F. Herbert Gruendel

Herb and I spent hours discussing juvenile law and the book, The Art of War - Sun Tzu. He gave me his copy with notes. "The supreme art of war is to subdue the enemy without fighting."

Wise and soulful, we are forever grateful to Herb for shepherding us through the first day of marriage equality in Connecticut on Nov. 12, 2008. He shared in this moment as joyfully as we did, and perhaps acknowledged its importance with a greater understanding than even we had at that time! We will miss you, Herb. Love to all.

He joined Jacob Grudberg Belt & Dow the year after I did and was one of the sweetest, smartest and most gentlemanly people I ever met. I was honored to call him a friend.
I remember, we were trying a case together involving a fish farm in Pakistan in front of a very crotchety old Judge. I kept getting admonished by the judge for apparently not keeping a poker face during Herb´s direct examination.
He was extremely supportive of me throughout my career, and I was blessed to know him.

Herb officiated at one of the first gay marriages in Connecticut, in New Haven, with our dear friends, Peg and Jenn. He was incredibly proud.

There is no better pic that says, "Joy." These three girls -- our grand daughters -- are now college grads and making their way into the future.

Clerks and weddings were a favorite of Herb's!!

Dear Janice and Family

So sorry to hear of your loss. Herb was a great guy who touched the lives of so many people

Our thoughts and prayers are with you at this most difficult time

Kindest personal regards

Brian and Palma Lynch

He loved weddings with his Appellate Court clerks