Kay Arvin
Arvin, Kay - 1922-2014. Kay grew up in 1920's Kansas on a working farm. At 3 years old, she followed her sister to a one-room schoolhouse. Since education had yet to be ruined by bureaucracy, Kay was given a desk and invited to listen. Thus began a life of engaged learning. Kay was modest, pretty, and popular. In college, she met the love of her life while putting up decorations for a dance. She didn't like Les in that particular way that made love inevitable. "Arrogant," she wrote in her diary that night. Also, "After I danced with him the 1st time, I knew I wasn't going to dance with anyone else." When Les was stationed in Hawaii during WWII, he conspired to get Kay a job in Honolulu at the War Department. They were married in a hillside church overlooking the Pacific Ocean. Their love never faltered. Shortly after marriage, Kay was blinded by an accident. In spite of this, she got a law degree, raised 2 sons, and practiced law at the highest level. She was the 1st female lawyer to argue a case before the State Supreme Court and win. She served as Judge of the District Court. She advocated for battered women and won awards too numerous to list. She was also a sculptor whose work astonished those unaware she worked in complete darkness. While pundits argued the merits of feminism, Kay quietly embodied its best ideals. Still, she scorned the idea of "having it all." She considered her man the most important person in any room, including the White House. But she was fully capable of standing her ground against all comers. She was formidable. Kay and Les traveled the world together, and co-taught a class on the U.S. legal system in Singapore. They moved to Nashville in 2001. They made friends and enjoyed life. Kay's faith sustained her, and, believing God would always catch her if she fell, she made a trapeze out of life. 15 minutes before her death, Kay said, "I can do this. All is well." If you wish to honor her memory, try something new in life. Pray fervently and without artifice, as Kay did. Take stock of whatever whining you do in life and reduce it by at least half. Then, smile and get on with things. Kay and Les are survived by their sons Scott and Reed, both married and residing in Nashville. "Good-bye, Mom. We love you."

Published by Wichita Eagle on Jun. 29, 2014.
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Reed and Scott,
So very sorry about your mother's passing. My mom passed away 2 years ago and I still miss her.
Judy Mahlandt Wealand, Cedar Point, KS
January 4, 2015
Dear Reed and Scott - I've lost track of your addresses or would send each of you a personal, heartfelt note about how much your mother, and truly both your parents, meant to me and the entire Weiss family. Kay was a role model, mentor and friend to me at a time when I greatly needed one - always generous with her time, humor, wisdom, and friendship. My heart remembers her and your family with great admiration, respect and love. Always, Laurie Weiss
July 7, 2014
I wish I had known Kay. I liked her sons, greatly, and went to school with them. My condolence at your loss and joy for her emergence into full Light and Love, In God's name, Christine (Walls) Hawkins
July 6, 2014
Always enjoyed talking to Kay and Les whenever they came to Envision for a board meeting. I have known them as family as well as through Envision. I've missed them ever since they moved. You have always been an encouragement to me Kay and always will be. RIP
Wanda Fisher
June 30, 2014
My family and I knew Kay and Les from our years at Metropolitan Baptist Church. Reed and I spent many a Sundays after church before going back to the night service, to spend the afternoon playing at what I thought at the time was an extremely large plantation, riding anything they had at the time in their fields. I have such fond memories of that time and how nice and gracious Kay and Les were with two crazy boys most likely driving them nuts. I'm fairly sure my father enjoyed the break those days. Great memories and thanks Kay for allowing us to just be boys.
Randy Hardy
June 30, 2014
I had the priviledge of working for Mr & Mrs Arvin in the early 80's until they "semi-retired". What a learning experience it was to be around someone who loved life and never slowed down. Her books are worth reading for any married couple as she always had the best advice. I have many many fond memories and feel honored to have called her my friend.
Alecia Little
June 30, 2014
I am proud to say that Kay Arvin is my Aunt, and what an amazing person she was! If I could only be half the person she was I would be successful! She was ready to go be with Jesus and the love of her life, Les. It is difficult not to be sad at her passing, we talked just a week before she went, and she was ready to go, she was tired, but oh so happy as she always was! I remind myself of this daily! I love you Aunt Kay!
Cheri Bailey
June 29, 2014
I knew Kay and Les at Metropolitan Baptist Church. They were amazing and inspired so many. This obit described her perfectly. Rest in peace.
Angie Wright
June 29, 2014
I first heard Kay and Les when they read poetry to the student body when I was a students at Friends University in the sixties. I later met then when they attended musical programs at First Church of the Nazarene. During one of the programs, Les asked her why she was crying. She said she just felt sorry for the deaf people who couldn't hear the beautiful music.
Larry Belew
June 29, 2014
I knew Kay as a professional with empathy and sincere concern for fairness and well being for all she encountered. The world has lost a great human being. My thoughts are with her family.
Rebecca Howe
June 29, 2014
I worked for Mrs. Arvin for a year while I was in college. She was classy, kind and so very smart! What an inspirational life. She left behind a wonderful legacy. My condolences to her family.
June 29, 2014
I knew Kay and Les at Metropolitan Baptist Church in Wichita, Kansas. Their devotion to one another was a model for all. They were good people at all times. She will be greatly missed. My deepest sympathies to her family.
Cindy Duckett
June 29, 2014
I met Kay when I began serving on Envision's board in Wichita in the early 1990's. What a role model of a exemplary person she was. It was my good fortune to have known and served with her even for a relatively short period of time.
Tim Cotter
June 29, 2014
A wonderful lady who will be missed by all who knew her~
Gretchen Maronde
June 29, 2014
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