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Carl
August 26, 2025
All good thoughts remembering Jim. He is much missed.
Carl Farrington
Katherine Dunkley
July 14, 2025
He was a soft spoken beautiful man with a very deep and kind soul. This world needs more of people like Zeb. You will be missed my friend
Stephen Eugene Wehrly
December 29, 2022
Jim was a great athlete -- a Jesuit H.S. basketball starter his freshman year, with Tim Casey and Don Oderman and other fine athletes. Saw him again in about 1978 at the Galleria coffee shop. We talked for about an hour about high school and since.

Kate Winkler
June 3, 2022
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Kate Winkler
June 3, 2022
Kate Winkler
June 3, 2022
Look what I Found in my old files (yellowed news paper Meier & Frank ad from 70-80s)
I obviously was smitten by the waiter/ model.
Jean (Rodin0 Dugan
January 12, 2022
Zeb,
From Ryan's Restaurant forward ....always adored you. A sweet soul. I really tried to remember to call you Jim, honestly, but Zeb was imprinted. Say hi to Al for me.
Love Jeanie
Bill Newman
November 14, 2021
Jim was a prince of a man. Warm, kind, welcoming only scratch the surface of this lovely man. You are missed.
Pete
November 3, 2021
This was a very good person. I ate only once at Bijou, and when I saw him there I said, "You're the guy I see walking along Willamette Boulevard." Indeed he was and we would often say hello in passing from the on. I am not much of an outgoing person, but I always made it a point to return his greetings and smile with the same.
Mel Jory-Heywood
October 18, 2021
I have been neighbors with Jim for just over 10 years, and what an honor and joy that time has been. Jim was always looking out for us, checking in frequently and sharing his interesting observations of the world. He was a delightful person and it was so fun to share a laugh with him as we crossed paths on evening walks. We loved to gossip about the changes in the neighborhood - which developer bought which property, who was moving in or out of a house, who wasn´t picking up after their dog (lol), etc. etc. I already miss Jim´s presence very much, and I´m heartbroken that I didn´t reach out to him more during the pandemic. He was a caring, thoughtful, intelligent gentleman at all times, and I am so grateful to have known him in his twilight years. Our family will truly never forget him.
Bill and Laurie Schulte
October 13, 2021
Jim was such a lovely man. We have fond memories of him at the Bijou and from other encounters around town. His warm and welcoming smile combined with his kind and gentle manner always brightened our day. Deeper conversations revealed his intelligence and wit. We missed him after his retirement and are so sad to learn of his death. Our condolences to his family and many admirers.
Rebecca Stuebe
October 10, 2021
I was so, so sad to hear of Jim's passing. I know Jim as a patron of the library where I worked for 6 years, and he was always a bright spot in my day. We talked about books, and travels, and all sorts of things, and he would come in and read the New York Times and just be a generally positive addition to any day. He was a well-loved part of our community and will be sorely missed. Many condolences to his family and may he rest in peace.
Bill and Jo Dean
October 6, 2021
Jim and I met while waiting tables at Ryan's in 1972. We became roommates and friends. He introduced me to my future wife, Jo. Truth be known, Jo was hoping to land Jim, not me. No surprise there. Later he became our daughter, Emily's godfather. Our fondest memories are the vacations we shared at John and Jane's beach house. He was ideally suited for restaurant work as his gentle nature made him everyones' favorite. He was a natural at attracting friends, but he had a strong need to simplify and be alone with his thoughts. Jim was a complicated man, but much loved. We miss you, Big Guy.
Liz Christie
October 5, 2021
I have fond memories of Zeb from his many years at The Bijou Cafe. His handsome face and welcoming smile greeted us and brought us all inside and helped make the Bijou such a popular Portland place. He was as described the perfect "charismatic lead conductor´ and became a Portland icon. I´m sorry he felt the loneliness of social isolation during the pandemic. He was such a classy guy. Condolences to his family and friends.
Mike Cullivan
October 5, 2021
I went to Jesuit with Jim. We played football and basketball. He was a great teammate. Over the years I would have "Zeb" sightings and we would talk about the good times we had and very having. He was a true gentleman and I always enjoyed time spent with him. He will be missed..
Jan Castle
October 4, 2021
John and Jane,
Duke and I are so sorry to hear of Jim's passing. I didn't really know Jim but remember him fron the Irvington Club where the younger Neilson girls and I would admire him from afar (the other side of the pool deck)! I'm glad that he grew into such a gentle shining light in Portland and know he will be sorely missed.
Much love to you and your family,
Jan
Tom Markgraf
October 3, 2021
Quite simply, he was a good friend. He was an example for us. He made a difference in my life.
Walden Kirsch
October 3, 2021
Jim was class act, defined. Over the years, my wife and I, then when our daughter was born, the 3 of us, would -always- look forward to seeing Jim over weekend breakfast at the Bijou. Even when the place was crazy busy-which of course the Bijou almost always was-Jim was never too busy to come and say hi, in his courtly, gentle, kind, un-rushed (and of course devilishly handsome) way. For more than 30 years, we had a minor tradition of celebrating special family moments (child on the way, college acceptance, new jobs, etc) with brunch at the Bijou. Jim was, almost invariably, part of these moments. We´re sad that he´s gone-but thank you so much, Jim, for gracing our lives.
Anno Ballard
October 3, 2021
Thank you for this beautiful description of Jim/Zeb. I was one of those frequenters of the Bijou, and I looked forward to seeing him just as much as I looked forward to the wonderful meals there. Once he confided in our group that he much preferred "Jim" over "Zeb," so we tried to honor that. We will always remember him with great affection; in fact, we were talking about him just the other day. My heart breaks to learn that he's gone.
Mike Houck
October 3, 2021
John, Jane
I am so, so sorry to learn of Jim's passing. Last time I saw him.....all smiles....was on a bike ride to Smith and Bybee Lakes I led for PBOT..........Sharrows to Sparrows.....on Portland Blvd. As you know I spent quite a lot of time at the Bijou, many morning with John and it was always a joy to talk with Jim when he had a moment from his directorial duties. I'm thinking of Jim and both of you as well. Mike
Nikki Wascher Desrosiers
October 3, 2021
So very sad to hear about , Jim. I knew him growing up but did not keep in touch. He sounded like a wonderful person.
Kathy Morrison
October 2, 2021
John and Jane, so sorry to hear of your loss. I really enjoyed working with you and Jeff Wolfstone at Lane Powell. Condolences to both of you and your extended family.
Elizabeth Howe
October 2, 2021
I first met "Zeb" at the Bijou when I worked side-by-side with him for several years and have always treasured the times we met outside of work discussing life and sharing personal stories. Jim was an amazing spirit and supportive friend. I have thought of him often throughout the years and am thankful for his presence in my life. He made me a better person. You will be missed, Jim, by so many. Loved you deeply.
Steve Kolb
October 2, 2021
A kind and gentle soul. The world is less without Jim. May he Rest In Peace.
Kate Winkler
October 2, 2021
Something told me to look at the Obit in the Oregonian this morning and I immediately recognized Jim. Never knowing his last name but never forgetting him As the most incredible, beautiful and handsome waiter. I would see his picture as a model occasionally and always put a smile on my face to know he was still somewhere in PDX. He so deserved good friends and I am so happy to know his friends made sure he was not alone at the end.
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