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February 16, 1944 - August 10, 2021 John W. James took his last breath on August 10, 2021, at the age of 77, after a three month struggle with liver cancer caused by Agent Orange. John died peacefully in his Sisters, Oregon home. John would have turned 47 years sober on August 18. He credits his sobriety with teaching him the importance of service, and he lived his life that way. John founded The Grief Recovery Method more than 40 years ago, and was known worldwide for his work and teachings in Grief Recovery. John co-authored The Grief Recovery Handbook with Frank Cherry and Russell Friedman. Various other books he co-authored with Russell, Dr. Leslie Landon Matthews and his son, Cole James. These books have been translated into more than 40 languages. The Grief Recovery Handbook and The Grief Recovery Method Programs can be found on every continent except Antarctica. They have given hundreds of thousands of people the tools they need to heal their grieving hearts. His mission statement was: help the largest amount of grievers in the shortest amount of time. John had a profound love for our country, serving as a US Marine and Combat Veteran during the Vietnam War. Military honors include the National Defense Medal, Vietnam Service Medal, RVN Campaign Medal, the Armed Forces Expeditionary Medal, and the M-14 Rifle Sharpshooter Badge.John was raised in Danville, IL. His first family was mother, Edith; father, Ralph; and brothers Bruce and Dennis. He played sports throughout his youth, a love which would continue throughout his life. John is survived by his bride of 40 years Jess Walton James, his daughter Allison Henry and her husband Wade; son Cole and his wife Ashley; grandchildren Wyatt, Bridger, Willa and Beau James and James Henry. He is also survived by Marcy Marks, his former wife and mother of his daughter Allison; nephew Bradley James, his wife Christine and their daughter Sophia; and his cousins in Alabama: Candy and Mike Baldwin, her daughters Shannon, her husband Mike Wilson, and Jami and her husband Rick Lightcap. A small memorial is being planned for Sisters, Or and a larger one in Los Angeles within the next year. Information will be posted on Johns' families personal Facebook pages. Read more about John's life at griefrecoverymethod.com/blogIn lieu of flowers please send donations to The Grief Recovery Research Support Fund https://tinyurl.com/57sr2zmr
Published by Los Angeles Times on Aug. 22, 2021.

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Sheryl Griffin

December 25, 2023

John spoke with my husband and myself about a month after the loss of our infant son. He was compassionate and it was obvious that he cared. So, we took the classes for his Grief Recovery Method and I believe it saved my life. Thank you, John!!

Pat Kramer

December 21, 2022

John literally saved my life when he answered a wrong number call that I made to him, just over 19 years ago. I did not know he had passed. Had his celebration of life in L.A. already happened?

Linda massey

June 14, 2022

Rest in peace!

Evera Dianne Cooks

December 20, 2021

Our condolences to your entire Family.

Shane Smith-Berry

November 20, 2021

So sorry for ur loss sending prayers family

Ted Shackelford

August 22, 2021

John was a life line for me at a very troubling time in my life. His inspiration and advice have always stayed with me. I cherished talking with him as he always made me feel better. He was a true gentleman Thank for your service to this country and the world

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