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Carmen Marie Jacoby
1957 - 2017
Carmen Marie Jacoby
1957 - 2017
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BORN
1957
DIED
2017
Carmen Jacoby Obituary
Age 59
Carmen Marie Jacoby was born on August 17, 1957, and welcomed into Heaven on April 12, 2017.
A lifelong resident of Spokane, WA, she lived her life in a constant act of service. She was an employee for the Cable Company for fourteen years, and was an advocate for mental health and homelessness in her career as an Outreach Worker for CHAS. She loved vacationing in Hawaii, restoring antique furniture, and sharing time with her family and friends.
Carmen was preceded in death by her parents, Richard Wassink and Jacqueline Myers, and her younger sister, Jerri Jasper.
She is survived by her loving husband Tom Jacoby; her two sons Ryan May (Mandy) and Steven Lambert (Jessica); her two stepdaughters Amanda Reda and Courtney Jacoby; grandson Cody May; brother Derek Law; other family members Robert Jasper, Beverly Lambert, Val and Bud Jacoby; and countless beloved friends.
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Vonda Atkins
April 8, 2019
It is so difficult to believe a year has gone by by since your passing. I think of you often & cherish our time together on this Earth. You are loved & missed always & forever! Love, Vonda
Tom and Carmen
May 16, 2017
Cody loved his grandma.
Brenda Boyd
May 16, 2017
Carmen & Tom - Kuai
Brenda Boyd
May 16, 2017
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Carmen adopted a cat who loved to help her. Mooch
Brenda Boyd
May 16, 2017
Carmen loved Kuai
Brenda Boyd
May 16, 2017
Brenda Boyd
May 16, 2017
Carmen, you are loved by so many. I miss my sweet dear friend. You are now at peace with your sister on Kuai ❤ I will see you again in paradise.... love you. Brenda
Connie Butcher
May 5, 2017
Well my beautiful friend, we didn't have as much time left together as you and I had hoped, and as much as I will miss you, and hate to see you go so soon, I know you are in a much better place, in no more pain, and able to do all of the things you love, and I find peace, strength, and comfort in knowing that. I learned so much about life from you, and I have so many wonderful memories of you and I will hold them close to my heart until we meet again. I know Tom is going to miss you terribly, but Stan and I will do whatever we can to help him get through this, As much as he will let us anyway, lol. Rest in peace. Love you always.
Beth
May 4, 2017
I keep thinking about you, my friend. I have so much to tell you. I pray to see you soon.
Kathy
April 26, 2017
To my beautiful and loving friend. I love and adore you but you know that. You will continue to have a special place in my heart. I know you will fill the heavens with your laughter and smiles because that's what you do best. I will miss you, Carmen.
George Tveden
April 25, 2017
So very sad to hear the news. You have been such a sweet soul to know Carmen. May you rest in peace. My condolences to Tom.
Back with your beloved sister Jerri
Bob Jasper
April 24, 2017
April 23, 2017
Carmen, I think today it finally hit me, I won't see your precious smile on earth. But oh by golly when I get to heaven, what fun we shall have. So, while we await that reunion I'll feed Tom on occasion so he doesn't get too skinny. The love you two share, is so inspiring. Tom is lost without you for now, but he will find his way. You were his heart and soul and you won't be "gotten over". We'll all learn to go on without you-somehow. See you soon my friend.
Shireen Vasquez
April 23, 2017
There are not enough words to cover all that she is...forever....
Bob Jasper
April 23, 2017
Heartbroken Carmen at your passing. Difficult to accept. Your beloved Tom is bringing you to Hawaii where he and I will rejoin you with Jerri and send you both to sea together on the island you both loved. Sending so much love to you both.
Nancyv Garrett Winebrenner
April 22, 2017
My sweet cousin. My childhood playmate. You were so beautiful and sweet. God bless you. I treasure all the memorie . You live on on all of our hearts. Thank you for being in my life. Fly little angel
Sharron Thompson
April 22, 2017
Carmen, my dear friend and neighbor...you will always live in my heart and prayers. I miss you and love you.
Ann & Kap Kappen
April 21, 2017
Our deepest condolences to you and your family Tom. Carmens smile was contagious in way you just wanted to hear what she had to say. I was always happy to see you two. Loved by so many. You are in our hearts always.
Tammy Wilson
April 21, 2017
Our hearts are with you at this sad time. I was lucky enough to work with Carmen and blessed to become her friend. I loved her sense of humor, compassion and love for her family. She wrote wonderful poetry, and she always was so kind to everyone. May she rest in peace and God grant you all strength and comfort.
Louis St. Cyr
April 21, 2017
Very sorry to hear of Carmen passing away.
I'll miss her dearly as one of my favorite facebook friends.
My Condolences to the Jacoby family and friends!
April 21, 2017
I love you my friend and I will miss you terribly ♡
Tom, Ryan, Steven and Cody I'm hugging you and I am so very sorry for you loss. Rest peacefilly Carmen until I see you again.
April 21, 2017
Such a warm, loving and beautiful lady. I was blessed to have known you and worked side by side with you in the past. I will miss you but I also know you are in good hands now.
Erin Lyon
April 21, 2017
Our thoughts and prayers are with you Tom and we offer you our most sincere condolence for the loss of Carmen. We didn't know her well, but we will miss having her around the campfire at the Farragut campout. With much love, Doc and Erin
June R. Jackson
April 20, 2017
I worked with Carmen at Cox Cable and she was a ray of sunshine at the front desk. She greeted people with a great smile and was so helpful to others. A sweet Lady who took pride in her Boys and will be missed. My deepest condolences to her Family. Rest in Peace.
April 20, 2017
Mike and I would like to send our deepest condolences to Tom and all the family at the passing of Carmen. What a beautiful spirit she had and such a welcoming smile as she greeted people at the front desk of the old Cox Cable. Carmen was part of our Cox family and will be deeply missed. We hope she is celebrating beyond this world with her sister and parents and that time will heal the grief of your family. Attached is a picture from one of our cable reunions.
There will be a seat held in her honor at our next Cox gathering. RIP dear Carmen.
April 20, 2017
I was deeply saddened to hear of Carmen's passing. We lived across the street and I used to watch Carmen (nickname Bunky) and Jerri when Mom had to work. We all went to West Valley. She was so cute and sweet. She and her family are in my prayers.
God Bless,
Deborah McCollum-Coppinger
Patti (Purvis) Kelly
April 19, 2017
Carmen was the rarest form of ingredient in our recipe of life. Never will I know what life would have been like not knowing her, and sad to know what it will be like without her. My thoughts go out to Tom, her kids, her grandkids & all of those who loved and adored her. Rest in Peace Dear Friend, and until we meet again, may the Good Lord hold you close...
John Annal
April 19, 2017
My deepest and most sincere condolences to Tom, as well as Tom and Carmen's family. I know nothing will lessen it, but please remember you're not alone. Prayers to you and yours from all who love you.
Brenda Boyd
April 19, 2017
It was always a joy to see Carmen and Tom, my heart is saddened to see her go. As my dear friend Sharol has said to me; It's wonderful to all have each other and it's certainly a reminder to me to be loving and good as often as possible to my friends and fellow humans. I'm happy for her that she's out of pain and with God and I know we will all see each other one day in that wonderful place.
We all miss you and love you so much Carmen, as you always had comforting words and thought of others.
Love you,
Brenda and Scott
April 17, 2017
My thoughts are with you my friend... and for your family. You will be forever in our hearts.
Janna Barry-Brown
STEPHEN HANNUM
April 17, 2017
CARMEN WE WILL MISS THAT SMILE I AM VERY BLESSED I HAD SUCH A SPECIAL FRIEND IN CARMAN GOD BLESS YOU AND THE REST OF YOUR FAMILY
Beth Ruffin
April 17, 2017
Your time here on earth was not long enough for those who love you. But your light will always shine. May your family and friends find comfort in knowing your no longer sick or in pain. That you now are with your sister. I love you Carmen. You were my friend and I will miss you.
Carrie Pennell
April 17, 2017
It truly saddens me that such a wonderful person is gone way too soon. Carmen was kind, compassionate and sweet lady. You will be missed in this world. You touched soo many people with your kindness and genuine, caring smile. The angels in heaven are rejoicing to have you with them. My heart and prayers are with your family as they mourn your loss.
Brian Hamilton
April 17, 2017
Was shocked to hear of Carmens passing. Worked many years with her and she was the most positive and kind person. Just a good person who always made my day. She will be missed.
Julie Fuller
April 17, 2017
Oh Carmen I am so sad to hear of your passing. You were such a loving & beautiful lady. My heart breaks for your soul mate & love Tom & all of your family & friends. You will be so missed. See you in Heaven some day girl.
Mary KnerrWalt
April 16, 2017
I am so sad to learn of Carmen's passing. What a beautiful person she was.My thoughts and prayers are with her family.
Bob & Joan DeGroot
April 16, 2017
We were so surprised to hear of Carmen's passing. What a wonderful, giving lady. Our thoughts and prayers are with you Tom. God strengthen you through this difficult period. Please let us know if there is anything we can do.
Robbin Hansen
April 16, 2017
Carmen was one of a kind. Warm, friendly, selfless and radically non-judgmental. The world will be a colder place without her and heaven has gained a shining star. I worked with her in outreach to the homeless many times over the years. She was truly a joy to know.
Kris Strand
April 16, 2017
I am very sad to have lost my best friend of 45years. She will be forever in my heart. I will cherish the memories of our lives forever, It is so difficult to imagine a world without Carmen and her beautiful soul. Steve and I send our deepest and sincere condolences to Her Family. She will never be forgotten and will live forever in our hearts. God bless you Carmen. Kris Romanelli -Strand
April 16, 2017
Carmen lit up a room with her beautiful smile and kind words. We are so sorry to hear of her passing. Our thoughts and prayers are with Tom and all her family! God bless and hold her loved ones close at this very sad and difficult time. David & Johanne
Vonda Atkins
April 15, 2017
I am so extremely saddened to learn of Carmen's passing. She was truly a special lady and will be deeply missed by many. I have fantastic memories of her as a former co-worker. Carmen and I had a lot of laughs together and she was a great friend. Sending my sincerest condolences to her family at this extremely difficult time. God Bless.
Cindy Robison
April 15, 2017
I just loved to see Carmen. When she worked with the homeless I saw her giving all her love and respect. Will miss her beautiful smile & grace. My prayers and condolences to Tom & all her loved ones.
Susan Stanifer-Miller
April 13, 2017
Carmen was a wonderful person inside and out! I loved working with her and having her for a friend. She had a beautiful soul and shared it with so many people! Carmen was far more talented than she realized. She could write meaningful poems, restore old furniture, and be the best listener in the world. I love her and will always cherish the wonderful memories of working with her and being her friend! My condolences to Tom, Ryan, Stephen, Cody, Courtney and anybody else in the family I have missed. You're all in my thoughts and prayers.
Kathy Cole
April 13, 2017
I am so sorry to learn that Carmen has passed away. I can remember first meeting Carmen, at Cox Cable where worked together for many years. I was lucky enough to call Carmen my friend.
Also blessed to be able to know such an amazing person.
My deepest thoughts go out to her husband & children.
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