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Rob Self Obituary
October 15, 1963 - March 9, 2022
Andover, Kansas - Rob Jeffrey Self passed on March 9, 2022. He was born in Wichita on October 15, 1963, youngest son of Eldon and Marlene Self of Wichita.
Rob graduated from Kapaun Mt. Carmel High School in 1982 and obtained a degree in Business Management from Wichita State University in 1987, where he was a member of the WSU golf team. On August 2, 1986, he married Trisha (Haderlein) Self and settled in West Wichita, eventually relocating to Andover, KS.
Rob had a talent for connecting with people and making them laugh. He spent more time asking others questions and listening than speaking about himself. He began his career by following his love of golf and desire for working with people, eventually becoming the golf pro at Clapp golf course. He would go on to work with his father and two brothers, at the family business, Self's Inc., where he was the accounting controller. Outside of work, he found ways to serve the community through the Humane Society and Meals on Wheels.
Preceded in death by grandfathers and grandmothers; mother and father-in-law; nephew, Colby Self; niece, Katie Keys. He is survived by his parents, Eldon and Marlene; Trisha Self; daughters, Danielle (Matt) Gratton, Ali (Tommy) Lawson; grandson, Henry Gratton; siblings, Mitch (Kathy) Self, David Self; brother-in-law, Michael Haderlein; sister-in-law, Barbara (Tom) Keys; and numerous nieces and nephews.
Visitation will be from 4:00 – 6:00 pm, Monday, March 14, 2022, at Downing & Lahey East Mortuary. A service of remembrance will be at 10:00 am, Tuesday, March 15, 2022, at St. Vincent de Paul Catholic Church. The service will be live streamed through St. Vincent de Paul's YouTube page.
Those who wish to honor Rob in a special way can send memorials to Meals on Wheels c/o Senior Services of Wichita, 200 S. Walnut, Wichita, KS 67213.
Services in care of Downing & Lahey East Mortuary. Share tributes online at: www.dlwichita.com
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Memories and Condolences
for Rob Self
Kendall Niquette - Aurora, Colorado
March 17, 2022
Eldon, Marlene, Mitchell and David-
It has been a long time since I ran with, ran after, or ran from Rob and the rest of you.
Although I was never the best neighbor I could´ve been, I realize that our interactions as kids, then briefly as young adults, helped shape the people we have become.
I am very sorry to hear about Rob´s passing. My thoughts and prayers are with you all.
David Ketteman
March 15, 2022
Rob- You are greatly missed. Growing up, you were the one that we all looked up to. You were always calm and collected and the rest of us seemed to be in a constant state of trying to get your approval. We'll miss your smile and your laugh. May God bless the Self family!
Bill Cummings
March 14, 2022
May God bless you and your family in this time of sorrow.
Suzanne, Austin & Emily, and Jack Griffith
March 14, 2022
Rob was such a kind personable and genuine neighbor. Our hearts are sad to lose him. Heaven has gained a beautiful soul. God bless you Rob. You have two beautiful children , Danelle and Ali, to carry on your kindness and goodness. Trisha: please let us know if you need anything even if it´s just a dinner partner. Heartfelt hugs and love to you all.
Joe Hullings
March 13, 2022
May God bless you and your family in this time of sorrow.
I didn´t know Rob well but whenever we crossed paths he was very nice and truly sincere person. A really nice guy. I am sorry for your loss.
Love, Alesia and Barry Malone
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Allison Byer
March 13, 2022
My condolences to family and friends. I am so sorry for your loss, he will be greatly missed.
Solomon Guesby
March 12, 2022
Good guy and fellow classmate you will be very missed
Sarah Kriwiel
March 12, 2022
This news is heartbreaking. Rob was such a good man. I am united in prayer with his many friends and family- lifting him up! Another angel at the Throne!
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Mar
14
Visitation
4:00 p.m. - 6:00 p.m.
Downing & Lahey Mortuaries & Crematory - East Wichita6555 E. Central, Wichita, KS 67206-1924
Mar
15
Service
10:00 a.m.
St. Vincent de Paul Catholic Church
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