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Judi Kaufman Obituary

May 9, 1944 - September 21, 2015 Judi Kaufman, long-time community activist, artist, published writer, entrepreneur, and an 18-year brain cancer survivor, whose courageous journey served as an inspiration to thousands of people, lost her battle with the disease on Monday, September 21, 2015. Earlier this year, Judi's 18-year fight against brain cancer was profiled in the Los Angeles Times. "Cancer wasn't something she had wanted in her life, either, but she had learned to embrace it. She called her tumor "Friendly," and tried to understand the strange gifts it offered - even as it took so much away from her," the article recounted. In 1999, following her first brain cancer diagnosis, Judi created Art of the Brain (AOB), an organization that raises public awareness about brain cancer, spotlights the strength and courage of brain cancer patients, and helps raise money for advanced brain cancer research at UCLA. Based on Judi's vision, AOB focuses on creativity, in all its forms, as a vehicle to help brain cancer patients survive and regain their self-esteem in the face of debilitating brain cancer side effects. Judi turned to poetry as her path back to hope in the wake of the damaging effects of brain cancer and its treatments. Since its founding, AOB has raised over 7 million dollars, with Judi spearheading the organization's annual events. Each gala has a unique theme for the Los Angeles community and unites brain cancer patients and families who celebrate art, creativity and life undefeated by brain cancer. Judi's philosophy in building AOB was to tap into the talents of the volunteers, called "Brain Buddies" for the success of the organization. All food and gifts for the gala events are donated by local vendors as are virtually all the costs, thereby ensuring that the majority of funds raised go towards brain cancer research. Judi was born and raised in Pasadena, CA, where she met and married Roy Kaufman, an entertainment business manager. Judi and Roy were devoted to each other for 49 years, until her death. Trained as a home economist, Judi focused on food as a way to build bonds by breaking bread with each other, using food as an opportunity to share culture, commonality, and community. She worked for Bon Appétit magazine, was the president and owner of a successful dessert company called "Grand Chocolate Pizza" and headed a firm specializing in public relations, protocol, contemporary manners and communications. As an artist and volunteer Judi was often called on to create tribute journals or teach Jewish cooking classes. Judi's first book, "Cravings - The Rhyme and Reason for Cooking" (1984), is an autobiographical cookbook featuring her poetry and recipes. Her second book, "Passion and Shadow: The Lights of Brain Cancer" (2000), written after her brain cancer diagnosis, is a hopeful journey that uses the power of cooking, sex, and food as a metaphor for life. "Do You Want Your Brain to Hurt Now or Later?" (2008), Judi's third book, is a collection of original poems. All profits from the sale of Judi's books go directly to AOB. As a published poet, Judi's writings have been printed in a wide variety of poetry and international academic journals. Judi used her artistic and fundraising skills to create a children's storybook about caring and sharing entitled "Let's Not Be Afraid to Be Friends" for UCLA's Special Preventative Research, a program that develops new technology and researches illnesses affecting developmentally handicapped children. Judi was also a prolific community volunteer and activist. She was active in the American Jewish Committee for over forty years, as a member of the Los Angeles Chapter's executive board and a member of the National President's Council. Judi created AJC's signature celebration anthology books, honoring entertainment figures like Jeffrey Katzenberg, George Lucas, Bruce Ramer, and Steven Spielberg. She also helped raise funds for The American Cancer Society, the American Diabetes Association and she was a member of the UCLA Board of Visitors. Judi and Roy were among the founding members of the Skirball Cultural Center. Judi was a devoted wife, mother, grandmother and friend. She is survived by her beloved husband Roy, their two daughters, Jennifer (Vlad) and Suzy, two grandsons, Garrett and Sebastian, and countless friends whose lives were touched by her. A funeral service will be held at Mount Sinai Memorial Park, 5950 Forest Lawn Dr, Los Angeles, CA 90068 on Thursday, September 24, 2015 at 12:30 PM. In lieu of flowers, please send donations to Art of the Brain, UCLA Neuro-Oncology Program, David Geffen School of Medicine at UCLA, 710 Westwood Plaza, Suite 1-230, Los Angeles, CA 90095, www.artofthebrain.org, or to the America Jewish Committee, P.O. box 35783, 1270 S. Alfred street, Los Angeles, CA 90035 ATTN: The Judi Fund.

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Published by Los Angeles Times on Sep. 22, 2015.

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September 24, 2015

Dear Roy, my thoughts are with you and your family during this very sad time. From all I have now read, Judi sounds like an amazing life force and I am happy for both of you that you had such an exceptional life together. Her inimitable beauty, grace and goodness will live on in the many lives she touched. With sympathy, Bernice

Howard Boschan

September 23, 2015

No words are going to express how much I am going to miss my Aunt Judi Kaufman. She was without a doubt one of the most devoted and inspirational people I ever met, and I am blessed by this amazing woman every day of my life. Thank you Aunt Judi, for sending pure love into the world. You always have, and will always be, an amazing and beautiful shooting star. you will live long in the hearts of those you love and inspire. Rest in peace.

Shadow Gorrill

September 23, 2015

Wonderful women. Met Judi when Susy was a student at Brewster Academy. Judi did much for the parent weekends at BA. Sorry for your loss to the Kaufman Family.

Patty Balch

September 23, 2015

Judi was an an incredible woman and our lives were so enriched by knowing her. The entire Balch Family is so grateful for her work with Art of the Brain. Judi is forever in our hearts.

Saul and Ann Levine

September 22, 2015

We send our deepest condolences and love to Roy and family. Judy left an immensely Positive Emotional Footprint...Saul and Ann

Judi at Thanksgiving

Cedar Boschan

September 22, 2015

I was a simple hayseed from Indiana in my early 20s when my love interest - her nephew, Howard Boschan - brought me to Judi's home in Beverly Hills for a holiday dinner.

Judi, ever the consummate hostess, made a strong and gracious first impression. Her warm and confident manner eye contact, direct and eloquent words as well as her sense of style red lips, nails and statement necklaces - were distinctive and conveyed both strength and femininity; this was a woman of substance who knew her power and owned it.

While she stayed true to that first impression over the past fifteen years, Judi has proven to be a deep and meaningful figure in my life.

When I think of who I want to be now and at the end of the road I couldn't imagine a better role model than Judi, because she embodied it all - to the hilt! Some of her qualities that I admire include:

1. Focus on what is important: Love & Kindness
By the time I met Judi, she had already battled brain cancer once, and, perhaps this brush with death granted a clear view on what was important, which included loved ones and people in general. She was one of those people who looks you in the eye, grabs your hands, connects with your heart and leans in for a Vulcan mindmeld, so to speak. Besides her talent for connecting one-on-one, there was no greater supporter of our blossoming family than Judi when my husband and I learned we were expecting, because she knew the power of love.

2.Fight On the surface, initially, Judi and I had very little in common (which is why her acceptance of me is so striking), but as I grew to know her, certain commonalities were revealed. Judi, validated the tenacity I possess by demonstrating how it can be channeled for the benefit of human kind. She supported causes that she knew to be important, regardless of politics or location whether in the continent of Africa or in Los Angeles, right or left wing. Her most high profile battle, of course, was against cancer, both personally and through the non-profit she started, Art of the Brain, through which she led efforts to fundraise multimillions in the fight against cancer. Ultimately, when you, a loved one, or your or their descendants ever battle cancer and win, you can thank Judi and her powerful commitment to fighting better treatment for this insidious disease.

3.Openness, generosity and going beyond the call of duty Actions always speak louder than words and Judi and Roy started with embracing me as part of their family in many respects before it was even official. There are too many examples of the Kaufmans' generosity to list, but one more recent example is when Judi and her daughter Jennifer hosted a huge baby shower for Hazel and me. The gifts included an amazing framed poem by Judi, which hangs on our wall for Hazel to grow up reading, and a bassinet, which is a family heirloom. There is simply nobody else in our world who would do something like that for us. This rare giving without expectation of reciprocation is *deeply* inspiring to me and I am committed to paying it forward. In this way, the Kaufman legacy will certainly continue and, hopefully, propagate.

4.Loyalty and commitment Judi was loyal to me personally during some low points in life, when it would have been much easier for her to take a different path. I know she let her conscience be her guide and this meant more to me than I ever properly expressed to her. Moreover, when I think of a couple who made it through several decades and who still have a spark, Judi and Roy are at the top of my list. Judi's and Roy's compatible union is simply inspirational and it gives me the strength to renew my commitment to our marriage through thick and thin for this I am profoundly grateful.

5.Appreciation of beauty, but not superficiality Beauty is far from everything, but what would life be without it? Judi exemplified this, not only with her great sense of fashion and interior design, but also with her art such as her photographs and her words and the art of others (she and Roy were patrons of my husband Howard's art). Judi's beauty was mindful, and her mind was beautiful.

6.Free spiritedness After several battles with brain tumors, Judi apologized that she was less inhibited than she used to be and she tended to freely express her thoughts, even when they may be considered unconventional or embarrassing. First of all, there was no need to apologize - I never heard her say anything that was outright embarrassing. Regardless, I think it was important to her at this point to be real and authentic to who she was during the limited time she had left. I think we can all learn something from this when we are worried what other people may think. Remember, life is too short!!!

I deeply regret not spending more time with Judi. However, I am certain not one day will pass without me attempting to channel some of Judi's distinct qualities, although, as everyone in her family knows, she was the genuine article, the inimitable dear one who won't stop filling our hearts with her loving energy just because she has moved on to a new plane of being.

Namaste, Judi. The light of your vivacious life force will continue to guide our lives and we will never forget you.

Sincerely and with love to you and all of your loved ones,
Cedar

September 22, 2015

Dearest Roy, You will always know you did the right thing and married a nice girl from Pasadena. Our Judi was a force of nature, and with you by her side, indomnitable. Your alliance is a blessing to so many in this world. Teo and I send our love, prayers, and hugs to you and your precious family. We will all be seeing "Judi red," and her smile, for a long while to come. Bryndie

September 22, 2015

So sorry hear of the loss of our friend Judi...Max and I and our family spent many happy hours together and my Samantha and her Jennifer were very close friends. Our thoughts and prayers are with you at this sad time and this memorial time of year...
Judy and Max Bryer

Beverly Cohen

September 22, 2015

So sorry for your family at this time. She was a brave and beautiful woman and fighter.

Roslyn Rosenblatt

September 22, 2015

Our love and admiration are with you. Judi was an Eishet Chayil and your family was her army! With all sympathy from my family, cousin Roz Rosenblatt

Norena's

September 22, 2015

Sorry to read about her passing. Our deepest condolences to you and your family.

Williams

September 22, 2015

We are sorry to hear of your loss. Our condolences to your family. Try to remember the beautiful memories that you shared together. Matthew 11:28-30

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