Eben M. Earnest

I want to say that my bro suffered so much for so long without complaining. When the gout swelled his fingers (on top of all his life threatening ilnesses), he showed me his hands and said,"Look,bro! I'm broken!" He was the most frail human that it was my pleasure to know, yet the bravest. He fought to live, even if just for the rest of us, though he was in agony.He never asked for more than for someone to rub his neck (usually our mom). I pray that when my time comes I can be half as brave as my brother was. I will miss him for as long as I live, as I will miss our sister Chelsea as well . The only relief that I can find is that I know that he is now with Chelsea in Heaven. I believe that she came and took him away. He was in so much pain in the end. He's my hero.

you were just a little kid when i saw you last. we are blood. we are family. and i will see you again. rest sweet eben.

Rest in Peace Eben. You will be missed. Make sure you, Chelsea, and Maureen don't cause too much trouble!

With Love,

Erica

Avis:

We were so saddened tonight to learn of your son Eben's death last Saturday. We will pray for your peace and comfort during this painful time. Now there are two angels watching over you from heaven...always and forever with you in your heart. Love to you and Sean from our whole family (and dogs.)

Dear sweet Avis,
My heart aches for you as you grieve the loss of your son. Please know I'm praying for your peace and healing. I look forward to seeing you this summer.
With love from Cedar Key,
Kathy Day

Avis,

There is no more secret place than the land of tears. I am sharing mine with you tonight. I am deeply saddened by this news. You've been holding your breath for a long time girl. I love you and send you all my strength, hope and prayers. You and Sean will live in my heart during this unbearably sad time. The spirit in me recognizes the spirit in you and has for a long time. Love Angela

To Dearest Avis:

I was deeply sad to read about your son Eben. I didn't know him personaly but I'm sure he was wonderful personality as well as You are. Last Sutturday I couldn't be with you in Provincetown (am in Poland now) but I was with Eben and You with all my mind.
Please take my warmest feelings and be strong.

Love

To Avis and Family,

The last time I saw Eben he was about 5 and of course Nichole was picking on him. My thoughts and prayers are with you during this trying time. Don't worry Avis, there will be signs that Eben is OK, lots of them!!

Eben "Nebe"
You are the funniest person ever. I'll never forget the day it seemed like forever to get to P-Town oh 40 MPH on RT 6 might be why. It was always a blast hanging out together no matter what you always made me laugh even if it was like the dumbist thing we were talking about somehow it would become funny. You always had a great attitude, and nothing could bother you except for Mortal Combat witch I still have of yours. Also that movie you taped and we watched for hours and hours and couldn't stop laughing no matter how many times we watched it. Still got that to. I'll have to watch it later. Well Nebe I'll always think of you and miss you. I'm sure you and Chelsea are together right now looking down on mom. You will be forever missed.
XOXO

When I think of you Eben, your wonderfully unforgettable smile comes to mind... i am glad to have known you.. You and your smile will never be forgotten...

Eben was one of the best people that I knew and will be missed by all that knew him. He always put a smile on my face when I was down. Some of the best memories that I have with him were when we were in drivers ed. together and had to go to makeup a few classes in Hyannis. Coneheads all around!! The memories that him and I had I will always keep them close and never forget them. I will miss him dearly and wish that I was home for this. Eben was one of the few people that I will always concider to be one of my true friends.

Avis-
Your boy Eben is a beautiful spirit, and I believe that he has sent a message that lets us know that he is out there. On March tenth, I felt compelled to pick up a book of poetry by my former teacher who
has passed- William Matthews. Out fell a homemade card written to Eben from Alicia Thomas. I was puzzled why this card was in MY book and why had I discovered it on that day (it was written when they were in high school and it was a get well card). I learned latter in the week that Eben had moved on to his next existence- I cannot believe anything other than this as a mystic experience- and since he promised he would contact you- this was a definite message.
All of my love and healing energy to you, Avis.

I love and miss you Ebi, till we see each other again Love you.

Eben, I knew you better when i was younger, living with my mother, i saw you few times since then, but everytime i saw you it was like seeing my older brother again. I dont know how to feel about this, i am so very sad that you are gone but i take comfort in the fact that you and your sister are together again waiting for all of us. The pain is over Thank God for that. You are always in my thought and prayers. You and your family will ALWAYS be my family. I love you all.

*Forgive the cut and paste - I said it pretty right the first time, no sense in trying again*
Sometimes in moments of deepest sorrow there can be some relief in memories of happier times. I wanted to share some with you, in hopes you find comfort in them like I will. I remember hours days weeks MONTHS at the Coast Guard beach in ptown, our little crew of Me, Eben, Mike C, Eddie S, Josh R, Mandy R. Your house was the closest, so you were the bandaid central when needed (once Eddie moved from RIGHT @ the beach). I remember the days in the playground, the DQ then back to the playground. Lighting off fireworks stolen from our parents in the basketball courts then running when we knew we'd get caught. We were roamers, we owned the whole West End of ptown.

My favorite memory is of us (Me Eben and Mike) sitting under the coast guard pier, writing in charcoal rocks we found, on the walls "Dugan" haha. Somehow we found out that meant poop and it was THE word of the summer.

We were basketball managers together. I was afraid of the dark so we used to walk home from practices and games together. I remember the first time he got really sick, after a basketball practice outside behind the soda machine by the gym. I waited with him until someone came for him and he made me promise to keep it quiet and not tell anyone. I remember all the late nights (so so many of them actually) Eben and one of Nicoles kids *cant believe they are so old now ugh!* would walk up to my parents house when I still lived there, because "Someone needed a cig and I was the closest to call" ha ha. He couldnt just say they were bored and felt like taking a walk? p.s. he didnt smoke cigs =) We'd sit out on the front wall and talk about nothing until it was almost light. It was strange, but that was our friendship summed up right there. Hours talking about nothing, but both of us content to do just that.

I was between them in age, a year above Eben and a year behind Chelsea in school, and was blessed to be friends with both of them. I was a chameleon and tried to blend in with a bunch of different "friends" and I consider myself one of the lucky ones to have known and grown up with some of the greatest people on earth and one of the last TRUE generations of ptown.

He will truly be missed, but I will always know that now, no matter what you want to call "the next step", he is in a better place. He is free.

Eben,

You were a wonderful kind person who will be greatly missed here. i know that you are now in a better place now. my condolences to all of your family.

Hi Eben,

I never met you...but I feel connected to you because I love your Mom like family.

I believe that we are Spiritual beings trying out what it feels like to have a human experience...with all it's emotional complications. Then we move on to something else. You've moved on to something else...Happy Re-Birth Day Eben !!
I know you will be missed heartfully...such is the pain that all great loves often bring. A bit ironic but often the greater the pain when one is "lost" the greater the testament to the Love that developed while they were "here".

Go You Well Eben

kim rilleau

Eben, you will be missed more then you know. You were an amazing person, I just wish I had got to see you one last time....xo

Some of the first and fondest memories of my childhood are of being babysat by Avis and me and my sister would spend the days with Eben and Chelsea. Eben, you were always a great person and a great friend. I'm really sorry we lost touch over the years. I guess thats one of those things you dont think about until something happens and its too late. I hope you and Chelsea are together and that you are finally at rest. Avis, all of my condolences go out to you and your family and thank you for being a part of my childhood.

I was saddened to hear about such a tragic loss. I feel privileged to have known Eben. He was am amazing person and I do believe that I haven't met anyone as caring and kind hearted as he was. My thoughts are with you all!

My thoughts are with you in this trying time. May you and yours find peace in the knowledge that Eben is at rest.

No bond is as great as that between a parent and child. My deepest condolences are with you as you grieve.

My heart goes out to you at this time and in the days ahead.

Eben was the first friend I ever had outside of my family. I can remember the first day I met him was when I was 6 years old. I was biking around town on my blue bike with a sissy bar (yea i was not so cool back then) and streamers when I saw another kid playing in his front yard on Mechanic street. He was playing with this really cool helicopter that would shoot up into the air and hover for a few seconds. well, I thought this was about the coolest thing I ever saw. so I creeped up behind the bushes in his front yard and when the moment was right; I jumped out and scared him! We became friends instantly after he recovered from the initial shock of being frightened by a weird boy.
up until that point, I never really had a best friend, but Eben was my best friend until I went to boarding school.

I remember we used to spend countless hours playing video games and we were devoted fans of WWF. So much so that we took it to the extreme a few times and threw each other down the stairs. If I remember correctly, he was hulk hogan and I..hmm I can't remember who I was. The point is we were pretty obsessed with America's most popular red neck soap opera as kids. ha ha I remember when his brother in law would get us free pay-per-view showings of Wrestle mania since he had the inside connection. we would stand THE ENTIRE TIME in front of the tv and act out the different matches (in this case pillows were supposed to be chairs). When we became bored, we would terrorize my mom by hiding her cigarettes or setting her alarm clock to go off in the middle of the night. We were little brats and we never tired of this game until the whee hours of the morning. Ah god we had some good times.

I could write novel about all the childhood memories we shared but instead I should wrap up for now with this: Eben amazed me since although he was dealt the worst possible cards in the game of life; I never once heard him say, 'it is unfair', or 'I'm scared' or anything like that. It would usually just be a casual response like, "yea, it sucks. what can I do?" How he was able to take each set back in stride will always remain a source of mystery and inspiration to me... I only hope that when my time comes, I can be as brave and dignified as he was.
My heart felt condolences go out to Avis, Wayne, and all the rest of his family. please let me know if I can help in any way.
RIP Ebenezer Scooge (nickname when we were kids). I know you are with Chelsea now...

Sincerely,

Erik

Avis and Family...
My love goes out to you at this time and always. I will never understand such tragedy. May Eben and Chelsea both now rest in peace together.

Peace be with you and the end to pain and suffering.I am sure that Chelsea is waiting for you with open arms,give comfort to each other.You are also among many family members and friends that will take care of you.

Peace be with you. Always. Never forget the ones you have loved, and have loved you, even when they have fallen to the wayside. My thoughts are with all of you in these times of being pensive and reflective. Love and kindness to all.

Rest in Peace... before you & Chelsea get going. I can't imagine how good it must feel to see her. Thinking of you & sending so much love to you.
xo
Chelsyone

Eben,
I had a dream last night that you and Craig were sitting and laughing together. Craig turned to me and said He is now with me and we will rest in peace.
Love Mandy

I feel so lucky to have known Eben. He was such a good person and an even better friend. He will be greatly missed.

To my Little Tommy Sunshine :
Thank you for the 26 years you called me Mom. I hope you, Chelsea and Craig are enjoying a great reunion.Don't forget you promised that if there was any way to let me know where you are,you would. Mom