Amanda Onischuk Obituary
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Taylor McBrien
November 9, 2020
My mom was a legendary person and I wish she could see her daughter now she would be so proud
Allan Macpherson
September 5, 2016
Dear Tracey and Family
We just became friends on facebook after many years apart and words can't express the Sorrow felt by the loss of Mike and Amanda.
Cherish the memories and may God comfort you and surround you with his Love.
My deepest sympathy.
Lots of Love,
Al
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Stacey Onischuk
September 1, 2014
RIP~beautiful angel
Michael Onischuk
August 31, 2014
RIP Sister...
I'll never live a day without thoughts of you in my heart.
Tracy Adams
August 31, 2014
Today marks the 5th anniversary of your death, dearheart..
It is because of your strength that we've made it thus far without you. Not a day goes by without a remembrance of you.
It is a comfort knowing you are with your dad, Baba & Dido in a physical final resting place.
Your grave will be visited often by those there who can sit awhile and reminisce, as they pay their respects.
Always thinking of you.
Always missing you.
Rest In Peace, darling.
~Mom
July 2, 2014
You know how sad I am for your father's sudden passing on Jun 22, Amanda. What makes it easier for us here, is knowing that you have met him and he isn't alone in that new realm he has found himself in. That is such a comfort to your brother & sisters!
I think of you daily and my heartache is now a true & constant companion. I can't say it hurts less, but I know it well, and I have grown accustomed to it's presence. I am here and you are there, but one day unknown to me, I believe we'll be together again.
Meanwhile, be a guide to your dad on that side and a gentle breeze to us on this side.
We love you & cherish your memory, Ammy.
Mom
Kodi Higgins
December 4, 2012
Hi Ammy...I come here every now & then...there's so many things I want to say, and yet there are no words for the pain I feel.
I miss you more than I can say. This hurt is more than I think I can bear.
I think of you every single day.
I love you.
Tracy Adams
January 6, 2012
Hello, my darling!I have just reread your tributes and I have to say: I shed not just a few tears. It is the start of the 3rd year since you departed this life; will this ache, this emptiness, ease? I think not..
The vividness of the beloved memories and stories that we so fiercely protect & vociferously repeat; well, my sweet, those have become like a tragic-fabric we have been able to weave from our broken hearts and consciences.. YOU are yet among us here! We, that have had to pick up the pieces, since you were taken from us, have had to reclaim & rebuild our lives around that ever-important but missing, piece of mortar that YOU strengthened our lives with! It is with pleasure that I can say: we are starting to reclaim ALL that you would have us do, Am! We have a long ways to go yet, but I really think that you are starting to feel relieved of the burden our bottomless pit of despair, has transmitted thru the barrier between life & death. I have felt your presence ofcourse--yet, the Trail of Longing, is the path I often find myself treading. I just can't seem to let you go, my darling girl. You know my heart; I will ever long for the return of you to my arms. I have learned that when my own time comes, it will be with gladness that I will seek my reunion with you.
Our family has been blessed by the addition of Kodi's son, Aiden, in 2011 and we are soon to meet Stacey's son, in a few weeks. Your Taylor is so excited to become a "Big Sister!" As you have, no doubt, been observing, Taylor is excelling, day by day, into such a lovely, lively person! She has so much of you in her personality, Am! She is a treasure beyond measure...It is our greatest privelege & joy to have her with us. Thank you for such an amazing gift! I can't say more than already stated, but still, my heart compels me: Amanda: I miss you so very, very much.
Rest easy, my sweetest.
Evermore,
Mom x-o
March 5, 2011
I MISS YOU!...M&M's FOREVER
Tracy Adams
February 10, 2011
Hi, Am..I have been quite busy the last weeks as we have moved into a new home recently, but I always make time to think of you. It is my hope you are at peace & busy gathering what you need on your side of the veil, to enhance your soul experience. I have not felt you with me lately, but think you have been otherwise engaged elsewhere. That is fine; just don't stay away all the time. There are those here who still rely on your presence to make it thru their days even now. This summer will mark two years since your passing; it's still so hard to comprehend that time has marched on without you & has forced us to do the same.
We all are doing the work to find our ways but I have to say, some are not doing as well as you would like. You know who they are & if you can send some guidance their way or ease their pain, I know you will try. We that are coping a bit better, will do what we can to reach out to them as well.I know it's what you would want us to do.
My love is always with you.
Your memory is always with me.
Ever wishing you were here, Amanda.
All my love,
Mom
I love you Amanda
David Lous
December 25, 2010
December 24, 2010
Hello, darling...I thank you openly for the many signs you have given in answer to my repeated entreaty to 'show' me you are near...I am ever grateful and thankful; especially at this time of year when gifts are so symbolic of everlasting love..Not that I think of you as I think of God or the Universe; just that you are near in the cosmic force and therefore, part of the Universal Love that is bestowed on all of us whether we choose to acknowledge that or not.
I am still adjusting to your absence in this dimension; a struggle that I think will endure as long as I am in this existence, to be honest. As your mother, I can't imagine ever being comfortable with your loss. That realisation alone, is enough to open my eyes to the reality of just living with your loss--I will never get "used to" it or be "at peace" with it. I guess "acceptance" is it's own reality then. I can't say that is where I am at; acceptance seems to bring a sense of agreeability. I certainly do not "agree" with anything that lead to or resulted in your death.
Does that mean I am NOT evolving or growing as a human? I don't know the answer to that, even though I posed the question.
I do know that I miss you every day.
I love you as I always have.
It does not make one bit of difference to me that you have died.
I will love you endlessly as long as breath is in me. In doing so, my love for you will remain alive, thereby your memory.
If such things are noted where you are at now,
I would wish you a happy Christmas, and if you can, please be near us who long for your presence at this sentimental time in our earthly lives.
Your special friends, in particular David, miss you earnestly as we do.
I was pleased that he came forward and addressed you in this memorial tribute.
Any mother finds comfort in the loving, respectful words of another who knew & loved her child.
Keep near and keep faith that we will find a way to manage without you. Unwillingly but necessarily.
With all my love,
Mom
David Lous
December 10, 2010
Amanda I read your cards and letters an I feel such longing for you! My lovey life you gave me life were I was surely dead. You gave me hope were there was none left! I feel so alone in dealing with this sometes but I know you knowu heart. I made good on our promise and am doing well now but life is hard with out your hand In mine. I await the day we will be together again and cherish the life you helped me obtain. I have straightened my life out completely and have been sober for almost a year now. I will never fail you again my love. I miss you so much though life is good now things are harder to be content with cause I compare everyone with you. And every one falls short. You were perfection and never will I love some as hard as I love you
November 29, 2010
Hello my sweet girl. I have felt your presence often this past while & I thank you for giving me signs that you are nearby. It gives me such bittersweet pleasure, but I treasure it all the more as it is all there is for now.
Not a day goes by that I don't feel the pain of losing you, Am..It has become a part of me in a way that I never would have believed possible. It's there when I wake & there when I sleep. I am learning to live with it as best I can. I remember the things you learned to either overcome or live with in your lifetime. I think I gain determination from your examples, Ammy, and I feel stronger for it. I can't pretend that I am glad to learn from you this way; I would trade my life for yours if only I could--but, any way that gives me even a few moments where I can almost feel you here, is worth any sadness or heartache that follows.
I am making it through the days and weeks that turn into the months since you left us and am grateful for the joys that come my way. I really am; it's just that knowing you're not part of this world anymore takes away some of the luster, my dearest.
Be at ease in your experience now, we here will find our way and you mustn't be troubled by any of this. It's us who must comfort ourselves and get on with our lives. I know that is what you want us to do: live, do what makes us happy & lead fulfilling lives. Just understand that without you here too, it's just not the way we expected it to be. I certainly never imagined my child would go before me! In my heart & mind it is still so unjust; so incomprehensible yet!
I am forcing myself to accept that your death will never make any sense to me & that I must go on anyway without answer to my endlessly asked: why??..
That's just the way it is.
I am always at a loss on the inside, my darling, but I will go on, on the outside because it is the way of life to do so.
Missing you ceaselessly,
Mom
Tracy Adams
November 1, 2010
Hallowe'en has passed and I am sure you were with us in spirit as we escorted Taylor door-to-door, collecting her treats. She was excited & intrigued by the many effects created by the homeowners as we travelled the neighborhood.
I was taken back in memory to a time when you were an excited, little girl. Impatient for me to get you, & your sisters & brother, out the door to go trick-or-treating. I enjoyed watching & sharing those same thrills with Taylor, that I had shared with you as a child. It is still so difficult to accept that you can't be here to share any of this with Taylor and us.
I will ever remember all our happy times, Amanda. It gives me comfort to share your memory with Taylor, now & in the happy times to come. All of us here miss you so very much, my sweet girl.
I wish you continued peace at your space in time and as always, I keep your dear memory alive in my heart. I will continue to wait as patiently as I can, for that day when I will be with you again.
~Your loving mom
August 31, 2010
ALL IS WELL
By: Henry Scott Holland
Death is nothing at all,
I have only slipped into the next room.
I am I, and you are you~
Whatever we were to each other,
That we are still.
Call me by my old familiar name,
Speak to me in the easy way in which
you always used.
Put no difference in your tone,
Wear no forced air of solemnity or sorrow.
Laugh, as we always laughed, at the little jokes we enjoyed together.
Play, smile, think of me, pray for me.
Let my name ever be the household word that it always was; let it be spoken without effect, without a trace of shadow on it.
Life means all that it ever meant.
It is the same as it ever was;
There is yet unbroken continuity.
Why should I be out of mind because
I am out of sight?
I am waiting for you; for an interval,
Somewhere very near;
Just around the corner~
All is well....
I think you would like this poem, Amanda. I think you would agree with it's message.
~Mom
Tracy Adams
August 31, 2010
A whole year has gone by, my dear daughter, since you had to leave us. A whole year that has left us struggling to find our way without you. That struggle has born a small fragile hope that this burden of sadness & pain may be bearable. By sharing with each other our treasured memories & stories of better days with you, our desperate longing for you is eased. Made lighter, but not removed. None here that knew & loved you, will ever forget what a gift having you part of our lives was. Your time here was cut short, but your legacy will endure in all of us.
Thinking of you every day that I am given until we will meet again, darling daughter.
Missing you always, Amanda....
Love from,
Mom
Stacey Onischuk
August 31, 2010
Gone are the days we used to share,
But in our hearts you are always there,
The gates of memory will never close,
We miss you more than anyone knows,
With tender love and deep regret,
We who love you will never forget
Ron and Sue Armstrong
April 27, 2010
Very Sad to hear!
Stacey Onischuk
April 25, 2010
I wish Heaven had a phone so I could hear your voice again.. I thought of you today, but that is nothing new. I thought about you yesterday, and days before that too. I think of you in silence, I often speak your name. All I have are memories and a picture in a frame. Your memory is a keepsake, from which i'll never part. God has you in his arms.. I have you in my heart.. I love you Ammy
Shanda & Amanda
Tracy Adams
April 24, 2010
April 17, 2010
Dear Tracy,
I sat one afternoon last week with such heaviness upon my thoughts that I felt compelled to find out how Mandy was doing. Upon googling her name I found this website. It has taken me a week to find some words. My heart is breaking for you and for everyone who knew Amanda. Such pain you have endured your whole life and such hard decisions you have always had to make. I just want you to know Amanda will NEVER be forgotten and her special character has left a mark on me forever. I am so lost for understanding and will always bear the pain of regret for what Amanda endured and although I hadn't talked or seen her in so many years I wanted you to know that pain of not being able to do more to help will be with me forever. I pray for strength for you and Kodie, Shanda, Stacey and Michael. You are and always have been in my prayers.
Love,
Sharlene
March 25, 2010
I have been seeking answers to why you were taken from all of us here that will never get over the emptiness in our lives that you so fully and easily filled, Am..Not in a big bang way, but in your easy, non-chalant way..You made life seem brighter and better with your sweet smile and your shrug-of-the-shoulder way of easing us into the next curve life threw our way....When you came back to us, you gave us the hope we were all looking for and you gave us the belief with your courage, that no matter the mountain, courage and strength of will can see you overcome any hurdle..YOU certainly did!..I am so proud of your victories and bravery to move forward even when you were struggling inwardly!..My fierce little girl evermore....Always missing you and seeking strength from your example daughter....I love you and cherish that what I was gifted with by your presence in my life.
Forever in my thoughts,
Ever in my soul,
Mom
sue higgins
February 16, 2010
Tracy
we remember all the fun times we had with amanda when we lived in vernon..taking her every other weekend. we cherish the memories..her and shanda as our flower girls..her smile..her laugh, the list goes on.
we lost touch with her when we moved away and we regret that we didn't get to know her as an adult. we can't even begin to imagine the loss you feel right now.
love John and Sue
Tracy Adams
January 13, 2010
SLOW DANCE cont'd:
Do you run through
Each day on-the-fly?
When you ask 'How are you?'
Do you hear the reply?
When the day is done
Do you lie in your bed,
With the next hundred chores
Running through your head?
You had better slow down.
Don't dance so fast.
Time is short.
The music won't last.
Ever told your child,
We'll do it tomorrow--
And in your haste,
Not seen his sorrow?
Ever lost touch,
Let a good friendship die,
'Cause you never made time
To call and say 'Hi..?'
You had better slow down.
Don't dance so fast.
Time is short.
The music won't last.
When you run so fast
To get somewhere,
You miss half the fun
Of getting there.
When you worry & hurry
Through your day,
It's like an unopened gift
Thrown away.
Life is not a race.
Do take it slower,
Hear the music...
Before the song is over.
~~~~~~
I don't know the name of this poem's
author, but the message is clear, all
the same.
I wish we had made more
of our time together, Am,
But my memories are that much
More treasured as we never, ever,
Imagined how brief that time was to be.
We are forever bound
Together by love, my daughter.
I will never stop missing you.
~Mom
Tracy Adams
January 13, 2010
I read the following poem today
and it made me think of how your
life was cut short so unexpectedly,
Amanda. I hope it's meaning is not
lost on any of us..
SLOW DANCE
Have you ever watched kids
On a merry-go-round?
Or listened to the rain
Slapping the ground?
Ever followed a butterfly's
Erratic flight?
Or gazed at the sun
Into the fading light?
You better slow down.
Don't dance so fast.
Time is short.
The music won't last.
Tracy Adams
December 21, 2009
It is but days until the first Christmas that you are no longer here to be part of, Amanda..
The infinite ache in my heart
tells me that which my head
does not want to be true..
All of our lives carry on, day by day--
It seems so unjust that yours does not..
Where have you gone to?
Are you at peace?
Sometimes, I'm certain you
have come to me in my dreamstate
And I don't want to wake up..
I want to stay there with you-
Where nothing & no one hurts..
That warm & wonderful place
Between wakefulness and sleep..
I look for your presence
every day and feel so rewarded
the times I feel you near..
I always love you and wish
You a sense of how much you are
Forever yearned for and loved..
With all my love,
~Mom
Margaret Duguay (Maw)
September 20, 2009
Dear Tracy and family
My heart goes out to you at the loss of your daughter. May you cherish the happy memories of Amanda.
Our deepest sympathy.
Margaret and Bob Duguay
Kodie Higgins
September 12, 2009
Over the past week since Amanda passed away, I have been struggling to find the words that accurately describe my sister, for this moment.
When I first began writing this tribute, I felt that what I needed to say about my sister should be nothing less than perfection.
Yet, finding these "perfect" words that would somehow provide comfort to my grieving family, and ease the tremendous sorrow felt by all who knew Amanda proved to be nothing more than a lesson in frustration.
So I asked myself: "What is Perfection?"
I know my sister wasn't perfect, but she was in her own unique way, and that was being 'Perfectly Amanda.'
It has been my privilege to have her not only as a sister - but to know her also as my friend.
And so it is now that we gather here today, to not only say "Good-bye" to a young woman who was truly unforgettable to all, and whose generous spirit and sense of humour alone made it worthwhile just to know her....But to pay tribute to the LIFE of this Woman; This Mother; This Sister; This Daughter; This Niece; This Grand-daughter; and this Friend.
I know everyone here understands exactly what I mean when I say a bright light has been extinguished in our lives by the sudden loss of Amanda. During this time of grief, I've found some comfort in the words of Saint Paul, from the Corinthians. He wrote about a Love that "Bears all things, Believes all things, Hopes all things, and Endures all things."
Although during this time where Amanda's passing has left an empty void in our hearts, and for my family especially - it feels as though our world has fallen apart, I find solace in knowing that eventually, through our hurt and despair, we Will bear this tragic loss. That because of our Love for my sister, we Will endure through the pain - this loss.
Losing a sister isn't something most people understand, until they've lost their sister.
Sisters share everything. Our hopes and dreams, our laughter, secrets, even our tears.
To lose a sister is to lose a part of yourself.
It's hard to make sense of the reality that Amanda's really gone from our lives. To know we will never again see her laugh and smile, or hear her voice one last time seems unbearable.
She had so much to live for, and still so much yet to do.
And even though right now my grief is overwhelming, the memories I carry in my heart of my sister help ease the emptiness her passing has caused.
Of the many gifts Amanda's life has given us, I cherish her Daughter Taylor above all.
Being her Aunty has been the greatest honour of my life, and I am eternally grateful to have this beautiful little girl as a remembrance of what a truly remarkable and special person Amanda was to all who have loved her.
And so in closing, I have to agree with Saint Paul in saying that there really is a Love that Bears ALL things, Hopes ALL things, and more importantly, of a LOVE that truly does Endure forever.
September 11, 2009
Dear Tracy and Family
We are so sorry for your families loss.You know that I am not a religous person but I always remember the 23 Psalms and I would like to share this with you and your family.
Love Always Mark& Robin
Viva & Glen Maw
September 10, 2009
Dear Tracy and Family
Our Deepest Sympathy to you and Family in the loss of Amanda.
Sincerly Yours With Love
Aunty Vi., and Uncle Glen
And Cousin David and William Maw
God Bless
Tina Pfeiffer
September 10, 2009
Tracy,
My heart goes out to you and your family.
I love you.
Your sister of the heart,
Tina
kyla phillips
September 10, 2009
Amanda, I wish we could have had more moments together. I will remember how loving and beautiful your heart was. My heart goes out to your family and your little girl. I love you and may you rest in peace.
Brad Gabrielson
September 9, 2009
Myself and my children became great friends with Tom & Tracy over the years. I have met Amanda in the past but I have hard time keeping the girls straight in my mind. Since Tom & Tracy moved to the states I now see them less often. Even though I did not not get to know Amanda that well my thoughts and deep sympathy go out to Amanda's Mother and her sisters in this time of sorrow. I know the hurt and sorrow you are all going through as I have experienced it in the past.Amanda will be with you all forever, in the fond memories you will always cherish.
Brad & Family
September 9, 2009
We want to send our love in this time of sadness.We hope you will remember all the fond memories and not the bad but as we all know, that is easier said than done.
Hus to the whole family.
Love Becky and Mike.Calgary Alberta.
Jessica Galway-Stewart
September 9, 2009
Nature
As a fond mother, when the day is o'er,
Leads by the hand her little child to bed,
Half willing, half reluctant to be led,
And leave his broken playthings on the floor,
Still gazing at them through the open door,
Nor wholly reassured and comforted
By promises of others in their stead,
Which, though more splendid, may not please him more;
So Nature deals with us, and takes away
Our playthings one by one, and by the hand
Leads us to rest so gently, that we go
Scarce knowing if we wish to go or stay,
Being too full of sleep to understand
How far the unknown transcends the what we know.
By Henry Wadsworth Longfellow
The Poetry Foundation
Joyce A
September 9, 2009
I'm so sorry. I am just filled with regret, remorse, I don't know what to call it. But you know, the Bible says that all things work together for good. God foreknew this and has sovereignly arranged it for a good reason. Sometimes we don't know what it is until we have progressed far enough that we can look back and say, "yes, God was with me, and He was wise in that situation."
Your family has really remained in our hearts all these years. I remember when Matthew found you girls on Facebook, it was so much excitement for us. I never forgot you all. There's not that many people that can do that to a person. I'm so glad we got to be in touch before Amanda left us. I remember her as that tomboy that used to play with the boys, like Matthew. I am really so sorry that she was taken so early. Even if we can't be at the funeral, please know that our best regards are with you.
Crystal Wagner
September 9, 2009
Amanda,
from the time we met, we connected in a way that i will cherish forever. We were in tune with eachother and shared few but wonderful moments. I will cherish you forever and always and I know you will be with everyone that loved you and that you loved in thoughts and spirit. I will miss you and love you always, Amanda. You may not have been my sister by blood, but I felt you were my sister in my heart.
Tracy Adams
September 8, 2009
Message to My Daughter, Amanda..
How can it be that you are no longer here? That I won't pick up the phone and hear the smile in your voice as you say, "Hi, Mom..I have a quick question for you--"...It seems unfathomable to me that you have gone from us..What wouldn't I give to have you back, my darling girl!
It's my belief that you have gone on to a higher state of Being and are finally at peace..Believing you are with loved ones that went before you, also gives comfort..As I try to prepare for your memorial farewell, I want to say to you, that you may be gone from this earth, but my memories of you will never leave the safe haven of your mother's heart..Go in Harmony & Light, Amanda..
Always remembered
Always beloved
Always my Ammy...
Forever,
Mom
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