Patricia Messore

Patricia Ann Messore, of Old Saybrook, passed away on Wednesday, February 26, 2025 at the age of 83. She was born on April 20, 1941 in New Haven, CT where she was raised.

Patricia (Pat) graduated from James Hillhouse High School in 1959. She attended Albertus Magnus College in New Haven, CT where she showed a love for languages including German and French.

As a young woman, Pat was a medical research lab assistant where she met her loving husband, Al. Later, while raising her family, she also worked for CT Savings Bank, CRERPA (CT River Estuary Regional Planning Agency), and Clinton Parks & Recreation.

She was actively involved in St. Mary's Catholic Church in Clinton, CT where she was a regular CCD teacher, helping young students prepare for the sacraments. Later she was an active parishioner at Our Lady of LaSalette Roman Catholic Church in Brooklyn, CT, where the Shawl Ministry brought out Pat's love for crochet and comforting others through faith. She was active in the Brooklyn Gardening Club. Pat's compassionate and giving spirit led her to volunteer at a local nursing home.

Pat is preceded in death by parents, Nicholas Tomassi and Anna Barbuto, stepmother, Iola Tomassi, brothers, Nick and Ed Tomassi, mother and father in-law, Jennie and Joseph Messore, brother in-law, William Shotwell, and grandson, Jonathan Santamaria.

She is survived by her devoted husband and best friend of 64 years, Albert Messore, sister in-law, JoAnne Messore, daughters Susan, Elisa and son Robert Messore, and grandson, Daniel Highkin.

Known to her grandson as Nona, Pat leaves her friends and loved ones with a great sense of the importance of showing kindness and love toward one another. She was a playful and loving person and would do anything to make her husband Al happy. She loved living things and nurtured her family, her friends, her plants and garden, her pets, her home, and her community with great care and compassion. In all her endeavors, she was happiest in connection and companionship with those she loved.

The family would like to extend a special thank you to Pat's hospice team, Angela and Chuck and Dr. Criscenzo. A special heartfelt thanks to her angels on earth, caregivers Kissi & Hilda for the care and compassion they showed our beloved wife, mother and Nona during a lengthy period of illness over the past few years and certainly in her final days.