Barbara G. Selbst
1936 - 2025
Barbara G. Selbst
1936 - 2025
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Barbara Selbst Obituary
Education was a lifelong passion of Barbara's. She attended and graduated from Chatham College and received graduate degrees from Columbia University and Manhattanville College. She was a long time member of Congregation Kol Ami, White Plains, NY. She helped found the synagogue's early childhood program. Barbara enjoyed tennis and gardening. Family was her greatest joy and her greatest love. She was truly an aschet chayil 'woman of valor' and her smile lit up the room when surrounded by those who loved and knew her best.
Funeral services will be on Tuesday April 8 at 1 PM in the Main Sanctuary of Congregation Kol Ami, 252 Soundview Avenue, White Plains, NY. Burial will immediately follow services at Mt. Carmel Cemetery, 8355 Cypress Hills St. Glendale, NY.
Shiva will be held in the Kol Ami Chapel in the Woods on Tuesday April 8 from 7-9PM with a service at 7:30 PM, Wednesday April 9 and Thursday April 10 from 3-5PM and 7-9PM with a service each evening at 7:30 PM, and Friday April 11 from 12-3 PM at Barbara and Stan's home, 30 Greenridge Avenue, Apt 3G, White Plains, NY.
Donations in Barbara's memory may be made to Congregation Kol Ami ECP School Fund or White Plains Hospital Center
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Julie (Teltser) McAlary
April 17, 2025
All - this is Susan Schwarz's daughter Julie. It's been decades since we've all visited but Goody has ALWAYS had a special place in my heart. When my mother ran away, as a child, it was to Goody's. I can still hear her wonderful laugh in my head and I smile when I recall that she LOVED to arrive at our home early because she knew my mother always ran late. She would say 'She knows I'm going to be here early - she can't be ready?'
The world is a better place because Goody was in it and I'm sorry the last years were challenging.
Mary Irwin MacLeod
April 11, 2025
To Stan and Family - My deepest sympathy to all of you with the news I just received of Barbara's passing. My thoughts and prayers are with you as you grieve her loss. Many wonderful memories are sure to comfort you and gratitude that you were lucky enough to have had her in your lives! Sending love and condolences! Cousin Mary (Irwin) MacLeod
Deb schiff
April 10, 2025
To Uncle Stan and all of my Cousins
Deepest sympathy and condolences for the loss of our Aunt Barbara. I hope that with days the pain eases and that thoughts of her bring you comfort. I can´t imagine our family without her. She was always a very sweet and kind person to all. She will be in my heart forever
My favorite memories of Aunt Barb was Passover Seder with everyone at the Ralph Ave house and the very packed house when we all slept over.
Love to you all
Deb
Susan Kleid and Dick Kleid
April 9, 2025
Stanton and family: Our deepest sympathy and condolences upon the passing of Goody. A long time friend and relative. May her memory be a blessing. Take care, Dick and Susan Kleid.
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