering it seems to early for flowers, but the smell was strong and instantly I heard my Mom saying "mmm do you smell that Margaret? That's Gardenia's blooming, oh I love the smell of those flowers." Her favorite flower is Lilac .. but the smell of Gardenia will stay with me forever .. Oh how I miss my Mom :(
Love You Mom - Margaret Jean #5
March 15, 2012
I think about writing a message everyday.
To let everyone know what a great woman she was and the impact she had on all our lives. The subtle little things she did each day to make sure the kids were taken care of and Dad had what he needed to survie his five kids.
We are attempting to carry on her legacy with our children and make sure above all, that Dad has what he needs.
Love Tom
March 7, 2012
I was walking through my office early this morning and suddenly smelled cinnamon toast. The first thing that came to my mind was Mom.
Love Tom
Jim Young
March 1, 2012
Kathleen Ann Becker is my sister, I've been struggling since her passing trying to reconcile the emptiness I feel with the fond memories I treasure. She is gone for now and nothing is going to change that. I am grateful she was my sister and so proud of the life she led, the family she and Don raised. The following poem captures the good thoughts I wish to share:
If tears could build a stairway
and thoughts a memory lane
I'd walk right up to heaven
and bring you home again
No Farewell words were spoken
No time to say good-bye
You were gone before I knew it
And only God knows why.
My heart's still active in sadness
And secret tears still flow
What it meant to lose you
No one can ever know.
But now I know you want us
To mourn for you no more
To remember all the happy times
Life still has much in store.
Since you'll never be forgotten
I pledge to you today
A hallowed place within my heart
Is where you'll always stay.
God knows why, with chilling touch,
Death gathers those we love so much,
And what now seems so strange and dim,
Will all be clear, when we meet Him.
Thanksgiving Dinner 2011
Amy Becker
February 14, 2012
Sharon Sasseen
February 14, 2012
i just wanted to express my condolences to the Becker family. I'm so sorry to hear about her passing. I remember coming to your house on Lomina when were teenagers. Your mom was always so nice to us even though we were such trouble makers! (I think your dad knew better though) ha!
Especially when we got caught smoking cigarettes in his little blue station wagon!
I'm so glad I was able to see Kay & Don a couple of years ago when Ann came down for a visit. It was like stepping back into time.....i felt like a teenager again being around the 2 of them. They were so good together, I admired that a lot about them. You were lucky to have her in your lives....
Love
Sharon Sasseen (Ann's friend since Jr High School)
Family - 1970 Palos Verdes Pennisula
Ann Edwards
February 14, 2012
February 14, 2012
These are awesome pictures Mags!! I loved your little mamma...and love her still. Will never forget her buying me my own jelly filled donuts and then would get mad when Tommy would try to eat them!! lol....good times hu? I will never forget the 2nd mommy I had!1
Our Lomina house .. Mom & Dad & all their kids!
February 13, 2012
June 2010 - Grandma & Grandpa
February 13, 2012
Mom & Dad on their 50th wedding anniversary !
February 13, 2012
Grandma & Carly .. she Loves her Grandma .. 1997
February 13, 2012
Kathleen Ann Becker is my Mom .... I love her so much! She raised 5 children and 9 grandchildren with compassion, love, patience, support, happiness and most of all guidance to face our lives ahead. I would not have the wonderful daughter I have today wihout the partnership I had with my parents. Grandma will always be home to my daughter Carly .. I love you Mom !! Margaret Jean #5
Kay with Sam, her 5th grandchild
Jim Becker
February 13, 2012
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